A Millennial Mind
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A Millennial Mind is a podcast about perspective, because when you understand someone’s mind, you understand their world. But we all live with limited data. Our beliefs, experiences, and knowledge are just a few dots. And if you don’t collect enough dots, you can’t connect them and you can’t grow. That’s why this podcast exists: to gather those dots. Each episode, I invite experts, thought leaders, and change makers to challenge how I think, on everything from mental health, hormones, and habits to relationships, identity, and success. We bust myths, reframe narratives, and explore what it really takes to shift your mindset. Because when you change your mind, you change your thoughts.And when you change your thoughts, you change your life. So if you’re ready to think differently, welcome to the reimagined A Millennial Mind. Hit subscribe and let’s start connecting the dots together.
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Sleep Expert With 30 Years: Stop Putting Your Baby Down "Drowsy But Awake" | Andrea Grace
Is sleep training the same as leaving your baby to cry it out? In this episode, I sit down with Andrea Grace, one of the UK's longest-standing baby and child sleep experts. She's a nurse, mental health nurse …
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Is sleep training the same as leaving your baby to cry it out? In this episode, I sit down with Andrea Grace, one of the UK's longest-standing baby and child sleep experts. She's a nurse, mental health nurse, health visitor and mum of four. I recorded this while I was pregnant, when the only advice anyone gave me was "enjoy your sleep while you can". So I brought Andrea every fear I had about sleepless nights. She showed me that babies are built to sleep, that every baby is different, and that you know your baby better than anyone. We talk about: • What every first-time parent should know about newborn sleep • The fourth trimester and why some babies need to be held all the time • Safe sleep guidelines, swaddling and co-sleeping vs bed sharing • What sleep training really means, and why it doesn't have to mean cry it out • Why babies wake every hour, and how to help them link their sleep cycles • Wake windows and a bedtime routine that actually works • The one piece of sleep advice Andrea wishes would disappear from the internet • Postnatal mental health, and how partners and family can really help If you've ever felt judged for how you get your baby to sleep, or worried you're doing it all wrong, this conversation is for you. Subscribe and turn on notifications so you never miss an episode. Follow Andrea: @andreagracechildsleep https://www.instagram.com/andreagracechildsleep Connect with Andrea Grace: Instagram: @andreagracechildsleep website: andreagrace.co.uk. #BabySleep #SleepTraining #AMillennialMind Chapters: 00:00 Intro 00:57 Welcome to Millennial Mind 01:37 Meet Andrea: sleep expert, nurse and mum of four 02:08 Why sleep matters for your mental health 03:20 Is pregnancy insomnia normal? 04:10 What every first-time parent should know about newborn sleep 06:29 Can you really nap when the baby naps? 08:33 What to do when your baby isn't sleeping 10:40 Why some babies don't sleep for longer stretches 11:09 When to worry about your baby's sleep 12:20 The fourth trimester explained 14:40 Why new mums are judged so harshly 16:56 Safe sleep guidelines and swaddling 19:25 What sleep training really means 21:03 Why babies wake every hour 24:09 Wake windows and the perfect bedtime routine 27:28 What to do when your baby cries in the cot 29:19 The Ferber method 30:18 Is it the parent's anxiety? 32:20 Follow your instinct 34:30 Is cry it out harmful? What the research says 35:16 Why parents are judged either way 36:04 Does cry it out teach independence or abandonment? 37:43 Co-sleeping vs bed sharing 41:43 Breastfeeding on demand 43:14 Do newborns need a routine? 44:22 Is co-sleeping safe? When your toddler is still in your bed 45:50 "I feel like a bad mum for wanting my bed back" 50:35 Postnatal mental health and asking for help 53:17 How partners and family can support you 54:53 Fast fire round 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠
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Stop Writing a Birth Plan? Ayurvedic Doctor Reveals What Actually Matters in Labour | Dr. VJ Murthy
Why do we spend more time planning the nursery than preparing for labour? In this episode, I sit down with Ayurvedic doctor, naturopath and functional medicine clinician Dr VJ Murthy, who has supported …
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Why do we spend more time planning the nursery than preparing for labour? In this episode, I sit down with Ayurvedic doctor, naturopath and functional medicine clinician Dr VJ Murthy, who has supported thousands of women through pregnancy and birth. At seven months pregnant with my first baby, I came into this conversation wanting to know the benefits of unmedicated birth, and left realising I’d been asking the wrong question. We unpack why birth has never been safer yet feels scarier than ever, what hypnobirthing really is, why your partner should never try to “rescue” you, and why a woman who gives birth is a superstar, epidural or not. We talk about: Why we’re more afraid of birth than ever, and the role of social media Why motherhood is a learned skill, not an instinct Hypnobirthing explained, and how to feel safe and ready for labour Simple breathing and grounding techniques to calm your nervous system Why birth isn’t a performance, and the pressure to “bounce back” What a birth plan really is, and why it’s overrated How partners can support you without panicking Epidural vs unmedicated birth: the real benefits and drawbacks How your pelvis shape can affect birth Ayurvedic pregnancy foods, from ghee to eating dates from 36 weeks If you’ve ever felt scared of giving birth, or pressure to do it the “right” way, this episode is your reminder that there’s no right option, only feeling supported and empowered. Make sure you’re subscribed and have notifications on so you never miss an episode.
If you're ready to launch your business before Black Friday, go to shopify.com to start your free trial. Follow Dr VJ Murthy: AD: [Sponsor block, if applicable] #AMillennialMind #Hypnobirthing #PregnancyJourney Chapters 0:00 Intro 1:04 Why do we plan the nursery but not the labour? 1:59 Welcome Dr VJ Murthy 4:33 Why are we so afraid of birth? 5:30 Losing the wisdom of experienced women 7:08 Hiding a pregnancy from the algorithm 10:08 Preparing your mind vs your body for birth 12:09 What is unmedicated birth? 13:38 Hypnobirthing explained 14:48 How to feel safe and ready for birth 17:24 Building your birth support system 18:34 Why your breath matters more than the nursery 19:52 Grounding techniques to calm anxiety 21:31 The humming breath that soothes stress 24:03 Trusting “I am safe” and the diving reflex 25:52 Ayurvedic self-oil massage in pregnancy 29:23 Pregnancy hormones and letting go 30:31 Why birth isn’t a performance 32:28 Birth boundaries and visitors 33:39 What is a birth plan, really? 34:59 Partners: be present, don’t rescue 36:43 The woman whose hand he held for 8 hours 40:37 Making the epidural decision with agency 42:52 First baby nerves and the pain relief safety net 44:17 It’s not the method, it’s the support 44:48 What Ayurveda really says about birth 46:58 The benefits of vaginal birth 50:25 Epidural: benefits and drawbacks 53:27 Every woman who gives birth is a superstar 54:50 Does your pelvis shape affect birth? 59:05 Pilates, pelvic floor and breath 1:00:43 Natural ways to boost oxytocin 1:02:03 Eating dates from 36 weeks 1:03:10 The best foods for each trimester 1:07:45 Foods to avoid in pregnancy 1:10:09 Golden milk and sesame laddus 1:13:45 Quickfire round 1:15:05 You never go back to who you were 1:15:41 One message for every mother 1:17:58 Next week’s episode 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠
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Lost After Motherhood: I Walked Away From Victoria’s Secret and It Destroyed Me | Vita Sidokina
When was the last time someone asked who you actually are? Not your job, your title or your role, but you? In this episode, I sit down with former Victoria’s Secret model, content creator and mum of two Vita …
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When was the last time someone asked who you actually are? Not your job, your title or your role, but you? In this episode, I sit down with former Victoria’s Secret model, content creator and mum of two Vita Sidokina for a conversation she’s never had in an interview before. Vita opens up about walking away from a modeling career she thought would last forever, the postpartum depression that forced her to start from zero, and how motherhood healed her relationship with her body. We talk about the painful “in-between” stage of any life pivot, why she calls herself a selfish mum, and how the tough-love parenting she grew up with shaped her drive. This conversation is for anyone outgrowing an old version of themselves and wondering who they are underneath it. We talk about: - Losing your identity after a career change or motherhood - Why the “in-between” stage of a pivot keeps you stuck - Postpartum depression and learning to start from zero - Healing your relationship with your body through motherhood - Why putting yourself first makes you a better mum - Tough-love parenting, unconditional love and high standards - Letting go of the victim mindset - How to find out who you really are, and why half effort never works - Why no phase of your life is permanent - Choosing friendships wisely in your 30s If you’ve ever felt like you don’t recognise the person you’re becoming, or you’re grieving who you used to be, this episode is your reminder that you can always start again. Make sure you’re subscribed and have notifications on so you never miss an episode. Follow Vita: @VitaSidorkinachannel #AMillennialMind #IdentityShift #MotherhoodJourney Chapters 0:00 Intro 1:00 Who are you, really? 2:10 Welcome Vita 3:08 From Russia to Victoria’s Secret 4:50 Why she walked away from modeling 7:18 Grieving the old version of yourself 9:11 Accepting life changes without resentment 10:08 The danger of being “in-between” identities 11:02 Postpartum depression and starting from zero 12:18 Vegan chef, ice cream brand and finding her thing 13:15 Pivoting your content and your audience 16:36 Staying motivated when nobody engages 19:06 Is the algorithm the new rat race? 20:49 How motherhood healed her relationship with her body 24:49 Best shape of her life after two kids 26:43 Why she’s a “selfish” mum 29:18 When being at home isn’t enough 31:00 Kids copy what you do, not what you say 33:20 Career sacrifices and dropping the victim mindset 35:51 Raised on “Okay, what’s next?” 39:40 Unconditional love with high standards 41:16 Life is on your side 42:47 Ignoring other people’s opinions 45:55 How to find out who you really are 47:32 Why half effort never works 48:55 How to stick with something new 49:29 The biggest lesson from changing identities 50:17 No phase of your life is permanent 53:15 Choosing friendships wisely in your 30s 55:05 Outgrowing friends and being direct 58:06 The quote she lives by 58:38 Next week’s episode 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠
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Couples Therapist: Why the Spark HAS to Fade & What Actually Destroys Relationships | Maria G. Sosa
Is the spark in your relationship supposed to fade, or is losing it a sign that something’s wrong? In this episode, I sit down with Maria G. Sosa, a licensed couples therapist (you might know her as …
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Is the spark in your relationship supposed to fade, or is losing it a sign that something’s wrong? In this episode, I sit down with Maria G. Sosa, a licensed couples therapist (you might know her as Holistically Grace) who has been through divorce herself. We get into why the spark fades in every long-term relationship, the small resentments that quietly pull couples apart, and what healthy love actually needs once the honeymoon stage is over.
