How To Finally Let Yourself Be Happy, Solved
Shownotes
Everyone’s obsessed with being happy—but what if that obsession is the very thing making us miserable? Drew and I explore what actually makes us feel good—and why most of us are chasing it in all the wrong ways.
We unpack what philosophers like Aristotle and the Buddha got right thousands of years ago—and how modern science is just now catching up. We talk about hedonic vs. eudaimonic happiness, why more money and status don’t necessarily move the needle, and why most self-help advice completely misses the point. Happiness isn’t something you get. It’s a side effect of doing the right things for the right reasons.
So, if you're tired of chasing "more" and ready to actually feel a little less miserable, this one’s for you.
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CHAPTERS
Chapters
- 00:00:00 Introduction
- 00:01:42 Is Happiness the Right Goal?
- 00:11:22 The Origins of Human Happiness
- 00:11:44 Hedonia vs Eudaimonia
- 00:15:51 Epicureanism
- 00:24:00 Eastern Perspectives
- 00:27:55 Modern Happiness Research
- 00:30:10 The WEIRD Problem: When Happiness Research Goes West
- 00:41:27 The Three Components of Happiness
- 00:47:24 Hedonic Adaptation
- 01:00:34 What Does—and Doesn't—Make Us Happy
- 01:01:16 Drugs and Alcohol
- 01:08:03 Sex
- 01:15:49 Money
- 01:23:50 Fame and Status
- 01:34:40 Physical Attractiveness
- 01:38:06 Geography and Environment
- 01:40:31 Love and Relationships
- 01:41:59 Friendships
- 01:44:44 Having Children
- 01:49:50 The Experiencing vs. Remembering Self
- 01:53:33 Baseline vs. Circumstantial vs. Intentional Happiness – Where to Focus
- 01:54:15 Genetics
- 02:00:30 Circumstances
- 02:02:56 Intentional Actions
- 02:06:54 Relationships
- 02:11:31 Gratitude
- 02:13:53 Altruism
- 02:19:27 Experiences vs. Stuff
- 02:22:52 Implementing Intentional Happiness
- 02:25:02 Chapter 6: Don't Pursue Happiness; Remove Unhappiness
- 02:29:45 Social Comparison
- 02:32:10 Maximizers vs. Satisficers
- 02:34:40 How Happiness Changes Across the Lifespan
- 02:52:24 Happiness Myths
- 03:05:28 The 80/20 Guide to Happiness
- 03:17:03 Lessons Learned
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