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Each week, Dr. Nazanin Moali interviews experts, psychologists, mental health practitioners and researchers to explore the most intriguing findings in psychology of sex and intimacy. Sexology podcast will give you insight into all that you have ever wanted to know about sex but were afraid to ask. Join us in this weekly journey to examine sexuality and pleasure from a scientific perspective.
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When Does Kink Become Abuse? Understanding Consent, Power, and BDSM
How can two couples practice the same dominant and submissive dynamic, yet one relationship is healthy and the other is abusive?In Episode 516 of the Sexology Podcast, Dr. Nazanin Moali speaks with BDSM expert …
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How can two couples practice the same dominant and submissive dynamic, yet one relationship is healthy and the other is abusive?
In Episode 516 of the Sexology Podcast, Dr. Nazanin Moali speaks with BDSM expert and sex and intimacy coach Shelby Devlin about how to distinguish consensual kink from coercion, boundary violations, and abuse.
BDSM is not inherently abusive. Healthy kink involves a consensual exchange of power between adults who have the freedom to negotiate what they want, establish limits, pause or stop an activity, and withdraw consent without being punished, threatened, humiliated, or abandoned.
Shelby challenges one of the most dangerous misconceptions about dominance and submission: the belief that a “good submissive” must obey everything a dominant requests. Submission does not eliminate autonomy. A submissive gives power within negotiated limits and retains the right to question, pause, renegotiate, or leave the dynamic.
Dr. Moali and Shelby also discuss how persistent badgering, guilt, manipulation, or pressure can turn an apparent “yes” into coercion. Agreeing because you are afraid of anger, rejection, punishment, or losing the relationship is not freely given consent.
Shelby shares three useful questions for reflecting on a kinky experience:
• Did I freely want and agree to this beforehand?
• Did I remain willing and able to communicate during the experience?
• Did I feel respected and emotionally safe afterward?
Pleasure can provide useful information, but it is not the only measure of consent. Someone may experience physical pleasure during an activity and still have had a boundary violated. Healthy kink also requires clear negotiation, respect, trust, safety planning, and the genuine ability to stop.
The conversation explores safe words, nonverbal signals, consensual non-consent, aftercare, unnegotiated punishment, and why a caring dominant should respond positively when a partner says “yellow” or “red.”
IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL LEARN:
• What kink and BDSM mean
• Why BDSM is not inherently abusive
• How consensual power exchange differs from coercive control
• Why submission does not mean unconditional obedience
• Why a submissive retains the right to say no
• How badgering, guilt, and manipulation undermine consent
• Why consent must be informed, specific, ongoing, and revocable
• How to distinguish negotiated intensity from a boundary violation
• Why pleasure alone cannot prove that an experience was consensual
• Early warning signs of abuse within a BDSM relationship
• How safe words and nonverbal signals protect consent
• Why calling “yellow” should be respected and encouraged
• How consensual non-consent should be negotiated
• Why punishments must remain within previously agreed boundaries
• How aftercare and post-scene conversations support trust
COMMON QUESTIONS ANSWERED:
IS BDSM ABUSE?
No. BDSM between consenting adults is not inherently abusive. Healthy BDSM is based on negotiated activities, informed consent, mutual respect, communication, and the ability of every participant to stop.
WHEN DOES KINK BECOME ABUSE?
Kink becomes abusive when someone ignores or overrides consent, violates negotiated boundaries, uses fear or manipulation to obtain agreement, refuses to stop, retaliates after a partner says no, or uses BDSM language to justify controlling someone’s life.
DOES A SUBMISSIVE HAVE TO OBEY THEIR DOMINANT?
No. Submission is consensually given within negotiated limits. A submissive retains their autonomy and can refuse, pause, renegotiate, or end the dynamic.
IS BADGERING SOMEONE UNTIL THEY AGREE CONSENT?
No. Repeatedly asking, guilting, pressuring, threatening, or wearing someone down is coercion. Consent must be freely given, not extracted through persistence.
WHAT IS CONSENSUAL NON-CONSENT?
Consensual non-consent is a pre-negotiated form of role-play in which participants agree to act out resistance or a lack of consent. It still requires explicit prior consent, clearly defined limits, safe words or signals, risk discussion, and the ability to stop immediately.
WHAT ARE WARNING SIGNS OF ABUSE IN BDSM?