If you’re ready to launch your business before Black Friday, go to shopify.com to start your free trial. We talk about: Why being a “divorced couples therapist” kept her in her marriage longer than she should have stayed. What the spark really is, and why it has to fade. How to tell if feeling disconnected is a hard season or a real problem. Why there’s no “normal” amount of intimacy, only what works for you two. The early warning signs couples miss (it’s usually what’s been left unsaid) How to bring up hard conversations without your partner getting defensive. Why emotional safety is the most underrated part of any relationship. Why communication isn’t always the real problem. What to do when you’re the only one trying to change. How she finally knew it was time to leave. If you’ve ever felt disconnected from someone you love and wondered whether it’s normal or the beginning of the end, this conversation will help you understand what that feeling is really telling you. Subscribe and turn on notifications so you don’t miss the next one; it genuinely helps me bring on more incredible guests. Follow Maria G. Sosa: [add her @holisticallygrace] AD: This episode is supported by Let’s Save Water. Small changes, repeated by enough of us, add up. Search “Let’s Save Water” or visit letssavewater.com for simple ways to save water every day. #AMillennialMind #RelationshipAdvice #CouplesTherapy Chapters 00:00 Intro: can divorce teach you more about love? 02:05 Welcome, Maria G. Sosa 02:54 Who is Maria? 03:17 Being a divorced couples therapist 05:51 What is “the spark”? 07:42 Does the spark have to fade? 09:28 Is it normal to feel disconnected? 10:33 How to know if it’s a real problem 12:04 Is there a “normal” amount of intimacy? 13:43 The early signs couples miss 17:13 How to start difficult conversations 24:51 Why you should never start with “you” 28:21 It’s not conflict, it’s the lack of repair 29:06 Ad break 30:00 Why safety is the most underrated part of love 34:46 How to build emotional safety 38:05 When your partner says “you’re always complaining” 41:12 When work and ambition strain the relationship 44:03 Why couples wait 2.68 years for therapy 47:37 Why communication isn’t the real problem 52:13 The stories we tell ourselves 53:39 How resentment quietly builds 54:38 Can you break the cycle? 55:26 When only one partner wants to change 57:00 When is it worth fighting for? 59:07 Why breakups shake your identity 59:48 How Maria knew it was time to leave 1:02:02 There’s no certainty in love 1:03:53 One piece of advice if your spark is fading 1:05:27 Coming up next 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠
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You Don’t Owe Anyone Your News: Why I Hid My Pregnancy Online
Do you owe the internet every part of your life? In this solo episode of A Millennial Mind, I share why I didn’t tell anyone I was pregnant until I was six months along, even though I share so much of my life …
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Do you owe the internet every part of your life? In this solo episode of A Millennial Mind, I share why I didn’t tell anyone I was pregnant until I was six months along, even though I share so much of my life online. I recorded this at the end of my second trimester, while our plans were still changing almost every week. In it, I talk honestly about the three reasons I chose to keep this chapter private. The first was protecting myself from unsolicited advice. The second was wanting to hold on to the sacredness of such a magical time. The third is the one I’m still unsure about: energy, and nazar (the evil eye). This isn’t me telling you what’s right or wrong. It’s simply my experience, and I hope it gives you a different perspective. Because this goes far beyond pregnancy. Whether you’re changing jobs, starting a new relationship, moving cities or making a big decision, you don’t have to tell everyone everything until you’ve figured it out for yourself. In this episode: - Why I kept my pregnancy private for six months - The growing pressure to share everything online - Why unsolicited advice can become noise - Listening to your own intuition during big decisions - The sacredness of pregnancy and telling family in person - What happens when everything becomes content - Nazar, the evil eye and protecting your energy - Radiators vs drainers: the people who lift you and the ones who drain you - Being mindful of those experiencing loss and fertility struggles - Why you don’t owe anyone your story If you’ve ever felt like you had to explain yourself, or share something before you were ready, I hope this episode reminds you that some things are allowed to stay just yours.
