Feeding The Mouth That Bites You: Parenting Teens Into Adulthood
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About the podcast
A weekly podcast on parenting teens and launching them into the world. Hosted by Cynthia Yanof with Dr. Ken Wilgus, author of the book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You."
Episodes 276
Episode 276: Help! I Read “Feeding the Mouth That Bites You” Too Late!
If you've read Feeding the Mouth That Bites You and thought, “Well, that would have been helpful five years ago,” this episode is for you! Today, we're tackling one of the most common questions we receive: Is …
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If you've read Feeding the Mouth That Bites You and thought, “Well, that would have been helpful five years ago,” this episode is for you! Today, we're tackling one of the most common questions we receive: Is it too late to start Planned Emancipation if your teenager is already 16, 17, or even out of the house?
Dr. Ken and Cynthia discuss why there's no need to panic and cram five years of parenting wisdom into the next six months, why waiting until your teen is "ready" to handle freedom might be missing the point, and how admitting you've gotten a few things wrong can actually work in your favor. We're also talking about the differences between strong-willed and passive teenagers, why control and influence aren't the same thing, and why parents might be giving themselves a little too much credit (and blame) for how their kids turn out.
Whether you're starting late, starting over, or realizing you've been doing a little more parenting than your teenager actually needs, we've got plenty to talk about today.
If you have a minute, please leave us a review. We love hearing listeners encouraging other listeners.
You can order Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here
You can order Cynthia's book "Life Is Messy, God Is Good" here
You can pre-order Cynthia's book "How'd I Miss That" here
Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! [email protected]
Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/
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Today, Dr. Ken and Cynthia are talking about one of the most important parts of planned emancipation: the PR campaign. It's not just about giving our teenagers more freedom and responsibility, but making sure …
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Today, Dr. Ken and Cynthia are talking about one of the most important parts of planned emancipation: the PR campaign. It's not just about giving our teenagers more freedom and responsibility, but making sure they know we see them as young adults, not children.
From video game limits and sibling relationships to including teenagers in family decisions, Dr. Ken explains how small changes in the way we communicate can make a big difference in how our teenagers respond to us.
We also tackle what happens when your teenager isn't acting remotely like an adult—or, even worse, seems perfectly happy letting you do everything for them. 😂 Plus, Dr. Ken shares what he's learned after years of helping families navigate planned emancipation and why parents need to let go of the pressure to guarantee how their kids turn out.
It's a great reminder that our goal isn't just to get our teenagers ready to leave home, but to build a healthy relationship with them that lasts long after they do.
If you have a minute, please leave us a review. We love hearing listeners encouraging other listeners.
You can order Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here
You can order Cynthia's book "Life Is Messy, God Is Good" here
You can pre-order Cynthia's book "How'd I Miss That" here
Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! [email protected]
Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacyEpisode 274: Does Your Teen Really Have a Chemical Imbalance?
Is your teenager just moody, or is there something more going on? And when did we start calling every difficult emotion a "chemical imbalance"?Today, Dr. Ken and Cynthia are talking about teenage moodiness …
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Is your teenager just moody, or is there something more going on? And when did we start calling every difficult emotion a "chemical imbalance"?
Today, Dr. Ken and Cynthia are talking about teenage moodiness, anxiety, depression, and whether we've become too quick to medicalize the normal struggles of adolescence. Dr. Ken explains why the popular idea of a chemical imbalance isn't as scientifically established as we've been led to believe—and why medication can still be helpful in certain situations.
We also get practical about how parents can tell the difference between normal teenage moodiness and something that needs professional attention. Plus, why it matters whether your teenager is struggling at school, with friends, and in other areas of life—or if they just seem to be miserable whenever they're around you. 😂
It's a helpful conversation about knowing when to seek help, when to give your teenager some space, and why not every bad mood needs a diagnosis.
If you have a minute, please leave us a review. We love hearing listeners encouraging other listeners.
You can order Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here
You can order Cynthia's book "Life Is Messy, God Is Good" here
You can pre-order Cynthia's book "How'd I Miss That" here
Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! [email protected]
Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacyEpisode 273: Too Many Parenting Podcasts?
