Parenting Teenagers Untangled
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If you've found yourself wondering why is my teenager suddenly so angry? How much screen time is too much? Should I take their phone away at night? Why have they lost all motivation? What do I do about vaping, friendship problems, anxiety, parties, dating, exams… or a teenager who simply won’t talk to me? You're in the right place.
This podcast helps you become a Fearless Parent: One who fears less and wonders more. Whatever the problem, message us and we'll either discuss it on the podcast or let you know which episode is best for you because there’s a very good chance we’ve already talked about it on this podcast.
Teenagers Untangled has a huge and growing library of episodes covering the questions, worries and challenges that come with raising tweens and teenagers. Rather than scrolling through hundreds of episodes trying to find the right one, use the search bar to search for what’s happening in your family right now.
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anger • anxiety • phones • motivation • sleep • ADHD • vaping • alcohol • friendship • school • exams • lying • boundaries • consequences • social media • first love • university • leaving home
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The search will bring up relevant Teenagers Untangled episodes so you can go straight to the conversations that are most useful to you.
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Whatever stage you're at, you don't have to figure it all out from scratch. Chances are, we've already started untangling it.
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Episódios 230
The parenting role in university decisions
Ask Rachel anythingEvery autumn, families start the university conversation with the same question: which one? Paul Sweeney thinks most of us skip the question that should come first: should my child go at all …
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Every autumn, families start the university conversation with the same question: which one? Paul Sweeney thinks most of us skip the question that should come first: should my child go at all, and if so, why?
Paul dropped out of an engineering degree he hated and ran away to a job in an airline’s lost baggage department. He later became chief strategy officer at Unite, the UK’s largest listed student accommodation provider, and now advises universities on strategy and AI. His new book, University, Maybe?, draws on all of that background and his experience of going through this decision twice as a parent.
We talked about what you’re really paying for, what universities would rather you didn’t ask, and why the alternatives aren’t consolation prizes.
Click here for Paul Sweney'’s website
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Managing Anger: The Wonder Room
Ask Rachel anythingThis Wonder Room starts with my own parenting fail, involving granola, a sarcastic reply about Cheerios and an argument I really should have walked away from. If you’ve ever been rage-baited …
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This Wonder Room starts with my own parenting fail, involving granola, a sarcastic reply about Cheerios and an argument I really should have walked away from. If you’ve ever been rage-baited by your teen, you’re not alone.
I’m joined by Katharine Radice, teacher, author and mother of teenage boys, to take on the messy reality of living with teenagers.
We cover:
- Why some teens seem to pick fights, and why a row can feel like a release
- A listener’s message about her 14-year-old, who hit and kicked her when her phone was taken away: how to help teens catch anger before it explodes, why small things are worth a conversation before they become a row, and why we shouldn’t assume a child will turn out like a difficult relative
- How to talk about phones with an autistic teen or one with PDA who resists conversation, including listening without words, setting a timer and using language that doesn’t feel like a demand
- Our response to Dr Özgür Bolat’s ideas in The Reward Trap: where we agree on praise and motivation, and what you do when the homework still has to get done
- Why a task doesn’t have to be fun, it has to feel worth it, and how sitting alongside your teen can help more than stepping in
- What happens when teens work towards a dream and it doesn’t deliver, as Katharine sees with some of her Cambridge students
You’ll come away with practical ways to handle anger, resistance and motivation, and a reminder to slow down, find the joy now and tell your teenager you enjoy their company.
While I have your attention, I’ve got to tell you about this Vax carpet cleaner I bought. (I have absolutely no affiliation and make no money from this) I’ve been using it regularly because my dog hasn’t been well and has been using the indoors as a toilet. Honestly, it’s the most fantastic purchase that I wish I’d bought twenty years ago when my babies came along.
It’s light, really simple to use, and even has a self-cleaning function. I went on Amazon to give it a five star review and saw that it’s discounted right now.
Helpful old episodes:
Parenting complex teens - Elaine Taylor-Klaus
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Ask Rachel anythingWhat if the things we do to motivate our teenagers are doing the opposite?Most of us have done it. A tenner for a good exam result. An hour on the Xbox once the homework is done. A new phone …
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What if the things we do to motivate our teenagers are doing the opposite?
Most of us have done it. A tenner for a good exam result. An hour on the Xbox once the homework is done. A new phone if the grades come back right.
It works, in the moment. But Dr Özgür Bolat thinks we are paying a much higher price than we realise.
Özgür is an educational scientist with a master's from Harvard, a PhD from Cambridge and a visiting research post at MIT Sloan. He has advised Google, YouTube Kids and Unilever on child development. His book, The Reward Trap, draws on seven decades of research to show why gold stars, treats, praise and privileges so often backfire, and what to do instead.
His interest is personal. He was the textbook high achiever: 56th out of a million students in Turkey's national exam, a perfect GPA at Harvard, a Cambridge doctorate. Then he came home, with everything going right, and felt anxious. He realised his happiness depended on outside approval. He had to keep succeeding to feel OK. And when he asked himself why, the answer led back to how he was parented.
For a full explanation of the points made in the podcast click here
Dr Özgür Bolat -The Reward Trap
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How parents can help their child launch in the world. The Wonder Room
Ask Rachel anythingWhen your child is 12 and struggling, people might rally round. When they’re 19 and stuck in their bedroom, it can feel lonelier, and often more shameful, than it should.This week in the …
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When your child is 12 and struggling, people might rally round. When they’re 19 and stuck in their bedroom, it can feel lonelier, and often more shameful, than it should.