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Ancient Indian Traditions vs. Modern Motherhood | Shivani Bafna
Why do some traditions feel like a warm hug, while others leave you questioning everything? In this episode, I sit down with my friend Shivani Bafna, content creator and new mom, who openly shares the reality …
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Why do some traditions feel like a warm hug, while others leave you questioning everything? In this episode, I sit down with my friend Shivani Bafna, content creator and new mom, who openly shares the reality of motherhood online. We talk about pregnancy, postpartum recovery and the Indian traditions passed down through generations. She shares which ones helped her, which advice she chose to accept or ignore, and how she kept her peace with parents, in-laws and the internet all weighing in. Motherhood doesn't have to mean choosing between honouring your culture and doing what feels right for you. We talk about: Her real emotions when she found out she was pregnant, and the pressure South Asian women feel to act excited about motherhood Never seeing herself as "maternal," and the fear of losing her identity How our own mothers shape what we believe motherhood should look like Handling unsolicited advice, and why she asked her family questions instead of handing them rules The no-visitors debate, and why she chose her mental health Why every parenting decision has a trade-off, and "call me a bad mom" Three generations, three laddu recipes, and how she picked one without offending anyone The 40-day postpartum diet: saffron milk, fenugreek water and nourishing food for recovery Why every woman struggles with postpartum, and why motherhood doesn't have to be binary If you've ever felt torn between the traditions you grew up with and the mother you want to be, this conversation will make you feel a lot less alone. Subscribe and turn on notifications so you don't miss the next one; it genuinely helps me bring on more incredible guests. Follow Shivani Bafna: @shivani_bafna https://www.instagram.com/shivani_bafna AD: In England, we're using water faster than nature can replace it, and in Wales, wetter winters and drier summers are putting pressure on the water supply. We often use more than we realise, but we don't need massive lifestyle changes to change these stats. Everyday ways to save water: Cut your shower by two minutes to save 28L Use a washing up bowl instead of a running tap to save 10L per minute Fix a leaky loo to save up to 400L a day Use eco-mode on appliances to save 10L per wash Search "Let's Save Water" or visit letssavewater.com to see what small changes you could make, and maybe have a chat with your friends and family about this too. #AMillennialMind #Postpartum #SouthAsianMotherhood Chapters 00:00 Intro: why old motherhood traditions are only now making sense 02:47 Welcome, Shivani Bafna 03:53 Who was Shivani before the public eye? 04:28 Growing up Indian in the Midwest 08:03 "I was never maternal" 11:02 How our mothers shape our idea of motherhood 16:17 Her real emotions when she found out she was pregnant 19:37 When your parents disagree with your pregnancy choices 23:31 Navigating unsolicited advice as a first-time mom 28:37 Why family support is give and take 30:24 The problem with fear-based motherhood content 33:15 AD: Let's Save Water 34:05 Living under one roof with the whole family 34:47 The no-visitors rule: does she regret it? 38:52 Every parenting decision has a trade-off 39:46 The no-kissing rule 40:57 How to set boundaries with parents and in-laws 42:05 Have these conversations before the baby arrives 44:18 Three generations, three laddu recipes 46:49 Treating your family like key stakeholders 47:33 When everyone in the family disagrees 49:40 Why it's okay to change your mind as a parent 53:19 The 40-day postpartum diet 56:34 Collective care in South Asian culture 58:59 The truth about postpartum 1:01:05 Adapting traditions to work for you 1:02:26 Motherhood doesn't have to be binary 1:03:38 Final thoughts 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠
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Attachment Expert Answers: How to Go From Anxious to Secure | Dr. Amir Levine
Why do some relationships feel safe and easy, while others leave you constantly overthinking? In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Amir Levine, psychiatrist, neuroscientist and bestselling author of Attached …
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Why do some relationships feel safe and easy, while others leave you constantly overthinking? In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Amir Levine, psychiatrist, neuroscientist and bestselling author of Attached and his new book, Secure. We talk about the four attachment styles and why your style isn't something to heal from. It's a biology you can learn to work with. The little everyday moments are what actually rewire your brain to feel safer in love, friendship and family. We talk about: The four attachment styles, and why you can have a different one with every person in your life The smoke experiment that shows the hidden strengths of anxious and avoidant people Why tiny everyday interactions matter more than big therapy breakthroughs The five pillars of a secure life, and how to show up for people even when life is full Why one partner can't be everything, and how to build your "secure village" The three pitfalls avoidants fall into, and the simple fixes that save relationships "Wall tennis with love," a tool for anxious people in one-sided friendships Why parents have far less influence on your adult attachment style than you've been told How anxious attachment can be a superpower when you learn to use it If you've ever blamed yourself for being "too much" or "too distant," this conversation will change how you see yourself and the people you love. Subscribe and turn on notifications so you don't miss the next one; it genuinely helps me bring on more incredible guests.
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#AMillennialMind #AttachmentStyles #Relationships Chapters 00:00 Intro: why some relationships leave you overthinking 02:26 Welcome, Dr. Amir Levine 02:49 Why he wrote Attached and Secure 03:40 The four attachment styles explained 06:03 Different attachment styles with different people 07:59 Is being secure the goal? 08:30 The smoke experiment: hidden strengths of each style 10:50 Why the little moments matter most 13:43 When our first recording fell apart 18:43 Why attachment is a daily practice 20:15 What if your partner isn't secure? 22:46 Why different people support us in different ways 24:53 Turning "insecure" traits into strengths 26:55 Why we expect friends to be everything 28:42 When friendships drift apart 30:31 The five pillars of a secure life 33:25 The small thank-yous that make us secure 35:27 A loyalty program for relationships 36:15 How the human brain actually feels safe 37:37 The health benefits of feeling connected 39:39 Stop villainising avoidants 40:56 Avoidant pitfall #1: "Heal thyself" 42:53 Avoidant pitfall #2: breaking the baseline 46:09 Are you avoidant in your friendships? 47:03 Why teenagers pull away from parents 49:58 Avoidant pitfall #3: closeness overdose 53:23 How do I raise a secure child? 55:36 Sleep training, breastfeeding and attachment myths 57:44 Anxious baby vs anxious attachment 58:46 Attachment ingenuity: staying connected your way 1:00:29 How to handle an anxious friend 1:01:15 Wall tennis with love 1:04:14 When the other person isn't doing the work 1:07:54 What shapes the other 90% of your attachment style 1:08:21 What worms and dogs teach us about closeness 1:10:04 Why secure people don't overthink it 1:10:49 Anxious attachment as a superpower 1:12:34 The adopted sisters story 1:14:16 When your strengths become your swords 1:14:56 What he wants you to believe about yourself 1:15:36 Final thoughts 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠
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The 3-Hour Mom Debate: Are We Doing Motherhood Wrong? | Dr. Dhivya Srinivasa
Can you actually have it all, or is that the exact belief that's making you feel like you're failing? In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Dhivya Srinivasa, a double board-certified plastic surgeon, mom of …
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Can you actually have it all, or is that the exact belief that's making you feel like you're failing?
In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Dhivya Srinivasa, a double board-certified plastic surgeon, mom of three, and the internet's most unfiltered voice on modern motherhood. We get into the myth of doing it all, the impossible standards placed on working parents, and why the "good mom" checklist most of us are measuring ourselves against was never built for the life we're actually living.
We talk about:
- Her definition of being a good mom, and why she refuses to be graded on how she cuts a cucumber
- Going into labor in the middle of surgery, and the brutal reality of maternity leave in medicine
- Being mistreated at work while pregnant, and why she wishes she'd stood up for herself sooner
- Meeting her husband and being radically honest about her goals from date one
- Why the burden of self-sacrifice still falls on mothers, and what it actually takes to change that at home
- Quality time versus quantity of time, and what she learned from watching her own parents
- The soccer game she missed and the conversation that came out of it
- Why women get judged for having help, and what her husband says when she spirals about it
If you've ever felt guilty for wanting a career and a family, or like you're constantly being judged no matter what you choose, this conversation will change how you see it.
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00:00 Intro: the pressure to be a good mom
02:27 Welcome, Dr. Dhivya Srinivasa
03:10 Who is Dhivya?
04:17 What actually makes a "good mom"?