There is a LOT of parenting advice out there right now—and not all of it is bad. The problem is what happens when we start piecing together a little calm parenting, a little connection parenting, a little …
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There is a LOT of parenting advice out there right now—and not all of it is bad. The problem is what happens when we start piecing together a little calm parenting, a little connection parenting, a little neurodivergence content, and whatever else showed up in our feed that week.
Dr. Ken and Cynthia talk about why parents need to understand the bigger philosophy behind the advice they’re taking in, especially when raising teens and young adults.
They also explain why the Feeding the Mouth approach works best when you stay consistent with it: your teenager is moving toward adulthood and autonomy, and your job is to steadily work your way out of managing their life.
You can learn from lots of good sources along the way—but if every new idea causes you to rethink the whole plan, you may end up working against the very independence you’re trying to build.
If you have a minute, please leave us a review. We love hearing listeners encouraging other listeners.
You can order Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here
You can order Cynthia's book "Life Is Messy, God Is Good" here
You can pre-order Cynthia's book "How'd I Miss That" here
Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! [email protected]
Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacyEpisode 272: Talking to Our Kids About the Cornell Case
The recent case out of Cornell has brought up some really hard conversations for parents of teens and college students.Dr. Ken and Cynthia talk about whether parents should bring cases like this up with their …
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The recent case out of Cornell has brought up some really hard conversations for parents of teens and college students.
Dr. Ken and Cynthia talk about whether parents should bring cases like this up with their kids, how much detail is appropriate, and how to talk about alcohol, consent, and safety without turning it into a giant lecture.
They also get into the importance of teaching our kids to step in when something isn’t right—even if it means calling an adult, upsetting a friend, or being the unpopular one in the room.
It’s a heavy topic, but also one that opens the door to some necessary conversations.
If you have a minute, please leave us a review. We love hearing listeners encouraging other listeners.
You can order Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here
You can order Cynthia's book "Life Is Messy, God Is Good" here
You can pre-order Cynthia's book "How'd I Miss That" here
Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! [email protected]
Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacyEpisode 271: Dysregulated Adults: When Your Teen Pushes Every Button You Have
Dr. Ken’s least favorite parenting word may officially be “dysregulated”—which is unfortunate, because that’s exactly what we’re talking about this week.What happens when our teen gets worked up and we match …
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Dr. Ken’s least favorite parenting word may officially be “dysregulated”—which is unfortunate, because that’s exactly what we’re talking about this week.
What happens when our teen gets worked up and we match their intensity? Or when one particular kid knows exactly how to push every button we have? Cynthia and Dr. Ken talk about anger, overreacting, emotional parenting, and how our own upbringing can shape the way we respond to our kids.
If you’ve ever walked away from an interaction with your teen thinking, “Well... I could have handled that better,” this episode is for you.
If you have a minute, please leave us a review. We love hearing listeners encouraging other listeners.
You can order Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here
You can order Cynthia's book "Life Is Messy, God Is Good" here
You can pre-order Cynthia's book "How'd I Miss That" here
Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! [email protected]
Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacyEpisode 270: Parenting Pitfalls: 4 Communication Habits that Backfire with Teens
Are you walking on eggshells around your teen? Lecturing when you meant to have a conversation? Reminding them of everything because you’re afraid they’ll drop the ball—or getting pulled too far into problems …
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Are you walking on eggshells around your teen? Lecturing when you meant to have a conversation? Reminding them of everything because you’re afraid they’ll drop the ball—or getting pulled too far into problems they need to learn to handle themselves? You’re not alone. Parenting teenagers has a funny way of bringing out communication habits we swore we’d never have.
This week, Dr. Ken and Cynthia unpack four common communication pitfalls: the Path of Least Resistance Parent, the Parent Struggling to Stay in Their Lane, the TED Talk Parent, and the Reminder Machine.
If communication with your teen feels tense, exhausting, or just plain ineffective, this episode will help you recognize what may be getting in the way—and hopefully laugh a little at yourself along the way.
If you have a minute, please leave us a review. We love hearing listeners encouraging other listeners.
