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Is Chemistry a Red Flag?

October 24, 2025 · 14 min

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Is heart-fluttering chemistry necessary or is it "toxic"?

Lately, I’ve heard some people say that chemistry is DANGEROUS! TOXIC! Run away! Red flag!

Ridiculous. Tell me you’ve never had life-changing sex before without telling me.

Chemistry is the reaction. The friction, the spark. You need it in order to create any kind of growth.

“Meh” isn’t chemistry and “meh” isn’t going to change your life.


In today’s episode:

  • What is chemistry?
  • Why it’s essential in every important relationship in your life
  • When chemistry actually can be a red flag
  • Intensity and passion vs. “calm” in relationship
  • Safety and risk in relationship: no risk, no reward?
  • The ideal conditions for relationship alchemy
  • “But we’re such good buddies! We make such good partners!” Yeah, but are you fucking each other? Ever?
  • The root causes of reproductive issues

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