This week in the Wonder Room, I’m joined again by teacher, author and mother of two Katharine Radice to unpick my conversation with family therapist Thomas Miller on young adults who fail to launch.
We talk about why “get a good job” is a brittle value and “value hard work” is a durable one, and why that difference matters so much.
We get into the difference between pressure and urgency, why no job is beneath anyone starting out, and how the sheer volume of AI-written applications are making genuine, human ones, stand out.
We also share three simple questions that help teens and young adults notice what’s doing them good, who they can learn from, and how to build their own network.
If you’re worried about a young adult who seems stuck, this one’s for you.
- Situated by Angela Duckworth
- The Disengaged Teen by Jennie Anderson and Dr Rebecca Winthrop
- Thank You for Being Late, by Thomas Friedman
Episodes:
- How part time jobs still make a massive difference
- Using mentors to change your life with Mitchell Osmond
- Failing to Launch with Thomas Miller
- Sleep/wake routine advice Ken Rabow
- Helping more complex kids with ADHD and other differences Elaine Taylor-Klaus
Listen to my conversation with Thomas Miller and this Wonder Room with Katharine Radice on Teenagers Untangled. And if a friend is having a wobble about this right now, send it their way.
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Ask Rachel anythingWhat can we do when our baby has technically reached adulthood, but they’re not working, they're drifting in and out of education, living at home with no obvious plan, or still relying …
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What can we do when our baby has technically reached adulthood, but they’re not working, they're drifting in and out of education, living at home with no obvious plan, or still relying on us for things we assumed they’d be managing by now?
This week I’m joined by Thomas Miller, a family therapist who works with young adults and their parents on anxiety, addiction, neurodiversity and what’s often called “failure to launch.”
You’ll hear:
- A simple test to tell the difference between a young adult who’s genuinely stalled and one who’s just taking a bit longer to find their feet
- Why the whole family, not just the young person, is the key to change
- Where support tips into enabling, and why high-achieving parents are especially prone to overfunctioning
- How rescuing our kids can rob them of their dignity, and how to give it back
- Why knowing your family’s values gives you a way to talk about what’s going wrong
- Practical conversation techniques you can start using with younger teens now, to prevent problems later
Whether your child is 13 or 23, this one is about the bigger goal behind all our parenting: raising someone who can manage a life without us.
Find Thomas at Four Peaks Parents, where there’s a free workbook to help you assess where your young adult is.
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Other episodes that come at this from different angles:Dr David Yeager with brilliant tools and deep understanding of how to motivate a young adult (he defines this anywhere beyond the age of 10!))
Ken Rabow giving very specific, practical ways of focusing on helping a young adult move forward
Elaine Taylor-Klaus on parenting more complex teens or tweens with ADHD autism or other differences
An old conversation with Susie from 2025 about the rising number of NEETS and how we parents can best support our kids.
My very first episode in which I talked about our parenting toolbox and how to delve into it to see what’s already there.
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Calm Down, Repair Conflict, and Reconnect: The Wonder Room
Ask Rachel anythingI've really needed a reminder of how emotional regulation works, and how to see the best in everyone, over the past three weeks. I think Dr Jody gave us the best talk on this and I loved …
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I've really needed a reminder of how emotional regulation works, and how to see the best in everyone, over the past three weeks. I think Dr Jody gave us the best talk on this and I loved her so much that it was a joy to have the chance to discuss her ideas with Katharine Radice.
I don't know about you but it's one of my favourite topics because it comes up all of the time when we're parenting teenagers and I need regular reminders to be kind to myself just as much as I need to be kind to my kids.
Here's a summary of what we discuss in this Wonder Room episode:
- Rachel and Katharine revisit Dr. Jody’s advice, including “walk them home,” “get eyes,” and “tell me more.”
- We discuss the idea that even attuned parents get it right only some of the time, the number that comes up is 30%! That means we only need to get it right 30% of the time to be one of the best parents. Obviously, that makes repair one of the most important parenting skills.
- A simple pause to make hot chocolate can prevent conflict from escalating.
Modeling repair
- Parents can acknowledge when they have lost their temper and apologize, because it shows children how relationships recover.
- Naming personal patterns and signs of stress can help families support one another without making children responsible for adult emotions.
- Repair between adults should be visible to children when possible, so they do not assume conflict is unresolved or their fault.
Teen independence and listening
- Parents need to adjust their support as children mature, balancing practical help with respect for their choices and agency.
- Listening and asking for more information can make space for children to express difficult feelings without requiring parents to have immediate answers.
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Ask Rachel anythingThis episode will change how you see “bad behaviour” and might just change how you see yourself, too.In this powerful conversation, with Dr Jody Carrington, we unpack what every parent and …
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This episode will change how you see “bad behaviour” and might just change how you see yourself, too.
In this powerful conversation, with Dr Jody Carrington, we unpack what every parent and teacher needs to know about emotional regulation – and why you’re probably doing better than you think.
It fits perfectly with the lessons I've been learning as the mother of a badly injured daughter who needs me to stay strong while she gets back on her feet. You can read all about it by clicking here
In this episode, we cover:
- What emotional regulation really is
- The “flipped lid” model and the role of the prefrontal cortex
- Why kids don’t “lose their goodness” – they just lose access to it
- Why your regulation matters more than any parenting hack
- “If the big people aren’t okay, the little people don’t stand a chance”
- How our phones, watches and constant comparison are quietly dysregulating us
- Behavior, consequences and connection
- Why a strict rewards-and-punishments model backfires
- The shift from “What’s wrong with this child?” to “What happened to this child?”