You can order Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here
You can order Cynthia's book "Life Is Messy, God Is Good" here
You can pre-order Cynthia's book "How'd I Miss That" here
Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! [email protected]
Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacyEpisode 269: Parenting Pitfalls: Are Your Expectations Too High? (Part 2)
How much freedom should parents actually give their teenagers?Doing their own laundry. Choosing what they wear. Picking their friends. Dating someone you’re not crazy about. Spending their own money. And yes… …
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How much freedom should parents actually give their teenagers?
Doing their own laundry. Choosing what they wear. Picking their friends. Dating someone you’re not crazy about. Spending their own money. And yes… even tattoos and piercings.
This week, Dr. Ken Wilgus and Cynthia Yanof are back for Part 2 of their conversation about reasonable expectations—and what it really looks like to “hand the bar over” as kids get older.
They cover laundry and appearance, tattoos and piercings, friendships and dating, money, and honesty—along with the bigger question underneath all of it: When should parents step in, and when is it time to let go?
Cynthia also has to rethink her longtime “no tattoos on our payroll” policy, and Dr. Ken talks about why teens sometimes need room to make their own decisions and experience the outcome.
If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re letting go too much—or still trying to control too much—this episode is for you.
If you have a minute, please leave us a review. We love hearing listeners encouraging other listeners.
You can order Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here
You can order Cynthia's book "Life Is Messy, God Is Good" here
You can pre-order Cynthia's book "How'd I Miss That" here
Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! [email protected]
Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacyEpisode 268: Parenting Pitfalls: Are Your Expectations Too High? (Part 1)
How much should parents actually expect from their teenagers?Good grades. A clean room. Trying hard in sports. Going to church. Being grateful. Making good choices. And preferably doing all of it with a great …
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How much should parents actually expect from their teenagers?
Good grades. A clean room. Trying hard in sports. Going to church. Being grateful. Making good choices. And preferably doing all of it with a great attitude. 😂
This week, Dr. Ken Wilgus and Cynthia Yanof are talking about unrealistic expectations—and whether giving teens more independence means parents are somehow lowering the bar.
Spoiler alert: Dr. Ken says parents aren’t necessarily lowering the bar. They’re handing the bar over to their teen.
They cover grades, sports and activities, church and faith, and even gratitude—along with why constantly managing kids toward success can sometimes backfire when those kids eventually leave home and have to manage life for themselves.
And yes, somewhere in there Cynthia tells the story of discovering ants in her child’s bed thanks to an entire summer’s worth of secret snacks. So clearly, they are not advocating for zero expectations.
And stay tuned—there are plenty more expectations to tackle, next week on Part 2 they will cover things like money, laundry, friends and dating, honesty, clothes, tattoos, piercings, and more.
If you have a minute, please leave us a review. We love hearing listeners encouraging other listeners.
You can order Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here
You can order Cynthia's book "Life Is Messy, God Is Good" here
You can pre-order Cynthia's book "How'd I Miss That" here
Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! [email protected]
Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacyEpisode 267: Parents Need To Start Talking About The Instagram/Facebook Lawsuit Settlement - It’s A Big Deal
Meta is rolling out major new restrictions for users under 18 on Instagram and Facebook, and Dr. Ken was fired up enough about it that we interrupted our Parenting Pitfalls series to talk about it. After …
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Meta is rolling out major new restrictions for users under 18 on Instagram and Facebook, and Dr. Ken was fired up enough about it that we interrupted our Parenting Pitfalls series to talk about it. After comparing our own slightly horrifying screen-time numbers, we dig into the new limits on usage, overnight access, notifications, like counts, age verification, filters, and parental supervision.
But the bigger question is what parents do with all of this. Dr. Ken explains why these changes give parents some much-needed backup when it comes to setting limits—and why they also create a great opening for better conversations with our kids. Because for the first time, it’s not just parents saying social media might be too much. Meta is saying it too.
If you have a minute, please leave us a review. We love hearing listeners encouraging other listeners.
You can order Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here
You can order Cynthia's book "Life Is Messy, God Is Good" here
You can pre-order Cynthia's book "How'd I Miss That" here
Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! [email protected]
Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacyEpisode 266: Parenting Pitfalls: Are You Too Available for Your Teen?
