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E269: Tie-Breakers: We Referee Your Realest Relationship Standoffs

July 16, 2026 · 1 h 1 min

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Every couple has that one thing they’ll argue about until the end of time. TV in the bedroom. How to load the dishwasher. Can men and women just be friends? 👀


We asked our community to send us the disagreements they just can’t seem to settle with their partner, and today we’re weighing in as your official referees.


💛 In this episode, you'll hear:

  • 💋 Is oral foreplay or the main event?

  • 🐾 If the pet falls asleep on your lap, are you officially off chore duty?

  • 👀 Can men and women really be just friends? Our take.

  • ✂️ Who gets the final say when it comes to grooming and body hair?


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