Why Doesn't Better Feel Better | CP257
Show notes
Many parents notice something surprising after family life begins to improve. Their child is calmer, relationships are stronger, and the home feels more peaceful, yet they still feel anxious, unsettled, or like they’re waiting for something to go wrong.
In this episode, Jennifer explores why this happens and explains how the nervous system can remain stuck in a state of high alert long after the stress that created it has passed.
She offers reassurance for parents who feel confused by lingering anxiety, reminding them that there’s nothing wrong with them. Their nervous system is simply learning how to trust safety again, and with patience, awareness, and self-compassion, it can learn to settle into the calm they've worked so hard to create.
Jennifer's Takeaways:
- Understanding Parental Emotional Dynamics (00:00)
- Nervous System Adaptation to Stress (01:14)
- The Elastic Band Response (03:25)
- Signs of Improvement in Child Behavior (04:42)
- Family System Rebalancing (05:59)
- Parental Self-Care and Patience (08:58)
- Normalizing the Healing Process (10:03)
Meet Jennifer Kolari
Jennifer Kolari is the host of the “Connected Parenting” weekly podcast and the co-host of “The Mental Health Comedy” podcast. Kolari is a frequent guest on Nationwide morning shows and podcasts in th US and Canada. Her advice can also be found in many Canadian and US magazines such as; Today’s Parent, Parents Magazine and Canadian Family.
Kolari’s powerful parenting model is based on the neurobiology of love, teaching parents how to use compassion and empathy as powerful medicine to transform challenging behavior and build children’s emotional resilience and emotional shock absorbers.
Jennifer’s wisdom, quick wit and down to earth style help parents navigate modern-day parenting problems, offering real-life examples as well as practical and effective tools and strategies.
Her highly entertaining, inspiring workshops are shared with warmth and humour, making her a crowd-pleasing speaker with schools, medical professionals, corporations and agencies throughout North America, Europe and Asia.
One of the nation’s leading parenting experts, Jennifer Kolari, is a highly sought- after international speaker and the founder of Connected Parenting. A child and family therapist with a busy practice based in San Diego and Toronto, Kolari is also the author of Connected Parenting: How to Raise A Great Kid (Penguin Group USA and Penguin Canada, 2009) and You’re Ruining My Life! (But Not Really): Surviving the Teenage Years with Connected Parenting (Penguin Canada, 2011).