06:43 The fake metrics we judge parents by
09:16 The guilt of wanting to work
21:14 Going into labor in the operating room
26:15 Maternity leave in medicine is brutal
28:20 Mistreated at work while pregnant
37:21 Meeting her husband: radical honesty on date one
43:29 Why alignment matters more than perfection
45:55 Men, self-sacrifice, and equal parenting
55:12 Quality time vs. quantity of time
1:00:20 Reacting to viral "you have to be in the office" takes
1:04:36 The miseducation of sons
1:11:24 Confidence modeled by her parents
1:13:46 Dealing with mom guilt: the soccer game story
1:19:39 Feeling misunderstood as a parent
1:21:13 Advice for women judged by their mom or mother-in-law
1:28:44 Hiring help and letting go of the guilt
1:30:57 Why women get judged for having nannies
1:34:18 Her husband's take: "let's just get the help"
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The Limiting Beliefs Secretly Blocking Your Manifestations | Gabby Bernstein
On this weeks episode I am joined by Gabby Bernstein, New York Times best-selling author of 11 books and one of the most influential voices in personal growth and spirituality, joins us to unpack limiting …
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On this weeks episode I am joined by Gabby Bernstein, New York Times best-selling author of 11 books and one of the most influential voices in personal growth and spirituality, joins us to unpack limiting beliefs, trauma, and what it actually takes to rebuild trust in yourself. We talk about why manifesting fails for so many people (hint: it's not the vision board), the 4-step process Gabby uses to heal a limiting belief in real time, how she healed from addiction and childhood trauma, and how she's applying everything she's learned to parenting her son. We also get into friendships in your 30s, setting boundaries without guilt, and why willingness, not certainty, is the real starting point for change. If you've ever felt stuck but couldn't articulate why, this episode is for you. Gabby's book Self-Help is referenced throughout this conversation. Her new book, Unshakeable Faith, is coming soon. ⏱ Timestamps: 00:00 Opening 01:25 Meet Gabby Bernstein 02:25 Welcome & why this topic 03:26 How to start when you feel stuck 05:36 Willingness to heal: opening the door 07:44 Manifesting needs follow-through, not just belief 08:53 Recognising your own core beliefs 11:39 The 4 steps to healing a limiting belief 15:17 How Gabby met her husband 18:14 Gabby's story: addiction and healing 20:41 Healing after loss and grief 22:53 Solitude, fellowship and community 24:06 Friendships in your 30s 29:45 Working through "I can't trust people" 31:54 Relief and sadness in recognising your patterns 33:40 Dissociation and remembering trauma 35:18 Parenting through personal development 39:17 Becoming your own inner parent 40:22 Finding a partner who respects your journey 41:14 Practising patience with yourself and others 42:20 Trauma vs. limiting beliefs 43:32 Understanding your protector parts 44:51 Why manifesting doesn't work for most people 46:57 Overcoming fear of confronting your patterns 48:17 What is self energy? 49:36 You can't force someone else to change 52:27 Setting boundaries without guilt 53:22 Self-forgiveness and daily practices 54:36 Trusting the universe and faith 56:49 Closing & where to see Gabby next 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠
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What Nobody Tells You About Being Self-Employed and Expecting | Shivani Pau
Can you prepare for a life you’ve never lived before? In this deeply personal solo episode of A Millennial Mind, I share how I’m preparing for motherhood while trying to protect something I’ve spent the last …
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Can you prepare for a life you’ve never lived before? In this deeply personal solo episode of A Millennial Mind, I share how I’m preparing for motherhood while trying to protect something I’ve spent the last six years building: my podcast, my work and a part of my identity. I’m walking you through the exact framework I’ve used to prepare for a season where my time, energy and priorities are about to change from setting realistic deadlines and building in a buffer, to defining non-negotiables, systemising my work and learning to let go of perfection. But this isn’t just about pregnancy. It’s about preparing for any season of life where you know you won’t have the same time, energy or capacity you once did. If you’re entering a new chapter, building a business, navigating motherhood, moving, recovering from burnout or simply trying to make space for what matters most, I hope this episode reminds you that you don’t have to do everything perfectly. You just have to decide what matters most and do your best. In this episode: • Preparing your life for a major transition • The reality of becoming a mother • Matrescence and changing identity • How I’m preparing A Millennial Mind for motherhood • Why consistency matters more than perfection • The 4-step framework I’m using • Setting deadlines and building buffers • Defining your non-negotiables • Systemising and batch-recording your work • Learning what to keep and what to let go • Giving yourself grace when things don’t go to plan
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My Husband Cheated On Me: How I Rebuilt My Life | Sahara Rose
What if the heartbreak that broke you was actually the beginning of becoming who you were always meant to be? In this episode I sit down with spiritual teacher and author @SaharaRose for a deeply personal …
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What if the heartbreak that broke you was actually the beginning of becoming who you were always meant to be? In this episode I sit down with spiritual teacher and author @SaharaRose for a deeply personal conversation about betrayal, heartbreak, identity and what she calls the “dark night of the soul.” Sahara opens up about the night her then-husband confessed he had been unfaithful throughout their relationship and how that discovery completely dismantled the life and identity she thought she knew. We explore why heartbreak can feel like losing yourself, the “good girl” conditioning that teaches women to find validation through relationships, and why healing isn't about rushing to become happy again. Sahara shares the Triple E Method Emote, Embody and Express that she developed while navigating the darkest period of her life. We also unpack why love alone isn't always enough to sustain a relationship, choosing yourself after betrayal, celibacy after heartbreak, feminine energy, Dharma, rebuilding trust in your intuition and the powerful ritual Sahara used to hold a “funeral” for her former self. If you're going through heartbreak, betrayal, a breakup or simply a chapter where you no longer recognise yourself, this conversation is a reminder that losing the life you knew can sometimes create space for a life you couldn't yet imagine. In this episode: • Sahara's experience of discovering infidelity • What the “dark night of the soul” really means • Why women can lose their identity in relationships • The psychology of heartbreak and attachment • Why love isn't always enough • The Triple E Method for processing difficult emotions • Why Sahara chose celibacy for 2.5 years • Finding yourself instead of searching for another relationship • Sacred feminine vs masculine energy • Breaking “good girl” conditioning • The funeral of your former self • Rebuilding trust in your intuition • Practical ways to rediscover yourself after heartbreak
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Relationships After Kids: Why Even Strong Couples Start Falling Apart | Shan Boodram
Having a baby doesn’t just change your life it can completely change your relationship. In this episode I sit down with Shan Boodram, certified sex educator and sexologist, to have an honest conversation about …
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Having a baby doesn’t just change your life it can completely change your relationship. In this episode I sit down with Shan Boodram, certified sex educator and sexologist, to have an honest conversation about what really happens to love, intimacy, identity and connection after becoming parents. Shan opens up about reaching a point eight months after having her first child where she genuinely questioned whether her marriage would survive. We unpack why the first year can put enormous pressure on couples, how resentment builds when parenting starts to feel transactional, and why both mothers and fathers can experience profound identity shifts after having children. We also talk about mum guilt, maintaining your career after motherhood, navigating judgement from other parents, sharing the mental load, keeping intimacy alive when you're exhausted, and why sometimes saving your relationship means creating an entirely new relationship with the same person. If you're pregnant, already a parent, questioning whether you want children, or simply want to understand how relationships evolve through major life transitions, this episode is for you. In this episode, we discuss: • How motherhood and fatherhood change your identity • Matrescence and patrescence • Why the first year after having a baby can be so difficult for couples • The invisible pressures placed on mothers • Mum guilt and choosing to continue your career • How unequal parenting creates resentment • Why fathers need emotional support too • Maintaining sex and intimacy after children • Sleeping separately without losing connection • Why choosing not to have children isn't selfish • How to rebuild a relationship that's struggling • Protecting the parts of yourself you don't want motherhood to erase
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The Numbers That Could Predict Love, Money & Your Future | Kaitlyn Kaerhart
Can your birth date really reveal who you are, who you're meant to become and even when major changes could happen in your life? I'll be honest: before this conversation, I knew absolutely nothing about …
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Can your birth date really reveal who you are, who you're meant to become and even when major changes could happen in your life? I'll be honest: before this conversation, I knew absolutely nothing about numerology. And I had a LOT of questions. In this episode of A Millennial Mind, I'm joined by numerologist and spiritual teacher Kaitlyn Kaerhart to understand what numerology actually is, why people believe our lives move through nine-year cycles, and whether numbers can really tell us anything about our relationships, careers, money and future. Kaitlyn even decodes my own numbers, including why she believes this year makes sense for marriage, pregnancy and family and some of what she told me genuinely surprised me. But I also wanted to challenge it. Where is the evidence? Why do some descriptions resonate while others don't? Are angel numbers actually meaningful? And is there a danger in allowing spiritual tools to make our decisions for us? In this episode, we discuss: ✨How to calculate your Life Path Number ✨ What Life Path Numbers 1–9 mean ✨ The Master Numbers 11, 22 & 33 ✨ My own numerology reading ✨ Life Path vs Life Destiny Numbers ✨ What "karmic debt" means in numerology ✨ The nine-year cycles Kaitlyn uses to interpret love, money and career ✨ Why Year 6 is associated with relationships ✨ Why Year 8 is associated with money ✨ 11:11, 777 and the truth about "angel numbers" ✨ Whether numerology can really predict the future ✨ The danger of becoming too dependent on spiritual tools ✨ How Kaitlyn uses numerology alongside intuition and manifestation
Whether you're deeply spiritual, completely sceptical or simply curious, this conversation isn't about telling you what to believe. It's about asking whether the patterns we notice in our lives can teach us something about ourselves. Let me know in the comments: what's your Life Path Number and does it actually sound like you? And if you enjoy conversations that challenge the way you think about yourself and your life, make sure you're subscribed to A Millennial Mind. 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcastad | Get ahead of your to-do list with £10 off your first task at Taskrabbit.co.uk or on the Taskrabbit app and use the promo code MILLENNIALMIND'
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The 4 Life Lessons Pregnancy Taught Me (That Everyone Needs To Hear)
Have you ever gone through a season of life that completely changed the way you see yourself? As I come to the end of my second trimester, I've found myself reflecting on the biggest lessons pregnancy has …
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Have you ever gone through a season of life that completely changed the way you see yourself? As I come to the end of my second trimester, I've found myself reflecting on the biggest lessons pregnancy has taught me not just about becoming a mum, but about life, relationships, health and learning to trust myself. Pregnancy has been one of the most beautiful, exciting and vulnerable experiences I've ever been through. It's challenged me in ways I never expected, forced me to slow down, and made me realise what truly deserves my energy. In this episode, I share the four biggest lessons I've learnt so far, including: • Why protecting your energy is more important than listening to everyone else's opinions • How pregnancy strengthened my intuition and taught me to trust myself • Why your health is your greatest investment—long before pregnancy • The reason choosing the right life partner is one of the most important decisions you'll ever make Whether you're pregnant, trying for a baby, navigating a major life transition or simply feeling uncertain about your next chapter, I hope these lessons remind you that growth often comes through change. I'd love to know which lesson resonated with you the most? Let me know in the comments below. If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to like, subscribe and share it with someone who might need to hear it.