Dr. Ken and Cynthia are back with another Parenting Pitfall: are we too available for our teens? Being involved and willing to help feels like good parenting, but at some point, always being available can keep …
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Dr. Ken and Cynthia are back with another Parenting Pitfall: are we too available for our teens? Being involved and willing to help feels like good parenting, but at some point, always being available can keep our kids from learning to handle things themselves.
From making appointments and managing schedules to stepping in with teachers, coaches, and even employers, Dr. Ken and Cynthia talk about why parents need to become less available as their kids get older. They also dig into the harder question: do we keep doing too much because we still want to feel needed? It’s a practical look at how our availability today can impact our teen’s independence tomorrow.
If you have a minute, please leave us a review. We love hearing listeners encouraging other listeners.
You can order Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here
You can order Cynthia's book "Life Is Messy, God Is Good" here
You can pre-order Cynthia's book "How'd I Miss That" here
Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! [email protected]
Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacyEpisode 265: Parenting Pitfalls: Nagging — They Heard You the First Time
Dr. Ken and Cynthia are tackling one of the easiest parenting traps to fall into: nagging. When does a helpful reminder become something that’s actually keeping our teens from taking responsibility for …
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Dr. Ken and Cynthia are tackling one of the easiest parenting traps to fall into: nagging. When does a helpful reminder become something that’s actually keeping our teens from taking responsibility for themselves?
They talk through chores, school, jobs, college applications, executive functioning struggles, and why sometimes the best thing we can do is stop being our kid’s personal reminder system. Plus, Dr. Ken explains why holding boundaries—even when your teen is mad about it—doesn’t damage the relationship. Turns out, they can be annoyed with us now and still want to come home when they’re grown adults.
If you have a minute, please leave us a review. We love hearing listeners encouraging other listeners.
You can order Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here
You can order Cynthia's book "Life Is Messy, God Is Good" here
You can pre-order Cynthia's book "How'd I Miss That" here
Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! [email protected]
Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacyEpisode 264: Should Teens Share a Room?
Does your teenager really need their own room? This week, Dr. Ken and Cynthia tackle a question that stirs up plenty of parent guilt: are we hurting our kids if they have to share a bedroom? Dr. Ken explains …
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Does your teenager really need their own room? This week, Dr. Ken and Cynthia tackle a question that stirs up plenty of parent guilt: are we hurting our kids if they have to share a bedroom? Dr. Ken explains that while, in a perfect world, giving a teenager their own room can be a helpful way to communicate growing independence, it's far from a requirement for raising healthy, well-adjusted kids.
They discuss the surprising benefits of sharing a room, why parents shouldn't feel guilty if space is limited, and how to continue giving teens more freedom and responsibility—even when they're sharing with a sibling. You'll also hear practical advice for handling conflicts over messes, sleep schedules, and personal space, why older siblings should be held to a higher standard without becoming a second parent, and when it's time for boys and girls to have separate rooms. It's a practical, encouraging conversation that will help parents focus less on square footage and more on preparing their teens for adulthood.
If you have a minute, please leave us a review. We love hearing listeners encouraging other listeners.
You can order Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here
You can order Cynthia's book "Life Is Messy, God Is Good" here
You can pre-order Cynthia's book "How'd I Miss That" here
Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! [email protected]
Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/
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Have kids always been picky eaters...or have we accidentally helped create them? This week, Dr. Ken and Cynthia talk about the fascinating book Picky: How American Children Became the Fussiest Eaters in History …
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Have kids always been picky eaters...or have we accidentally helped create them? This week, Dr. Ken and Cynthia talk about the fascinating book Picky: How American Children Became the Fussiest Eaters in History and what it says about why so many kids today struggle with food. But don't worry—this isn't an episode about feeling guilty over what happened when they were little. It's about what to do if your teen or young adult is still a picky eater.
You'll hear why it's time to stop being the family short-order cook, how getting teens involved in shopping and cooking changes the conversation, and why, as they get older, their eating habits become their responsibility—not yours. They also talk about food sensitivities, "clean eating," medications that affect appetite, and how to help your teen prepare for real life without turning every meal into a battle. It's an encouraging conversation that just might take a little pressure off parents around the dinner table.
If you have a minute, please leave us a review. We love hearing listeners encouraging other listeners.