- Repair: the real superpower in families and classrooms
- Why the best predictor of lasting relationships is the capacity to repair
- How to apologise to your child (and your partner) in ways that actually heal
- Practical tools you can use today
- The phrases “Tell me more” and “What’s the hardest part?”
- The “collect before you direct” principle
- Everyday connection habits: eyes, car rides, bedtime, food, and shared interests
- Hope for worried, exhausted parents
- Why kids should be “worst” with you (and why that’s a good sign)
- The 30% rule that lets you drop the perfectionism and keep going.
Dr Jody Carrington:
https://www.drjodycarrington.com
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Applying expert parenting advice in real life: Talking to Teachers, and Bullying
Com Katherine Radice
Ask Rachel anythingWho doesn't want a simple answer to their problems? In all honesty I often hope to find one, but it's not really feasible when parenting teenagers. I love talking with experts who …
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Who doesn't want a simple answer to their problems? In all honesty I often hope to find one, but it's not really feasible when parenting teenagers. I love talking with experts who give us terrific advice - such as Dr Naomi Fisher and Dr Dominique Thompson - but when it comes to the messy job of parenting it can feel way more complicated in day to day life than we would hope.
In this conversation Katherine Radice and Rachel Richards discuss the messy realities; from school being unbearable for our teen to when a group chat turns into a pile-on.
We share practical ways to listen without panicking, work with schools, and help young people slow down, make mistakes, and grow.
School refusal and taking a pause — Understand why listening to your teenager matters, how to weigh school milestones against their wellbeing, and how to explore alternatives without closing the door on returning.
Making parent–school meetings more productive — Learn how sharing key information ahead of time and approaching staff collaboratively can help you understand what support the school can realistically offer.
Recognizing when a difficult patch needs action — Spot signs that a problem may be affecting your child more deeply, such as withdrawal or changes in their health, and see why keeping a factual log can help identify patterns.
Handling group chats, online conflict, and cancel culture — Get ideas for helping teens pause before replying, avoid escalating online drama, and disagree with someone’s views without attacking their identity.
Building resilience through mistakes, shame, and changing views — Explore ways to model openness about difficult feelings, help teens see how they’ve grown, and encourage curiosity and understanding across differences.
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The Hot Water Bottle Warning Every Parent Needs
Ask Rachel anythingJust over a week ago, my daughter was badly burned when her hot water bottle split along the seam. She needed specialist care at the Queen Victoria Hospital burns unit which became famous for …
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Just over a week ago, my daughter was badly burned when her hot water bottle split along the seam. She needed specialist care at the Queen Victoria Hospital burns unit which became famous for Archibald McIndoe’s work treating badly burned WWII airmen.
Instead of going back to university, she spent her 20th birthday recovering at home, unable to walk.
In this community catch-up episode I’ll tell you what happened, what we learned about treating burns, and what I want you to do tonight:
- If someone gets burned, cool the burn under cool running water for 20 minutes, cover it loosely with cling film, and get medical help.
- Check your hot water bottle for the daisy wheel symbol. It shows the month and year it was made. If it’s more than two years old, throw it out.
- Never fill it with boiling water. Let the kettle stand for a few minutes, fill it only two-thirds full, and squeeze out the air before you seal it.
- Consider a wheat or rice bag instead.
I’m also campaigning for every hot water bottle sold in the UK to carry clear warnings and a “throw out by” date.
CHILDREN'S BURNS TRUST: https://cbtrust.org.uk/
QUEEN VICTORIA HOSPITAL: https://www.qvh.nhs.uk/
ADULT BURNS SUPPORT: https://adultburnsupportuk.org/
BRITISH BURN ASSOCIATION: https://www.britishburnassociation.org/
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Ask Rachel anythingWhat’s behind a teenager’s struggle to get to school—and how can parents help without turning every morning into a battle? In this episode, journalist and host Rachel Richards talks with …
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What’s behind a teenager’s struggle to get to school—and how can parents help without turning every morning into a battle? In this episode, journalist and host Rachel Richards talks with clinical psychologist Dr. Naomi Fisher, author of The Teenagers’ Guide to Taking Control of Your Education, about school avoidance, burnout, demand avoidance, and the questions parents often have about autism and ADHD.
Drawing on her own experience of struggling at school and decades of work with young people and families, Naomi challenges us to look beyond labels and ask what a teen is experiencing, what support they need, and how parents can work alongside them. They also explore the importance of connection, curiosity, and making room for young people to take an active role in their learning.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- What may be behind school avoidance—and how to look for specific school-day stressors rather than assuming a child is simply refusing.
- How to work with your teen, not against them, while still acknowledging that education needs to happen.
- What burnout can look like and why stepping back may help some teenagers recover.
- How to think about demand avoidance and autism or ADHD diagnoses without letting labels replace curiosity about what a young person needs.
- Why following a teen’s interests and repairing your connection matter—especially when school has become a source of conflict.
For more detailed notes and help on this go to my Fearless Parenting Substack
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Cancel Culture: Helping Your Teen Handle Disagreement and Exclusion
Ask Rachel anythingHas your teenager come home upset because their friends have suddenly turned against them? Or have you heard that your child is part of a group chat where everyone is being urged to stop …
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Has your teenager come home upset because their friends have suddenly turned against them? Or have you heard that your child is part of a group chat where everyone is being urged to stop talking to someone? When a friendship conflict spreads through a whole group—and onto social media—it can be hard for parents to know what to say, when to step in, and how to help without making things worse.