Warning signs include ignoring safe words, introducing activities that were never negotiated, punishing someone for setting a limit, isolating them from support, controlling money or daily decisions without genuine agreement, pressuring them to prove their submission, or making them afraid to say no.
ABOUT SHELBY DEVLIN
Shelby Devlin, MA, is a sex and intimacy coach, BDSM educator, and kink expert with more than a decade of professional experience supporting individuals and couples around the world.
She holds a Master’s degree in Sexuality Studies from San Francisco State University and is certified in the Somatica Method. She is an advanced instructor at the Somatica Institute, a certified massage therapist, and an associate practitioner of Ortho-Bionomy.
Shelby has extensive personal and professional experience within BDSM and kink communities. She has taught BDSM safety and practical skills and has served as an expert witness in criminal and civil cases involving BDSM, dominance and submission, kink, and fetish.
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How much do hormones affect your sex drive during perimenopause and menopause, and can you get your desire back?In Episode 515 of the Sexology Podcast, Dr. Nazanin Moali speaks with functional medicine …
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How much do hormones affect your sex drive during perimenopause and menopause, and can you get your desire back?In Episode 515 of the Sexology Podcast, Dr. Nazanin Moali speaks with functional medicine practitioner and Doctor of Pharmacy Dr. Meg Mill about low libido in midlife and why hormones are only one part of the story.
Changes in estrogen and other hormones can affect vaginal comfort, sleep, mood, arousal, and sexual interest. But desire can also be influenced by chronic stress, exhaustion, pain during sex, medications, relationship dynamics, body image, nutrition, and the thoughts you have about yourself and your sexuality.
Dr. Meg explains how spending years in a high-stress state can affect sleep, energy, digestion, and the ability to transition from managing daily responsibilities into sexual arousal. She also discusses why restrictive dieting and eating too little during midlife may leave women feeling depleted rather than more connected to their bodies.
You will learn how negative self-talk can reinforce disconnection from desire, how Dr. Meg’s 7-Second Switch can interrupt an unhelpful thought pattern, and why calming the nervous system before sex may be more useful than expecting desire to appear on command.
Dr. Meg and Dr. Moali also discuss what to review with a qualified health care professional when libido changes, why hormone testing should be individualized, and how women can approach midlife as an opportunity to rediscover their bodies rather than as the end of their sexuality.
IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL LEARN:• Why low libido in perimenopause is not only about hormones
• How hormonal changes can affect comfort, sleep, arousal, and desire
• Why chronic stress can interfere with sexual interest
• How negative self-talk affects body image and desire
• How to conduct a daily self-talk audit
• How Dr. Meg’s 7-Second Switch reframes unhelpful thoughts
• Why restrictive dieting can leave women feeling depleted
• Nutrition habits that support energy and overall health
• How to calm your nervous system before intimacy
• What symptoms to discuss with a health care professional
• Why hormone testing should be based on your individual symptoms
• Why pain, medications, sleep, and relationship factors matter
• How to rediscover pleasure and desire during midlife
• Why a strong health foundation matters before choosing treatment
ABOUT DR. MEG MILLDr. Meg Mill, PharmD, is a certified functional medicine practitioner, founder of the Women’s Functional Health Institute, TEDx speaker, and host of the A Little Bit Healthier podcast.
After working as a pharmacist, Dr. Meg shifted her focus toward helping women explore the possible contributors to persistent symptoms and changes in their well-being. She has worked with women around the world and also trains practitioners in women’s functional health.
She is the creator of the 7-Second Switch, a brief reframing tool designed to help people interrupt unhelpful thought patterns and choose a more supportive response.
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What are the best sex positions for pleasure, comfort, and connection? The answer depends less on mastering a complicated position and more on finding the right angle, support, stimulation, and level of control …
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What are the best sex positions for pleasure, comfort, and connection? The answer depends less on mastering a complicated position and more on finding the right angle, support, stimulation, and level of control for your body.
In Episode 514 of the Sexology Podcast, Dr. Nazanin Moali speaks with Nikki, the Sex Coach, about why there is no universally perfect sex position and how small adjustments can make familiar positions feel significantly better.
Nikki explains how anatomy, penis or toy size, body shape, mobility, energy level, and personal preferences all influence which positions feel pleasurable. You will learn how pillows, wedges, angle changes, slower movements, and supportive surfaces can reduce strain and help partners remain connected without becoming exhausted.