You can order Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here
You can order Cynthia's book "Life Is Messy, God Is Good" here
You can pre-order Cynthia's book "How'd I Miss That" here
Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! [email protected]
Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacyEpisode 262: Back to School: What if they hate it?
Does your teen have to like school? This week, Dr. Ken and Cynthia tackle a challenge lots of parents face this time of year: "I hate school!" They discuss when it's just normal back-to-school complaining...and …
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Does your teen have to like school? This week, Dr. Ken and Cynthia tackle a challenge lots of parents face this time of year: "I hate school!" They discuss when it's just normal back-to-school complaining...and when it's something parents should pay closer attention to.
You'll also hear why parents shouldn't rush in to fix every school problem, how to help teens take ownership instead of expecting mom and dad to solve it, and why changing schools isn't always the fresh start we think it will be. Plus, Cynthia shares the infamous (and traumatizing) story of her "1985" sweatshirt—and why she's still talking about it decades later. It's a practical, encouraging, and funny conversation that will help you head into the school year with a little more perspective.
If you have a minute, please leave us a review. We love hearing listeners encouraging other listeners.
You can order Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here
You can order Cynthia's book "Life Is Messy, God Is Good" here
You can pre-order Cynthia's book "How'd I Miss That" here
Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! [email protected]
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacyEpisode 261: Best of July - Defiant or Dysregulated?
This July we are doing re-releases of our favorite episodes!Episode 222: Defiant or Dysregulated?This week on Feeding the Mouth That Bites You, Dr. Ken unpacks a word every parent has heard …
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This July we are doing re-releases of our favorite episodes!
Episode 222: Defiant or Dysregulated?
This week on Feeding the Mouth That Bites You, Dr. Ken unpacks a word every parent has heard lately—dysregulation—and what it really looks like in teenagers. Spoiler: it’s not always as clinical or mysterious as it sounds. Sometimes it’s just what we used to call “spiraling” or “losing it.”
We talk about how to tell the difference between a teen who’s simply being disrespectful and one who’s truly overwhelmed by emotion, and why calling everything “dysregulation” can actually make parenting harder. Dr. Ken breaks down what’s happening when your teen crosses that line from moody to out-of-control, why they can usually hold it together outside the home, and what to do when they can’t.
We also get real about what happens when we join the chaos. If you’ve ever found yourself matching your teen’s energy (or volume), this conversation will give you a few tools—and probably a laugh—to help you step back and respond differently. It’s a practical, hope-filled episode for every parent navigating big emotions, slammed doors, and late-night drama.
If you have a minute, please leave us a review. We love hearing listeners encouraging other listeners.
You can order Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here
You can order Cynthia's book "Life Is Messy, God Is Good" here
You can pre-order Cynthia's book "How'd I Miss That" here
Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! [email protected]
Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacyEpisode 260: Best of July - Does My Teen Really Need Counseling?
This July we are doing re-releases of our favorite episodes!Episode 234: Does My Teen Really Need Counseling?This week’s episode was important enough to re-record: when (and if) you should push your teen to go …
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This July we are doing re-releases of our favorite episodes!
Episode 234: Does My Teen Really Need Counseling?
This week’s episode was important enough to re-record: when (and if) you should push your teen to go to therapy. Cynthia and Dr. Ken unpack what therapy actually is, why forcing a resistant teen rarely works, and the surprising ways counseling can sometimes do more harm than good.
Dr. Ken explains how to recognize when therapy becomes necessary, why parent coaching often helps more than sending a reluctant teenager, and what to consider when choosing a counselor—including privacy boundaries, insurance realities, and whether your teen truly needs a Christian therapist.
They also address one of parents’ biggest fears: what to do when you’re worried about your child’s safety. With a practical, steady framework, Dr. Ken walks through how to assess real risk versus normal emotional overwhelm and how to respond without panic.
Today’s show is for anyone wondering whether counseling is the right next step.
If you have a minute, please leave us a review. We love hearing listeners encouraging other listeners.
You can order Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here
You can order Cynthia's book "Life Is Messy, God Is Good" here
You can pre-order Cynthia's book "How'd I Miss That" here
Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! [email protected]
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This July we are doing re-releases of our favorite episodes!Episode 221: When Spouses Disagree on Planned EmancipationThis week Dr. Ken and Cynthia discuss a challenge almost every parent faces—what to do when …
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This July we are doing re-releases of our favorite episodes!
