Should Mum or Dad Do The Sleep Training?
Show notes
Which parent should be the one doing the settling at bedtime? Can you tag team? What happens if you tap out mid-session? Sally and Bec get into all of it — and their answer might surprise you.
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What You'll Learn
- Why Bec's default is mum first — and exactly when she flips that
- What happens when dad takes over and it's going well... then mum comes back in
- The breastfeeding-to-sleep trap: why the boobs returning changes everything
- Why one parent per resettling session is the non-negotiable rule
- The extinction burst on nights three and four — and why you don't want to swap parents right then
- What to do if you're a solo parent, a FIFO parent, or your appendix ruptures
- How Sally runs bedtime in her own house (alternating nights, electric blanket by 7.02 pm)
- Why both parents need to be able to settle, even if one is easier right now
Chapters
- 00:00 Intro & celebrating Bec's three-peat family
- 05:38 Which parent should do the sleep training?
- 06:18 Why Bec prefers mum for the first three to four nights
- 07:38 The breastfeeding-to-sleep association problem
- 09:07 When dad should take the lead instead
- 10:19 Path of least resistance — and what that actually means
- 13:59 Don't rescue the other parent mid-session
- 15:31 Can you tag team? One parent per resettling session explained
- 17:18 When dad says "I think they want you" — Bec's take
- 19:02 What if your appendix ruptures? Future-proofing both parents
- 21:43 Sally's alternating bednight system at home
- 23:09 The extinction burst and why consistency is everything on nights three and four
- 25:20 Solo parents, FIFO families and the village mentality
- 26:03 Wrap up
About Nap Trapped
Nap Trapped is hosted by Sally Woods (The Sleep Concierge) and Bec Maher (The Sleep Centre) — two sleep consultants, two mums, and zero patience for vague advice. Every Wednesday they bring you evidence-based, real-talk sleep support for tired parents.
Links
Instagram — Sally: https://www.instagram.com/thesleepconcierge/
Instagram — Bec: https://www.instagram.com/_thesleepcentre/
Website: www.naptrappedpodcast.com