The conversation also explores sex positions that leave room for clitoral stimulation, ways to control penetration depth, and why rocking or grinding may feel better than repetitive thrusting. Nikki shares practical ideas for adapting familiar positions, making oral sex more comfortable, communicating during penetration, and introducing sensation play without pressure.
Rather than chasing the most impressive position or trying to orgasm simultaneously, Nikki encourages couples to focus on comfort, feedback, curiosity, and what their bodies actually enjoy.
IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL LEARN:
• Why there is no universally best sex position
• How anatomy influences which positions feel good
• How penis or toy size can affect angle and depth
• How to make sex more comfortable for larger bodies
• Ways to adapt positions for limited mobility or fatigue
• How pillows and wedges can improve support and alignment
• Which position features make clitoral stimulation easier
• Why rocking and grinding may feel better than thrusting
• How to control penetration depth through positioning and feedback
• How to rethink familiar positions and oral sex
• Why simultaneous orgasm should not be the goal
• How eye contact and communication support connection
• How to introduce sensation play at a comfortable pace
ABOUT NIKKI, THE SEX COACH
Nikki, the Sex Coach, is a sex, intimacy, and relationship coach, founder of The Pleasure Practice, and creator of The Connection Coach, a privacy-focused, AI-powered intimacy coaching platform.
She is a certified life coach, licensed massage therapist, psychology student, and lifelong student of philosophy and evolutionary biology. Nikki brings a multidisciplinary perspective to human sexuality by integrating psychology, neuroscience, body awareness, and the complexities of human connection.
Her work helps individuals and couples develop greater sexual confidence, communicate about desire, and approach intimacy with more curiosity, self-awareness, and confidence.
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Can sex create an altered state of consciousness without psychedelic substances? For some people, deeply present sexual experiences can involve changes in time perception, heightened sensory awareness, a …
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Can sex create an altered state of consciousness without psychedelic substances? For some people, deeply present sexual experiences can involve changes in time perception, heightened sensory awareness, a softened sense of self, emotional release, and an intense feeling of connection.
In Episode 513 of the Sexology Podcast, Dr. Nazanin Moali speaks with AASECT-certified sex therapist and psychedelic therapist Dori Lewis about why sex can sometimes feel psychedelic and how mindfulness, ritual, safety, and intentional touch may deepen pleasure and intimacy.
This conversation is not about having sex while using psychedelic substances. Instead, Dori explores how sexual experiences themselves can produce shifts in awareness that may feel expansive, transcendent, or transformative.
Dori and Dr. Moali discuss why performance-focused sex can prevent people from accessing these deeper experiences. When your attention is focused on whether you are attractive enough, aroused enough, or performing correctly, it becomes harder to notice subtle sensations and remain connected to your body.
You will also learn how slowing down, creating intentional rituals, practicing nonsexual touch, and communicating boundaries can support a greater sense of safety and connection. Dori explains why consent, nervous system regulation, and emotional trust are essential when exploring intense or vulnerable experiences.
IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL LEARN:
• What an altered state of consciousness during sex can feel like
• Why some sexual experiences may feel psychedelic
• How mindfulness can deepen sexual pleasure
• Why sensory awareness matters during intimacy
• How performance pressure disconnects you from your body
• How to create rituals for sexual connection
• Why safety, boundaries, and consent support surrender
• How parenthood can affect nervous system regulation and intimacy
• How to communicate your needs and receive pleasure
• How somatic practices may support embodied awareness
• Why trauma-informed care matters during intense experiences
• How nonsexual touch can help partners reconnect
• How sex and psychedelic experiences may overlap and differ
COMMON QUESTIONS ANSWERED:
CAN SEX CREATE AN ALTERED STATE OF CONSCIOUSNESS?
Some people experience changes in their perception of time, sensory intensity, self-awareness, emotional openness, or connection during sex. These experiences can feel different from ordinary waking awareness, although they are not necessarily identical to substance-induced psychedelic states.
WHY CAN SEX SOMETIMES FEEL PSYCHEDELIC?
Intense sensory focus, emotional vulnerability, rhythmic movement, changes in breathing, pleasure, and a temporary reduction in self-monitoring may contribute to experiences that feel expansive or transcendent.