Episode 221: When Spouses Disagree on Planned Emancipation
This week Dr. Ken and Cynthia discuss a challenge almost every parent faces—what to do when you and your spouse don’t see eye-to-eye on planned emancipation. From different approaches to devices and curfews, it’s not always easy to stay on the same page while raising young adults.
We discuss why keeping your marriage first changes the conversation, how to navigate disagreements without turning them into power struggles, and what it looks like to support each other even when you don’t fully agree. We also touch on blended families and shared custody, and why it’s never too late to start giving teens the message that they’re growing into adulthood.
It’s a practical, hope-filled conversation with plenty of humor (including a surprise iPad cameo from Cynthia’s youngest) and the kind of perspective every parent needs when the plan and the parenting don’t always match up.
If you have a minute, please leave us a review. We love hearing listeners encouraging other listeners.
You can order Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here
You can order Cynthia's book "Life Is Messy, God Is Good" here
You can pre-order Cynthia's book "How'd I Miss That" here
Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! [email protected]
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacyEpisode 258: Best of July - You're Only Human Part 2 with Dr. Kelly Kapic
This July we are doing re-releases of our favorite episodes!Episode 144: "You're Only Human" Part 2 Dr. Ken Interviews Dr. Kelly KapicToday we finish our great interview with Dr. Kelly Kapic, professor of …
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This July we are doing re-releases of our favorite episodes!
Episode 144: "You're Only Human" Part 2 Dr. Ken Interviews Dr. Kelly Kapic
Today we finish our great interview with Dr. Kelly Kapic, professor of theological studies at Covenant College in Lookout Mountain, Georgia. His book, "You're Only Human: How Your Limits Reflect God's Design and Why That's Good News" is a breath of fresh air for Christian parents who constantly struggle with their own limitations as parents.
In this second part, Kelly talks about how personal limitations reflects the human need for support from others. Should we be careful about "co-dependency" and other toxic relationships? What does humility really mean from a Christian perspective?
This is part two of two episodes. You can find Kelly's book here: https://www.amazon.com/Youre-Only-Human-Limits-Reflect/dp/1587435101
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You can pre-order Cynthia's book "How'd I Miss That" here
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This July we are doing re-releases of our favorite episodes! Episode 143: "You're Only Human" Dr. Ken Interviews Dr. Kelly KapicMost all parents constantly feel guilty that they're not doing enough for their …
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This July we are doing re-releases of our favorite episodes!
Episode 143: "You're Only Human" Dr. Ken Interviews Dr. Kelly Kapic
Most all parents constantly feel guilty that they're not doing enough for their kids. For Christian parents, does our faith make any difference when we suffer like this? Theology professor Kelly Kapic's most recent book, "You're Only Human" takes on this constant guilt and self-judgment. He reminds us that human limitations are not the same as sin.
As a college professor he has seen first hand how so many of our kids are taught to have those same demands on themselves. Kelly is the author of several books including his award-winning, "Embodied Hope: A Theological Meditation on Pain and Suffering." He reminds us that our stress isn't a time-management problem, it's a theological problem of knowing who God is and how he wants us to live into the world he created.
This is part one of two episodes. You can find Kelly's book here: https://www.amazon.com/Youre-Only-Human-Limits-Reflect/dp/1587435101
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Your college kid is back home for the summer... and suddenly you're wondering whether they're still your child, a guest, or a roommate who leaves dishes in the sink. This week, Dr. Ken and Cynthia tackle one of …
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Your college kid is back home for the summer... and suddenly you're wondering whether they're still your child, a guest, or a roommate who leaves dishes in the sink. This week, Dr. Ken and Cynthia tackle one of the trickiest parenting transitions: when young adults return home after months of living life on their own. From curfews and chores to tracking apps and family vacations, they discuss why many of the rules that worked in high school don't work anymore.
They also dive into the harder stuff—what happens when your child comes home with different beliefs, different priorities, and a strong desire to spend most of their time somewhere other than your living room. If you've ever felt hurt, frustrated, or completely unsure of your role now that your child is growing up, this conversation will help you navigate the tension between holding on and letting go. Turns out, the very independence you've been working toward all these years feels surprisingly personal when it finally arrives.