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Why So Many Women Feel Lost In Their 30s (And How To Find Yourself Again) | Krista Williams
Have you ever looked around at your life and thought... "I've done everything I was supposed to do... so why don't I feel fulfilled?" In this episode of A Millennial Mind, Shivani sits down with @Krista …
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Have you ever looked around at your life and thought... "I've done everything I was supposed to do... so why don't I feel fulfilled?" In this episode of A Millennial Mind, Shivani sits down with @Krista Williams, co-founder of the @almost30podcast coach and retreat host, to explore why so many women feel lost during major life transitions. Together they unpack why burnout isn't always caused by working too hard but by living out of alignment with who you truly are. From people-pleasing and perfectionism to hyper-independence, intuition and purpose, this conversation is for anyone questioning what's next. We discuss: • Why so many women feel lost in their 30s • The hidden signs of burnout and misalignment • Why achievement doesn't always lead to fulfilment • Hyper-independence and learning to ask for help • How to trust your intuition again • Redefining success on your own terms • Why purpose isn't something you find it's something you grow into • Practical journaling exercises to reconnect with yourself ⏱ Timestamps: 00:00 Why So Many Women Feel Lost Today 01:42 Meet Krista Williams 04:28 What It Really Means To Be On The Edge Of A Breakthrough 09:18 The Female Friendship That Changed Everything 13:48 Why You Feel Lost In Your Career & Relationships 18:45 Betrayal, Intuition & Rock Bottom 25:12 How To Start Trusting Your Intuition Again 30:08 Why Women Feel Lost In Their 30s 35:55 Stop Chasing Your Purpose 41:46 Why High Achievers Burn Out 47:12 The Truth About Hyper-Independence 52:48 How To Redefine Success 58:42 Finding What You're Actually Good At 1:03:05 You're Not Behind, You're Becoming 1:05:48 The Journaling Exercise That Can Change Your Life If you've been feeling disconnected from your career, your relationships or even yourself, this conversation will remind you that you're not behind you’re becoming. 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠
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The Biggest Lie People Tell After Cheating | Dr Tara
Is cheating always a choice? Can a relationship ever truly recover after infidelity? And is monogamy really right for everyone? Most people think cheating is simple: someone betrays you, the relationship ends …
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Is cheating always a choice? Can a relationship ever truly recover after infidelity? And is monogamy really right for everyone? Most people think cheating is simple: someone betrays you, the relationship ends, and that's the whole story. But what if infidelity is actually a symptom of something much deeper? In this episode of A Millennial Mind, I'm joined by renowned sexologist, relationship expert and author Dr. Tara to unpack one of the most misunderstood topics in modern relationships. We explore why people really cheat, the psychology behind jealousy, emotional and physical infidelity, whether someone can genuinely love more than one person, and what it actually takes to rebuild trust after betrayal. Whether you've experienced infidelity, are questioning your own relationship, or simply want to understand modern love on a deeper level, this conversation will challenge the way you think about intimacy, desire and commitment. In this episode we discuss: • Why almost everyone has experienced some form of infidelity • The different types of cheating beyond physical affairs • Can cheating ever be unintentional? • Why people really cheat • Emotional neglect vs personal responsibility • Is jealousy a sign of love or insecurity? • Can someone love two people at the same time? • Monogamy vs ethical non-monogamy • Can relationships survive infidelity? • How to rebuild intimacy after betrayal • Why self-esteem plays such a big role in relationships • The biggest mistake couples make after someone cheats If you enjoyed this conversation, don't forget to subscribe, leave a review and share this episode with someone who needs to hear it.
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Ayurvedic Secrets Every New Mum Should Know | Michelle Ranavat
Motherhood changes far more than your body it changes your identity. While everyone prepares you for the baby, very few people prepare you for what happens to YOU. In this episode, I'm joined by Michelle …
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Motherhood changes far more than your body it changes your identity. While everyone prepares you for the baby, very few people prepare you for what happens to YOU. In this episode, I'm joined by Michelle Ranavat, founder of Ranavat Beauty, to talk about the realities of postpartum recovery, hair loss, skin changes, confidence, and the ancient Ayurvedic rituals that helped her reconnect with herself after becoming a mother. We explore why so many women feel pressure to "bounce back," how motherhood can leave you feeling disconnected from your identity, and why looking after yourself isn't selfish it's essential. Whether you're pregnant, postpartum, planning a family, or simply curious about the science behind Ayurveda, this conversation is full of practical advice and a refreshing perspective on healing from the inside out. In this episode we discuss: • Why motherhood feels like the birth of a new identity • The emotional reality of postpartum hair loss • Why so many mothers feel isolated after having children • Ancient Ayurvedic traditions that support postpartum recovery • The science behind scalp massage, Amla and Saffron • Pregnancy-safe skincare and ingredients to avoid • Stretch marks, pigmentation and skin changes after birth • Why modern beauty focuses on fixing rather than healing • Daily rituals that help mothers reconnect with themselves • How to create healthy family boundaries after having a baby If this episode helped you, please subscribe, leave a review and share it with someone who might need this conversation!
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The 3-Step Method I Use Every Time Imposter Syndrome Shows Up
Have you ever walked into a room and felt like you didn't belong, despite everything you've achieved? In this episode of A Millennial Mind, we unpack the psychology of imposter syndrome, self-doubt, and the …
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Have you ever walked into a room and felt like you didn't belong, despite everything you've achieved? In this episode of A Millennial Mind, we unpack the psychology of imposter syndrome, self-doubt, and the stories we tell ourselves that keep us feeling small. If you've ever questioned whether you're good enough, worried you'll be "found out," or felt like everyone else has it figured out, this conversation is for you. We explore why perfection is an impossible standard, how our minds create convincing narratives that aren't based on facts, and why confidence isn't something you wait for—it's something you build through action. If you've ever felt like a fraud despite working hard to get where you are, this episode will remind you that you're far from alone and that confidence comes from showing up, not from being perfect.
