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Why Laura has a problem with these motherhood rules

October 21, 2026 · 42 min

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Laura’s algorithm has been serving her a lot of parenting advice lately, and some of it is making her question decisions she already feels good about. Today, we’re unpacking Dr Erica Komisar’s views on daycare, the pressure to put motherhood ahead of everything else, and why so much parenting content leaves mums feeling guilty.


We’re talking about how social media algorithms can turn one little doubt into a whole feed of reasons to second-guess yourself, the difference between guilt and feeling judged, and who gets to decide what makes a good mum. Plus, why parenting advice needs a little more nuance, and how to find your own way through the noise.


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Your hosts are Steph Claire Smith (⁠@stephclairesmith⁠) and Laura Henshaw (⁠@laura.henshaw⁠).


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Have a question? Need advice? Want to say hi? Send us a DM at @stephandlaura⁠⁠⁠⁠ or shoot us an email at ⁠[email protected]⁠. 


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This show is produced and edited by⁠ Monica Vantilburg⁠ &⁠ Esther Morgan⁠.


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