Lesbian Chronicles: Coming Out Later in Life
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Lesbian Chronicles is a podcast for people who’ve realized their true sexual identity later in life. Alli and Melisa share their own experiences of leaving their heterosexual marriages to be their true selves in an effort to help others find their own way and feel a little less alone in the process.
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Episode 375: Girls on the Side
This week, Melisa and Alli talk the morality around exploring your sexuality while married. Is it ok to have a "girlfriend" while married if your husband is cool with it? Does it work in the long run or is just …
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This week, Melisa and Alli talk the morality around exploring your sexuality while married. Is it ok to have a "girlfriend" while married if your husband is cool with it? Does it work in the long run or is just a way to buy some time?
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life--5601514/support.Episode 374: The "Bulls*t Blueprint"
Alli and Melisa discuss Sabrina Zohar's new book "Why Am I Like This?" and her "Bullshit Blueprint" to help uncover the why behind your habits and your reactions in relationships. Also, how to zero in on what …
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Alli and Melisa discuss Sabrina Zohar's new book "Why Am I Like This?" and her "Bullshit Blueprint" to help uncover the why behind your habits and your reactions in relationships. Also, how to zero in on what you need to work on.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life--5601514/support.Episode 373: Sabrina Zohar: "Why Am I Like This?"
Sabrina Zohar (host of The Sabrina Zohar podcast) joins the Lesbian Chronicles to chat about her new book Why Am I Like This?Sabrina, Alli and Melisa talk about the difficulty of sitting in the discomfort while …
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Sabrina Zohar (host of The Sabrina Zohar podcast) joins the Lesbian Chronicles to chat about her new book Why Am I Like This?
Sabrina, Alli and Melisa talk about the difficulty of sitting in the discomfort while dating and how learning to regulate your nervous system can help you in all areas of your life. We also discuss the anxious vs. avoidant cycle -- and why it can be hard to leave a "good person."
You can find more about Sabrina's new book Why Am I Like This? (now available worldwide) by visiting her website, SabrinaZohar.com
And be sure to follow Sabrina on Instagram and TikTok for her excellent relationship advice!
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life--5601514/support.Episode 372: Hurt vs. Harm
This week we discuss "hurt versus harm" in relationships using an example from Dr. Vincent Barbieri and the show "Girls," and how staying with someone to avoid hurting them ends up doing more harm in the long …
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This week we discuss "hurt versus harm" in relationships using an example from Dr. Vincent Barbieri and the show "Girls," and how staying with someone to avoid hurting them ends up doing more harm in the long run.
Click here to watch Dr. Vincent Barbieri's Instagram Reel on the topic
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life--5601514/support.Episode 371: The Lesbian Bar Project
Elina Street and Erica Rose from The Lesbian Bar Project join the show to talk about the importance of preserving lesbian and queer spaces. Erica speaks about her recent op-ed on how "purity politics" is …
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Elina Street and Erica Rose from The Lesbian Bar Project join the show to talk about the importance of preserving lesbian and queer spaces. Erica speaks about her recent op-ed on how "purity politics" is impacting lesbian spaces. And we discuss how this happened recently with Last Ditch in Massachusetts.
Learn more about The Lesbian Bar Project and view their list of lesbian bars
Read Erica's piece on Purity Politics
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life--5601514/support.Episode 370: Love Doesn’t Include 2-Day Shipping
In a world where we can get practically anything online and fulfil most needs instantly, we often expect the same instant gratification in dating and finding love. Alli and Melisa explore how to find patience …
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In a world where we can get practically anything online and fulfil most needs instantly, we often expect the same instant gratification in dating and finding love. Alli and Melisa explore how to find patience in dating -- and understanding that sometimes, first dates are just really awkward (so don't write someone off just because they talk about dinosaurs...)
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This week Alli and Melisa talk about how the "Sunk Cost Fallacy" of a relationship can keep you invested in something for far longer than your gut is telling you is right. Also, why Burning Man and camping just …
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This week Alli and Melisa talk about how the "Sunk Cost Fallacy" of a relationship can keep you invested in something for far longer than your gut is telling you is right. Also, why Burning Man and camping just isn't for us...