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Feminine Energy: The Dating Advice That's Backfiring | David Ghiyam
Why do we keep attracting the same relationships, repeating the same patterns, and struggling to find lasting love? In this episode of A Millennial Mind, Shivani Pau sits down with Kabbalah teacher …
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Why do we keep attracting the same relationships, repeating the same patterns, and struggling to find lasting love? In this episode of A Millennial Mind, Shivani Pau sits down with Kabbalah teacher, entrepreneur and spiritual coach David Ghiyam to unpack the deeper forces shaping modern relationships. Together they explore masculine and feminine energy, soulmates, dating, marriage, manifestation, childhood wounds, and why the relationships we attract may be reflecting parts of ourselves we haven't healed yet. David shares his perspective on how fear, control, abandonment wounds, and limiting beliefs can influence who we choose, what we tolerate, and why certain relationship cycles keep repeating. Whether you're single, dating, married, divorced, or trying to understand relationship dynamics on a deeper level, this conversation offers a thought-provoking perspective on love, personal growth, and emotional patterns. 🎙 What we cover: • Why people keep attracting the same relationship patterns • The difference between masculine and feminine energy • Why some men pull away when they feel pressured • How childhood wounds shape adult relationships • The hidden fears driving dating decisions • Why successful women can struggle with relationships • The connection between self-worth and attraction • The spiritual perspective on soulmates and marriage • How to stop repeating unhealthy relationship cycles • The role of trust, respect, and emotional safety in love
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Parentified Children Become Adults Who Can’t Stop People Pleasing | Therapist, Aliza Shapiro
Most people think enmeshment is love. They think it’s loyalty/ being a close family or maybe it’s just caring deeply about the people around them, but what if the reason you struggle to make decisions, set …
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Most people think enmeshment is love. They think it’s loyalty/ being a close family or maybe it’s just caring deeply about the people around them, but what if the reason you struggle to make decisions, set boundaries, trust yourself, or put your partner first has nothing to do with love and everything to do with enmeshment? In this powerful conversation, we sit down with therapist Aliza Shapiro to unpack one of the most misunderstood relationship dynamics: enmeshment. We explore how family loyalty can sometimes become control, why so many eldest children become parentified, how cultural expectations shape our identities, and what it takes to build healthy relationships without losing the people we love. Whether you’re constantly seeking your parents’ approval, feel responsible for everyone else’s emotions, or struggle to put your own needs first, this episode will help you understand where those patterns come from and how to begin changing them. If you’ve ever felt guilty for choosing yourself, this conversation is for you. 🎙 What we cover: ・What enmeshment actually is ・Signs you’re too emotionally responsible for others ・The difference between love and control ・Why parentified children often become people pleasers ・How family dynamics affect romantic relationships ・Why your spouse should come before your parents ・How to have difficult conversations without destroying relationships ・The healthiest way to set boundaries ・How to rediscover your identity after years of living for others
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Parent Wounds: The Hidden Cause Of Your Relationship Struggles | Danny Morel
Have you ever wondered why you keep repeating the same patterns in your relationships, career, or life, even when you know they're not serving you? In this weeks episode explores how our childhood experiences …
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Have you ever wondered why you keep repeating the same patterns in your relationships, career, or life, even when you know they're not serving you? In this weeks episode explores how our childhood experiences shape our self-worth, decision-making, and the things we're drawn to as adults. We dive into why familiar doesn't always mean healthy, and most importantly, how to start breaking the patterns that are keeping you stuck. This is a powerful conversation about healing, self-awareness, and learning to choose differently.
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How To Become The Person You Keep Talking About
What's stopping you from taking action? Most people don't fail because they lack talent. They fail because they never take action. In this solo episode, I unpack the mindset shifts, habits, and lessons that …
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What's stopping you from taking action? Most people don't fail because they lack talent. They fail because they never take action. In this solo episode, I unpack the mindset shifts, habits, and lessons that have helped me stop overthinking and start moving. We explore why action creates confidence, how perfectionism keeps us stuck, and the simple steps you can take today to create momentum in your life. If you've been waiting for the perfect time, the perfect plan, or the perfect version of yourself, this episode is your reminder that progress begins the moment you start. The question isn't whether you're capable. This video is going to remind you why you are! 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠
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"I Gave My Eggs to a Lady I Met on the Train" | Egg Donation, Faith & Destiny | Gini Bhogal
What would you do if a stranger on your morning commute told you she couldn't have children — and you offered to help? In this episode, I sit down with Gini Bhogal (@ginibhogal), a celebrity bridal hair and …
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What would you do if a stranger on your morning commute told you she couldn't have children — and you offered to help? In this episode, I sit down with Gini Bhogal (@ginibhogal), a celebrity bridal hair and makeup artist and a household name in the Asian bridal scene. But behind the brushes and bridal chairs is a story she kept quiet for nearly 30 years... until now. Gini shares how a chance encounter on the London Underground led her to donate her eggs to a complete stranger, for free, against her husband's wishes, without telling her family, and with no idea how it would all unfold. 26 years later, the child she helped bring into the world reached out and found her. If you've ever felt pulled to do something that made no logical sense but felt completely right, this one is for you. 🎙 What we cover: - How Gini met Anita on the London Underground and made a split-second decision to donate her eggs - What the egg donation and IVF process actually involved - How she convinced her husband and navigated family and cultural pressure - The emotional process of detaching — and why she never wavered - The moment Christopher was born and Gini went to meet him - How and why they told Christopher the truth at age 26 — and how he guessed it was her - Taking him to Santorini to meet the family - Her parents' reaction — and why it completely surprised her - Breaking generational cycles in South Asian families - Faith, destiny and the belief that everything is written ⏱ Timestamps: - 0:00 – Intro - 2:51 – Gini's story begins: the stranger on the tube - 6:37 – How old Gini was and why she said yes - 8:46 – Telling her husband and convincing him - 11:55 – Shivani on organ donation and selflessness - 18:04 – Navigating conservative family and cultural pressure - 22:38 – Advice for following your gut when everyone disagrees - 39:37 – How IVF and egg donation actually works - 44:26 – Going through the process alone while working and raising a child - 49:14 – The extraction, the embryos, and the one egg that worked - 51:55 – Finding out Anita was pregnant - 1:00:40 – Christopher asking "are you my mum?" as a child - 1:05:14 – Deciding whether to ever tell him - 1:09:49 – How and when they told Christopher — and how he guessed - 1:14:15 – Christopher reaching out and coming to London - 1:15:32 – Taking him to Santorini - 1:17:01 – Telling Gini's parents and their reaction - 1:22:54 – Did Gini judge her parents unfairly? - 1:26:40 – What Gini gained from the whole experience - 1:27:06 – Do you believe in destiny? - 1:30:12 – Would Gini encourage her own children to donate? - 1:40:28 – Advice for doing something outside the norm 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 egg donation, fertility, ivf, selflessness, gut instinct, faith, destiny, south asian culture, punjabi culture, generational cycles, a millennial mind, shivani pau, gini bhogal, bridal makeup artist, infertility, acts of kindness, following your gut, cultural pressure, family expectations
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Why Working Less Might Actually Make You Better at Your Job | Dr Monika Sharma
Have you ever felt like you're burning out from a job you actually love? Dr Monika Sharma (@lifewithdoctormon) is an NHS GP, certified personal trainer and content creator who has spent years trying to balance …
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Have you ever felt like you're burning out from a job you actually love? Dr Monika Sharma (@lifewithdoctormon) is an NHS GP, certified personal trainer and content creator who has spent years trying to balance life in and out of clinic. After nearly 15 years in medicine, Monika found herself running on empty — editing videos on her lunch break, answering emails on the commute home and slowly losing her joy for the job she'd worked so hard to get. In this episode we talk about what it really feels like to be a number in the system, the guilt of finally choosing yourself, why so many of us tie our worth to how much we suffer at work — and what actually changes when you stop. If you've ever felt like a fraud for enjoying your work day, or wondered whether you're allowed to want more than your job title gives you — this one is for you. 🎙 What we cover: • The reality of being an NHS GP vs the glamour people assume • Why Monika wanted to quit medicine multiple times • Reducing her hours and the guilt that came with it • Tying your identity and self-worth to your job title • Why we equate hard work with suffering • The pressure of doing both medicine and content creation • Choosing yourself without feeling selfish • Immigrant parent work ethic and redefining what productivity looks like • How to have the difficult conversations that change your life • Interracial marriage and challenging cultural expectations • Why the people closest to you matter more than strangers online 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: / amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: / shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shiva... Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshop... Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 --- burnout, career burnout, job identity, work life balance, NHS doctor, choosing yourself, burnout recovery, overworking, hustle culture, a millennial mind, shivani pau, dr monika sharma, lifewithdoctormon, work guilt, ambition and burnout, immigrant work ethic, interracial relationship, cultural expectations, reducing work hours, self worth and career
