Why High-Performing Women Can’t Stop People-Pleasing (And Why It Leads to Resentment)

A coach once said something to me that stopped me in my tracks.

You don’t resent them. You resent yourself.

In this episode, I’m talking about the kind of resentment so many working moms carry but don’t say out loud. The kind that comes with guilt, because you love your life, your kids, your partner… and still feel it.

What I’ve come to see is that it’s not really about them.

It’s about all the moments you said yes when you meant no. The times you put everyone else first without even checking in with yourself. The needs you learned to ignore so well that you stopped hearing them altogether.

This goes deeper than boundaries or time management. It’s about where people-pleasing actually starts, the belief underneath it, and why burnout is often just the surface of something much older.

We also talk about what it means to start reconnecting with yourself again. Not in a perfect, overnight way, but in small, honest moments. The pause before you answer. The question you start asking yourself again.

If you’ve ever felt stretched thin, quietly resentful, or guilty for even feeling that way, this episode will probably feel very familiar.

And it might help you see where it’s really coming from.

Topics covered: working mom boundaries, why can't I say no, people pleasing working mom, mom resentment, default parent, working mom guilt, over-functioning working mom, working mom mental health

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