In this episode of Teenagers Untangled, I’m joined by Dr Dominique Thompson, a physician and expert in supporting young people, to explore why teenagers can be so quick to exclude someone, and why it can feel so difficult to stand apart from the group. We talk about the role of peer pressure, black-and-white thinking and social media—and the difference between challenging hurtful behavior and shaming someone.
If your child is being ostracized, you’ll hear how to support them, work with the school and help them find other sources of connection. And if you’re worried your teen might be joining in, we discuss how to start a conversation that encourages empathy without simply lecturing or blaming them.
We’ll also share practical ways to make home a safe place for difficult conversations—and a simple question that might help a young person pause before they join a pile-on.
If this piece has raised anything difficult for you or your child, Samaritans are available 24/7 on 116 123 (UK).
If you want to read Rachel's expanded thoughts on this topic, click here
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Ask Rachel anythingIt’s one thing hearing what experts think, but I’m always left wondering how their advice translates into the real life of a parent. If you’re wondering too then you’re going to love this …
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It’s one thing hearing what experts think, but I’m always left wondering how their advice translates into the real life of a parent. If you’re wondering too then you’re going to love this chat between Katharine Radice and me. In it, we discuss what was said in my interviews with Dr Leonard Sax and Dr Tara Porter.
Basically we cover the reality of setting healthy boundaries around gaming and phones, talking with teens about online risks, choosing supportive schools, mentors & building trust, confidence, and independence—without chasing perfection.
Don’t forget to tell us what you think. What helped and what advice deserves to go in the bin?
Links mentioned in the show:
- Rachel Richards website & Substack
- Katharine Radice website & Substack
- Dr. Tara Porter
- Dr. Leonard Sax
- Brendan Kwiatkowski
- Melanie Sanderson
- Malcolm Gladwell
- Eileen Gu
- Angela Duckworth
- Mitchell Osmond
- Dr. David Yaeger
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Ask Rachel anythingIf your son seems apathetic, glued to gaming, or strangely unbothered by school, you are not alone, and you are not imagining it. I decided to create this discussion because I have been …
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If your son seems apathetic, glued to gaming, or strangely unbothered by school, you are not alone, and you are not imagining it. I decided to create this discussion because I have been contacted by so many parents about the lacklustre attitudes they are seeing in their sons, looking for advice on what to do.
Around the world, boys are falling behind academically, drifting socially, and retreating into screens. Meanwhile, girls are outstripping boys at school and university, and often hiding their own struggles under high achievement (a topic I recently covered both here with Dr Tara Porter and here with Dr Suzanne Garfinkle-Crowell.)
In this episode, I talk to Dr Leonard Sax—family physician, psychologist, and author of Boys Adrift and Why Gender Matters—about why so many boys are losing motivation and the practical things parents can do about it, starting now.
You’ll learn:
- What’s really going on with boys today and why we should all care, because this isn’t just a schooling issue; it’s a future-partner, future-father, future-society issue.
- How modern schooling can switch boys off.
- Gaming: when it’s harmless and when it’s stealing your son’s life, including clear, research-backed limits and rules you can put in place at home.
- ADHD or something else? The hidden role of sleep and screens.
- Masculinity, role models, and “good men” in a disrespectful culture.
- Porn, AI “girlfriends”, and the pull away from real relationships.
- Most importantly: how to pull your son back into real life.
Dr Sax published his first version of this book twenty years ago and the issues it described; falling male achievement, rising screen immersion, AI companions, and collapsing couple relationships, are accelerating rather than levelling off.
The habits and boundaries we choose while our sons are still at home may shape not just his grades, but his ability to form healthy relationships, be a good partner and father, and build a life he cares about in the real world.
If you’re worried about an unmotivated, gaming-obsessed, or emotionally flat son, this conversation will give you clarity, language, and concrete steps you can start using today.
Don’t forget to share this with anyone who is struggling with the issues or who might find it helpful.
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Stressed Parenting Your Teen? Let's Reduce Perfectionism
Ask Rachel anythingAre you trying so hard to be a good parent that you might be doing too much for your tween or teen, and accidentally making life harder for both of you?In this episode of Parenting Teenagers …
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Are you trying so hard to be a good parent that you might be doing too much for your tween or teen, and accidentally making life harder for both of you?
In this episode of Parenting Teenagers Untangled, Rachel Richards talks with clinical psychologist and author Dr. Tara Porter about her new book "Good Enough" and why good enough parenting is actually the best kind of parenting.
Drawing on more than 25 years working in adolescent mental health, Tara explains how so many teens—whatever their diagnosis—secretly feel they are not “enough”: not clever enough, organized enough, pretty enough, or successful enough. She links this to a wider achievement-obsessed culture, fueled by:
- An education system caught in a “grade arms race”
- Social media’s like-and-kudos economy
- The professionalization of parenting and the tsunami of advice aimed at parents
Against this backdrop, Tara shares her three core principles of good enough parenting:
- A good enough attitude – Letting go of perfection, resisting the urge to optimize every aspect of your child’s life, and accepting that zigzags and setbacks are normal.
- Relationship-based parenting – Prioritizing connection over outcomes, being “like wallpaper” in the background: present, warm, and available without crowding them or trying to control everything.
- Firm and kind boundaries – Finding the balance between warmth and firmness (authoritative parenting), gradually letting go of authority through the teen years so that by adulthood, your child is guided by their own internal compass, not your rules.
Rachel and Tara explore:
- Rescuing vs building resilience
- Two common struggle patterns in teens
- The perfectionist achiever
- The rebellious non-complier
- How to set boundaries that still protect the relationship
- Better conversations with teens
Tara’s two key listening tools: - Empathy – stepping into your teen’s perspective, so they feel genuinely understood.