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AUTISM EXPERT: The Real Reason Autism Is On The Rise & What's Actually Causing It | Taiba Bajar
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Have you ever felt completely alone trying to help your autistic child, ignored by the NHS, judged by family, and running out of answers? Taiba Bajar (@autismbrainempowerment) is a former dentist, award-winning researcher and founder of Autism Brain Empowerment. When her son lost all his words, eye contact and sleep overnight at 20 months old, she was dismissed by doctors and told it was just genetics. She refused to accept that and spent years finding the answers herself. In this episode we talk about what autism actually is, why so many children are regressing and why parents keep getting gaslit about it, and the real environmental triggers including food, screens and toxins that are worsening symptoms. We also talk about why girls are still being massively underdiagnosed, what the NHS gets wrong about the diagnosis process, and the simple changes parents can make at home right now. If you're a parent on a waiting list, feeling overwhelmed, or just want to understand autism better, this one is for you. 🎙 What we cover: • What autism actually is and how it's diagnosed • Why autism rates are genuinely rising, not just better diagnosis • What regression really means and why doctors keep dismissing it • Why girls with autism are so often missed • The link between gut health and autism symptoms • How screens, food and environmental toxins worsen symptoms • What to do while you're on the NHS waiting list • Supplements that can help, including omega 3, magnesium and folinic acid • Why you shouldn't blame yourself as a parent • The importance of early intervention and neuroplasticity ⏱ Timestamps: 0:00 – Intro 4:57 – What is autism? 7:03 – Why so many people are undiagnosed 7:47 – Why girls with autism are missed 10:53 – Are autism diagnoses actually rising? 13:59 – Taiba's personal story 19:27 – What is stimming? 24:29 – What is regression, and does every child experience it? 27:00 – What's happening neurologically during regression 31:42 – What should a parent do first if they notice regression 35:23 – Why there's still so much shame around autism 42:43 – The environmental factors worsening autism symptoms 49:30 – Screens, working parents and the guilt around it 51:32 – Practical advice for exhausted parents 59:40 – How to talk about environment without blaming parents 1:04:31 – What to do if you can't afford to go private 1:06:32 – Gut health, anti-inflammatory diet and supplements 1:13:19 – What one small thing can a parent do tonight 1:18:30 – The most sedentary generation in human history 1:23:55 – Taiba's biggest regret and her son's transformation
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Why Your Sister In Law Might Be More Dangerous Than Your Mother In Law | Usha Singh-Das
What would you do if the family that was supposed to protect you spent your entire life tearing you down instead? Usha Singh-Das (@ushasinghdas) is the author of Breaking Free, a memoir about growing up in a …
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What would you do if the family that was supposed to protect you spent your entire life tearing you down instead? Usha Singh-Das (@ushasinghdas) is the author of Breaking Free, a memoir about growing up in a toxic family environment shaped by a narcissistic father and relentless bullying from her sister-in-law. In this episode, she opens up about what it actually took to leave, go no contact, and rebuild her life from scratch. We get into the moments that broke her and the ones that made her. From being told she was too ugly to ever get married, to losing her dad, her baby and eventually her mum in the space of one year, and her family's response to all of it. This is one of the most honest conversations about toxic family dynamics we've had on this podcast. If you've ever wondered whether what you grew up with was actually normal, this one is for you. 🎙 What we cover: - Growing up with a narcissistic father and not realising it until adulthood - How toxic family behaviour becomes your normal - Surviving a toxic sister-in-law and the damage it does - Being told you'll never get married because of your appearance - Miscarriage, grief and being dismissed by your own family - Going no contact and what it actually costs you - Breaking generational trauma when you had no positive role models - How the right people can rebuild what the wrong ones destroyed - Learning to parent differently when you had no example to follow ⏱ Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 2:34 - Usha introduces herself and Breaking Free 2:54 - What her childhood actually looked like 4:27 - When she first realised her dad was toxic 6:58 - Getting married and how it exposed everything 9:08 - Being the last child left at home from 16 to 32 13:25 - University, freedom and finding her confidence 13:32 - When the eczema started and what her family said 17:29 - Being told she was too ugly to ever get married 20:18 - How she dealt with the sister-in-law bullying 21:30 - Hitting rock bottom 21:48 - Losing her dad and finding out she was pregnant on the same day 23:20 - The miscarriage nobody took seriously 24:18 - The family meeting three days after her surgery 37:52 - Going to court against her own family 38:32 - Losing her mum and not being told she was dying 42:27 - How she stayed positive through all of it 44:03 - Getting pregnant again after the miscarriage 46:25 - How her in-laws rebuilt what her family destroyed 52:14 - How motherhood made her reflect on her own childhood 57:28 - How she stopped generational trauma repeating 1:06:49 - The advice she'd give anyone told they'll never get married 1:09:18 - How to deal with a toxic sister-in-law 1:10:46 - Putting your mental health above guilt in Indian families Follow Usha: @ushasinghdas Follow Shivani: @shivani.pau Listen on Spotify and Apple Podcasts: A Millennial Mind 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠
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How To Have Difficult Conversations WITHOUT Ruining Relationships
Have you been avoiding a conversation because you're scared it'll ruin everything? I'm sharing the framework I actually use — the 5C Method — which I developed years ago for my TEDx talk. From friendships to …
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Have you been avoiding a conversation because you're scared it'll ruin everything? I'm sharing the framework I actually use — the 5C Method — which I developed years ago for my TEDx talk. From friendships to family dynamics to relationships, this is how I've learned to say the hard thing and come out the other side with a stronger connection, not a broken one. Last week I had to confront someone and I was physically shaking. But the benefits always outweigh that two minutes of discomfort — and I want to show you exactly how to get there. If you've been sitting on something you need to say but don't know how — this one's for you. 🎙 What we cover: - Why avoiding difficult conversations builds resentment, not peace - How confrontation got a bad reputation (and why that needs to change) - The 5C Framework: Care, Cause, Consider, Cure, Compassion - Why you should lead with feelings, not facts - How to know if a conversation is even worth having - What to do when the other person reacts badly - Why the solution (cure) must be part of the conversation - The cultural silence around confrontation — especially in South Asian families ⏱ Timestamps: 0:00 – Intro: The difficult conversation I just had 1:30 – Why avoiding conflict builds resentment 4:00 – Growing up emotional in a big joint family 6:30 – The "golden goose" response — and why most people can't give it 9:00 – Reframing what confrontation actually means 11:30 – The cultural silence: South Asian families and not speaking up 14:00 – Introducing the 5C Framework 15:00 – C1: Care — why you care about this person 17:30 – C2: Cause — being specific about what upset you 20:00 – C3: Consider — seeing the other person's perspective 22:30 – C4: Cure — always bring a solution 24:00 – C5: Compassion — the thread that holds it all together 25:00 – Feelings over facts: what I learned in therapy 26:00 – Final message + outro 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 #difficultconversations #communicationtips #relationshipadvice #howtoconfrontsomeone #5Cframework #confrontation #amillennialmind #shivanipau #selfdevelopment #mentalhealth #southasianwomen #boundaries #conflictresolution #emotionalintelligence #personalgrowth
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The Hair Mistakes You're Making Every Single Day That DAMAGE Your Hair! | Dr Aamna Adel
I hate to be the one to tell you this but you might NOT be caring for your hair as well as you think 🙈 In today's episode of A Millennial Mind, I sat down with Dr Aamna Adel (@dermatologist_adel), a consultant …
