#287: 5 Hard Truths for Avoidant Attachers

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If you have avoidant attachment patterns (or are partnered with someone who does), today's episode offers five truths about your patterns, blind spots, and protective mechanisms that, while perhaps hard to hear, are essential learning if you ultimately want to shift towards healthier relationships.

I talk about:

• How the myth of the perfect partner keeps you stuck in your avoidance
• Why your judgment of your partner's "neediness" is both unhelpful and revealing of your own suppressed emotions
• How your emotions affect the relationship just as much as your partner's, albeit in different ways
• The difference between being solely responsible for a partner's feelings and the reality of healthy interdependence
• The importance of stretching beyond what is comfortable and natural if you want to grow

Links

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