Order of Man
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- Nov 13, 2026
About the podcast
We are reclaiming what it means to be a man. Each week we interview the world's most successful men on the planet - elite athletes, warriors, New York Times Bestselling Authors, and world-class entrepreneurs – extract their hard-fought lessons and experiences and deliver them straight to you. Past guests include Jocko Willink, Tim Kennedy, Andy Frisella, Lewis Howes, Grant Cardone, Ryan Holiday, Ben Greenfield, Rich Roll, and so many more. If you're ready to level up your life as a man, this is the show for you.
Episodes 1,610
Chicks Dig Scars | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler breaks down the core fundamental needs that dictate relationship success or failure: women crave safety, while men crave respect. Drawing from his own 18-year …
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In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler breaks down the core fundamental needs that dictate relationship success or failure: women crave safety, while men crave respect. Drawing from his own 18-year marriage, divorce, and years of self-reflection, Ryan dispels common misconceptions around modern dating and red-pill rhetoric. He explains why safety isn't about avoiding conflict, but about consistent emotional regulation, clear leadership, and unwavering stability.
Conversely, he addresses why men desperately need genuine respect and appreciation - not entitlement or passive compliance. Tune in to learn actionable ways both men and women can step up, fulfill each other's core needs, and build a resilient, long-lasting partnership.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 Welcome & Qualification Through Failure
03:09 The Core Need of Women in Relationships
04:45 Why Uncertainty Destroys Relationship Safety
07:45 Consistent Emotional Regulation vs. Volatility
10:08 How Men Build True Safety & Security
14:54 Rejecting Red Pill Myths Around Leadership
17:02 The Core Need of Men: Respect & Appreciation
19:29 The Entitlement Trap & Earning Devotion
21:48 Raising the Bar for Masculine Standards
25:09 How Women Can Soften & Support Their Men
29:49 The Power of Complementary Dynamics
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A Son Joining the Military, A Job Outsourced to AI, and Dealing with a Cheating Friend | ASK ME ANYTHING
In this episode of Ask Me Anything, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen tackle seven challenging questions from listeners about fatherhood, career uncertainty, marriage, finances, relationships and personal …
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In this episode of Ask Me Anything, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen tackle seven challenging questions from listeners about fatherhood, career uncertainty, marriage, finances, relationships and personal responsibility. They discuss how to guide a teenage son considering military service, rebuilding a career after AI-driven job losses, coming clean about hidden debt, and navigating difficult family relationships.
They also explore breaking generational patterns of anger, dealing with a friend's infidelity, and standing up to disrespectful in-laws. Along the way, Ryan shares thoughts on community involvement, personal accountability, networking and preparing for life's inevitable hardships.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Opening Conversation and Catching Up
01:55 - Ryan's Experience with Vortex and Exceptional Customer Service
05:59 - Building Stronger Communities and Taking Personal Responsibility
09:34 - The Iron Council and Upcoming War Room
10:37 - Should My Son Join the Marines or Go to College?
16:20 - Rebuilding Your Career in the Age of AI
24:24 - How to Confess $30,000 in Hidden Debt to Your Wife
29:35 - How to Handle a Daughter's Difficult Relationship
34:32 - Breaking the Cycle of Anger with Your Children
41:37 - Should You Tell Your Friend's Wife About His Affair?
45:52 - Standing Up to Disrespectful In-Laws
50:30 - How to Respond to Insults Without Becoming Defensive
53:01 - War Room: Preparing for the Inevitable Hardships of Life
54:30 - Ryan's Conversation with Jim Caviezel and Closing Remarks
Battle Planners: Pick yours up today!
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JIM CAVIEZEL | Pick the Right Fight. Stand on Principle
Most men know what they're supposed to do and still look for a reason not to do it. It's too risky, too costly, or someone with more credentials says it's a mistake. Today we're talking about how to make the …
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Most men know what they're supposed to do and still look for a reason not to do it. It's too risky, too costly, or someone with more credentials says it's a mistake. Today we're talking about how to make the hard call anyway. That means finding your "Michael Jordan talent," pairing it with a walk-on mentality, and putting your spirit first. We also get into programming your response before the moment arrives, choosing the right fight over the easy one, and why staying open-handed matters more than ever.
My guest has stood on that line more than once. He turned down advice that would have protected his career so he could play Christ, nearly died twice in the years that followed, and built a body of work on characters who choose to get involved when they could stay out of it. His name is Jim Caviezel. We talk about what dying taught him about fear, the moment he believes God called him to act, why he says he doesn't get the easy movies but the right ones, and what his new film Ghost Soldier says about a man stepping up to protect people who can't protect themselves.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Opening
00:40 - Introduction & Living by Core Values
01:54 - Following Your Dream & Modern Culture
04:07 - Faith, Acting, and "Ghost Soldier"
06:10 - Open Hand vs. Fist Bump: Trust and Civility
08:45 - Navy SEAL Training & "The Passion of the Christ"
13:15 - Jim Caviezel's Near-Death Experience
17:47 - Jimmy Stewart, Legacy, and Paying It Forward
22:59 - Discovering Purpose & The Walk-On Mentality
29:31 - Standing Firm Against Hollywood Ideology
33:24 - The Lone Wolf Mindset & Feeding the Spirit
41:28 - Overcoming Fear: Lessons from Great White Sharks
46:54 - Authenticity in Action Cinema
50:44 - Lucifer, Saint Michael, and Spiritual Warfare
56:57 - Ryan Michler Shares a Personal Encounter with God
01:00:22 - "The Count of Monte Cristo" & A Man's Search for Meaning
01:04:34 - Legacy, Fatherhood, and Passing the Torch
Battle Planners: Pick yours up today!
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Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
5 Disturbing Facts About Masculinity and Men | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
In this week's Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler returns to the studio to address a critical and disturbing trend: the rapid decline of modern men. Diving into five alarming statistics, Ryan breaks down the …
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In this week's Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler returns to the studio to address a critical and disturbing trend: the rapid decline of modern men. Diving into five alarming statistics, Ryan breaks down the uncomfortable truths about male suicide rates, the epidemic of isolation, and dropping testosterone levels.