DO YOU NEED PSYCHEDELIC SUBSTANCES TO HAVE THIS EXPERIENCE?
No. This episode explores altered states that may occur through sexual connection, mindfulness, ritual, sensory awareness, and intentional touch without using psychedelic substances.
HOW CAN MINDFULNESS DEEPEN SEXUAL EXPERIENCES?
Mindfulness can help you notice physical sensations, emotions, boundaries, and shifts in arousal without immediately judging them. This may reduce performance pressure and make it easier to remain present.
ABOUT DORI LEWIS
Dori Lewis, MA, MEd, LPC-S, is the co-founder of Elemental Psychedelics and owner of Reflective Healing, a psychotherapy practice in Fort Collins, Colorado. She is a licensed professional counselor, psychedelic therapist, and AASECT-certified sex therapist.
Dori has spent more than a decade working in transpersonal and depth-oriented approaches and has supported hundreds of ketamine and psilocybin therapy sessions. She also trains psychedelic practitioners and works at the intersection of sexuality, embodiment, and altered consciousness.
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Why can’t you orgasm, even when you know what feels good? Pressure, anxiety, shame, distraction, and the feeling that you must reach orgasm can make it harder to stay present and experience pleasure.In Episode …
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Why can’t you orgasm, even when you know what feels good? Pressure, anxiety, shame, distraction, and the feeling that you must reach orgasm can make it harder to stay present and experience pleasure.
In Episode 512 of the Sexology Podcast, Dr. Nazanin Moali speaks with consulting hypnotist and somatic coach Melinda Love about difficulty reaching orgasm, getting out of your head during sex, and developing a more connected relationship with your body and pleasure.
Melinda explains why wanting an orgasm too badly can turn sex into a performance. When your attention shifts toward monitoring your progress, worrying about your partner, or wondering whether you are taking too long, it becomes difficult to remain connected to arousal and pleasurable sensations.
You will learn why orgasm is not simply an automatic physical response, how sexual shame and negative beliefs can interfere with pleasure, and why removing orgasm as the sole goal of sex may actually make orgasm more accessible. Melinda also discusses self-exploration, clitoral stimulation, responsive desire, nervous system safety, breathwork, and embodied practices that can help you become more present during sex.
IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL LEARN:
• Why you may have difficulty reaching orgasm
• What an orgasm can feel like in the body
• Why trying too hard to orgasm can make it more difficult
• How performance anxiety interferes with sexual pleasure
• How to get out of your head during sex
• Why self-exploration is important for discovering what feels good
• How sexual arousal and orgasmic skills can develop over time
• How shame and negative sexual beliefs affect pleasure
• How partners can unintentionally create orgasm pressure
• Why clitoral stimulation is important for many women
• How responsive desire affects arousal
• How breathwork and body awareness can support sexual presence
• How to reduce distraction during sex
• Why pleasure does not have to end with orgasm
COMMON QUESTIONS ANSWERED:
Why can’t I orgasm even when sex feels good?
Pleasure and orgasm are related, but they are not identical. You can enjoy sexual stimulation while anxiety, distraction, pressure, shame, medication effects, relationship dynamics, or difficulty staying present interfere with orgasm.
Can trying too hard to orgasm prevent it?
Yes, orgasm pressure can shift your attention away from pleasurable sensations and toward self-monitoring. Instead of experiencing the moment, you may begin evaluating whether you are aroused enough, taking too long, or disappointing your partner.
How can I get out of my head during sex?
Slowing down, noticing physical sensations, communicating what feels good, reducing goal-focused pressure, and practicing self-exploration may help you feel more present and connected to your body.
ABOUT MELINDA LOVE
Melinda Love is a consulting hypnotist, somatic coach, and host of the Embodied Magic podcast. Her work helps women reconnect with their bodies, desires, and capacity for pleasure through hypnosis, nervous system regulation, breathwork, and embodied practices.
Drawing from extensive training in somatic coaching, sexuality, breathwork, and body-based healing, Melinda specializes in helping women move out of self-monitoring and into embodied pleasure. Her work focuses on orgasmic surrender, sexual self-trust, and freedom from shame.
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How do you turn your wife on without making sex feel pressured? In long-term relationships, desire often grows through anticipation, playful flirting, emotional connection, and affection that does not …
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How do you turn your wife on without making sex feel pressured? In long-term relationships, desire often grows through anticipation, playful flirting, emotional connection, and affection that does not automatically become a request for sex.
