PF Unfiltered
- Episodes
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- Nov 10, 2026
About the podcast
Welcome to “PF Unfiltered,” where Pastor Femi Omotayo (PF) shares real-life wisdom and candid insights on life’s toughest questions. Join hosts Tunde “T Max” Makanjuola and Seun Allen-Taylor for unfiltered conversations on faith, money, relationships, and more. No sugar coating, just honest dialogue packed with practical gems to help you navigate life. Subscribe now for your weekly dose of PF’s authentic and insightful advice. Real Talk. Real Faith. Real Life.
Episodes 91
Taking Credit vs Giving God Glory
Someone compliments your work. Do you simply say, “Thank you,” or respond with, “Glory be to God”? According to PF, you can say both, but the real question is: who gets the credit?In this episode of PF …
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Someone compliments your work. Do you simply say, “Thank you,” or respond with, “Glory be to God”? According to PF, you can say both, but the real question is: who gets the credit?In this episode of PF Unfiltered, PF, Esther and Roseline tackle a question many Christians wrestle with: How do you acknowledge your abilities, celebrate your achievements and take pride in your hard work without taking God's glory?Roseline shares her therapist's advice on learning to celebrate personal wins, while PF offers a different perspective: celebrate your achievements, but never lose sight of the One who makes them possible. After all, confidence becomes dangerous when we begin to rely solely on ourselves and lose sight of God.The discussion draws on biblical accounts such as Moses striking the rock, Rahab's red cord in Jericho and Peter's empty nets to unpack the difference between self-confidence and God-confidence. They also examine the pressure of the familiar “Do you not see your mates?” comparison trap many of us grew up with, and why trusting God should never be an excuse to neglect hard work.
💬 Be honest: when someone compliments you, what do you actually say? Thank you, glory to God, or both? Tell us below.
CHAPTERS
00:00 "Thank You" or "Glory to God"? Today's Question
01:20 Why PF Says Both: Thank You AND Glory to God
02:58 How Moses Took God's Glory at the Rock
06:31 "Celebrate Your Wins": Therapy Advice vs. Scripture
10:46 Got a Promotion? Don't Gloss Over What God Did
13:21 African Parents, Grades and the Comparison Trap
15:57 David, Goliath and Where Real Confidence Comes From20:38 Rahab, Jericho and the Red Cloth of Faith
25:18 "Submarine Christianity": Hiding Your Faith at Work
26:59 Peter's Empty Nets: When Your Own Strength Runs Out
33:35 So, Can Christians Ever Take Credit?
36:35 You've Been Walking on Water This Whole Time
38:14 For Christians Who Feel Like They're Drowning
40:46 The Farmer and the Rain: Work Hard, Trust God
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Church People Are The Worst Customers
Are church people really the worst customers? PF, Esther and Kenneth get into why so many people expect Christians to be perfect, why "I don't take church clients" says more about the vendor than the customer …
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Are church people really the worst customers? PF, Esther and Kenneth get into why so many people expect Christians to be perfect, why "I don't take church clients" says more about the vendor than the customer, and whether pastors, musicians and church volunteers should be paid for their work.This is a funny, honest conversation about Christian business, church expectations and money. It covers the double standard people apply to churchgoers, the "earn God's favor" mindset, what Luke 10:7 says about paying workers, and why a $100 cake is never just $10 of ingredients. If you run a business, serve in church, or have ever asked for a "church discount," this one is for you.💬 Business owners: what's the one thing you wish customers understood? Customers: what do you wish vendors knew? Tell us in the comments and we may read it next episode.
CHAPTERS
00:00 Do church people make the worst customers? The 1–10 survey
01:51 "Worst customers": myth or truth?
02:56 Why we expect church people to be perfect
06:11 The double standard when one group gets labeled
08:16 Why church people shouldn't be held to a higher standard
11:21 The merit mindset: trying to earn God's favor
14:33 Should Christians give their skills away for free?
16:51 Should pastors and musicians be paid?
19:17 "The worker deserves his wages" (Luke 10:7)
21:09 What full-time ministry actually costs
23:16 Church wants excellence, but excellence takes time
28:55 Why you can't ask for a discount: cakes, hair and Bentleys
34:08 "I don't take church clients": what it says about the vendor
36:12 Know your value: the meat pie lesson📖
MENTIONED: Luke 10:7 · Deuteronomy 25:4 ("do not muzzle the ox")
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Should Your Pastor Be Your Friend?
Should your pastor be your friend or is there a line? It's Pastor Appreciation Month, and PF gets honest about the things he'll never tell his congregation, and why he refuses to let anyone put him on a …
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Should your pastor be your friend or is there a line? It's Pastor Appreciation Month, and PF gets honest about the things he'll never tell his congregation, and why he refuses to let anyone put him on a pedestal.Esther and Lorraine kick things off with the appreciation question nobody wants to answer: what have you actually done for your pastor? (PF's love language is gifts. He would like you to know that.) From there, the conversation turns serious. PF breaks down the different levels of friendship: spouse, close friends, leadership, congregation and why mutual respect matters more than total access. He also shares three stories: the day a church leader arrived at his open front door in the middle of an argument between PF and his wife; the church member who told him "I don't like my pastor to be normal," and why PF refuses to be put on a pedestal; and a phone call with another pastor that went wrong from the very first question.If you've ever wondered whether you can be close to your pastor, or why it gets complicated when you are, this one is for you.💬 Real talk: is your pastor your friend or do you prefer them on a pedestal? Tell us in the comments.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - Cold Open: "Are You Ready to Be Unfiltered?"00:23 - Pastor Appreciation Month: What Did You Do for Your Pastor?03:23 - Should Your Pastor Be Your Friend?04:23 - Why Praying for Your Pastor Is Like a Car Wash06:13 - Is Your Pastor Actually Your Friend?06:52 - The Different Levels of Friendship08:41 - The Fight a Church Leader Overheard09:37 - "I Don't Like My Pastor to Be Normal": Pastors & Pedestals10:34 - The Pastor Who Asked "What Can I Do for You?"📱 CONNECT WITH US:• Instagram: @pfunfiltered• TikTok: @pfunfiltered• X (Twitter): @pfunfiltered• Listen on Spotify: @pfunfiltered#pfunfiltered #pastors #faithandculture #churchlife
I Am Spiritual But Not Religious 2
Why do we cancel people based on a snapshot of their life, when God judges by something we can't even see? In Part 2 of "I Believe in God But I'm Not Religious," Pastor Femi, Lorraine and Tunde get into what …
