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Difficulty with transitions - Part 2 | Pete Wharmby

November 5, 2025 · 1 h 36 min

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In part two of this deep dive into transitions, Mark reunites with Pete Wharmby to look at more reasons they can cause such a monumental challenge for autistic, ADHD and PDA kids (and adults).

From difficulties pulling our kids away from screen-time and replacing a broken fridge, to the regular flashpoint of brushing teeth, Mark and Pete share real-life strategies that can make these transitions more manageable - or at the very least a bit more fun.

Pete shares what he wishes more teachers understood, and Mark reflects on how small wins in transition can change the whole feel of a day.

Essential for any parent of neurodivergent kids who has ever said “we need to leave now”… and regretted it instantly.

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CHAPTER TIMESTAMPS (Estimated):

00:00 - Welcome back and reintroducing Pete Wharmby

02:30 - Recap of what we covered in episode 45 and why transitions affect all neurodivergent kids

06:10 - Screen time, flow states and Pete's oil tanker analogy

16:45 - The role that monotropism plays in transitions

27:00 - Strategies: lead-In Times, choice and routines

36:40 - Understanding how PDA affects transitions and why it’s not just defiance

46:00 - Strategies for control-driven transitions (e.g. declarative language)

55:30 - Difficulty throwing stuff away: fridges, crocs and clinging to familiarity

1:04:30 - Schools as the perfect storm of transitional triggers

1:15:20 - The positives

1:18:00 - Neurodiversity Champions

1:20:40 - Tiny Epic Wins

1:23:15 - "What the flip?" moments

1:26:00 - Wrap-up and thanks

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LINKS TO STUFF WE MENTION IN THIS EPISODE:

Pete Wharmby website - https://petewharmby.com/

Untypical by Pete Wharmby - https://amzn.eu/d/8gGK6v4

What I Want to Talk About, by Pete Wharmby - https://amzn.eu/d/6tY0kZQ

What is monotropism? - https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/professional-practice/what-is-monotropism

Last One Laughing - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LOL:_Last_One_Laughing_UK

Ausome Training, Cothu course - https://ausometraining.com/cothu-with-pete-wharmby

Declarative language - https://lifeskillsadvocate.com/blog/declarative-language-for-neurodivergent-communicators/

Anna Freud - https://www.annafreud.org/

Georgia Pavlopoulou (LinkedIn) - https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-georgia-pavlopoulou-651a042a

Neuro Nook Storytime - https://www.neuronookstorytime.com/

Bedknobs and Broomsticks - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bedknobs_and_Broomsticks

Silksong - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hollow_Knight:_Silksong

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CONTACT US

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📧 Email: [email protected]

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CREDITS

🎶 Theme music by Skilsel on Pixabay

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