COURAGEOUS CONVERSATIONS: Negotation Skills and Your Enneagram Type with Attia Qureshi
Notes de l’épisode
"Emotions drive 90 to 95% of our unconscious decision-making."
Attia Qureshi is back — and this time, we go deeper.
After her first interview, Attia's insights on persuasion and negotiation were so helpful that Anthony put them to the test in a real-life negotiation and said, "they changed the game." So, we invited her back to go deeper into the ideas behind her book, Never Settle: Persuasion and Negotiation Skills to Get What You Want, and explore how each Enneagram type approaches one of the most important conversations we can have: asking for what we need.But, as Attia explains, negotiation isn't just something that happens across a boardroom table. It happens every day – with our spouses, our kids, our coworkers, our neighbors, and perhaps most importantly, within ourselves. Before we ever make an ask, we have to face the internal stories, emotions, fears, and assumptions that often keep us from speaking up in the first place.
In this episode, we explore how different Enneagram types navigate negotiation, conflict, emotional regulation, self-advocacy, and the art of creating value without damaging relationships. We unpack why some types avoid the ask, why others over-assert, why some need more clarity around what they actually want, and how every type can grow in confidence, courage, and self-awareness.
You'll learn:
How emotions shape the way we ask – or don't ask – for what we need
How to identify and label your emotions so they stop driving your decisions unconsciously
The worst-case scenario exercise that builds resilience and inoculates you against fear
What each Enneagram type brings to the negotiation table — where they shine, where they get stuck, and what to do about it
A breathing technique that signals your nervous system it's safe before a high-stakes conversation
You can learn more about Attia and grab her free resource for Typology listeners, which includes a breakdown of each Enneagram type's negotiation strengths, blind spots, and exercises at https://attiaqureshi.com/typology.
Never Settle: Persuasion and Negotiation Skills to Get What You Want by Attia Qureshi and John Richardson is available now wherever books are sold.