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Why do we cancel people based on a snapshot of their life, when God judges by something we can't even see? In Part 2 of "I Believe in God But I'm Not Religious," Pastor Femi, Lorraine and Tunde get into what actually makes someone a Christian, and why so much of how we judge each other has nothing to do with God's standard.PF explains that God counts you as a Christian because of what Christ did, not because of what you do, and that spiritual fruit grows in stages, so writing someone off at one moment is like judging the sun at 5 a.m. The crew unpacks the biblical line "judge things, not people," why the church publicly shames some sins while ignoring others like covetousness, and the difference between discernment and judgment. Tunde pushes back on whether a verbal confession should change how we treat people, which opens a real debate about the household of faith and Jesus' encounter with the Syrophoenician woman.Missed Part 1? Watch it here💬 Be honest: which sin does your church treat as "worse" than it is, and which one does it ignore? Tell us in the comments.CHAPTERS00:00 Part 2 recap: religion vs spirituality01:01 What actually makes someone a Christian?03:28 Faith vs fruit: why growth happens in stages07:29 Judge things, not people12:40 Confession as the baseline (and what we owe everyone)15:08 The hierarchy of sin the Bible doesn't teach17:37 If works don't save us, what's the point?22:13 Examine your own heart first25:18 Covetousness: the sin church never cancels28:06 Discernment vs judgment in real life29:57 Church discipline should restore, not humiliate34:08 "Christ makes sense, Christianity doesn't"38:05 Should believers be treated differently? The $5 debate47:12 Final word: humility and grace📱 CONNECT WITH US• Instagram: @pfunfiltered• TikTok: @pfunfiltered• X: @pfunfiltered#pfunfiltered #spirituality #religious #stopjudging #gracenotworks #christianity
Why Young Men Are Running Back To Church And Young Women Are Walking Out
Is the Bible misogynistic, or have we only been reading one verse of it?For the first time in 25 years, men are out-attending women at church (Barna, 2025). Gen Z and Millennial men are filling the pews while …
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Is the Bible misogynistic, or have we only been reading one verse of it?For the first time in 25 years, men are out-attending women at church (Barna, 2025). Gen Z and Millennial men are filling the pews while young women quietly walk out, and online, the Bible is getting the blame. PF and the crew dig into why. They take on the verses people quote most (1 Timothy's "let the women be silent," Ephesians 5's "wives, submit") and set them beside the ones people skip: "submit to one another," "husbands, lay down your life," and 1 Peter 3:7's warning that a husband who dishonors his wife has his prayers hindered.From Deborah and Esther to the women who first announced the resurrection, PF argues one verse can't define the whole of Scripture, while the co-hosts push back on patriarchy, translation bias, and Christians who use the Bible to control women.If you've ever wondered whether there's still room for you in the faith as a woman, stay to the end. PF speaks to you directly.💬 Is the Bible misogynistic, or are we reading it in snippets? Tell us in the comments. We read every one.CHAPTERS00:00 Why young men are running back to church00:36 Is the Bible misogynistic? The 1 Timothy question04:10 Deborah, Esther & the women Scripture elevates06:10 "Guide the house" vs "master of the home"08:41 Building a theology on one verse12:32 Old Testament laws that seem unfair to women14:40 Old Testament law vs the New Testament17:33 Did translators' biases shape the Bible?20:02 The Bible vs Christians who misuse it23:06 Ephesians 5: what "submit" really means26:55 Is the church just patriarchy?31:41 Why the church lost men and is winning them back33:16 Why young women are walking out37:00 PF's message to young women doubting their faith📱 FOLLOW THE SHOWInstagram / TikTok / X: @pfunfiltered🎧 Spotify & Apple Podcasts : PfunfilteredEmail: [email protected]📊 Barna data referenced: https://gloo.com/press/releases/new-study-shows-men-now-surpass-women-in-church-attendance-in-major-reversal#pfunfiltered #bible #misogyny #womeninthebible #genzchristian #faithdeconstruction
I Believe In God But I'm Not Religious
"I believe in God, but I'm not religious." You've heard it, maybe you've said it. But what does it actually mean, and is it enough?Pastor Femi (PF), Tunde Makanjuola and Loraine unpack spirituality and …
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"I believe in God, but I'm not religious." You've heard it, maybe you've said it. But what does it actually mean, and is it enough?Pastor Femi (PF), Tunde Makanjuola and Loraine unpack spirituality and religion, starting with what "spiritual" really means and whether being over-spiritual is a thing. The crew gets personal: Tunde was hit and called ungrateful for not standing during worship, and PF shares the overnight service that made him say, "This God we are describing is too small for me to give my life to."Is God more likely to hear you at 3 a.m.? Is church attendance a fair test of someone's faith? Would you date someone who believes in God but doesn't do church? And if unbelievers sometimes behave better than Christians, what actually makes someone a Christian?💬 Be honest: have you ever called yourself "spiritual but not religious"? What did you mean by it? Tell us in the comments.CHAPTERS00:00 Spiritual but not religious?02:05 Spiritual vs. religious: what's the difference05:02 Is being "over-spiritual" a real thing?08:25 Do prayer watches matter? Is God a morning person?10:57 Hit for not standing during worship13:20 "This God is too small for me"17:25 "Did you go to church on Sunday?"19:28 God sees your heart, people see your fruit26:08 Emotionalism isn't spirituality27:45 Dating someone who doesn't share your faith33:09 "Unbelievers treat me better than Christians"35:32 Friend of God vs. enemy of God38:42 What actually makes someone a Christian?42:21 Discernment vs. judgment in church📱 CONNECT WITH US• Instagram / TikTok / X: @pfunfiltered• Spotify / Apple Podcasts: pfunfiltered#pfunfiltered #spiritualnotreligious #faith #christianity
Giving vs Exploitation: Black Tax, Billing & Scams
Should you keep giving when you know some of those requests are scams? PF has a surprisingly freeing answer about black tax, generosity, and the line between being a blessing and being exploited.Most of us know …
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Should you keep giving when you know some of those requests are scams? PF has a surprisingly freeing answer about black tax, generosity, and the line between being a blessing and being exploited.Most of us know the messages: school fees, rent, a sick relative, and sometimes a roof that doesn't exist. In this episode, PF, Loraine and Kenneth get honest about black tax and "billing," why $100 here can change someone's month back home, and PF's rule that God only asks you to give what He has put in your hand. Then Loraine and Kenneth push back hard: shouldn't you build wealth first before you start giving it away? It becomes one of the most spirited Bible-vs-worldly-wisdom debates we've had, covering stewardship, the parable of the talents, curses and village superstition, and whether it's okay to give expecting something back.💬 Where do you draw the line: do you answer every request, or do you need proof first? Tell us in the comments.CHAPTERS00:00 Giving vs. exploitation: where's the line?00:47 "If you're asking me, you don't have it"02:54 Won't giving just enable them?03:53 The self-made myth: hard work doesn't explain your blessing04:42 What $100 means in naira: black tax back home06:37 PF's $5 rule: give only what God gave you08:30 Rent money vs. family vacation: who comes first?11:13 What if you find out you were scammed?11:53 Billing, materialism, and the pressure back home16:02 Can someone curse you through your gift?19:37 Village houses, deaths, and correlation vs. causation20:38 The excuses we use to avoid giving23:09 "I've been walking on water": PF's credit card story26:18 Build wealth first, then give? The big debate30:45 God's economy: enough for your need, not your greed33:37 Can you give expecting something back?36:13 Manna, saving, and why generosity is always right37:02 "I'd rather be the one they try to scam"38:38 Final takeaways and sponsor📱 CONNECT WITH US• Instagram: @pfunfiltered• TikTok: @pfunfiltered• X: @pfunfiltered• Listen on Spotify: PF Unfiltered• Listen on Apple Podcasts: PF Unfiltered🍞 This episode is sponsored by Barrow Avenue Bakery!Fresh, artisan baked goods made daily. When PF needs mental rest, he bakes, and when we need great bread, we go to Barrow Avenue Bakery.Visit: barrowavenue.comFollow on Instagram: @2barrowavenue (Barrow Avenue Bakery)#pfunfiltered #podcast #blacktax #generosity #africanchristian