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Fake Instagram accounts. Secret relationships. Hidden piercings. Skipped classes. Every parent eventually discovers something their teen didn't tell them—and it raises the question: Is this normal teenage …
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Fake Instagram accounts. Secret relationships. Hidden piercings. Skipped classes. Every parent eventually discovers something their teen didn't tell them—and it raises the question: Is this normal teenage behavior, or is there something deeper going on? In this episode, Dr. Ken and Cynthia discuss why teens become "sneaky" and how to tell the difference between healthy independence and behavior that deserves closer attention.
Together, they tackle everything from Finstas (fake Instagram accounts) and hidden relationships to bad grades, skipping school, tattoos, piercings, and phone privacy. Along the way, Dr. Ken explains why some sneaky behavior is actually a normal part of adolescence, how certain parenting styles can unintentionally encourage secrecy, and what parents should do when they discover something they don't like. If you've ever found yourself wondering whether your teen is hiding something—or simply growing up—this episode offers practical guidance for raising honest kids while helping them become independent adults.
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Parents today are raising kids in a world of sports betting apps, online casinos, fantasy leagues, and gambling opportunities that didn't exist a generation ago. In this episode of Feeding the Mouth That Bites …
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Parents today are raising kids in a world of sports betting apps, online casinos, fantasy leagues, and gambling opportunities that didn't exist a generation ago. In this episode of Feeding the Mouth That Bites You, Dr. Ken and Cynthia discuss the rise of teen gambling, why it's become so much more accessible, and how to know when it's simply part of the culture—or a risk worth paying attention to.
Dr. Ken explains the connection between gambling and the teenage brain, offers practical guidance on sports betting, fantasy football, casinos, and online gambling, and shares the warning signs to watch for in our kids. If you've ever wondered where to draw the line, how to start the conversation, or what behaviors deserve a closer look—today’s show is for you.
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Anxiety seems to be everywhere these days, which leaves many parents wondering what's normal, what's not, and how much we should be worried about our kids—or ourselves. This week, Cynthia and Dr. Ken have an …
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Anxiety seems to be everywhere these days, which leaves many parents wondering what's normal, what's not, and how much we should be worried about our kids—or ourselves. This week, Cynthia and Dr. Ken have an honest conversation about anxiety, anxious thinking, and why understanding the difference matters.
They discuss how worry can become a cycle we unintentionally reinforce, why overthinking often makes anxiety worse, and how helping teens recognize their thought patterns can be a powerful step toward change. Along the way, they tackle common misconceptions about anxiety, medication, and the temptation to protect our kids from every uncomfortable feeling.
If you've ever wondered whether anxiety is something we're stuck with or something we can learn to manage differently, this episode offers an encouraging perspective. You'll walk away with practical tools for helping teens—and yourself—recognize anxious thinking and respond to it in healthier ways.
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Summer is almost here, which means more time together—and more opportunities to wonder if your kids can actually hear you. This week, Dr. Ken and Cynthia discuss why parents often feel ignored, why repeating …
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Summer is almost here, which means more time together—and more opportunities to wonder if your kids can actually hear you. This week, Dr. Ken and Cynthia discuss why parents often feel ignored, why repeating ourselves rarely helps, and how small changes in communication can make a big difference.
From forgotten chores and sibling drama to screens and everyday family frustrations, they explore practical ways to get your message across without turning every conversation into a lecture. Dr. Ken shares why staying calm is often more effective than raising the volume, and how consequences can give your words weight.
If you've ever wondered how to be heard without repeating yourself seventeen times, this episode is packed with encouragement, humor, and simple strategies you can put to work right away. Just in time for summer.
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Dr. Ken and Cynthia tackle one of the trickiest parts of raising teenagers: what happens when the other parents in your world handle things very differently than you do. From phones and parties to dating rules …
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Dr. Ken and Cynthia tackle one of the trickiest parts of raising teenagers: what happens when the other parents in your world handle things very differently than you do. From phones and parties to dating rules, sleepovers, vaping, alcohol, and “everybody else is allowed,” they talk through how parents can stay consistent without trying to control every influence around their kids.