In this episode, Dr. Nazanin Moali is joined by Marni Kinrys, founder of The Wing Girl Method, to discuss how flirting and slow seduction can help couples rebuild attraction and escape the roommate dynamic.
Marni explains why moving too quickly into overtly sexual behavior can have the opposite effect, especially when stress, responsibilities, and emotional disconnection make it difficult to transition into a sexual mindset. She shares ways to build desire throughout the day, help your partner feel seen, listen without immediately trying to fix things, and bring playfulness back into your relationship.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
• How to turn your wife on without creating sexual pressure
• Why flirting matters in long-term relationships
• How to build desire and anticipation throughout the day
• Why affection can feel transactional when it always leads to sex
• What slow seduction looks like in everyday life
• How listening without fixing can strengthen connection
• Why feeling seen can support emotional and sexual intimacy
• How couples fall into the roommate dynamic
• How pursuer-withdrawer patterns affect desire
• Ways to bring curiosity and playfulness back to sex
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About Marni Kinrys:
Marni Kinrys is the founder of The Wing Girl Method, host of the Turn Her On podcast, and creator of the F-Formula. She is a dating and relationship coach who has spent more than a decade helping men improve their confidence, communication, flirting, and relationships.
Her online content has generated more than 150 million YouTube views, and her channel, Marni Your Personal Wing Girl, has more than 1.3 million subscribers.
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Dr. Nazanin Moali is a licensed psychologist, AASECT-certified sex therapist, and host of the Sexology Podcast. She provides sex and relationship therapy in Hermosa Beach, the South Bay of Los Angeles, and online throughout California.
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Why can someone orgasm alone but not with a partner? In this episode, Anna Cordin shares her personal experience of faking orgasms for 30 years—and what changed when she experienced her first partnered orgasm …
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Why can someone orgasm alone but not with a partner? In this episode, Anna Cordin shares her personal experience of faking orgasms for 30 years—and what changed when she experienced her first partnered orgasm at age 49.
Anna joins Dr. Nazanin Moali to discuss the pressure to perform during sex, difficulty staying present, and the importance of trust, emotional connection, and feeling safe enough to communicate honestly about pleasure. She explains how her relationship with her husband helped her let go of control, honor her authentic preferences, and stop pretending.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
• Why someone may be able to orgasm alone but not with a partner
• How sexual performance pressure can interfere with pleasure
• Why people fake orgasms in long-term relationships
• How trust and emotional connection can affect sexual presence
• What helped Anna experience partnered orgasm at 49
• How honest communication can strengthen sexual intimacy
• Why recognizing your authentic preferences matters
• How couples can begin rebuilding connection
About Anna Cordin:
Anna Cordin is a professional ballroom and Latin dance instructor and performer. Born into a family of musicians in Siberia, Russia, she developed an early passion for music, movement, and dance. After moving to the United States, she became a professional instructor with Fred Astaire Dance Studios and coached students who earned first-place finishes at prestigious competitions. In this episode, Anna shares her personal sexual story openly in the hope that other women will feel less alone.
About Dr. Nazanin Moali:
Dr. Nazanin Moali is a licensed psychologist, AASECT-certified sex therapist, and host of the Sexology Podcast. She provides sex and relationship therapy in Hermosa Beach, the South Bay of Los Angeles, and online throughout California.
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n Episode 509 of the Sexology Podcast, Dr. Nazanin Moali is joined by physician and longevity expert Dr. Jennifer Timmons to explain why erectile function can offer important clues about a man’s overall …
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n Episode 509 of the Sexology Podcast, Dr. Nazanin Moali is joined by physician and longevity expert Dr. Jennifer Timmons to explain why erectile function can offer important clues about a man’s overall health.
Erections depend on healthy blood flow, nerve function, hormones, metabolism, sleep, and psychological well-being. When erectile function suddenly or persistently changes, it may be worth looking beyond age or performance anxiety. Dr. Timmons explains how cardiovascular disease, insulin resistance, weight, alcohol, stress, medications, and poor sleep can all affect erections and sexual desire.
We also examine why men may be too quick to blame low testosterone when their libido or sexual performance changes. Dr. Timmons explains what testosterone therapy may address, what it cannot fix, and why treating a laboratory number without understanding the larger health picture can be risky.