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I hate to be the one to tell you this but you might NOT be caring for your hair as well as you think 🙈 In today's episode of A Millennial Mind, I sat down with Dr Aamna Adel (@dermatologist_adel), a consultant dermatologist and hair loss specialist based on Harley Street, to get the real answers. And honestly? Almost everything I thought I knew was wrong. The heatless curlers I swear by, the hair gummies I take every day, even the traditional Indian hair oiling I leave in overnight. All of it! This is the hair masterclass you didn't know you needed, and if you've ever worried about hair loss, postpartum shedding, grey hairs, or just want to actually understand your scalp, this episode is going to change the way you look after your hair and maybe finally be what convinces you to leave those greys alone! If you're losing hair, confused by the conflicting advice online, or just want to understand what your scalp is actually telling you — this one is for you. 🎙 What we cover: - What alopecia actually means (it's not what you think) - The real causes of hair loss — and why it's rarely just one thing - What minoxidil is, how it works, and why shedding on it is a good sign - Why heatless curlers can be MORE damaging than heat - Hair oiling — the right oils, the right technique, and how long to leave it in - Are hair gummies actually worth it? The honest answer - Grey hair — causes, myths, and whether you can reverse it - Perimenopause and hair loss: what you can do immediately - Hair extensions and the vicious cycle they create - Three easy things you can do today for scalp health - Hair training — is it real? (Spoiler: no) - The pressure to look young and the Botox conversation ⏱ Timestamps: 0:00 – Intro 1:43 – Dr Aamna's background and her own hair loss journey 5:30 – What is a scalp disorder? Normal hair loss vs when to worry 8:00 – How much hair loss is too much? 9:15 – The most common causes of hair loss 11:05 – Why it's never just one thing 12:20 – What is minoxidil and how does it work? 13:45 – Why shedding on minoxidil is actually a good sign 15:00 – Is minoxidil a lifelong commitment? 26:20 – Heatless curlers: the myth debunked 29:45 – What "right type of heat" actually means 35:10 – Rosemary oil — hero ingredient or overhyped? 35:45 – Does washing your hair more cause hair loss? 37:45 – Sulphates — are they actually bad? 40:00 – LED scalp caps and devices: do they work? 42:30 – Hair gummies: are they worth the money? 44:55 – What supplements actually have evidence behind them 46:20 – Hair oiling — how long is too long? 50:40 – The best oils for scalp vs mid-lengths 53:25 – Can you reverse hair loss? 54:50 – What causes scarring alopecia 55:50 – Grey hair — what it is and what causes it 58:30 – Should you pluck grey hairs? 1:00:00 – The pressure to look young — Botox and ageing 1:09:30 – Perimenopause and hair loss: what to do 1:11:45 – Hair extensions and traction alopecia 1:13:30 – Three quick tips for scalp health 1:15:30 – Hair training — is it actually a thing? 1:17:15 – The best food for hair growth 1:17:35 – What to do first if you're panicking about hair loss 1:18:55 – Bleaching your hair and bond repair 1:20:35 – Split ends and breakage: the honest advice 1:21:30 – Outro Follow Dr Aamna Adel: @dermatologist_adel 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 -- hair loss, hair care, scalp health, dermatologist, minoxidil, heatless curlers, hair growth tips, alopecia, postpartum hair loss, perimenopause hair loss, grey hair, hair gummies, dr aamna adel, shivani pau, a millennial mind, hair myths, consultant dermatologist
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Harnaam Kaur: The Hard Truth About My PCOS Beard: Never Finding Love & Nearly Ending It All
Harnaam Kaur (@harnaamkaur) is a model, motivational speaker, Guinness World Record holder and PCOS activist - known worldwide for keeping her beard. But this conversation goes much deeper than PCOS and facial …
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Harnaam Kaur (@harnaamkaur) is a model, motivational speaker, Guinness World Record holder and PCOS activist - known worldwide for keeping her beard. But this conversation goes much deeper than PCOS and facial hair. Harnaam opens up about growing up South Asian with a condition nobody understood, the bullying that led to self-harm, and how suicidal thoughts eventually gave way to one of the most recognisable faces in body positivity. She talks about never having been in love at 35, what her beard may have cost her in relationships, and the question she's sitting with for the first time in 15 years about whether she's ready to let it go. Harnaam says that 2024 was the darkest time of her life — the grief, the PTSD, the night she wrote a letter ready to end it all, and the person whose text the next morning she believes saved her life. If you've ever built your whole identity around surviving something, this one will stay with you. ⚠️ This episode contains discussion of suicide, self-harm and mental health. If you or someone you know is struggling please reach out to Samaritans on 116 123 (UK, free, 24/7). 🎙️ What we cover: PCOS symptoms in women and what a diagnosis at 12 actually feels like Facial hair, hirsutism and growing up South Asian with a body nobody talked about School bullying, self-harm and the impact on her mental health and body image The moment she stopped hiding and started fighting back The ego and anger that followed — and why she's not proud of all of it Keeping the beard for her Sikh faith — and how that faith has since completely shifted Never having been in love at 35 and what her PCOS beard may have cost her Questioning the beard and her identity for the first time in 15 years South Asian family silence around abuse, honour and speaking out Grief, PTSD and mental health rock bottom in 2024 The night she called for help and nobody picked up Finding faith, reading the Bible and what pulled her back from the edge The difference between body positivity and actually accepting yourself ⏱️ Timestamps: 0:00 — Intro 1:41 — Harnaam introduces herself 3:08 — Being diagnosed with PCOS at 12 5:12 — When the facial hair started and the bullying began 9:43 — Her relationship with the beard now and the limbo she's in 12:37 — Keeping the beard for religion — and how her faith changed 14:13 — The beard, marriage and never having been in love 20:58 — Wanting to know what her face looks like without it 24:15 — Shivani on women in their 30s being told to change themselves 28:17 — From suicidal teenager to angry, ego-driven activist 33:12 — The words from a friend that kept her here 36:12 — Going from rock bottom to a Guinness World Record 39:40 — What made her so angry — and why she's calmer now 41:02 — South Asian families and the silence around abuse 42:38 — Sexual abuse in South Asian communities and the pressure of honour 49:52 — Has she always refused to conform? 54:39 — The performance of body positivity 56:16 — Changing publicly and people not letting you evolve 1:08:57 — The last three years — grief, PTSD and hitting rock bottom 1:13:24 — Reading the Bible as a Sikh and what faith means to her now 1:17:31 — Writing a suicide note and the night nobody picked up 1:19:37 — What got her through and the person who didn't know they saved her life 1:23:10 — Her one piece of advice for anyone struggling right now 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠
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Is Google Making You More Anxious About Your Health? | Dr Nighat Arif on Cyberchondria
If you're someone who consults Dr Google more than your actual GP and it sends you into a constant health spiral, this episode is for you. Dr Nighat Arif (@DrNighatArif) is a practising GP with nearly 19 years …
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If you're someone who consults Dr Google more than your actual GP and it sends you into a constant health spiral, this episode is for you. Dr Nighat Arif (@DrNighatArif) is a practising GP with nearly 19 years in the NHS, women's health specialist, and author of the new book The Complete Guide to Family Health. In this conversation, we get into why so many of us are more anxious about our health than ever, whether Google and AI are helping or actively making things worse, and what the wellness industry is quietly getting away with. We also go deep on sleep, relationships, supplements, separate beds, and why prevention is the most underrated thing you can do for your long-term health. If you've ever convinced yourself you had a brain tumour at 2am because of a Google search — this one's for you.
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🎙 What we cover: What cyberchondria is and why it's rising Why Googling symptoms isn't always bad — and how to do it right The truth about IV vitamin drips (and why it might just be expensive hydration) Which supplements you can actually overdose on — and the risks Why separate bedrooms might be better for your marriage Sleep jolts — what's actually happening in your brain How to spot cherry-picked health data and misinformation What Dr Nighat thinks about ChatGPT replacing doctors CBT for health anxiety — what actually works Dementia prevention: what the Lancet study says you should be doing from birth The NHS's free health checks — and why you should be using them Prevention vs cure: Dr Nighat's number one piece of advice after 19 years ⏱ Timestamps: 0:00 – Intro 1:41 – Dr Nighat explains the book 5:32 – What does GP actually stand for? 6:03 – What is cyberchondria? 8:07 – The rise of health anxiety through TikTok reels 9:00 – The woman who thought she had a brain tumour (it was her partner's cigarette smoke) 11:38 – Cherry-picking health data and why it's dangerous 13:20 – Does Dr Nighat Google her own symptoms? 15:03 – Her son's liver transplant — googling as a doctor-turned-mum 21:00 – How to find trustworthy health information online 26:00 – IV vitamin drips: brilliant or a very expensive wee? 32:45 – Supplements — which ones you can actually overdose on 34:40 – Wellness trends and losing intimacy with your partner 37:35 – Why separate beds might be the secret to a happy marriage 45:50 – The science of physical touch and oxytocin 47:52 – Why people jolt in their sleep 50:15 – Cyberchondria in relationships — when your partner won't stop googling 52:54 – What keeps people stuck in health anxiety loops 54:06 – "If you have health anxiety, please don't buy my book" 56:01 – CBT for health anxiety: how it actually works 57:25 – Is ChatGPT replacing your GP? 59:44 – Weird body facts (your ears never stop growing) 1:01:02 – The Lancet study on dementia prevention 1:03:48 – Dr Nighat's number one health advice after 19 years 1:05:26 – Wrap up Happy with that or anything else to tweak? 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ #drnighatarif #cyberchondria #healthanxiety #googlesymptoms #familyhealth #supplements #vitaminD #ivdrip #wellnesstrends #preventativemedicine #amillennialmind #shivanipau #nhs #womenshealth #chatgpt #healthmisinformation #sleep #cbtherapy Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠
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