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Pay Attention To Actions Not Words

January 28, 2026 · 46 min

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Episode 4 begins with a message from a listener struggling in her relationship.

Katie and Aisling open up about relationships in all their forms. The healthy ones, the difficult but fixable ones, and the ones that slowly become toxic. They touch on gaslighting, coercive control, breadcrumbing, and the moments where self doubt creeps in.

They also share parts of their own past relationships, talk about what children witness in unhealthy dynamics, and why learning to be alone can be powerful. Heavy at times, honest throughout, and balanced with plenty of laughs.

If you’ve ever questioned your relationship, this episode is for you.

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