He doesn't just highlight the problems; he offers practical, hard-hitting solutions to help men break free from societal traps. Whether it's building a brotherhood, taking charge of your physical health, or stepping up to lead in your relationships, this episode is a wake-up call to reclaim your masculinity. Tune in to discover how you can stop isolating, boost your vitality, and become the protector and provider you were meant to be.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:13 - Back in the Studio & Vortex Optics
02:19 - Five Alarming Statistics About Men
03:10 - Statistic 1: The Tragedy of Male Suicide
04:50 - Statistic 2: The Epidemic of Isolation
08:40 - Where to Find Good Men
11:35 - Statistic 3: The Single Status of Young Men
17:20 - Statistic 4: The Decline in Male Education
21:05 - Statistic 5: Plummeting Vitality and Testosterone
22:12 - How to Naturally Boost Testosterone
28:50 - Upcoming Interview with Jim Caviezel
Battle Planners: Pick yours up today!
Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto.
For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood.
Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
Why Your Relationships Need More Leadership and Less Control | ASK ME ANYTHING
In this episode of Ask Me Anything, Kipp and Shawn tackle four questions about the challenges men face in leadership, relationships, personal growth, and fatherhood. They discuss how to earn respect as a newly …
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In this episode of Ask Me Anything, Kipp and Shawn tackle four questions about the challenges men face in leadership, relationships, personal growth, and fatherhood. They discuss how to earn respect as a newly promoted supervisor without becoming an authoritarian boss, how to bring excitement and connection back into a long-term marriage, and how to stop letting past mistakes define your future.
They also explore the challenges of parenting teenagers and rebuilding a relationship with a son who is becoming increasingly distant. Along the way, they share personal experiences and practical advice about influence, intentional relationships, and becoming a better father.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Catching Up and Hunting Stories
03:16 - Establishing Authority Without Losing Respect
06:30 - Leadership Through Influence, Not Authority
10:56 - Bringing the Spark Back Into Marriage
15:00 - Dating Your Spouse Again
17:25 - Overcoming Regret and Moving Forward
21:00 - Turning Your Past Into an Advantage
26:04 - Reconnecting With Your Teenage Son
30:00 - Understanding Teenagers and Their Behaviour
36:00 - Parenting With Peace Instead of Conflict
38:30 - Creating Lasting Family Memories
41:30 - Closing Thoughts and Where to Connect
42:27 - Iron Council Announcement
Battle Planners: Pick yours up today!
Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto.
For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood.
Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
JASON KHALIPA | Touch Grass and Train Hard
Most men don't have a fitness problem as much as they have a "no" problem. Your kid asks you to jump on the trampoline, wrestle, or go for a hike, and you're too tired, too out of shape, or too worried about …
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Most men don't have a fitness problem as much as they have a "no" problem. Your kid asks you to jump on the trampoline, wrestle, or go for a hike, and you're too tired, too out of shape, or too worried about getting hurt to say yes. Say no enough times and they stop asking. My guest today knows that if you want to protect, provide, and show up for the people who count on you, being physically capable is the price of admission.
Jason Khalipa and I talk about learning new skills well past 40, why tools like TRT and GLP-1s should never become crutches, and what it means to stay ahead of your sons in the weight room for as long as you can. We also get into the Train Hard Men's Club, the free weekly workouts Jason started in a library parking lot that have grown to more than 100 clubs around the world. Men need a reason to get together, and a hard workout followed by a cup of coffee might be exactly the excuse you've been missing.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Opening: Tactical Fitness and Smith & Wesson Partnership
01:16 - Preparing for First Big Game Hunt in Texas
04:19 - Upcoming Whitetail Hunts & Long Range Shooting
07:03 - Evolving with Age: Police Academy & BJJ at 41
09:25 - Maintaining Physical Capability as You Age
10:53 - Muscle Retention, GLP-1 Weight Loss Drugs, and Strength Baselines
13:44 - The "Never Zero" Approach & Modern TRT Tools
16:31 - The Protect and Provide Mandate of Modern Men
18:52 - Training to Always Say Yes to Your Kids
21:31 - Friendly Competition Between Fathers and Sons
24:19 - Inspiring the Next Generation Through Strength
30:40 - Recording Break & Mid-Show Pause
32:44 - The Origin of the Train Hard Men's Club
35:30 - Scaling Free Men's Clubs Worldwide
38:59 - Restoring Real-World Groundedness and Connection
41:09 - The Unique Value of Male Brotherhood and Accountability
45:08 - Why Men Need Purpose-Driven Gathering
51:13 - Breakdown of the Train Hard Burpee Test
52:50 - Breathwork, Heart Rate Control, and Managing Stress at Home
56:45 - How to Join or Start a Local Train Hard Club
Battle Planners: Pick yours up today!
Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto.
For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood.
Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
3 Habits That are Quietly Destroying You | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
In this week's Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler broadcasts from a whitetail hunting lodge in Minnesota to discuss three insidious habits that are quietly destroying modern men: distraction, isolation, and …
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In this week's Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler broadcasts from a whitetail hunting lodge in Minnesota to discuss three insidious habits that are quietly destroying modern men: distraction, isolation, and sedation. It is dangerously easy to justify your distractions when they look like noble work, grinding at the gym, or even church service, but running from your core responsibilities will ultimately destroy your home.
Isolation might feel like the path of an alpha male, but cutting yourself off from a trusted brotherhood makes you significantly weaker. Finally, sedation—whether through drugs, porn, or simply tuning out—is a desperate attempt to regain control when life feels chaotic. Real strength comes from confronting your challenges head-on. Tune in to learn how to break these destructive patterns.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:40 - Episode Opening
00:40 - Broadcasting from the Hunting Lodge
02:22 - The Danger of Noble Distractions
07:05 - The Lie of the Lone Wolf and Isolation
11:40 - Sedation and the Illusion of Control
16:25 - Confronting Challenges Head-On
20:57 - Closing Thoughts and the Iron Council
Battle Planners: Pick yours up today!
Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto.
For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood.
Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
Public Confrontation, Winning as a Step-Dad, and Building Boundaries for Adult Kids | ASK ME ANYTHING
How do you become a better man, lead your family, and navigate life's toughest challenges? Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen explore the power of brotherhood, explaining how meaningful relationships create …
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How do you become a better man, lead your family, and navigate life's toughest challenges? Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen explore the power of brotherhood, explaining how meaningful relationships create possibility, accountability, and growth. They answer five listener questions covering freezing during confrontation, leading as a stepfather, helping an adult child become independent, raising resilient children, and moving beyond a troubled past. Along the way, they discuss conflict resolution, personal responsibility, repentance, and the importance of taking action rather than seeking validation. Plus, learn how the Iron Council can help you build stronger connections and become the man you're meant to be.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Episode Introduction and Opening
00:40 - Brotherhood, Purpose, and Meaningful Conversations
01:44 - Why Men Need a Band of Brothers
04:12 - Inspiration: From Motivation to Action
07:08 - The Power of Accountability and Connection
11:16 - Ideas, Growth, and the Value of Brotherhood
12:56 - Self-Determination: Autonomy, Mastery, and Relatedness
17:10 - Handling Confrontation and Protecting Your Family
21:32 - Preparing for Conflict Through Training
29:16 - Leading as a Stepfather
35:54 - Supporting Adult Children Without Enabling Them
43:25 - Raising Resilient and Grateful Children
47:11 - Moving Beyond Your Past and Reputation
48:17 - Why You Don't Need to Prove You've Changed
50:30 - Repentance, Making Amends, and Personal Growth
53:25 - Iron Council: Take Action Before the Year Ends
Battle Planners: Pick yours up today!
Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto.
For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood.
Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
DAVID DEIDA | Primal Power, Boundless Sex, and Freedom Beyond Ambition
Most of us were raised to believe that a man is defined by what he's chasing: the money, the woman, the title, the next goal. And for a big part of life, that's exactly right. You should be hungry, and you …
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Most of us were raised to believe that a man is defined by what he's chasing: the money, the woman, the title, the next goal. And for a big part of life, that's exactly right. You should be hungry, and you should be building. But what happens when you get there? When the goal is hit, the purpose fulfills itself, and you're left standing there asking, "Now what?" A lot of men mistake that moment for depression. My guest today says it might actually be a doorway.
David Deida wrote The Way of the Superior Man nearly 30 years ago, and it's shaped a generation of men, including me. His new book, The Man of Zero, picks up where that one left off. We talk about the difference between living from lack and living from fullness, why surrendering to God isn't weakness but a code bigger than you, how a warrior can do hard things with an open heart, and why the less you chase woman and world, the more they come to you. This one goes deep, gentlemen. Let's get into it.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Episode Introduction
01:30 - From Superior Man to Man of Zero
07:36 - Living Without Goals or Motives
14:52 - Understanding the Deep "I"
21:43 - The Awareness of Animals and Humans
26:10 - Neutralizing Threats from a Place of Love
37:54 - The Three Stages of Men's Development
48:34 - Mastering Sexuality and Integrity
54:57 - Confronting Mammalian and Primal Urges
57:07 - Defining Primal Power and Boundless Sex
01:00:26 - Where to Find David's Work
Battle Planners: Pick yours up today!
Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto.
For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood.
Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
What Men's Self-Care DOESN'T Look Like… | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler exposes the trap of "mental masturbation" and breaks down ten ways men deceive themselves into thinking they are engaged in self-care and personal development …
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In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler exposes the trap of "mental masturbation" and breaks down ten ways men deceive themselves into thinking they are engaged in self-care and personal development when they are actually stalling. From buying unused courses and hoarding unread books to hiding behind fitness routines and blaming past trauma, Ryan highlights how noble distractions prevent real growth.
Learn why true self-work requires action, accountability, and execution rather than endless planning or talking. Tune in to audit your habits, eliminate comfortable excuses, stop going at it alone, and build the frameworks and network needed to step up and become the man you were meant to be.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Introduction & Recapping Real Self-Care
02:10 - 1. Buying Courses You Never Use
02:55 - 2. Doom Scrolling & Social Media Traps
04:20 - 3. Waiting Until You're "Ready"
05:35 - 4. Blaming Others & Making Excuses
07:45 - 5. Going At It Alone
09:55 - 6. Collecting Books You Never Read
12:00 - 7. Chasing Bright & Shiny Objects
14:25 - 8. Talking More Than Doing
17:00 - 9. Hiding in the Gym or Office
18:55 - 10. Quitting When Things Get Hard
21:35 - Self-Assessment Exercise & Scoring
23:30 - Frameworks, Networks & The Iron Council
Battle Planners: Pick yours up today!
Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto.
For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood.
Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
Protecting Without Steamrolling, Envy of Success, and Becoming a Grandfather | ASK ME ANYTHING
In this episode of Ask Me Anything, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen discuss the value of taking action, embracing imperfection, and questioning the polished images presented on social media. They debate the …
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In this episode of Ask Me Anything, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen discuss the value of taking action, embracing imperfection, and questioning the polished images presented on social media. They debate the promise of Elon Musk's flying car before answering listener questions about career opportunities, family priorities, firearm safety, purpose, screen time, and leadership.
They also explore handling envy, rebuilding relationships with adult children, and navigating changing interests with teenage kids. Along the way, Ryan and Kipp share practical advice on setting boundaries, communicating honestly, and becoming more intentional as men, husbands, fathers, and leaders.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Episode Introduction: Opening
00:17 - Embracing Stress and Taking Action
04:48 - Why Being Real Matters More Than Being Perfect
07:50 - Elon Musk's Flying Car: Innovation or Showboating?
16:46 - Career Opportunities vs. Family Roots
26:00 - Firearms, Family Safety, and Marriage
30:14 - Restlessness, Ambition, and Finding Purpose
34:58 - Setting Boundaries With Your Phone
40:57 - Leading Difficult Parents in Youth Sports
46:28 - Envy, Success, and Personal Growth
53:25 - Becoming a Better Grandfather
56:54 - When Your Child Wants a Different Path
01:02:03 - The War Room: Brotherhood and Connection
01:04:34 - Closing Thoughts and Call to Action
Battle Planners: Pick yours up today!
Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto.
For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood.
Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
ANDY STUMPF | A Quiet Professional's Guide to Chaos
Every man will eventually find himself in water over his head. A business that's sinking, a marriage that's struggling, a season of life where you can't see the shore. Most men panic. They thrash around, burn …
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Every man will eventually find himself in water over his head. A business that's sinking, a marriage that's struggling, a season of life where you can't see the shore. Most men panic. They thrash around, burn through their energy, and make emotional decisions they regret for years. The men who make it through aren't stronger or more talented. They stay calm, focus on what they can control, and take the next breath.
My guest today, former Navy SEAL Andy Stumpf, knows this better than anyone. We talk about the drownproofing evolution at BUD/S and what it really teaches, why you should have emotional responses but never make emotional decisions, and the "chunking" approach he says is the most useful tool he's ever had. We also get into why most guys who quit regret it for decades, the difference between being a quiet professional and a silent one, why telling the truth is always enough, and what real wealth looks like once you stop chasing more.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 Introduction & Catching Up
01:10 Master Jiu-Jitsu Competitions & Mindset
02:50 The Reality of Jiu-Jitsu Culture
04:15 Demystifying the BUD/S Drownproofing Test
07:15 Emotional Control in Real-World Situations 09:15 Practical Stoicism and Objectivity 12:00 Leveraging Time to Prevent Emotional Decisions 14:15 Technology Usage and Healthy Digital Boundaries 17:00 Gen-Z and Connectivity Fatigue 19:40 The Quiet Professional vs. Silent Professional 21:30 The Importance of Absolute Truth and Integrity 24:00 Taking Personal Ownership vs. Making Excuses 26:50 The Chunking Strategy for Achieving Goals 33:00 Daily Writing Discipline for Drownproof
35:00 Navigating Regret, Failure, and Pivoting
38:30 Talent vs. Relentless Work Ethic
40:25 Mindset for Survival and Overuse Injuries
43:40 Transitioning Out of Military Service & Identity
46:15 Exploring Aviation and Unforeseen Opportunities
49:30 Authentic Relationships vs. Strategic Networking
51:20 Guarding Your Inner Circle
54:00 Snowboarding, Flying, and Lifelong Learning
55:35 The Surprising Origin of Writing Drownproof
57:40 Measuring Impact Beyond Money
59:45 Redefining Wealth and Financial Freedom
Battle Planners: Pick yours up today!
Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto.
For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood.
Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
What Self-Care for Men Actually Looks Like | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler confronts the growing cultural hostility toward men and dismantles the superficial social media fluff around male "self-care." Instead of empty buzzwords …
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In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler confronts the growing cultural hostility toward men and dismantles the superficial social media fluff around male "self-care." Instead of empty buzzwords, Ryan delivers ten actionable, non-negotiable daily habits every man must cultivate to lead himself, protect his household, and stand as a true ambassador for masculinity.
From waking up with deliberate intention and physically conditioning the body to maintaining financial stewardship, living by a strict moral code, and embracing intentional hardship, this episode provides the exact framework men need to reclaim focus and master their lives. Pick two habits and start building today.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Reclaiming Masculinity in a Hostile Culture
06:30 - Defining Real Self-Care for Men
08:30 - Rule 1: Wake Up With Intention
11:55 - Rule 2: Train Your Mind, Body, and Soul
14:40 - Rule 3: Read for Application, Not Status
18:40 - Rule 4: Join a Real Brotherhood
21:40 - Rule 5: Track Your Budget and Buy Back Time
25:40 - Rule 6: Be Present in Your Home
26:40 - Rule 7: Own Your Mistakes
27:20 - Rule 8: Accept and Process Your Emotions
29:40 - Rule 9: Live by an Unshakable Code
33:20 - Rule 10: Do Difficult Things With Purpose
35:20 - Pick Two Practices and Take Action
Battle Planners: Pick yours up today!
Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto.
For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood.
Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
Firing Your Friend, Leading Your Family When in Doubt, and Talking to Your Dad Before It's Too Late | ASK ME ANYTHING
In this episode of Ask Me Anything, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen discuss the importance of living intentionally, making the most of time with loved ones, and taking responsibility for personal decisions. They …
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In this episode of Ask Me Anything, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen discuss the importance of living intentionally, making the most of time with loved ones, and taking responsibility for personal decisions. They debate the death penalty and the public broadcasting of executions before answering listener questions about dating after divorce, fatherhood after children leave home, staying consistent when progress slows, and handling workplace disappointments.
The conversation also explores firing a friend who isn't performing, the value of honest feedback, and why clear communication matters in difficult situations. Finally, they discuss how fathers can encourage their children to embrace outdoor adventures and family experiences.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Episode Opener
00:50 - Making the Most of Life and Time with Loved Ones
03:04 - The Death Penalty and Public Executions
10:33 - Attention, Incentives, and Personal Responsibility
14:37 - Dating After Divorce: When Should Your Kids Meet Someone New?
21:11 - Fatherhood After Your Children Leave Home
27:23 - Staying Consistent When Results Stop Being Exciting
32:22 - Drifting Through Life vs. Acting Intentionally
34:27 - Shackleton's Expedition and the Power of Intentionality
39:55 - Pride vs. Knowing Your Worth at Work
48:55 - The Importance of Honest Feedback
53:54 - Hiring Your Best Friend: Can You Fire Him Without Losing the Friendship?
01:02:01 - Why Uncertainty Creates Stress
01:05:42 - Getting Your Teenager Interested in Outdoor Adventures
Battle Planners: Pick yours up today!
Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto.
For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood.
Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
IAN WENDT | Brotherhood Isn't a Luxury
Men today are lonelier, more exhausted, and more divided than ever, and most of them won't reach out for help until their world is already falling apart. Today I sit down in person with Ian Wendt to talk about …
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Men today are lonelier, more exhausted, and more divided than ever, and most of them won't reach out for help until their world is already falling apart. Today I sit down in person with Ian Wendt to talk about why brotherhood is a necessity and not a luxury. We get into the isolation of men, the decline of the institutions that used to bring us together, and why so many guys only show up once their wife has pushed them through the door.