The conversation also explores erectile dysfunction treatments, sexual enhancement supplements, GLP-1 medications, and popular approaches to men’s sexual optimization. You will learn what is supported by evidence, what appears promising, and what may be overhyped or potentially unsafe.
In this episode, you will learn:
• What erection changes can reveal about cardiovascular health
• When erectile dysfunction may warrant a medical evaluation
• Why erection problems should not automatically be dismissed as aging
• How insulin resistance and metabolic health affect erections
• The connection between weight, blood flow, and sexual function
• How sleep, stress, alcohol, and medications affect sexual performance
• Whether low testosterone is always responsible for low libido
• What testosterone replacement therapy can and cannot address
• The potential risks of testosterone therapy
• How GLP-1 medications may influence libido and sexual health
• Which erectile dysfunction treatments have the strongest evidence
• The risks of unregulated sexual enhancement supplements
• What every man over 40 should monitor when his sexual function changes
• How sexual health can offer insight into healthspan and longevity
About Dr. Jennifer Timmons
Dr. Jennifer Timmons is a physician specializing in personalized wellness, disease prevention, and longevity medicine. She earned her medical degree from the University of Southern California and completed her Family Medicine residency training at the University of California, Los Angeles.
After more than a decade in primary care at UCLA Health in Manhattan Beach, Dr. Timmons founded Timmons Wellness to provide individualized, data-driven care. She also has advanced training in functional and integrative medicine, precision medicine, and longevity medicine.
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What do women actually want in bed, and why do so many couples misunderstand each other’s sexual needs?In Episode 508 of the Sexology Podcast, Dr. Nazanin Moali is joined by gynecologist and sexual medicine …
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What do women actually want in bed, and why do so many couples misunderstand each other’s sexual needs?
In Episode 508 of the Sexology Podcast, Dr. Nazanin Moali is joined by gynecologist and sexual medicine specialist Dr. Maria Sophocles to explore the “bedroom gap,” the disconnect between what partners believe women want sexually and what women may actually experience.
Many couples can discuss money, parenting, work, and family but struggle to have an honest conversation about sex. Dr. Sophocles explains why these conversations feel so difficult and how silence, embarrassment, and cultural expectations can create unsatisfying sexual patterns in long-term relationships.
Together, they challenge common myths about penetration, orgasm, penis size, and what “good sex” is supposed to look like. They also examine how pornography and popular culture can shape unrealistic sexual expectations and leave couples focused on performance instead of mutual pleasure.
The conversation explores how menopause, hormonal changes, painful sex, and shifts in desire can affect intimacy. You will also learn how couples can communicate more openly, introduce novelty, redefine satisfying sex, and create sexual experiences centered on pleasure for both partners.
In this episode, you will learn:
• What the bedroom gap is and why it develops
• What women may actually want from sex and intimacy
• Why couples struggle to communicate about sexual needs
• How to discuss sex without blame, shame, or defensiveness
• Why penetration should not be treated as the main event
• How pornography shapes expectations about sex and orgasm
• Why penis size matters less than many people believe
• How to make sex more pleasure-focused and less performance-driven
• How menopause and hormonal changes can affect sexual desire
• Why sex may become painful during midlife
• How couples can bring novelty into long-term relationships
• Why mutual pleasure belongs at the center of sex education
About Dr. Maria Sophocles
Dr. Maria Sophocles is a board-certified gynecologist and sexual medicine specialist who has worked in women’s healthcare for nearly 30 years. She specializes in menopause management, female sexual health, painful sex, and helping women advocate for their health and sexual pleasure.
She is the founder of Women’s Healthcare of Princeton and a Menopause Society Certified Practitioner. Her TED Talk, “What Happens to Sex in Midlife? A Look at the Bedroom Gap,” has been viewed more than one million times. She is also the author of the forthcoming book The Bedroom Gap.
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Should you have sex when you’re not in the mood? You should never feel pressured or obligated to have sex, but you also may not need to wait for spontaneous desire before beginning to connect.In this episode of …
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Should you have sex when you’re not in the mood? You should never feel pressured or obligated to have sex, but you also may not need to wait for spontaneous desire before beginning to connect.