The Heart Of Service
Everybody says they want to serve so why does modern church so often feel like a room full of people just watching? Season 5 is back, and Pastor Femi, Esther, and Tunde get honest about what SERVICE actually …
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Everybody says they want to serve so why does modern church so often feel like a room full of people just watching? Season 5 is back, and Pastor Femi, Esther, and Tunde get honest about what SERVICE actually looks like when no one's watching.This isn't a lecture on volunteering. It's a real conversation about rest without guilt, why "doing nothing" can be harder than working, and how serving inside a community is where faith actually grows roots. PF also does something you rarely hear from a pastor: he critiques the big-hall, concert-style Sunday format from the inside and explains why he still won't close the doors on Sunday morning.Along the way: the teacher's words that shaped him for 30 years, why he can't survive more than three days of vacation, and a candid disagreement about whether being "good" is something you're born as or something you're raised into.Chapters
00:00 — Season 5 is officially back01:01 — Why pastoring never clocks out03:00 — What "serving your kids" actually looks like07:34 — A calling, not just a job09:40 — Why doing nothing stresses PF out15:10 — Healing from "you're bone lazy"17:45 — Do you really have a heart of service?22:00 — "Being female doesn't make you better"23:46 — How serving in community changed everything26:05 — Service is just everyday chances to help29:30 — You can't do faith alone34:53 — Christianity became a spectator sport38:00 — A pastor admits Sunday service is broken40:22 — The church that only works financially🔔 Subscribe — we're building toward 100K.CONNECT• Instagram: @pfunfiltered• TikTok: @pfunfiltered• X: @pfunfiltered• Listen on Spotify & Apple Podcasts: [PF Unfiltered]#pfunfiltered #service #churchcommunity #christians
Why Dating “Potential” Is Ruining Christian Relationships
What happens when someone checks all your boxes… but still isn’t right for you?In this episode of PF Unfiltered, PF and the crew respond to real audience questions on relationships, singleness, sex, purity …
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What happens when someone checks all your boxes… but still isn’t right for you?In this episode of PF Unfiltered, PF and the crew respond to real audience questions on relationships, singleness, sex, purity, marriage, fear, standards, and the confusion a lot of Christians carry into modern dating.This conversation goes straight at unequally yoked relationships, why “boxes” can become walls, why fear disguises itself as standards, why some people are not looking for love but for a resume, and how Christians keep approaching marriage like they’re hiring staff instead of building a life with someone.PF also gets brutally honest about singleness, male disengagement from church, purity in a hyper-sexualized culture, and how desire gets stirred long before people admit it.In this episode:- What to do when someone checks all the boxes but doesn’t share your faith- The real difference between a standard and a wall- Why fear is shaping modern Christian dating- Why PF says marriage is not an employment contract- Why some men lose interest in marriage after repeated disappointment- Purity, porn, desire, and what people keep feeding their minds- Communication, sex, and difficult marriage questions from the commentsDrop your thoughts in the comments:Are Christians dating from conviction or from fear?Chapter Markers0:00 Adult Disclaimer1:29 Comment Questions Begin3:48 Unequally Yoked5:28 Marriage Is a Boxing Ring8:33 Love vs Religiosity9:04 Standards or Walls?10:40 Dating From Fear12:32 Love vs Checklists14:06 You're Not Hiring a Spouse18:52 The Singleness Block19:38 Single Women vs Single Men22:06 Why Church Feels Effeminate24:34 The 40-Year-Old Single Man27:50 Perfection Doesn’t Exist28:15 Sex and Purity29:02 What Ignites Desire31:06 Purity Takes Radical Choices32:11 Marry Quickly?34:49 Masturbation and Temptation38:39 Porn Rewires the Brain40:44 Sex, Marriage, and Communication#pfunfiltered #christiandating #relationships
Are You Following Christ Or Just Waiting For A Miracle?
Where did miracles go?In this episode of PF Unfiltered, PF tackles one of the biggest questions many Christians quietly ask: why does it feel like we don’t see miracles the way people talk about them in Acts …
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Where did miracles go?In this episode of PF Unfiltered, PF tackles one of the biggest questions many Christians quietly ask: why does it feel like we don’t see miracles the way people talk about them in Acts, revival stories, or old-school church culture?But the real answer is sharper than most people expect. PF argues that the modern church has confused the spectacular with the miraculous and in the process, we’ve turned Christ into a dispenser of comfort instead of the One miracles were always meant to reveal.This conversation goes straight at miracle culture, prosperity logic, emotionalism, transactional giving, and the dangerous habit of presenting Jesus as a problem solver instead of a Savior. If miracles are supposed to witness to Christ, what happens when the message is no longer Christ?In this episode:- Why PF says there is a “death of the spectacular” in the modern church- The difference between the spectacular and the miraculous- Why signs and wonders were meant to witness to Christ- How churches turn prayer, fasting, and giving into tools for material gain- Why “come to Jesus and get your problem solved” is a broken gospel- The difference between sacrificial giving and spiritual manipulationDrop your thoughts in the comments:Are miracles disappearing or are we preaching the wrong message?Chapter Markers0:00 Problem Solver vs Savior1:38 Where Did Miracles Go?3:00 The Death of the Spectacular5:00 The Greatest Miracle6:05 Miracles Witness to Christ9:10 What Are We Preaching?13:36 Prayer and Fasting Misused15:00 Selling Miracles18:02 Emotionalism in Church19:46 Consumer Christianity20:13 Sacrifice vs Manipulation24:47 Don’t Borrow to Give27:00 Why Nations Stay Broken30:16 When Church Stops Being About Christ32:47 Prosperity Short-Circuits the Gospel36:14 Miracles Must Point to Christ38:54 Friends for Food40:09 Miracles Without Faith40:40 Hungry for Righteousness41:16 He’s Not an Employment Agency#pfunfiltered #pastorfemi #miracles #culture #prosperity #gospel #christian #church #manipulation #signsandwonders #modernchristianity #spectacular #christianpodcast #transactionalfaith #prayerandfasting #sacrificialgiving #jesus
We Look To Apple To Define iPhones, But We Won't Let God Define Us
Who are you, really? Not your job title, not your bank account, not your relationship status. If all of that disappeared tomorrow, what's left? In this episode, PF, Rosalyn, and Kenneth get honest about the …
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Who are you, really? Not your job title, not your bank account, not your relationship status. If all of that disappeared tomorrow, what's left?