From there, we go into the bigger picture: the forces working to divide us along the most emotional lines possible, why nuance is where the truth lives, how algorithms build our lenses for us, and what it means to be in the world but not of it. Ian also shares what it cost him to speak up when silence would have been easier, and why becoming a father made that choice for him.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 Episode Introduction
03:00 Montana Knife Gift
04:53 Growing Up and Hunting Aspirations
11:08 Why Connection is a Necessity, Not a Luxury
17:53 Exhaustion, the Rat Race, and Apathy
22:36 The Men's Mental Health Crisis and Brotherhood
27:11 The Agenda to Isolate Men
34:24 Manufactured Distractions and National Court Cases
41:29 Social Media Algorithms and False Narratives
46:16 The Demoralization of Truth and Society
48:43 Dissecting the True Purpose of Conspiracies
58:24 Politicians, Empty Influencers, and the Future
01:05:26 Leveraging the Digital World Without Being Consumed
Battle Planners: Pick yours up today!
Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto.
For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood.
Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
Modern Vulnerability is a Scam | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler breaks down why the popular concept of "vulnerability" is being misconstrued in modern culture . By definition, vulnerability means susceptibility to harm and …
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In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler breaks down why the popular concept of "vulnerability" is being misconstrued in modern culture . By definition, vulnerability means susceptibility to harm and weakness - traits that undermine a man's core responsibility to protect, provide, and preside . Rather than glorifying weakness for sympathy, men should replace vulnerability with humility, honesty, and discernment .
Ryan explains how to identify weaknesses to shore them up, share truthful struggles only with trusted brothers who have earned your trust, and avoid the twin traps of total isolation or emotional leaking . Plus, learn details about the upcoming Order of Man War Room event focused on overcoming five foundational fears every man faces .
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - Introduction: The Problem with "Vulnerability"
02:19 - Defining Vulnerability: Why It Means Weakness
03:10 - The Castle Analogy: Shoring Up Defenses
04:46 - What to Use Instead: Humility and Honesty
07:00 - The Dopamine Trap of Modern Vulnerability
08:00 - Applying Humility in Real Life
10:00 - Living in Honesty and Dealing in Reality
15:36 - Discernment: Who Has Earned Your Trust?
19:12 - Protecting the Skeleton Key
21:00 - The Two Dangers: Walled Off vs. Leaking
26:40 - Order of Man War Room Invitation
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A Cheating Friend, Earning Back Your Wife's Trust, and When Keeping the Peace Becomes Cowardice | ASK ME ANYTHING
Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen tackle six questions about friendship, marriage, parenting, career, preparedness, and personal growth. They discuss how to confront a friend who is cheating, rebuild credibility …
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Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen tackle six questions about friendship, marriage, parenting, career, preparedness, and personal growth. They discuss how to confront a friend who is cheating, rebuild credibility after repeatedly abandoning self-improvement efforts, and navigate a teenager's decision to skip college for the trades.
They also explore the line between healthy preparedness and obsession, maintaining boundaries in a co-parenting situation, and whether loyalty to an employer is still worthwhile. Throughout the episode, Ryan and Kipp return to a common theme: consistency, responsibility, and taking ownership of your choices rather than waiting for circumstances or other people to change.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Introduction
13:46 - Confronting a Friend Who Is Cheating
18:44 - Rebuilding Credibility Through Consistency
33:07 - College vs. the Trades
42:21 - Preparedness vs. Paranoia
48:58 - Parenting Across Two Households
53:10 - Is Employer Loyalty Worth It?
1:06:18 - The Case for Taking Action Now
1:08:13 - War Room Announcement
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RON WHITE | A Trained Brain Is a Powerful Tool
If you forget a man's name two seconds after he says it, your memory isn't the problem. You weren't listening. That's the case my guest today, two-time USA Memory Champion Ron White, makes, and he backs it up …
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If you forget a man's name two seconds after he says it, your memory isn't the problem. You weren't listening. That's the case my guest today, two-time USA Memory Champion Ron White, makes, and he backs it up with a system any man can use: ask yourself one well-worded question before you shake a hand, pin the name to the most distinctive feature on the face, and review it before the forgetting curve wipes it out.
We also build a mind palace in real time using the furniture in my studio. Ron shows how the same method lets you give a speech without notes, retain what you paid to learn at a conference, carry a to-do list in your head, and remember the script when a customer objects. We get into why action and emotion lock things into long-term memory, the major system and character-action-object method he used to memorize a deck of cards in record time, and why memory comes down to training and intention, not talent.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Epsiode Introduction
04:20 - Connecting with Corey
04:44 - The "Brain Athlete" Shirt & Andy Elliott's Advice
07:06 - 3-Minute Street Hacks for Learning Fast
08:13 - The Mind Palace System for Public Speaking
12:07 - Walkthrough: Memorizing Five Speech Points
15:07 - Visuals, Action, & Emotion in Memory
20:30 - Practical Everyday Memory Applications
23:56 - Overcoming the "Bad with Names" Excuse
25:40 - Calming Brain Chatter with Focused Questions
28:13 - Linking Names to Facial Features
32:20 - USA Memory Records & The Major System
38:42 - Advanced Memory Palace: Character-Action-Object (CAO)
46:43 - How Rhythm and Music Lock In Information
48:38 - Body and Vehicle Palaces for Daily To-Do Lists
52:59 - Retaining Key Points from Conferences & Seminars
01:00:15 - Review Systems & The Phone Flashcard Hack
01:04:15 - How a Telemarketing Call Launched Ron's Memory Career
01:06:10 - Keynote Speaking & Memorizing Sales Scripts
01:09:20 - Memorizing 7,500 Fallen Soldiers & Media Audits
01:11:43 - Guest Socials and Course Info
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Cornell: Where Have the Real Men Gone? | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler dives deep into the high-profile Cornell controversy to break down the critical differences between legal culpability, moral responsibility, and mainstream …
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In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler dives deep into the high-profile Cornell controversy to break down the critical differences between legal culpability, moral responsibility, and mainstream media narratives. Addressing the ongoing cultural attack on men, Ryan challenges the popular claim that masculinity itself is inherently toxic.