- Curiosity – asking open questions rather than jumping in with solutions.
- Rachel adds the idea of “LUFU – Listen Until they Feel Understood”, and both discuss why advice rarely lands until a teen first feels deeply heard.
- Mental health labels vs hope and growth
Rachel's personal blog on getting the balance right
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A Better Way for Parents to talk to Teens About Screen Time: Fear Less & Wonder More
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Ask Rachel anythingWe’re living through an age where it can feel like our teenagers’ entire lives are happening behind a screen we can’t see. Meanwhile mental health problems in teens are a rising problem that …
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We’re living through an age where it can feel like our teenagers’ entire lives are happening behind a screen we can’t see.
Meanwhile mental health problems in teens are a rising problem that is being blamed on their devices.
The instinctive response for many of us is to clamp down: ban certain apps, monitor every move, or take away devices altogether.
But as Professor Candice Odgers put it so powerfully:
“You can’t ban your way out of a mental health crisis. You have to build instead.”In this Wonder Room conversation Katharine Radice and I explore how parents can move beyond panic about phones and toward curious, constructive conversations that help teens feel safe enough to be honest.
These are some of the core things we cover in this episode:
Shifting focus from the phone to the child
- Phone use is often a symptom of underlying distress or needs, not the core problem.
Moving from monitoring to understanding
- Hours and apps matter less than the quality of your teen’s relationship with their online world and how it makes them feel.
Creating conditions for honesty instead of forcing lies
- Avoid loaded, judgmental questions and big emotional reactions that make teens hide or lie about what they’re doing online.
Naming the role of algorithms and external forces
- Ask “What is the algorithm feeding you?” to shift some responsibility away from the teen and toward the tech design, making honest conversations safer.
Scaffolding self-reflection and self-regulation
- Use curious questions (“Are you stuck?”, “Any surprises in your screen time?”) to help teens build lifelong skills in reviewing and adjusting their own digital habits.
For my Fearless Parenting community members I have gathered the key ideas and given you practical questions you can use tonight with your teen.
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Ask Rachel anythingAre smartphones and social media really damaging our teenagers’ mental health – or are we looking in the wrong place? In this episode, Rachel Richards talks with Professor Candice Odgers, a …
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Are smartphones and social media really damaging our teenagers’ mental health – or are we looking in the wrong place? In this episode, Rachel Richards talks with Professor Candice Odgers, a leading expert on adolescent mental health in the digital age, to unpack what decades of research actually show about teens, tech and wellbeing.
We explore why today’s teenagers are doing better than many headlines suggest, the real size of the link between phones, social media, anxiety and depression, and why offline risks are the biggest predictors of online problems. Candice explains how family stress, academic pressure, inequality, climate anxiety and adult mental health all play a powerful role in teen distress – and why focusing all our fear on phones can distract us from where we can genuinely make a difference.
You’ll hear practical guidance on monitoring vs. connection, how to talk with teens about their online lives without pushing them away, what “ready for a phone” really means, and how social media affects girls and body image. If you feel overwhelmed by scary stories about screens, this conversation will help you move from panic to evidence‑based, compassionate parenting.
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Nagging Your Teenager? We Parents Talk Family Routines, in the Wonder Room
Ask Rachel anythingAs a teenager, I grew up in a home with almost no routines. No one talked about what needed to happen when, and I remember constantly thinking, “What am I supposed to do now?” Life felt like …
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As a teenager, I grew up in a home with almost no routines. No one talked about what needed to happen when, and I remember constantly thinking, “What am I supposed to do now?” Life felt like reinventing the wheel every day. I didn’t feel safe, and I felt a lot of energy went into trying to cope in the chaos.
Now, as a parent and host of Teenagers Untangled, I’ve come to see routines not as dreary box‑ticking exercises, but as powerful tools for connection, calm, and joy. In this Wonder Room conversation, I sat down with teacher and parent Katharine Radice to explore how routines, habits, and rituals can serve our teenagers—and us.
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Ask Rachel anythingIf your teenage daughter says, “I have anxiety,” “my ADHD was out of control today,” or calls a friend “toxic,” it can feel both strangely sophisticated and oddly shallow at the same time …
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If your teenage daughter says, “I have anxiety,” “my ADHD was out of control today,” or calls a friend “toxic,” it can feel both strangely sophisticated and oddly shallow at the same time. She has language. She has labels. But somehow, you’re still not sure what’s really going on inside her.
In this episode with psychiatrist Dr Suzanne Garfinkel-Crowell, author of Girlhood Translated: Understanding Girls in the Age of Therapy Speak and Self-Diagnosis, we pulled back the curtain on what this language is doing for girls — and what it’s doing to them.
I particularly loved Suzanne’s tip for us parents:
‘The biggest problem with therapy speak is when it’s a conversation stopper, because really, these words should be conversation starters.’
In the discussion she gives us parents ideas on how to move beyond the language our kids are using, and help them understand what’s really going on.
This isn’t an “anti-diagnosis” conversation. It’s about understanding how the language of mental health, the DSM, and social media are shaping girlhood, and how we as parents can respond in a way that brings us closer instead of shutting our daughters down.
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Moving School: Help Your Child With Friends, Homework & the Big Transition
Ask Rachel anythingThey're the oldest in their primary and suddenly our babies have to cope with being the youngest in their senior school. It's a big leap, and it comes just at the point when our …
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They're the oldest in their primary and suddenly our babies have to cope with being the youngest in their senior school. It's a big leap, and it comes just at the point when our kids are becoming much more aware of themselves and others with a big dollop of puberty-driven insecurity.