In this episode of the Sexology Podcast Caroline Hood joins Dr. Nazanin Moali to explain how responsive desire works and why sexual desire often changes in long-term relationships. They explore the important difference between being willing to become intimate and forcing yourself to have sex when you do not want to.
Caroline explains why some people experience desire only after affection, touch, or sexual stimulation begins. She also discusses how couples can schedule intimacy without making it feel obligatory, create the conditions that allow desire to grow, and communicate about sex without introducing pressure or rejection.
The conversation also explores sexuality after motherhood, the Madonna-whore narrative, emotional disconnection, and the importance of expanding our definition of what counts as sex. If you have been wondering why you are rarely “in the mood,” this episode offers a more compassionate way to understand your desire.
In this episode, you will learn:
• The difference between spontaneous and responsive desire
• Whether it is healthy to have sex when you are not initially in the mood
• Why sexual pressure and obligation reduce desire
• How to schedule sex without making it feel like another chore
• How couples can create more space for intimacy
• Why low desire does not always mean a lack of attraction
• How motherhood can affect sexuality and identity
• How the Madonna-whore narrative shapes women’s sexuality
• Why emotional connection matters for sexual desire
• How to communicate sexual needs without blame or pressure
• Why expanding your definition of sex can create more pleasure
• How fulfilling sexual experiences can help desire grow over time
About Caroline Hood
Caroline Hood is a writer and speaker exploring desire, intimacy, sex, play, and the cultural narratives surrounding long-term relationships. Her work combines humor, introspection, practical guidance, empowerment, and a little tough love.
Caroline challenges the assumption that sex inevitably becomes less satisfying over time. In Because I Want To, she encourages readers to reconnect with their desire, deepen intimacy, and build a more exciting and fulfilling sexual relationship.
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Why can trauma make you lose interest in sex, disconnect from your body, or freeze during intimacy? In this episode of the Sexology Podcast, somatic instructor Liz Tenuto, also known as The Workout Witch …
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Why can trauma make you lose interest in sex, disconnect from your body, or freeze during intimacy? In this episode of the Sexology Podcast, somatic instructor Liz Tenuto, also known as The Workout Witch, explains how trauma affects the nervous system, sexual desire, pleasure, and our ability to feel safe in the body.
Liz shares her personal journey of living with PTSD, chronic pain, sleep difficulties, and the long-term effects of trauma. She explains how gentle somatic exercises and small, intentional movements may help reduce habitual tension, regulate the nervous system, and rebuild a sense of safety and connection with the body.
We also explore the fawn and freeze responses during sex, why anxiety can be mistaken for a lack of desire, and how trauma survivors can begin reconnecting with sexual sensation without forcing themselves to move faster than their bodies are ready for.
Liz opens up about healing after an abusive marriage, coming out, and discovering her sexuality later in life. She shares how becoming more connected to her body helped her understand what she genuinely wanted from relationships, sex, and intimacy.
In this episode, you will learn:
- How trauma can affect sexual desire and physical sensation
- What somatic healing is and how somatic exercises work
- How stress and trauma become connected to chronic tension
- What the fawn response looks like in relationships
- Why someone may freeze or disconnect during sex
- How the nervous system influences arousal, pleasure, and libido
- Ways to ground yourself when sexual triggers arise
- How to distinguish desire from anxiety or hyperarousal
- Why slowing down can help rebuild safety and pleasure
- How trauma survivors can reconnect with their bodies
- What it can mean to discover your sexuality later in life
About Liz Tenuto
Liz Tenuto, also known as The Workout Witch, is a somatic instructor who specializes in practices designed to address the physical effects of chronic stress and trauma. Her mission is to make somatic healing approachable, accessible, and easy to incorporate into everyday life.
Drawing from both professional knowledge and personal experience as a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and domestic violence, Liz helps people understand how trauma can influence the body, nervous system, relationships, and capacity for pleasure.
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How do you rebuild trust after infidelity? Can a relationship survive an affair, and can emotional intimacy and sexual desire return after betrayal?In this episode of the Sexology Podcast, Dr. Nazanin Moali …
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How do you rebuild trust after infidelity? Can a relationship survive an affair, and can emotional intimacy and sexual desire return after betrayal?
In this episode of the Sexology Podcast, Dr. Nazanin Moali speaks with renowned couples therapist and sex therapist Dr. Laurie Watson about infidelity recovery, forgiveness, attachment wounds, and rebuilding trust after cheating.