Read more about Sunk Cost Fallacy: Why We Stick With Bad Decisions
And don't forget to check out Out on Film in Atlanta September 24-October 4, 2026
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life--5601514/support.Episode 368: Meet Cindy from Out on Film
Filmmaker and Out on Film Executive Director Cindy L. Abel joins the Lesbian Chronicles podcast to share about the upcoming Out on Film Festival in Atlanta -- and the importance of telling all LGBTQ+ stories …
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Filmmaker and Out on Film Executive Director Cindy L. Abel joins the Lesbian Chronicles podcast to share about the upcoming Out on Film Festival in Atlanta -- and the importance of telling all LGBTQ+ stories. The 39th Annual Out On Film LGBTQ+ Film Festival takes place September 24 through October 4, 2026 in Atlanta, Georgia featuring a variety of films including a special screening of the lesbian classic "Desert Hearts," with director Donna Deitch. podscan_Mg1v5MMcR4yIOrlSkdq2Wp5yNwqlC0oh
Click here for details on Out on Film and the event schedule.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life--5601514/support.Episode 367: Are You Drowning?
Melisa and Alli talk about how those early relationships after coming out can feel safe, but the reality is, you're drowning so anything feels "safe." We share how we've learned from those early relationships …
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Melisa and Alli talk about how those early relationships after coming out can feel safe, but the reality is, you're drowning so anything feels "safe." We share how we've learned from those early relationships how we want to parent and co-parent our children and protect that dynamic. And what it means to feel truly fulfilled in life.
We also reference this article from the Washington Post about people who choose to be child-free.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life--5601514/support.Episode 366: The Cost of Being a Woman
This week, Alli and Melisa explore the “cost of being a woman,” including the financial expectations women navigate in dating and everyday life. We unpack Professor Scott Galloway’s argument that men should pay …
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This week, Alli and Melisa explore the “cost of being a woman,” including the financial expectations women navigate in dating and everyday life. We unpack Professor Scott Galloway’s argument that men should pay for dates, while also discussing how WLW couples can navigate who pays. We also talk about our own financial insecurities since coming out, as well as women’s mental health and how medication can be a helpful and valid part of treatment.
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Our friend Tennah joins the show to chat about her love for astrology and tarot. She also gives us a bit of an Astrology 101 lesson -- a valuable tool for anyone coming out later who is bound to be asked …
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Our friend Tennah joins the show to chat about her love for astrology and tarot. She also gives us a bit of an Astrology 101 lesson -- a valuable tool for anyone coming out later who is bound to be asked, "So... what time were you born?"
Follow Tennah on Instagram and YouTube at ZodiacChatline
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life--5601514/support.Episode 364: Happy Endings?
Alli shares her very questionable massage experience in NYC. We also discuss what's the "best" or "right" way to tell kids about divorce? And is "no contact" really necessary or is it just a way to have …
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Alli shares her very questionable massage experience in NYC. We also discuss what's the "best" or "right" way to tell kids about divorce? And is "no contact" really necessary or is it just a way to have control?
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life--5601514/support.Episode 363: Dating Without Losing Yourself
Melisa and Alli talk about dating without losing yourself, some early expectations in a relationship and the small ways to show you're in it with someone. Become a supporter of this podcast …
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Melisa and Alli talk about dating without losing yourself, some early expectations in a relationship and the small ways to show you're in it with someone.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life--5601514/support.Episode 362: What's Your Number?