It's easy to worry about them making friends, coping with their newfound indepenence; complicated timetables, different classrooms, homework, buses and remembering their passwords.
Here to help us figure it all out is Katherine Radice, author of the Parents Guide to Exam Stress long time teacher and mum of two teenage boys.
Just five of things we cover in the episode are:
Realistic expectations for starting secondary school
- Why trying to make the “perfect” first day backfires
- Teaching kids that “lumps and bumps” are normal and part of adjustment
Identity, uniform, and appearance
- How brands/clothes (e.g., specific shoes, jackets) are tied to teen identity and belonging
- When and why it’s worth listening and sometimes compromising on these wants
Extracurricular activities and balance
- Benefits of clubs for confidence, community, and friendship-building
- The risks of over-scheduling and how to judge when it’s “too much”
Emotional turbulence in the early weeks
- Tears, anger, door-slamming, and exhaustion as expected reactions
- How to respond with empathy, rituals of comfort, and not jumping into “fix-it” mode too fast.
Communication: with teens and with school
- How to get teens talking: low-stakes questions, rituals, “super silence,” and active listening
- When to see something as a “blip” vs a real problem, and how to approach schools constructively
Friendships:
- How to talk about making friends without turning it into too much of a big deal
Hopefully, by the end of our discussion you'll have a much clearer idea of what you can do and also what you don't need to be doing to support your children through the turbulent teen school years.
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Teenagers, AI & Friendship: Is ChatGPT Changing How Our Kids Connect? Parenting Unpacked in the Wonder Room
Ask Rachel anythingIs AI changing the way teenagers understand friendship? Should we worry about teens turning to chatbots for advice and emotional support? And what can parents do to help their children build …
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Is AI changing the way teenagers understand friendship? Should we worry about teens turning to chatbots for advice and emotional support? And what can parents do to help their children build strong, real-world relationships?
Welcome to a new Teenagers Untangled Community Catchup, where Rachel Richards is joined by teacher, author and mum of two teenagers Katherine Radice to talk through what's happening in the world of teenagers — from the news and the latest research to the problems parents are dealing with at home.
This week, we start with GCSE results and teenage motivation. How should parents respond when results aren't what their teenager hoped for? Why does effort matter even when the grades aren't brilliant? And could constantly criticising schools actually make it harder for our teenagers to engage with the adults who are trying to help them?
Then we turn to teenagers and AI.
As AI chatbots become an increasingly normal part of young people's lives, we ask what happens when teenagers start using them not simply for homework or information, but for emotional advice and companionship.
Unlike human friends, an AI chatbot is available whenever you want it. It doesn't need anything from you. It doesn't get tired, disagree in quite the same way or require the give-and-take that real relationships demand.
But is that actually a problem?
We discuss why disagreement and friction are important parts of healthy relationships, helping teenagers develop their identity, challenge their assumptions and learn how to live alongside people who don't always think exactly as they do.
That leads us into teenage friendships: why teenagers can become so focused on finding a “best friend”, why friendships inevitably go through difficult patches, and how parents can help when a friend betrays a confidence, leaves their child out or hurts them.
Rather than immediately deciding that the other teenager is a “bad person”, we discuss how friendship difficulties can become opportunities to learn about trust, forgiveness, apologies and understanding other people's perspectives.
Finally, we look at something parents can easily overlook: our own friendships.
Our teenagers are watching how we talk about other people, how we deal with disagreement and rejection, and whether friendship and community have a meaningful place in our adult lives. Sometimes one of the best ways to teach our teenagers how to build relationships is simply to let them see us doing it.
A wide-ranging, practical conversation about teenagers and AI, ChatGPT, teenage friendships, GCSE results, school, parenting teenagers and helping young people build healthy real-world relationships.
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Ask Rachel anythingSo many parents come to me saying 'My teen has no friends. What should I do?' and I can't help wondering if we are missing one of the most important ways to help them. Being …
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So many parents come to me saying 'My teen has no friends. What should I do?' and I can't help wondering if we are missing one of the most important ways to help them. Being good at friendships ourselves.
Think about it. If we're not good at making and maintaining friends ourselves, who will our babies learn their friendship skills from?
In this episode of Teenagers Untangled, I’m joined by author, broadcaster, and founder of The Friendship Lab, Sheridan Voysey, to unpack why 20–25% of adults now say they have no close friends, how that impacts our teens’ mental health, and what we can actually do about it.
We explore the five stages of friendship, why busyness, smartphones, and constant mobility are eroding our connections, and the simple, intentional steps parents can take to help their tweens and teens build deep, lasting relationships.
Whether your child is struggling to find “their people,” stuck on the surface with classmates, or hiding behind screens, this conversation will give you practical language, science-backed insight, and real-life ideas for modelling healthy friendships at home. If you care about your teen’s confidence, wellbeing, resilience, and sense of belonging, this is an episode you won’t want to miss.
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Empty Nest Syndrome: How to Cope When Your Child Leaves Home Vintage
Ask Rachel anythingWhat happens when the children we’ve poured our hearts, time, and energy into finally leave home? If you’re facing the prospect of a child heading off to university or moving out—and feeling …
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What happens when the children we’ve poured our hearts, time, and energy into finally leave home? If you’re facing the prospect of a child heading off to university or moving out—and feeling anything from pride and excitement to grief, anxiety, or a loss of identity—this episode is for you.