In this episode, PF, Rosalyn, and Kenneth get honest about the identity crisis most Christians won't talk about and why the answer isn't just quoting "fearfully and wonderfully made" in the mirror.PF breaks down why we let everyone except God define us, why men tie their worth to money and women tie theirs to marriage, and what happens when the things we've built our identity on inevitably change. This conversation will challenge how you see yourself and maybe free you from a definition that was never yours to carry.IN THIS EPISODEThe Apple analogy: why we trust a company to name its product but won't let God name usWhy men's identity crisis hits hardest when income dropsPF's honest admission: "I grew up hearing how dark I was"What "fearfully and wonderfully made" actually means (it's not what you think)Why your looks, your money, and your status are accessories — not your identityTIMESTAMPS00:00 Cold Open & Introduction: Rosalyn, Kenneth & PF01:44 Kenneth: "I've Always Attached My Identity to Socioeconomic Status"04:26 Rosalyn: "I Took on Other People's Personalities to Fit In"04:54 PF: How Identity Is Formed — "The Goalpost Is Not Determined By You"06:42 The Apple Analogy: Who Gets to Define You?08:01 Men Define Themselves by Money. Women by Marriage. Both Are Wrong.09:32 "If You Get It and Lose It — Then What?"10:01 The Manufacturer's Definition Never Changes12:01 "Fearfully and Wonderfully Made" — What It Actually Means13:04 Paul Was Single, Poor, and Died in Jail. Was He a Failure?16:01 "God Did Not Define Manhood by Financial Provision"17:32 Proverbs 31: The Wife Earned the Money. The Husband Did Politics.18:55 "If You Don't Have Children by Vaginal Delivery, You're Not a Woman" — Madness.20:24 Finding God vs. Having a Relationship with God22:03 "Everything Else Is Like Taking a Shower with Your Clothes On"22:42 What Does God Say About Beauty? (It's Not What the World Says)25:20 "I Made You That Dark Because I Wanted You That Dark"25:36 The Cake Analogy: God Made You for Himself, Not for Others27:29 The Parable of Talents: Why the Guy with 5 Wasn't Better Than the Guy with 229:00 The Toothpick: Nigerian Eyes vs. American Beauty Standards30:06 "We Interpret the Bible in Superficial Ways"31:06 PF: "I Grew Up Hearing a Lot of Very Negative Things About Myself"32:00 How to Replace Negative Identity with What Christ Says34:13 "Your Looks Are an Accessory to Do What You're Called to Do"34:22 "If I Had All the Money in the World, I Would Not Be a Pastor"37:18 "We Attach Our Identity to What We Have. Attach It to What God Says."39:17 Kenneth: "How Have You Defined Yourself Up to Now?"39:39 "Your Nose Is There for a Reason. That Shape — There's a Reason."40:02 Plastic Surgery: Fitting Your Body into What People Say It Should Be41:02 PF Tried Cocoa Waves. His Wife Said "Respect Yourself."42:27 "I Am Fearfully and Wonderfully Made to Do Excellent Works for God"44:34 Closing: Stop Comparing. Start Being Curious About Yourself.💬Real talk: If you stripped away your job, your money, your relationship status, who are you? Drop your answer below. Let's have the conversation.CONNECTInstagram: @pfunfilteredInstagram: @femi.omotayoChurch: newcovenanthouse.org#pfunfiltered #identityinchrist #christianpodcast #whoami #ChristianIdentity #selfworth #fearfullyandwonderfullymade #faithandculture #christianliving #purpose #beautystandards #comparison #christianmen #christianwomen #realtalk
What If Babylon Is The System You’re Living In?
What if Babylon isn’t just a Bible story, a government, or a corrupt culture “out there” but the very system we’re all living in every day?In this episode of PF Unfiltered, PF, Roslyn, Kenneth, and Femi wrestle …
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What if Babylon isn’t just a Bible story, a government, or a corrupt culture “out there” but the very system we’re all living in every day?
In this episode of PF Unfiltered, PF, Roslyn, Kenneth, and Femi wrestle with one uncomfortable question: what does it really mean to be in the world but not of it? The conversation goes deep into Christianity, politics, capitalism, religion, work, voting, profit, compromise, and why so many believers keep confusing Christ with systems that were never built on love.
PF argues that Babylon is bigger than politics. Bigger than Democrats and Republicans. Bigger than nationalism, progressivism, and even religion itself. If Babylon is the world’s system of profit, pride, lust, and power, then how is a Christian supposed to live faithfully inside it without becoming part of it?
This is one of the sharpest PF Unfiltered conversations yet — honest, uncomfortable, and guaranteed to challenge the way you think about church, culture, and what faithfulness really looks like.
In this episode:
- What “Babylon” means in modern life
- Why PF says religion can become part of Babylon
- Politics, voting, and whether “change from within” is real
- Why profit-driven systems keep shaping Christian choices
- What it means to be in Christ while living inside a broken world
Drop your thoughts in the comments:
Do you think Christians can live inside the system without becoming part of it?
0:00 Cold Open
0:50 What Is Babylon?
3:40 Religion vs Christ
4:31 Babylon and the World
5:20 Systems Built on Profit
7:15 Politics and Power
8:08 Can You Be Separate?
10:01 The Only Escape
10:37 Jobs Inside Babylon
13:03 You Can’t Fully Escape
16:18 Should Christians Vote?
17:43 The Sinking Ship
19:25 Christ as the Ark
22:23 The Comedy of Escape
25:41 What Christians Should Do
30:02 Change What You Can
31:00 Why Systems Stay Corrupt
32:18 Everybody’s Hands Are Dirty
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You're Not Stuck. You're Just Comparing
Why do you feel stuck? Because you feel like you're not working on purpose. You haven't figured out the call of God. No, no, no I don't give people that much credit. They compare themselves with other people …
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Why do you feel stuck? Because you feel like you're not working on purpose. You haven't figured out the call of God. No, no, no I don't give people that much credit. They compare themselves with other people. And they say: I should be here. But I'm stuck here."
That's how PF opens this one then about eight minutes later he says the quiet part out loud: *most "purpose" conversations are driven by vanity and self-aggrandizement.* In this episode of PF Unfiltered, PF, Kenneth, and Roslyn take apart one of the most overcooked conversations in modern Christianity: "finding your calling." Why "I want purpose" is usually "I want recognition." Why you're waiting for a sign that's not coming. Why the ordinary, mundane, repetitive parts of life your job, your marriage, the stranger you helped on the street already are the assignment.
If you've ever felt behind in life because you "haven't figured out your purpose yet" or you've ever caught yourself comparing your "calling" to someone else's this one's going to sting in a useful way.
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⏰ CHAPTERS:
0:00 Purpose Beyond Spectacle
1:44 What Is Purpose, Really?
4:58 Miracles in the Ordinary
14:20 Purpose Unveiled Along the Way
18:04 Why We Feel Stuck
21:53 Living the Life Given
29:49 Wealth, Travel, and Comparison
35:34 Purpose in Every Interaction
37:27 Daily Moments of Purpose
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Stop Fighting Witches. The Real Battle Is Your Faith
What if everyone you call your enemy that coworker, that ex, that "village person," that ops was never actually your enemy in the first place? In this episode of PF Unfiltered, Pastor Femi breaks down spiritual …
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What if everyone you call your enemy that coworker, that ex, that "village person," that ops was never actually your enemy in the first place? In this episode of PF Unfiltered, Pastor Femi breaks down spiritual warfare in a way most churches won't touch. From "ops" at work to ancestral curses to the witches your aunties warned you about, this conversation cuts through the noise and gets to what the devil is actually after and it's not your car, your job, or your marriage.
