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159: Does your ADHD kid tell you what they're doing INSTEAD of doing what you just asked!?!?!

August 17, 2026 · 24 min

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This was a HUGE ah ha moment for me and my ADHD son this summer. We've been in this pattern for as long as he's been able to talk. I ask him to do something, he tells me what he's doing instead. This has led to us BOTH being very reactive and triggered and it's been one pattern I haven't been able to crack.

UNTIL NOW! In this episode I break down the exact moment we figured it out, how things have changed since, and exactly how we are practicing it so we can lower the defensive walls and start communicating more respectfully!

🎉STOP YELLING! The ADHD Behavior Blueprint is HERE!🎉

If you are sick and tired of the same repetitive behaviors and want to see real and permanent changes with you and your ADHD child, make sure you attend my upcoming FREE masterclass. https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass

Please note: these masterclass dates fill up FAST. I am adding as many as I can. If nothing is available on the calendar register on this waitlist: https://responseableparenting.kit.com/waitlist

I will blast out new times as often as I can!

If the masterclass is too far away, and you want to take the first step. Grab my 39 minute video / workbook combo where you will learn exactly why you feel so awful in these moments with your ADHD kid AND you'll learn the steps necessary to get out of the heat of the moment and stop reacting so quickly to the same repetitive fight.

You can grab Before You Lose It right here! https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap

And if you want to get started TODAY, jump right into the program. When you join you have MY EYES on your challenging patterns. Not just sometimes. But every single week, multiple times a week. You send me your situations, we work together on calls and inside the program until you have a solution that works for YOUR family. You will walk away with a repeatable system that you can use for any challenging pattern. No more strategy spaghetti, just real solutions that work WITH your ADHD child not against them.

https://www.responseableparenting.com/join

FREE RESOURCES!

  • Tired of repeating yourself over the same behaviors? Try this VALUES DECK OF CARDS! You can customize the cards to your family values and instead of dishing out yet another punishment, you can instill positive consequences through the actions on the back! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards

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