Instead, he explains the distinction between raw, amoral masculinity and mature, righteous manliness grounded in divine principles. Ryan calls on men to stop outsourcing their morality to institutions, start holding their peers accountable, and actively model strength, virtue, and leadership for the next generation. Tune in to explore what it truly takes to restore real men in today's society.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Introduction & The Cornell Controversy
02:35 - Legal Culpability vs. Moral Responsibility
09:50 - Deconstructing Anti-Male Narratives
18:22 - Due Process and the Flaws of Public Opinion
25:50 - Masculinity vs. Manliness Defined
32:00 - The Role of Objective Morality and Righteousness
40:10 - Stop Outsourcing Your Sense of Morality
43:30 - Policing Our Own and Embracing Confrontation
47:09 - Raising the Next Generation & Modeling Virtuous Behavior
54:34 - Joining the Iron Council
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Daughters Who are Dating, Betrayed in Business, and Divided Faith at Home | ASK ME ANYTHING
Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen tackle five questions from the Order of Man community in this episode of Ask Me Anything. They discuss making a major career change after decades in public service, finding …
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Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen tackle five questions from the Order of Man community in this episode of Ask Me Anything. They discuss making a major career change after decades in public service, finding forgiveness after betrayal, setting boundaries while serving family and friends, navigating different faiths within a marriage, and protecting a teenage daughter without damaging the relationship.
Along the way, Ryan and Kipp explore entrepreneurship, AI, service, martyrdom, grace, parenting, dating, and the importance of maintaining influence through trust rather than control.
The conversation also includes a wholesome discussion about defending the people we care about and a look at Ryan's new studio and Origin gear.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - New Studio, New Setup
10:50 - The Importance of Nuance
17:40 - Origin Boots and Hunting Gear
21:55 - Retirement, Risk and Entrepreneurship
35:00 - Why Retirement Isn't the Goal
39:49 - Forgiveness After Betrayal
50:59 - When Everyone Depends on You
57:00 - The Trap of Martyrdom
1:00:36 - When Spouses No Longer Share a Faith
1:08:32 - Protecting Your Daughter Without Pushing Her Away
1:14:10 - Setting Boundaries With Your Daughter's Dates
1:18:13 - Closing and Final Call to Action
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CASEY LOFTHOUSE | Creating Impact Over Income
Most men are chasing a dent in the world, followers, recognition, a bigger stage, while overlooking the one place they can make the biggest difference: the town they live in and the people right next to them …
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Most men are chasing a dent in the world, followers, recognition, a bigger stage, while overlooking the one place they can make the biggest difference: the town they live in and the people right next to them. Today's conversation is about impact over income, why being known by ten thousand people in your own community beats being famous online, and why we're robbing our kids by shielding them from the consequences of their bad choices. We also get into giving yourself permission to try new things without committing to them forever, managing risk without letting fear run your life, and knowing when to say no so service doesn't burn you out.
My guest, Casey Lofthouse, is a mechanic, tow operator, former search and rescue volunteer, mule packer, country line-dancer, and one of the most capable and generous men I know. He's also someone I'd call first if I were in a pickle. If you've ever felt like you don't matter because you're not "making your mark," this conversation will change how you see your own value. Whether you're broke down, stuck in the sand, or just having a bad day, it's all part of the adventure. What matters is who shows up.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - From Making Money to Making an Impact
04:43 - The Power of Small-Town Accountability
09:09 - Teaching Kids Personal Responsibility
11:19 - Why Authenticity Matters
13:29 - The Importance of Personal Accountability
15:19 - Raising Kids to Be Responsible Adults
19:12 - Learning From the Consequences of Your Choices
25:29 - The Masculine Side of Art, Music, and Dance
29:21 - Give Yourself Permission to Try New Things
34:52 - Understanding Risk and Knowing Your Limits
40:58 - How Community Creates Lifelong Relationships
45:06 - The Impact of Serving Others
49:06 - Being There When People Need You
53:03 - Setting an Example When People Are Watching
56:59 - Living Authentically in a Social Media World
58:32 - The Unexpected Connections That Come From Helping People
01:00:54 - Why Serving Others Is So Rewarding
01:02:50 - Knowing When to Say No
01:05:07 - Knowing When It's Time to Move On
01:06:55 - Raising Kids Who Surpass You
01:08:00 - What's Next for Casey?
01:10:23 - Becoming the Best Version of Yourself
01:12:19 - Casey's Off-Road Recovery and Life in the Community
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5 Wounds Every Man Must Heal | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
Most men live their lives actively ignoring the pain and suffering they have experienced, leading to destructive behavior, self-sabotage, and sedation. In this solo episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler …
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Most men live their lives actively ignoring the pain and suffering they have experienced, leading to destructive behavior, self-sabotage, and sedation. In this solo episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler breaks down the five core wounds every man must address to build healthy relationships with himself and his family. Ryan details the unblessed, betrayal, humiliation, abandonment, and failure wounds, explaining exactly how they manifest in our daily lives.
Moving beyond theory, he provides simple, highly tactical fixes for each wound so you can begin the healing process immediately. Whether you need to practice delegating a task to build trust or making amends for a past mistake, these steps will help you take back responsibility.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - The Five Wounds Men Ignore
02:05 - The Unblessed Wound
04:26 - The Betrayal Wound
09:06 - The Humiliation Wound
14:26 - The Abandonment Wound
19:10 - The Failure Wound
25:11 - Implementing the Five Fixes
27:37 - The Iron Council and New Studio
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Bad promotions, Good Cults, and Drunk Friends | ASK ME ANYTHING
Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen tackle another round of Ask Me Anything questions, covering career ambition, fatherhood, divorce, sobriety, friendship, faith, Stoicism, hunting injuries, masculinity, money and …
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Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen tackle another round of Ask Me Anything questions, covering career ambition, fatherhood, divorce, sobriety, friendship, faith, Stoicism, hunting injuries, masculinity, money and men's brotherhood. They discuss the hidden costs of achieving your goals, how to rebuild trust with your children, why friendships require intentional effort, and how to redefine your sense of worth beyond income.