PF unpacks the difference between *generational curses* (broken at the cross) and *generational trauma* (real, but not spiritual), why "rebuking witches" misses the point, and the one move the enemy keeps tricking believers into making. The crew also gets into the 613 laws nobody can keep, why religion is more dangerous than sin, what the Prince of Persia has to do with your prayer life, and the headless-chicken theology that'll change how you think about every spiritual attack you've ever feared.
If you grew up praying against witches, ancestral curses, and "the spirit of your father's house" this episode is the one.
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Why Your "Perfect" Life Feels So EMPTY
Feeling like your life is on autopilot? You're not depressed you're just living the life your parents prayed for. Stop chasing artificial highs.In this episode of PF Unfiltered, PF breaks down why our …
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Feeling like your life is on autopilot? You're not depressed you're just living the life your parents prayed for. Stop chasing artificial highs.
In this episode of PF Unfiltered, PF breaks down why our generation is obsessed with constant stimulation and why that "meh" feeling isn't a medical emergency, but a spiritual opportunity. This conversation unpacks the trap of immediate gratification, why boredom can actually be a blessing, and how to build spiritual muscle before the next storm hits.
Chapters
0:00 The "Meh" Feeling
1:11 Living on Autopilot
3:20 First World Problems
4:59 The Chase for Excitement
6:22 Spiritual Muscles
8:43 Selfish Ambition
10:06 What True Service Looks Like
12:43 Is Satisfaction Possible?
14:14 The Cost of Purpose
16:30 Lonely in the Crowd
20:49 We Are Not Long-Term People
22:13 Stop Uprooting The Tree
23:45 The Parable of Talents
25:15 Rest is Not Laziness
35:02 Preparing for the Storm
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Are Men Being Asked to Be Vulnerable or Set Up to Regret It?
Why do so many men struggle to be emotionally available and why does vulnerability sometimes get punished instead of rewarded?In this episode of PF Unfiltered, Pastor Femi, Tunde, and Kenneth unpack men's …
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Why do so many men struggle to be emotionally available and why does vulnerability sometimes get punished instead of rewarded?
In this episode of PF Unfiltered, Pastor Femi, Tunde, and Kenneth unpack men's mental health, emotional suppression, Christian masculinity, relationships, and the pressure many African Christian men feel to always be strong, silent, and 'man up.' They talk about vulnerability in marriage, cultural expectations, fatherhood, emotional intelligence, and why modern conversations about masculinity often miss the real issue.
If you've ever wondered why men shut down emotionally, why opening up can feel dangerous, or how faith, culture, and relationships shape male vulnerability, this conversation is for you.
CHAPTERS:
0:00 The Pressure to Lead
2:11 Top Struggles of Men
5:55 The Last-Born Complex
9:45 Keeping Emotions Bottled
12:58 Western vs. African Norms
14:33 Raised by Women?
17:02 Is Chivalry Dead?
20:07 Defining a Good Man
22:58 Can You Be Kind & Lazy?
28:02 The Language of Men
30:53 When She Uses It Against You
32:04 Don't Change Who You Are
34:49 Defining Christ-likeness
40:47 Do Boundaries Exist?
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The Soft Life Gospel is a SCAM
Is the "soft life" actually a biblical promise or a dangerous prosperity scam? Pastor Femi unpacks the real cost of following Christ today.We love to scroll through aesthetics, but does the Bible actually teach …
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Is the "soft life" actually a biblical promise or a dangerous prosperity scam? Pastor Femi unpacks the real cost of following Christ today.We love to scroll through aesthetics, but does the Bible actually teach a life free from struggle? In this episode we dismantle the "Soft Life" narrative — a modern, consumerist gospel that often leads believers to abandon their faith when real challenges hit. From the reality of the apostles to the trap of materialism, it's time to get honest about the cross.
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Are Pastors Using AI? The TRUTH About Sermons
Pastor Femi tackles the controversial rise of AI in the church, addressing whether it's a tool for growth or a threat to genuine faith. We discuss the hypocrisy of 'technological illiteracy' and why the real …
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Pastor Femi tackles the controversial rise of AI in the church, addressing whether it's a tool for growth or a threat to genuine faith. We discuss the hypocrisy of 'technological illiteracy' and why the real danger isn't the software, but the heart behind the prompt.
Listen to PF Unfiltered weekly. Subscribe wherever you get podcasts.
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Why You Are Always STRESSED (Stop the Hustle)
Are you waking up with anxiety? You're not alone. If you're tired of chasing money, social status, and your parents dreams, it's time to audit your life. We are breaking down why your hustle mentality might be …
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Are you waking up with anxiety? You're not alone. If you're tired of chasing money, social status, and your parents dreams, it's time to audit your life. We are breaking down why your hustle mentality might be destroying your faith and why 'success' looks different than what society told you. It’s time to stop living for the approval of others and start living for the only One who matters.
CHAPTERS:
0:00 Success is a LIE
1:18 Why I'm wearing this
2:30 Waking up stressed
4:00 The Diaspora burden
8:00 Whose expectations?
13:30 Your inherited OS
17:30 The Good Doctor
19:35 Hustle vs Faith
22:00 The Rat Race
24:45 Corporate is heartless
27:50 The key is Contentment
29:00 My ugly painting lesson
34:30 The ZIP code ego
39:40 Stop proving yourself
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Why Your Prayers Aren't Working (And How to Fix It)
Are you shouting into the wind? Prayer isn't a magical performance or a production to impress God—it’s a conversation. We’re breaking down why many of us struggle to pray and exposing the religious theatre that …
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Are you shouting into the wind? Prayer isn't a magical performance or a production to impress God—it’s a conversation. We’re breaking down why many of us struggle to pray and exposing the religious theatre that keeps us from real intimacy with the Father. Stop acting and start connecting. EP11Most Christians have been taught that prayer requires specific protocols, long sessions, and religious eloquence to be 'powerful.' Pastor Femi unmasks why these traditions often do more to make people relevant than to bring us closer to God. #PastorFemi #Prayer #NaijaChristian #FaithUnfiltered #SpiritualGrowthCHAPTERS:0:00 Is Prayer Inherently Powerful?1:52 The Embarrassing Prayer Story3:06 Why People Struggle with Prayer4:44 Do You Need to Be 'Good Enough'?6:03 Is Prophecy the Same as Prayer?8:28 When God Doesn't Hear You12:00 The 'Word of Faith' Movement16:00 Why Intimidation Keeps You Silent19:01 Do You Need Worship to Pray?23:33 The 'Prayer Funk' Explained30:56 We're Misusing God's Presence41:01 Prayer is Just a Conversation
Honoring Parents Does not mean Bankrupting You
Are you bankrupting your own future to fix your parents' poor financial choices? You love them, but ‘honoring your parents’ doesn’t mean losing your autonomy. We’re unpacking how to set firm boundaries without …
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Are you bankrupting your own future to fix your parents' poor financial choices? You love them, but ‘honoring your parents’ doesn’t mean losing your autonomy.