Melisa and Alli discuss a survey from the National Survey of Family Growth that found the median number of opposite-sex partners in a lifetime among women aged 25-49 years of age is 4.3. Become a supporter of …
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Melisa and Alli discuss a survey from the National Survey of Family Growth that found the median number of opposite-sex partners in a lifetime among women aged 25-49 years of age is 4.3.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life--5601514/support.Episode 361: The Power of Boy Jeans
Our friend Robin joins the show to chat with Alli about her evolving style and what inspires their individual styles today -- and the power of "boy jeans"Become a supporter of this podcast …
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Our friend Robin joins the show to chat with Alli about her evolving style and what inspires their individual styles today -- and the power of "boy jeans"
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life--5601514/support.Episode 360: Your Brain's Rumination Loop
Melisa and Alli explain why your brain naturally ruminates after a breakup. It's not because you're "stuck," but because your mind is trying to make sense of what happened and solve an unresolved problem.Become …
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Melisa and Alli explain why your brain naturally ruminates after a breakup. It's not because you're "stuck," but because your mind is trying to make sense of what happened and solve an unresolved problem.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life--5601514/support.Episode 359: All Lesbians Go to Heaven
Briana Smith joins the show to talk about growing up Mormon, getting married at 20 years old, having four kids by the time she was 29 --- and how meeting a woman at a wedding changed everything.Connect with Bri …
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Briana Smith joins the show to talk about growing up Mormon, getting married at 20 years old, having four kids by the time she was 29 --- and how meeting a woman at a wedding changed everything.
Connect with Bri here!
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life--5601514/support.Episode 358: The Rules of Attraction
Melisa and Alli answer a listener email about their attraction to masc women vs. femme after coming out. Also, is there a power dynamic when kissing? Become a supporter of this podcast …
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Melisa and Alli answer a listener email about their attraction to masc women vs. femme after coming out. Also, is there a power dynamic when kissing?
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life--5601514/support.Episode 357: Three Plus One
This week Alli and Melisa explore the "3+1" theory from Simon Sinek which says that relationships require three core pillars of compatibility combined with one external factor -- Intellectual Compatibility …
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This week Alli and Melisa explore the "3+1" theory from Simon Sinek which says that relationships require three core pillars of compatibility combined with one external factor -- Intellectual Compatibility, Emotional Compatibility, Creative/Sexual Compatibility and the key factor, Circumstances.
Learn more about Simon Sinek here.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life--5601514/support.Episode 356: Meet Liliana Bakhtiar (Atlanta City Council Member)
Trigger Warning: Episode mentions rejection of trans kids, a violent murder, and self harmLiliana Bakhtiar -- the first queer Muslim person to be elected in Georgia and the first non-binary councilmember of a …
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Trigger Warning: Episode mentions rejection of trans kids, a violent murder, and self harm
Liliana Bakhtiar -- the first queer Muslim person to be elected in Georgia and the first non-binary councilmember of a major U.S. city -- joins the show to speak about issues currently facing the residents of Atlanta. Liliana also shares their upbringing in a family of political refugees and immigrants, their coming out story and how their family is accepting of them and their two partners.
Follow Liliana on Instagram
https://www.lilianaforatlanta.com/
Georgia lawmaker comes out as nonmonogamous
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life--5601514/support.Episode 355: In Our Femme Energy
What distinguishes femme energy versus masculine energy when you take away the heels and the backwards hats? Our friend Robin joins the discussion with Alli and Melisa as they talk about how these energies …
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What distinguishes femme energy versus masculine energy when you take away the heels and the backwards hats? Our friend Robin joins the discussion with Alli and Melisa as they talk about how these energies present in different ways in our lives.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life--5601514/support.Episode 354: When Things Fall Apart
Alli shares how the book "When Things Fall Apart" is helping her right now. We also get into how to get comfortable with the discomfort of not knowing the future. (And how sometimes seeing a medium helps a …
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Alli shares how the book "When Things Fall Apart" is helping her right now. We also get into how to get comfortable with the discomfort of not knowing the future. (And how sometimes seeing a medium helps a little bit...)
Buy "When Things Fall Apart"
Buy Lesbian Chronicles Merch!