First, I revisit a powerful conversation with mindfulness coach Susie Asli, where we unpack empty nest syndrome:
- why feelings of grief, loneliness, or even physical symptoms like sleeplessness and nausea are a normal response,
- how your identity as a parent can feel shaken when your child leaves,
- and practical ways to prepare yourself emotionally, rebuild routines, and reconnect—with yourself, with your partner, and with your wider life.
Then I speak with Hannah Bankier, a coach specialising in personal and professional transitions and founder of Birdie Launcher. Hannah invites us to rethink the very idea of an “empty nest” and instead see this stage as a launchpad—for our children and for ourselves. She shares:
- how to start preparing years before your child leaves,
- how to evolve your parenting from “controller” to “mentor,”
- how to co-create a new kind of relationship with your emerging adult,
- and how to rediscover your own purpose, joy, and identity beyond being “Mum.”
You're not broken if you're feeling grief. You're ready to start a new chapter.
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Exam Results: What if my teen doesn't get the grades they want? Vintage
Ask Rachel anythingA listener parenting a teen son wrote to say both of them felt pretty stunned when he was rejected from the university he'd set his heart on. She asked for the best way to help our …
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A listener parenting a teen son wrote to say both of them felt pretty stunned when he was rejected from the university he'd set his heart on. She asked for the best way to help our teenagers cope with this sort of disappointment.
I thought it was a great question and a good opportunity to also look at how we parents can best navigate when our teen has worked for years toward a dream - a top university place, exam results, a team, a part - and it doesn’t happen. The disappointment can feel earth‑shattering for them and gut‑wrenching for you.
In this episode I talk with Dr Dominique Thompson, award‑winning GP and young people’s mental health expert, about how to support teenagers through big disappointments such as university rejection, exam failure, and missed opportunities – without rescuing them or minimising their feelings.
We explore:
- What teens are actually grieving when things go wrong – including the loss of an imagined future
- How to validate their emotions while gently stopping catastrophic thinking
- The difference between building resilience and teaching kids to suppress their feelings
- Why today’s culture of perfectionism and “being the best” is driving anxiety, burnout and fear of failure
- How to help teens separate self‑worth from grades, offers and achievements
- Practical ways to prepare teens for university life, academic stress and independence
- When dropping out isn’t the only option – how to press pause, get help and return stronger
- What to do if your teen feels “left behind” while friends move on to university or big opportunities
- How parents can be a “safe harbour”: supportive, boundaried, and not adding their own disappointment to their teen’s load
If you’re a parent wondering how to respond when your child says, “I’ve failed you,” or “There’s no point trying,” this conversation will give you concrete language, mindset shifts and step‑by‑step strategies to help them cope, reframe, and find a new path forward.
Dr Dominique Thompson: is a multi-award winning former GP, young people's mental health expert, TEDx speaker, author and educator, with over two decades of NHS clinical experience.
She is author of The Student Wellbeing Series for young people, and co-author of How to Grow a Grown Up (PenguinRandomHouse) for parents.
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Is Your Teen Ready for University? What Parents Need to Know INTERVIEW WITH MY TEEN
Ask Rachel anythingSending your teen off to university can feel both exciting and terrifying. In this episode of Parenting Teenagers Untangled, I talk with my 19-year-old daughter Phoebe, home after her first …
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Sending your teen off to university can feel both exciting and terrifying. In this episode of Parenting Teenagers Untangled, I talk with my 19-year-old daughter Phoebe, home after her first year at Oxford University, about what parents really need to know to prepare their teens for university life.
We cover the big worries parents Google most: how teens make friends in Freshers’ Week, coping with the academic workload, dealing with drinking, drugs and peer pressure, managing money and budgeting, handling homesickness and mental health, and how to balance independence with safety.
If you’re wondering how to support your child’s transition to university without being overbearing—and how to trust them while still keeping them safe—this honest, practical conversation will give you clear guidance, real examples, and reassuring perspective from both a parent and a student.
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How to Stop Yelling at Your Teen: Stay Calm, Set Boundaries & End Power Struggles
Ask Rachel anythingAre you tired of yelling at your teen – and hating yourself afterwards?In this episode of Teenagers Untangled, I talked with parenting and relationship coach Diane Sorensen about how to stay …
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Are you tired of yelling at your teen – and hating yourself afterwards?
In this episode of Teenagers Untangled, I talked with parenting and relationship coach Diane Sorensen about how to stay calm with teens, stop power struggles, and set healthy boundaries without becoming a pushover.If you’re dealing with eye-rolling, “disrespectful” attitudes, shouting matches, and constant tension at home, this conversation will help you:
- Understand why you get so triggered by your teen’s behavior
- Shift from controlling behavior to nurturing real connection
- Use simple emotional regulation tools to pause before you explode
- Tell the difference between calm parenting and permissive parenting
- Create healthy boundaries that reduce resentment and build trust
- Repair after you’ve shouted and show your teen that change is possible
We talk about creating boundaries, unpack practical strategies like the PARR method (Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect), how to reframe “disrespect” as information, and why owning your triggers is the fastest way to transform your relationship with your teen. If you’ve ever thought, “I promised I wouldn’t parent like this, but I don’t know how to stop,” this episode is for you.
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Step-Parenting Teens: Why Connection Matters More Than Discipline
Ask Rachel anythingIf you’ve ever fallen in love with someone who already has children, or tried to blend two families and thought, “Why is this so hard? What’s wrong with me?” – this episode is for you. You …
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If you’ve ever fallen in love with someone who already has children, or tried to blend two families and thought, “Why is this so hard? What’s wrong with me?” – this episode is for you. You are not broken, and you are definitely not alone.
