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The Feminine Urge to Understand Why

May 6, 2026 · 1 h 4 min

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Breaking news: Liz has a boy problem. And it's a big one.

No guests. No filter. Just Liz, a microphone, and a situation she absolutely cannot keep to herself anymore.

This week she's going there — on the question everyone has an opinion on but nobody actually answers honestly: can men and women really be friends? And the follow-up that hits different: how do you know when your "friend" is actually an opp? What are the signs? What does it feel like when you finally clock it — and what do you do when the person you thought was in your corner has been running a completely different play this whole time?

This week's episode is messy, it's a little embarrassing, and it's so relatable it might make you want to pick up your phone and have a conversation you've been avoiding...

And if someone in your life needs to hear this — you already know who — send it to them. Oh — and it literally costs nothing to be kind. Just a reminder. From all of us.


Submit your boy problems ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!


Check out⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Airplane Mode with Liz Plank⁠⁠⁠⁠ on Substack⁠⁠⁠!


Liz Plank is an award-winning journalist, filmmaker, international bestselling author, and producer of several critically acclaimed digital series at Vox Media and NBC News. She currently hosts⁠⁠⁠⁠ Boy Problems⁠⁠⁠⁠, a podcast that tackles love, masculinity, dating disasters, and life’s biggest questions.

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