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life--5601514/support.Episode 353: The Capacity
Sometimes we take someone's capacity for a relationship really personal when the reality is, it's not that deep. This week Melisa and Alli discuss how much capacity plays a role in emotional bandwidth for a …
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Sometimes we take someone's capacity for a relationship really personal when the reality is, it's not that deep. This week Melisa and Alli discuss how much capacity plays a role in emotional bandwidth for a relationship. Sometimes someone's unavailability stems from having so much on their plate in other areas of life. But the bigger part of that is how the lack of capacity is communicated -- or if it's communicated at all.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life--5601514/support.Episode 352: Meet Kiki!
Kiki Joy joins us to share about life living in Minneapolis-Saint Paul, Minnesota and being on her own since the age of 17. She talks about her journey to coming out later in life and how the pandemic forced …
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Kiki Joy joins us to share about life living in Minneapolis-Saint Paul, Minnesota and being on her own since the age of 17. She talks about her journey to coming out later in life and how the pandemic forced her to face her own sexuality. Kiki also shares how she's working to find her place in the queer community while struggling with body image and learning to honor and love herself.
Follow Kiki on Instagram
Trigger Warning: This episode mentions suicidal ideation and sexual assault.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life--5601514/support.Episode 351: Lessons of Emotional Turmoil
Alli and Melisa explore the emotional ups and downs of relationships, both romantic and platonic that have taught us some lessons along the way. And accepting the fact that not everyone is going to like you or …
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Alli and Melisa explore the emotional ups and downs of relationships, both romantic and platonic that have taught us some lessons along the way. And accepting the fact that not everyone is going to like you or invite you to everything.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life--5601514/support.Episode 350: Dr. Lorri on Building Trust in Yourself
Dr. Lorri Sulpizio joins us to talk how modern “therapy speak” can sometimes make people second-guess themselves. What's the difference between true intuition and overthinking? Also, how do we hold space for …
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Dr. Lorri Sulpizio joins us to talk how modern “therapy speak” can sometimes make people second-guess themselves. What's the difference between true intuition and overthinking? Also, how do we hold space for our partner's anxious feelings and communicate with empathy and boundaries.
Learn more about Dr. Lorri Sulpizio...
lorrisulpizio.com
Follow Dr. Lorri on Instagram and TikTok
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life--5601514/support.Episode 349: Meet Abby Nissenbaum
Singer-songwriter Abby Nissenbaum joins the show to share her story of growing up in a Jewish-Catholic household, being outed as a teenager by a neighborhood mom and what life is like today navigating her music …
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Singer-songwriter Abby Nissenbaum joins the show to share her story of growing up in a Jewish-Catholic household, being outed as a teenager by a neighborhood mom and what life is like today navigating her music career, full-time job and dating in Nashville.
Learn more about Abby - abbynissenbaum.com
Follow her on Instagram and Spotify
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life--5601514/support.Episode 348: Lesbian Visibility Week
Alli and Melisa talk about what it means to be a "visible" lesbian and how that image has evolved since we came out. And how friendships with couples look different now than when we were married to men. Become …
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Alli and Melisa talk about what it means to be a "visible" lesbian and how that image has evolved since we came out. And how friendships with couples look different now than when we were married to men.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life--5601514/support.Episode 347: Meet Jennifer and Mary
Our friends Jennifer and Mary join the show to share their coming out stories, how they've navigated life as a couple over the last five years -- blending children and raising a child with special needs. Become …
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Our friends Jennifer and Mary join the show to share their coming out stories, how they've navigated life as a couple over the last five years -- blending children and raising a child with special needs.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life--5601514/support.Episode 346: Dr. Mallory's Firefly Study Results
Dr. Mallory Hanfling joins the show again to share the results of The Firefly Study -- which analyzed compulsory heterosexuality and how it impacted the experiences of those who came out as gay, lesbian or …
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Dr. Mallory Hanfling joins the show again to share the results of The Firefly Study -- which analyzed compulsory heterosexuality and how it impacted the experiences of those who came out as gay, lesbian or trans later in life.
Learn more about Mallory and The Firefly Study Courage to Grow Counseling
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