I was joined by Masha Rusanov, coach, writer, and author of Repatterned.
Together we unpack:
- Why step‑parenting can feel so emotionally different from parenting your biological children
- How to prioritise connection before correction with bonus kids
- The idea of “natural parenting” – why step‑parents shouldn’t be the main disciplinarians
- What healthy co‑parenting and emotional regulation look like when there are exes, new partners, and multiple households in the mix
- Practical, everyday strategies to reduce conflict and build trust over time
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Whether you’re a step‑parent, a biological parent in a blended family, or you co‑parent across different homes, this conversation will help you feel seen, supported, and better equipped for the long game.
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Parenting Guilt: Bad Parenting Science, The Motherhood Myth & What Actually Matters
Ask Rachel anythingAre women naturally good at being mothers or is that a cultural myth? It matters because if we believe women are naturally good at it then they deserve no kudos for the work they do and when …
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Are women naturally good at being mothers or is that a cultural myth?
It matters because if we believe women are naturally good at it then they deserve no kudos for the work they do and when we do struggle it lays the blame firmly at our feet, rather than the society we live in.
In this episode, I was joined by historian and postnatal practitioner Alex Bollen, author of Motherdom, to unpack the “good mother” myths shaping our culture—and our guilt.
We challenge the idea that care is “natural,” reveal how shaky science and social media fuel certainty and shame, and show why there’s no single right way to raise teens.
You’ll learn practical tools to lower pressure at home: the weekly myth check, the “misery test” for your to‑do list, stress reframes that build resilience, and village-building strategies that widen support for you and your child. Step away from perfection, toward curiosity and community—and parent your teen with more calm, confidence, and kindness.
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The vital parenting shift: becoming a mentor to your teen
Ask Rachel anythingWelcome to a special mini-series from Teenagers Untangled — seven simple, practical "parenting seeds" to plant over a week, preparing for when your child moves into secondary school or …
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Welcome to a special mini-series from Teenagers Untangled — seven simple, practical "parenting seeds" to plant over a week, preparing for when your child moves into secondary school or returns from summer.
These are gentle shifts, not rules to perfect: They're designed to help you focus on what really matters, and reduce your stress.
They'll help you to move from fixing problems to mentoring your child, build emotional safety at home, and give your teen the confidence to make good choices.
These are the big picture things I wish I had known much earlier in the teen years.
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Seven seeds:
- Changing gears: be explicit about the shift in your parenting from monitoring to mentoring.
- Make home safe and predictable: create routines and anchors so home feels stable amid constant change.
- Catch them doing good: notice and praise strengths to build a positive identity and reduce fear of mistakes.
- Listen until they feel understood (LUFU): use super silence and active listening; summarise and ask before offering advice.
- Model what you want to see: especially with technology: demonstrate the habits you want your teen to adopt.
- Be curious about yourself: notice triggers, respond with curiosity not criticism, and model emotional regulation.
- Talk to your kids before others do: proactively discuss vaping, pornography, nudes, drugs, alcohol and groomers. Role-play responses so they’re prepared before they come under pressure.
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Reading Festival Advice From Teens: Vintage INTERVIEW WITH MY TEENS
Ask Rachel anythingAnnouncing my summer top tips series where I give you a short episode of tips organised around themes to help you focus on what you and your tween or teen needs to prepare you for the new …
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Announcing my summer top tips series where I give you a short episode of tips organised around themes to help you focus on what you and your tween or teen needs to prepare you for the new school year.
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The tips start next week, in the meantime here’s a rerun of the Reading Festival episode because I’ve had so much amazing feedback on it:
Music festivals are a rite of passage for many teens. Whilst some love the music, the lack of restriction and opportunities to mingle in a way that they could have only dreamt of during Covid, others decide to give them a miss or go and positively hate the experience.
I was never a festival kid growing up. I didn't have the money, or the opportunity. As an adult, I've found them to be joyous events, but will always refuse to stay the night.
My girls have now both been to one of the key UK festivals, Reading, so I thought you might be interested to hear more about what to expect if your kids are keen to go, how best to plan ahead, and what the key issues turned out to be.Please hit the follow button if you like the podcast, and share it with anyone who might benefit.
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My website has a blog, searchable episodes, and ways to contact meTeaching Teens About Money: Investing, Gambling & the Money Lessons Schools Miss
Ask Rachel anythingSeven in ten teenagers say they're very or extremely interested in investing. Not just curious, genuinely, actively interested. The problem is that most of us parents didn't become …
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Seven in ten teenagers say they're very or extremely interested in investing. Not just curious, genuinely, actively interested. The problem is that most of us parents didn't become aware of investing until we were young adults or older, and half of parents say they wish they'd started sooner. That's a regret a lot of us are carrying around quietly, and without realising it, some of us are passing that same late start on to our kids.
Teenagers today aren't waiting. They're already getting an education, just not necessarily the right one. They're watching creators on TikTok and YouTube who make it sound like picking the right crypto coin at the right moment is basically a personality trait. They're seeing posts about teens who turned a hundred pounds into ten thousand, and almost nothing about the ones who lost everything trying. It's exciting, it's fast, and it's completely untethered from the basics that actually build long-term wealth.
That's why I invited Sonia Beardsmore, mum, former professional, institutional trader, and author of the book Raise a Mini Investor to talk to us about how we can discuss investing with our kids, how to start them young, and what a difference the deep financial literacy they can build while they're young and curious could really make in the long term.
Previous episode about pocket money
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