They also explore whether Christian principles and Stoic philosophy can coexist, adapting outdoor pursuits after injury, and what to do when others misunderstand your men's group. Throughout, the conversation emphasizes intentionality, responsibility, consistency, connection and surrounding yourself with men committed to growth.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Recording Setup & Connection Issues
04:37 - Kipp Returns from Europe
06:30 - The Hidden Cost of Career Success
13:33 - Can You Overdo Affection as a Father?
19:36 - Rebuilding Trust After Divorce
27:57 - Sobriety and Finding Fun Without Alcohol
37:07 - Maintaining Long-Distance Male Friendships
39:55 - Christianity, Stoicism and Truth
46:46 - Staying Connected to the Outdoors After Injury
48:59 - When Your Wife Makes More Money
54:41 - Defending Brotherhood Without Defending It
56:46 - The Iron Council
57:45 - Staying Connected with Order of Man
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ALEX HARRIS | Why the "Let's Find Out" Mentality Matters to Men
Most of us think courage is something you either have or you don't. But what if it's actually a decision you make over and over, the same way you'd train a muscle? Today's conversation is about what happens …
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Most of us think courage is something you either have or you don't. But what if it's actually a decision you make over and over, the same way you'd train a muscle? Today's conversation is about what happens when you stop asking "what if I fail" and start asking, "let's find out." We get into why 90% of what we fear never happens, how to raise kids with grit in a culture built for convenience, and why the most dangerous thing a man can do isn't the risk he takes…it's the potential he leaves untapped.
My guest today, Alex Harris, has summited Everest, walked unsupported to the South Pole, and made the first-ever unsupported crossing of Arabia's "Empty Quarter" on foot. But this isn't a conversation about extreme sports. It's about the mindset that separates the guy who stays inside the fence from the guy who goes and finds out what's on the other side of the wall. If you've ever felt like you're sitting on something you haven't had the guts to go pursue, this one's for you.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Introduction & Hiking the Zion Narrows
04:55 - Changing Risk Profile & Fatherhood
08:45 - Evaluating Risk vs. Reward
09:49 - Broad Peak Expedition & Turning Point
14:18 - Lower-Risk Adventures & Family
18:52 - Cultivating Adventure in Children
22:21 - Building Grit and Life in South Africa
23:51 - Media Narratives vs. South African Realities
26:51 - Reasons for Immigrating to Texas
32:41 - The Journey to US Citizenship
36:56 - Cultural Differences and Adapting to Texas
46:17 - Unplanned Path to Becoming an Extreme Athlete
50:39 - Curiosity and Unlocking Potential
53:57 - Redefining Failure and Managing Fear
01:01:27 - Forging Untrodden Paths & The Arabian Desert
01:06:00 - A Unique Moment in Cave Exploration
01:11:41 - Purpose, Choice, and Stifled Curiosity
01:15:30 - Where to Connect with Alex Harris
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If You Can't Communicate, You Can't Win | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
Communication is one of the most powerful tools we have. It allows us to connect with people, share ideas, build relationships, rally people around a common cause, keep people safe, and create opportunities …
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Communication is one of the most powerful tools we have. It allows us to connect with people, share ideas, build relationships, rally people around a common cause, keep people safe, and create opportunities.
But communication can also become the thing that holds you back.
In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan breaks down five practical ways men can become more effective communicators - not by simply talking more, but by becoming more intentional about how they use their words, listen, and connect with others.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - If You Can't Communicate, You Can't Win
00:48 - Why Communication Matters
03:04 - Communication: Your Key or Your Killer
04:15 - #1: Say Less but Mean More
07:41 - #2: Listen to Understand
10:09 - Use Your Two Ears and One Mouth
10:45 - #3: Match Your Tone to the Stakes
15:04 - Why Your Tone Matters
17:25 - #4: Use Small Talk as Leverage
19:32 - Small Talk Creates Connection
21:55 - #5: Own Your Words
24:42 - Express Yourself and Lead
27:04 - Say What You Mean
28:50 - Follow Through on Your Words
31:14 - Words Only Have Weight When You Back Them Up
32:23 - The Five Keys to Better Communication
33:23 - Join the Iron Council
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Gifts with Strings Attached, Embarrassing Habits, & Protecting Your Children from the Digital Realm | ASK ME ANYTHING
Ryan Michler and Alan Placer tackle ten questions from men dealing with family, identity, fatherhood, marriage, pain, career, and personal responsibility. They discuss how to set boundaries when financial gifts …
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Ryan Michler and Alan Placer tackle ten questions from men dealing with family, identity, fatherhood, marriage, pain, career, and personal responsibility. They discuss how to set boundaries when financial gifts come with strings attached, what to do when a teenage son is drawn toward extreme online communities, and how to separate identity from a sport or physical ability.
They also explore recognizing your parents as imperfect human beings, building self-respect without external validation, navigating disagreement over having another child, and understanding the limits of financial provision in marriage. The episode closes with a spirited debate over what actually qualifies as a sport.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - The Great Sport Debate
07:03 - When a Financial Gift Comes With Strings
11:35 - Embarrassing Habits at 25
18:19 - Helping a Son in Extreme Online Spaces
28:05 - Chronic Pain: Strength or Stubbornness?
37:31 - Identity After a Physical Setback
44:41 - Don't Punish Your Child for Your Past
52:10 - Building Self-Respect Without Validation
59:05 - When Dad Stops Being a Hero
01:05:59 - When Husband and Wife Disagree About Another Child
01:15:17 - When Providing Hurts Your Marriage
01:22:31 - The Sport Debate Continues
01:26:18 - War Room Invitation
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BRETT BARTHOLEMEW | The Flawed Leader Advantage... And How to Make it Work for You
Most of what passes for leadership advice today is polish. You say the right things, avoid conflict, perform confidence until you believe it yourself. This episode is about the opposite. We're talking about …
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Most of what passes for leadership advice today is polish. You say the right things, avoid conflict, perform confidence until you believe it yourself. This episode is about the opposite. We're talking about what happens when you stop performing and start operating: how to build relationships that are actually real instead of transactional, how to handle conflict without flinching or blowing it up, and why the most effective leaders aren't the cleanest; they're the ones willing to own their flaws and use them.