We’re unpacking how to set firm boundaries without the guilt and why your bank account is nobody’s business but your own. This is the conversation the community needs to have.
CHAPTERS:
0:00 The 'Give Me Money' Trap
0:53 Time to Repent (Even the Hosts)
1:24 Subscribing vs. Tithing
2:24 The Pastor Larry Incident
3:07 When Parents Make Bad Financial Moves
4:02 Stop Being Responsible for Their Choices
6:45 Honoring ≠ Funding Your Parents
11:23 Stop Oversharing Your Finances
14:40 A Story of True Fatherly Love
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Lust, Attraction and the Truth Nobody Says Out Loud
Churches used to talk about lust all the time. Now they don't — and PF has a theory about why. In this episode, PF, Esther, and Tunde tackle the conversation most pastors and podcasters won't touch: sexual …
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Churches used to talk about lust all the time. Now they don't — and PF has a theory about why. In this episode, PF, Esther, and Tunde tackle the conversation most pastors and podcasters won't touch: sexual desire, attraction, what both men and women are responsible for, and why being honest about biology doesn't make you a bad person.
PF gets into why he'd rather preach about redemption than catalogue sins, what happens when desire becomes "inordinate," and the uncomfortable reality that human biology hasn't caught up with modern expectations. This one will make you think — and probably make you uncomfortable. That's the point.
In this episode:
- Why churches stopped talking about lust (and what replaced it)
- PF's definition: "Lust is desire that has become inappropriate"
- The honest conversation about attraction most men are afraid to have
- What you lead with is what you attract — and that applies to everyone
- Practical advice for managing desire without pretending it doesn't exist
- Why God doesn't remove sexual desire — and what He does instead
TIMESTAMPS
00:00 - Cold Open: "Christ Is Doing a LOT of Work"
00:28 - Introduction: Esther, Tunde & PF
01:44 - Why Don't Churches Talk About Lust Anymore?
04:25 - PF: Why I'd Rather Preach Redemption Than Catalogue Sin
06:01 - "Lust Is Desire That Has Become Inappropriate"
07:00 - Appropriate Desire vs. Inordinate Desire
12:47 - Does Physical Attraction Have to Come First?
15:00 - The Difficulty of Managing Desire in Relationships
16:55 - "If You Lead With Your Body, You Attract Men Interested in Your Body"
20:07 - "Don't Put Meat on the Table and Beat the Dog for Salivating"
21:56 - "Society Has Evolved. Humanity Has Not."
23:05 - What 99.9% of Men See (And Won't Admit)
25:20 - Why Men Won't Be Honest About This
29:30 - Sports, Music & Media: The Constant Trigger
34:00 - Practical Advice: How to Actually Manage Desire
39:30 - Why God Didn't Design You to Marry at 35
40:35 - "God Doesn't Remove Desire. He Gives You Strength."
42:30 - Both Sides Must Own Their Part
This one's going to spark debate. Where do you land — is this a men's problem, a women's problem, or a everyone problem? Comment below.
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God's Chosen ones don't go to Church?
This conversation gets heated in the best way. The crew unpacks what it actually means to be the church not a building, not a concert, not a social club but the body of Christ. PF argues that rejecting the …
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This conversation gets heated in the best way. The crew unpacks what it actually means to be the church not a building, not a concert, not a social club but the body of Christ. PF argues that rejecting the church wholesale while claiming to follow Christ is a contradiction, and draws a sharp line between acceptance and tolerance that will challenge both sides of the debate.
The episode digs into why church culture has become more about comfort than confrontation with truth, and why that shift is actually hurting people instead of helping them. PF compares the church to a hospital full of sick patients, if someone vomits on you, you don't leave the hospital. You're a patient too.
Whether you've been hurt by the church, you're questioning whether you even need to attend, or you're someone in the pews wondering how to correct with grace this episode doesn't let anyone off the hook.
TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 – Cold Open: "Being a Christian Doesn't Mean You're Full of Christ"
00:42 – Introductions & the Viral Video That Started It All
02:04 – "God's Chosen Ones Don't Go to Church" Breaking Down the Claim
03:30 – What Is the Church? The Body of Christ Explained
06:00 – "I Accept You, But I Won't Tolerate Your BS"
10:00 – Church Hurt: When Correction Feels Like Judgment
14:30 – Boundaries, Cow Skin at Customs & Why Every Community Has Rules
18:00 – Social Media Christians & Putting Your Convictions on Others
22:00 – The Woman Caught in Adultery: How Jesus Handled Both Sides
30:00 – PF's Story: Humiliated at His First Church & Why he Stayed
35:00 – The Church Is a Hospital Full of Sick People
40:00 – "Your Weed Guy Doesn't Judge you that's the Point"
45:00 – What Would You Say to Someone Who Left the Church?
50:00 – Wrap Up: "Read Your Bible"
Real talk — have you ever left a church because of how people treated you? What brought you back (or didn't)? Drop it in the comments.
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Honor vs. Obey: What the Bible actually Says About Parents
Growing up in an African household often comes with strict, unwritten rules—don’t question authority, don’t challenge your parents, and always respect your elders. But what happens when you’re an adult living …
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Growing up in an African household often comes with strict, unwritten rules—don’t question authority, don’t challenge your parents, and always respect your elders. But what happens when you’re an adult living in a different culture and those expectations remain the same?
In this episode, PF reflects on his upbringing with a strict Yoruba mother and a more liberal father, and how those experiences shaped the way he now raises his own children. The conversation explores the important difference between honor and obedience, emphasizing that honoring parents means showing respect and care, but it doesn’t always mean obeying every instruction.
The crew also dives into the realities of navigating cultural expectations, generational love languages, family guilt, and the challenges of parenting differently from how you were raised. It’s a candid, thoughtful discussion about faith, culture, and breaking unhealthy patterns while still honoring where you come from.
TIMESTAMPS
- 00:00 — Cold Open: Esther vs. PF's Last Name Drama
- 01:30 — Esther's Story: "I Matched My Dad's Energy"
- 03:30 — What Were Your Parents Like Growing Up?
- 05:30 — PF's Upbringing: Strict Mom, Liberal Dad
- 08:00 — Discipline in the Nigerian Home: No Escape from Justice
- 09:30 — When Parents Transition from Authority to Counselor
- 11:00 — Yoruba Culture: Never Challenge Authority
- 13:00 — PF's Wife AK vs. His Mother — The Baby Bath Standoff
- 17:00 — Moving Away: When Distance Changes Everything
- 19:00 — The Party Incident: When Everyone Applied Wisdom
- 21:00 — HONOR vs. OBEDIENCE: The Biblical Distinction
- 23:00 — Practical Example: Absent Father Gives College Advice
- 25:30 — Emotional Blackmail: "I Won't Come to the Wedding"
- 28:00 — First Paycheck Culture: Biblical or Just Tradition?
