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What Self-Help Gets Wrong: with Gretchen Rubin

February 19, 2026 · 55 min

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Is self-help actually helpful? In this episode of Question Everything, Danielle speaks with Gretchen Rubin, #1 bestselling author and co-host of the Since You Asked podcast. Danielle and Gretchen unpack some big questions when it comes to the rampant self-improvement era we’re living in now. Questions like: Can people ever really change? How do you make better decisions when every option comes with regret? In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why getting enough sleep is the most underrated habit for happiness and productivity
  • How your chronotype can impact your daily energy, mood, and life
  • Why reunions and old friendships are a key to connecting with others, but also another version of ourselves
  • Why self-help is not a one-size-fits-all approach to life 
  • The science behind how digital vs. IRL friendships impact the quality of our life 
  • What psychology tells us about how behaviors ultimately dictate the quality of our lives 
  • How to make tough life decisions without chasing “perfect” choices
  • Practical strategies for reframing setbacks and career transitions

Follow Gretchen on Instagram @gretchenrubin

Check out Gretchen’s podcasts, Happier with Gretchen Rubin and Since You Asked with Lori Gottlieb and Gretchen Rubin

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