We get into the idea of the "antihero." He's not a villain, not a saint, but someone pragmatic enough to do what the moment requires instead of what looks good on camera. We talk about credibility versus performative influence, why so much content today is loud but hollow, and how the stories we tell ourselves (culturally and individually), shape whether we actually grow or just look like we are. If you're tired of leadership advice that sounds good and does nothing, this one's for you.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - The Power of Real Relationships
05:44 - Why Transactional Relationships Destroy Trust
07:16 - How to Handle Conflict Like an Adult
10:50 - There Is No Magical Phrase for Communication
12:45 - The Problem With Contrarian Content
16:55 - The Anti-Hero Advantage
21:41 - Why "Regular Guys" Don't Always Get Heard
25:26 - Pragmatism, Influence and Social Capital
28:50 - Understanding Your Conflict Archetype
33:30 - Integrating Your Dark Side
39:14 - Do the Ends Justify the Means?
44:05 - Why You Don't Have to Be Liked
46:17 - Dealing With Internal and External Conflict
50:17 - Why Culture Has Replaced Self-Development
53:55 - The Truth Just Isn't Sexy
55:53 - The Five Skills Everyone Needs
59:35 - The Value of Admitting Your Own Ignorance
01:03:00 - Learning to Challenge Your Own Ideas
01:04:00 - When Communication Goes Wrong and What to Learn From It
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Why Culture Loves to Hate Men | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler tackles the cultural double standard between misogyny and misandry. While modern discourse frequently condemns the hatred of women, systemic contempt toward …
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In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler tackles the cultural double standard between misogyny and misandry. While modern discourse frequently condemns the hatred of women, systemic contempt toward men - misandry - is often ignored or dismissed as simple individual preference.
Ryan breaks down the etymology of these terms and addresses critical disparities facing men today, including family court bias, false accusations, workforce declines, and the alarming male suicide rate. Moving beyond victimhood narratives, he distinguishes raw masculinity from true manliness, demonstrating how masculine traits are not inherently toxic but require proper direction. Tune in to understand why society must evaluate both sides of the aisle to cultivate genuine accountability, strength, and human flourishing.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Defining Misogyny vs. Misandry
02:26 - The Double Standard in Cultural Discourse
04:46 - Etymology and the Power of Words
09:40 - Custody Bias and Courtroom Discouragement
10:45 - The Impact of False Accusations
12:01 - Labor Force Declines and Biological Aptitude
14:30 - The Male Suicide Epidemic and Empathy Gaps
15:45 - Rejecting the Victimhood Scoreboard
18:56 - Masculinity vs. Manliness: Harnessing Raw Power
23:18 - Stop Neutering Young Men
25:21 - Taking Sovereignty Over Your Worth
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Failure to Launch, Producing More Than You Consume, and Mentoring Young Men | ASK ME ANYTHING
Ryan Michler is joined by Alan Placer for this week's Ask Me Anything, tackling eight questions about fatherhood, masculinity, family, legacy, grief, mentorship, co-parenting, and business. They discuss when …
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Ryan Michler is joined by Alan Placer for this week's Ask Me Anything, tackling eight questions about fatherhood, masculinity, family, legacy, grief, mentorship, co-parenting, and business. They discuss when helping an adult child becomes enabling, what it means to be a real man, showing up for a parent with dementia, and navigating a child's relationship with a good stepfather.
They also explore letting go of an inherited business legacy, dealing with infertility, becoming a mentor before you feel ready, and the hidden cost of being constantly available to your business. Along the way, Ryan and Alan return to a common theme: responsibility, boundaries, progress, and choosing to show up as the kind of man you want to be.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Opening & Alan Placer Joins the AMA
01:26 - The Lindsay Clancy Trial & Personal Responsibility
09:26 - Supporting an Adult Child Without Enabling Him
17:01 - What Makes a Real Man?
24:36 - Showing Up for a Parent With Dementia
35:08 - Co-Parenting With a Good Stepfather
43:28 - Letting Go of a Legacy Your Child Didn't Choose
49:01 - Carrying the Grief of Infertility
56:18 - What Qualifies a Man to Be a Mentor?
1:02:16 - The Hidden Cost of Always Being Available
1:10:13 - Wrapping Up With Alan Placer
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BRENT OLIVER | You Are the Master of Your Fate
Most men will never come close to the kind of suffering Brent Oliver has lived through. And, that's exactly why this conversation matters. Today we're talking about the difference between a man who lets his …
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Most men will never come close to the kind of suffering Brent Oliver has lived through. And, that's exactly why this conversation matters. Today we're talking about the difference between a man who lets his circumstances define him and a man who decides, moment by moment, that he's still the one in control. You're going to hear what it actually looks like to rebuild a body and a mind from nothing, and why the story you tell yourself about your pain determines whether it makes you dangerous or makes you soft.
This episode is about the strength to overcome the worst moments of your life and the idea that these moments aren't happening to you, they're shaping you into either a weapon or a victim. Brent breaks down why he refused to let anyone see weakness, why he refuses pain medication to this day, and why "effort equals outcome" isn't a slogan for him; it's the only reason he's alive. If you've ever used your circumstances as an excuse to coast, this conversation is going to make that a lot harder to do.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Episode Introduction
01:04 - Connecting with Ryan
03:58 - The Tragic 1991 Motorcycle Accident
05:59 - The "N of 1" Medical Study
10:12 - Understanding Incomplete Quadriplegia
12:30 - Relearning Muscle Control & Function
15:08 - Rejecting Prognoses & Forging the Mind
16:49 - A Turning Point Night in the Hospital
21:15 - Victim Mentality vs. Becoming a Good Weapon
22:15 - True Strength & Modern Vulnerability
27:26 - Overcoming the Fear of Being a Burden
31:22 - What Separates Warriors from Victims
36:21 - Choosing Mindset Over Pain Medication
38:21 - Dealing with CRPS & Severe Phantom Pain
39:42 - Mind Control, Focus, and Detachment Techniques
46:14 - Finding a Path Forward Through the Outdoors
49:55 - Perspectives on Dark Moments & Hope
55:33 - Advocating for Outdoor Accessibility and the Disabled Community
01:04:33 - How the Artificial Larynx Works
01:07:17 - Brent Oliver Foundation & Closing Thoughts
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