- 30:00 — When You Can't Afford to Help Your Parents
- 33:00 — "What's Frivolous to You Is Existential to Them"
- 35:00 — Honoring a Parent Who Abandoned You
- 37:00 — Tunde's Struggle: Love Languages with In-Laws
- 42:00 — What PF Did Differently Raising His Kids
- 45:00 — Curiosity vs. Obedience: Don't Kill the Child's Brain
- 48:00 — Should Christian Parents Spank Their Kids?
- 50:00 — The Rod Is Authority, Not Just a Stick
- 52:00 — PF's Daughter Was Hitting Kids — The Wake-Up Call
- 54:00 — Closing: What PF Is Grateful For + Next Episode Teaser
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How Much Money Is Enough?" - Contentment, Greed & What You Actually Need
If you had a billion dollars, what would you do? PF's answer might surprise you — and then he flips the question entirely. In this episode, PF, Esther, Kenneth, and Tunde tackle one of the most uncomfortable …
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If you had a billion dollars, what would you do? PF's answer might surprise you — and then he flips the question entirely. In this episode, PF, Esther, Kenneth, and Tunde tackle one of the most uncomfortable questions in Christian culture: how much money is actually enough? PF breaks down exactly what $1 million can cover (house, car, food, kids' tuition) and then asks why none of us would actually be satisfied with that.
The conversation goes deeper than budgets. This is about contentment, greed, the pressure to keep up, and why the church needs to be the voice that says "you don't need that" when nobody else will.
**In this episode:**
- PF's billion-dollar plan (and why he wouldn't cover the church's bills)
- The math on what you actually need vs. what you think you need
- Why a producer went from happy in a small house to stressed in a mansion
- The biblical case for contentment — and what "God supplies your needs" really means
- Diaspora pressure: when your family thinks America means you're rich
- PF confronts his own greed on camera
**TIMESTAMPS**
`00:00 - Cold Open: "Ask Me If I Used Church Money..."
00:27 - Introduction: Esther, Kenneth, PF & Tunde
01:48 - "If You Had a Billion Dollars, What Would You Do?"
03:16 - Why PF Wouldn't Pay Off the Church's Bills (And Why That's Wise)
05:00 - PF's Billion-Dollar Plan: Pay Off Everyone's Debt
05:29 - The Bentley Continental GT Dream (Again)
06:10 - "How Much Money Is Enough Money?"
07:42 - The $1 Million Breakdown: What You Actually Need
09:03 - "A Lot of What We Want Is Not What We Need"
09:30 - Lifestyle Creep: 4-Bedroom House, 2 Empty Rooms
12:02 - "One Million Can Sort You Out for Life"
13:10 - "Our Comfort Is Not Determined By Our Need"
16:10 - The Producer Who Went From Happy to Stressed
17:34 - "Pride and Lust — Period."
18:18 - Would You Judge a Homeless Person Who's Content?
20:03 - PF Admits His Rolex Isn't a Need
21:14 - Philippians 4:19: God Supplies Needs, Not Wants
23:57 - Career Ambition or Covetousness? How to Tell the Difference
25:52 - "If the Church Won't Say It, Who Will?"
30:40 - Diaspora Pressure: When Family Thinks You're Rich
40:04 - What PF Learned From His Wife About Not Caring
42:09 - Closing: "When the Fruit Is Turning Your Belly, You've Over-Enjoyed"`
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This One Habit Is Quietly Killing Your Marriage
One word said casually, said a thousand times nearly broke a 10-year marriage. It wasn't cheating. It wasn't money. It was something most people say every day without thinking twice. In this episode, PF, Tunde …
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One word said casually, said a thousand times nearly broke a 10-year marriage. It wasn't cheating. It wasn't money. It was something most people say every day without thinking twice. In this episode, PF, Tunde, and Esther get into the small habits that quietly destroy marriages and the ones that quietly save them.
PF breaks down what the Bible actually teaches about submission in marriage (it's not what most people think), why dismissing your spouse's concerns even the "small" ones sets a dangerous precedent, and the everyday habits that separate couples who thrive from those who just survive.
Timestamps:
00:00:00 — Introduction and Hosts
00:02:35 — The Importance of Mutual Respect
00:07:08 — Submission and Esteeming Each Other
00:19:00 — Addressing Sexual Needs in Marriage
00:24:00 — Seeking External Advice
00:29:00 — Social Media's Impact on Marriage
00:36:00 — Habits that Strengthen Marriage
Key Takeaways:
Prioritizing each other's happiness is crucial in marriage.
Mutual respect and understanding can prevent many marital issues.
Seeking wise counsel can provide valuable insights and solutions.
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"Serving God Is Not a Sentence of Poverty" | The Tithing Debate
Should Christians still tithe? And why do people lose their minds when a pastor wears a nice watch?In this episode, PF, Kenneth, and Esther tackle one of the most divisive topics in church culture — money …
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Should Christians still tithe? And why do people lose their minds when a pastor wears a nice watch?In this episode, PF, Kenneth, and Esther tackle one of the most divisive topics in church culture — money, tithing, and what pastors actually deserve to earn.PF gets vulnerable about his own lifestyle, reveals he works 80 hours a week on 5 hours of sleep, and explains why he'll never apologize for owning a Rolex. The conversation digs into the theology behind tithing — Old Covenant law versus New Covenant freewill giving — and why so many Christians are confused about what the Bible actually teaches on the subject.PF breaks down why tithing was originally about food (not money), why Malachi 3:10 is the most misquoted verse in church, and what giving should actually look like for believers today.But this isn't just theology. The crew gets real about church operations — from a $50,000 emergency HVAC replacement to why pastors are among the most underpaid professionals in America. PF shares why pastoral suicide rates are alarming, and makes the case that the laborer is worthy of his wages.In this episode:• Why tithing as we know it isn't actually a New Testament command• PF's honest take on pastor compensation and lifestyle scrutiny• The $50K HVAC story: what it really costs to run a church• "Serving God is not a sentence of poverty" — why PF won't apologize• Old Covenant vs. New Covenant: what the Bible actually says about giving• Why pastors are underpaid, underloved, and burning outTIMESTAMPS00:00 - Cold Open: The Pastor's Tattoo Controversy02:00 - Introduction: Kenneth, Esther & PF04:00 - Should Christians Judge Their Pastors?07:00 - "Teachers Will Be Judged More Strictly" — James 3:110:00 - The Tithing Question: Old Covenant vs. New Covenant14:00 - Malachi 3:10: The Most Misquoted Verse in Church?18:00 - Tithing Was About Food, Not Money22:00 - New Testament Giving: Freewill, Not Mandatory26:00 - Why Do People Get Mad at What Pastors Own?30:00 - PF's Rolex: "I Work 80 Hours a Week on 5 Hours of Sleep"34:00 - "Serving God Is Not a Sentence of Poverty"37:00 - The $50,000 HVAC Story: What Running a Church Actually Costs40:00 - Why Pastors Commit Suicide: Underpaid and Underloved44:00 - The Laborer Is Worthy of His Wages47:00 - Prosperity Gospel vs. Honest Compensation50:00 - How Should Christians Give Today?53:00 - Closing Thoughts: Give Cheerfully, Not Under Compulsion💬 Real talk: Do you think pastors should be wealthy? Or is there a line? Drop your take below — keep it respectful.CONNECT:Instagram: @pfunfiltered | @femi.omotayoChurch: https://newcovenanthouse.orgPF Unfiltered is a Christian podcast exploring faith, relationships, and culture through honest, unfiltered conversations. Led by Pastor Femi Omotayo of New Covenant House Dallas, each episode tackles the questions African Christians and believers worldwide are actually asking about tithing, church finances, pastoral compensation, spiritual growth, and living authentically in modern culture.Real Talk. Real Faith. Real Life.#Tithing #ChristianPodcast #PFUnfiltered #ChurchMoney #PastorLife #ShouldChristiansTithe #ChristianFinance #NewCovenant #FaithAndMoney #ChurchLeadership #ProsperityGospel #RealTalk
You Want Her to Cook, Clean, and Work 9-5? Are You Mad?"