They discuss the tension that comes when your kid feels like everyone else has more freedom, why trying to micromanage your teenager’s environment usually backfires, and how parents can balance standing firm on important issues without turning every disagreement into a battle. Dr. Ken also explains why phones continue to be the biggest source of conflict in families today—and why helping teens grow in judgment matters the most.
If you’ve ever felt exhausted trying to hold boundaries while every other family seems to be doing something different, this episode is for you.
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Dr. Ken and Cynthia are talking all things summer — because somehow it’s already almost here, and if you have teenagers at home, now is the time to start thinking ahead. In this episode, they walk through a …
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Dr. Ken and Cynthia are talking all things summer — because somehow it’s already almost here, and if you have teenagers at home, now is the time to start thinking ahead. In this episode, they walk through a practical summer checklist for parents: screen time, jobs, sleep schedules, dating relationships, family vacations, summer reading, and how to keep teens from spending three straight months attached to a phone or gaming system.
Cynthia shares the story of the year she created an ambitious “Summer Bucket List” for her kids that completely fell apart within days, while Dr. Ken explains why boredom actually matters, why teens need meaningful responsibility during the summer, and how parents can create structure without making summer miserable for everyone involved.
They also tackle the tricky balance of family time versus independence, how to think about summer jobs and volunteering, and why dating boundaries become even more important once school is out and teens suddenly have endless free time.
If summer tends to sneak up on you every year, this episode will help you plan ahead.
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Happy Mother’s Day! 🌸🌸🌸In this episode, Cynthia and Dr. Ken talk through some of the lies so many moms carry—especially when it comes to their teens. They unpack that nagging thought that if a teen is …
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Happy Mother’s Day! 🌸🌸🌸
In this episode, Cynthia and Dr. Ken talk through some of the lies so many moms carry—especially when it comes to their teens.
They unpack that nagging thought that if a teen is struggling, it must mean mom has failed, the pressure to hold everything together, and why a child pulling away might actually be a sign things are going more right than it feels.
Today’s show is an honest conversation around the exhaustion, the comparison, and that underlying fear that one misstep could ruin everything. But more than anything, this episode is meant to be a reminder that so many moms feel these same things—and we’re all in this together!
If a little reset and reassurance is needed this Mother’s Day… this one is for you.
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Cynthia came into this conversation ready to defend self-esteem like it’s a parenting essential. Dr. Ken… not so much.In this episode, they unpack what we actually mean when we talk about self-esteem in our …
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Cynthia came into this conversation ready to defend self-esteem like it’s a parenting essential. Dr. Ken… not so much.
In this episode, they unpack what we actually mean when we talk about self-esteem in our adolescents—and why making it the ultimate goal might not work the way we think it does.
They get into why constantly telling kids they’re amazing doesn’t always lead to real confidence, what’s actually normal when your middle schooler suddenly feels insecure about everything, and how the very things we try to protect our kids from—failure, disappointment, rejection—might be doing more good than harm.
If you’ve ever wondered when to step in, when to hold back, or whether you’re accidentally raising an American Idol kid… this one’s worth a listen.
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In today’s conversation, we address a topic no parent wants to face—but many find themselves navigating: What happens when things at home feel truly out of control?We move beyond typical discipline struggles …
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In today’s conversation, we address a topic no parent wants to face—but many find themselves navigating: What happens when things at home feel truly out of control?
We move beyond typical discipline struggles and talk about the moments when a teen may no longer be functioning within the basic boundaries needed to live safely and responsibly at home.
Dr. Ken outlines three key areas parents should pay close attention to—situations that may signal it’s time to step back and consider whether additional help is needed. We also talk about the weight of that realization, and why needing outside support is not a reflection of failure as a parent.
Specifically, In this episode, we cover:
- how to recognize the difference between normal teenage behavior and deeper concerns
- why consistency matters—and what it can’t solve on its own
- how to approach difficult, honest conversations with your teen
- what residential treatment is, when it’s considered, and what it can offer families
If you’ve ever wondered where the line is—or what to do if you’re nearing it—this conversation will give you a clearer framework for how to think about those next steps.
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