In this unfiltered conversation, the crew tackles the gender roles debate head-on: Why are men emotionally unavailable? Why do women want men to cry... but also find it "cringy"? And why are we surprised by the …
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In this unfiltered conversation, the crew tackles the gender roles debate head-on: Why are men emotionally unavailable? Why do women want men to cry... but also find it "cringy"? And why are we surprised by the exact people WE raised?
Pastor Femi makes a bold argument: Stop blaming individuals. Blame the assembly line. The men you're frustrated with? Your mothers raised them. The women with "chips on their shoulders"? Your mothers raised them too.
**In this episode:**
- Why "strong man" culture produces emotionally absent husbands
- The contradiction of wanting a provider and a present partner
- What actually makes a leader (hint: not his height or bank account)
- Why submission is scary — and what the Bible actually says
- How to raise children who won't repeat the cycle
TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 - Cold Open: "Are You Mad? She's a Human Being"
01:00 - Introduction & Content Warning
02:00 - The Instagram Reel That Started It: Marriage Adds 7 Hours of Work?
05:00 - "Why Do Women Always Want to Be the Victim?"
08:00 - Society Raised Men to Provide, Women to Care
10:00 - Biology Hasn't Changed: Women Still Carry Babies
13:00 - PF's Frustration: Why Make It Seem Intentionally Diabolical?
16:00 - Women Go to Therapy. Men Won't Even See a Doctor.
17:00 - "When a Man Cries..." — Esther Calls It Cringy
21:00 - We Taught Boys That Crying Is Weakness
24:00 - "Where's Daddy?" — He Was at Work
26:00 - The Problem: Adversarial vs. Collaborative
27:00 - Submission: "Your Faith Is in God, Not Your Husband"
28:00 - What Makes a Real Leader: Vision, Empathy, Character
31:00 - We Raise Ruthless Men Then Wonder Why They're Ruthless at Home
33:00 - "Train a Child in the Way He Should Go"
36:00 - How PF Raised His Daughters: Good People First
39:00 - Choosing Partners: Ambition vs. Compassion
42:00 - "When the Bills Aren't Paid, You're Not Thinking 'He's Handsome'"
44:00 - The Complexity: Stop the "Men Are / Women Are" Talk
45:00 - Closing & Call to Continue the Conversation
Who's right? Drop your take in the comments — but keep it respectful.
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He Cheated in Year 2. They Just Celebrated 20 Years. Here’s How.
This Valentine’s week, skip the couple goals content. Here’s a real marriage.He had a full-blown affair in year 2 of their marriage. She flew to Oklahoma, drove him to the other woman’s house, and asked one …
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This Valentine’s week, skip the couple goals content. Here’s a real marriage.
He had a full-blown affair in year 2 of their marriage. She flew to Oklahoma, drove him to the other woman’s house, and asked one question:
“Is there something you want to tell me?”
They just celebrated 20 years of marriage.
In this raw and unfiltered episode, Tosin and Sanmi Laja-Akintayo (“The LAs”) share the real story of their marriage including the infidelity that nearly ended it, the five-year journey to rebuild trust, and why they believe there’s “no finished product on the marriage market.”
This episode is not about excusing betrayal. It’s about what real repentance, accountability, and rebuilding actually looks like.
In this episode:
• How they met at a picnic in 2003
• Getting married at 23 while still in college
• The affair that almost ended their marriage
• Why she chose to walk away and what made her reconsider
• The work he had to do to rebuild trust
• Why “red flags” didn’t exist the way they do today
• Why marriage is two people on the assembly line together
TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 – Introduction
03:00 – How They Met (The Picnic Story)
06:00 – “I Don’t Shake Girls”
09:30 – Getting Married at 23
12:00 – The Affair
19:00 – Flying to Oklahoma
22:00 – Confrontation at the Door
27:00 – From Betrayal to Rebuilding
31:00 – His Journey to Christ
42:00 – “No Finished Product”
50:00 – Marriage, Money & Differences
56:00 – The Offender Can’t Make Demands
💬 Would you have stayed? Why or why not? Drop your thoughts in the comments.
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Passion ≠ Purpose: Why Being Good at Something Doesn't Mean You Should Do It
Should you quit your job and chase your passion? Not so fast. Pastor Femi unpacks why passion and purpose aren't the same thing—and why confusing them could have you chasing the wrong thing your whole life.PF …
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Should you quit your job and chase your passion? Not so fast. Pastor Femi unpacks why passion and purpose aren't the same thing—and why confusing them could have you chasing the wrong thing your whole life.
PF shares the 5 clues to finding your actual purpose, gets real about what to do when your passion doesn't pay the bills, and reveals the pivotal moment God asked him: "Who sets your salary me or them?"
Plus: A gratitude challenge that will transform your faith by the end of 2026.
In this episode:
- Why being good at something doesn't make it your purpose
- The 5 clues to discovering your God-given calling
- How to handle bills while pursuing purpose
- PF's raw story about pay, comparison, and trusting God
- The practice that's given PF more peace than ever
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Passion and Purpose
02:37 Defining Passion vs. Purpose
05:22 The Role of Passion in Discovering Purpose
08:33 Navigating Career Choices and Financial Stability
11:14 The Importance of Skills vs. Passion
14:01 Understanding Destiny Helpers
16:50 Finding Your Purpose Amidst Job Loss
19:38 Practical Steps to Discover Purpose
22:14 The Role of Gratitude in Finding Purpose
25:06 Overcoming Fear and Anxiety in Career Transitions
28:03 Celebrating God's Provision and Guidance
30:49 Conclusion and Call to Action
"Purpose does not always equal money, but bills always demand money. Sometimes you need something to pay bills while you pursue purpose."
What's something you're passionate about that you've realized ISN'T your purpose? Drop it below!
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SCRIPTURES: Proverbs 22:29 | Deuteronomy 8:18 | Isaiah 26:3 | Psalm 37:25
#ChristianPodcast #FindingYourPurpose #PassionVsPurpose #FaithAndWork #PFUnfiltered #ChristianLiving #TrustingGod #Gratitude
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