Dr. Watson explains why relationship problems involving sex are rarely just about sex. She explores how emotional attachment and sexual attachment intersect, creating a pursue and withdraw cycle in which one partner feels rejected while the other feels pressured, overwhelmed, or disconnected.
You’ll also learn why people cheat, how an affair affects emotional and sexual intimacy, and what it takes to repair a relationship after betrayal. Dr. Watson shares practical guidance for understanding attachment patterns, healing relationship wounds, restoring trust, and reconnecting sexually after infidelity.
Whether you are recovering from an affair, struggling with mismatched sexual desire, or feeling emotionally disconnected from your partner, this episode offers a compassionate roadmap for rebuilding safety, intimacy, and connection.
ABOUT DR. LAURIE WATSON:
Dr. Laurie Watson, PhD, LMFT, LCMHC, is a nationally recognized sex therapist, couples therapist, author, and podcaster. She is the co-author of Brave Love; Great Sex: Unlocking the Passion and Connection You Crave with Emotionally Focused Therapy and author of Wanting Sex Again. Laurie is an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor and an ICEEFT Certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist. She co-hosts the Brave Love; Great Sex podcast with George Faller, which has more than 15 million downloads and over 500 episodes. She is also the founder and director of Awakenings Center for Couples & Sex Therapy in North Carolina, where she has spent decades helping couples build stronger emotional and sexual connection.
N THIS EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:
• Why sexual desire changes in long term relationships
• How the pursue and withdraw cycle affects sex and intimacy
• The relationship between emotional and sexual attachment
• How to recognize the mega attachment pattern
• Why people cheat, even when they still love their partner
• Whether a relationship can survive infidelity
• What forgiveness after an affair really means
• How to repair attachment wounds after betrayal
• How to rebuild trust after cheating
• Ways to restore emotional and sexual intimacy
• How Dr. Watson’s REV Method helps couples reconnect
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Welcome to Episode 504 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to welcome back Dr. Richard Espinoza, who speaks to me about how attachment styles shape our dating patterns, relationships, and sexual …
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Welcome to Episode 504 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to welcome back Dr. Richard Espinoza, who speaks to me about how attachment styles shape our dating patterns, relationships, and sexual connections.
In this episode, Dr. E and I discuss why we can have such intense chemistry with people that we may not be compatible with at all. We look at how our early attachment experiences influence who we find familiar and attractive as adults, why emotionally unavailable partners can sometimes create an intoxicating sense of desire, and how the nervous system can mistake anxiety, uncertainty, or old relational patterns for chemistry.
Richard “Dr. E” Espinoza, PsyD, is a leading clinical psychologist based in Los Angeles, specializing in trauma and resilience. His practice places a strong emphasis on serving the LGBTQ+ community and its allies, striving to empower individuals from diverse backgrounds through comprehensive psychological assessments, transformative talk therapy, and dedicated activism. Dr. Espinoza is an esteemed professor and captivating speaker, where he shares practical insights on self-discovery and personal growth, along with creating accessible self-help resources designed to inspire personal transformation and a deeper sense of fulfillment.
In this episode, you will hear:
- Why Unavailable Partners Feel So Attractive
- When Chemistry Is Actually Anxiety
- Understanding The Four Attachment Styles
- How Childhood Shapes Your Dating Type
- Why Familiarity Does Not Equal Compatibility
- How Attachment Patterns Affect Sex
- Using Sex For Reassurance And Validation
- Why Insight Alone Does Not Create Change
- Creating Corrective Emotional Experiences
- Rethinking Attraction Through LA Love Lab
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Welcome to Episode 503 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Midori who speaks to me about exploring kink, dominance, submission, and finding authentic ways to embrace our desires.In this …
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Welcome to Episode 503 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Midori who speaks to me about exploring kink, dominance, submission, and finding authentic ways to embrace our desires.
In this episode, I speak with Midori about why we’re seeing a rise in women getting curious about dominance and BDSM, particularly women in their 40s and beyond. We discuss how difficult cultural assumptions can open up opportunities for greater sexual self-exploration, and that it’s OK to be dominant without being mean, scary or playing a stereotypical dominatrix.
Midori is an internationally recognized sexologist, kink educator, coach, and author. She's the founder of ForteFemme Women's Dominance Intensive, the groundbreaking program she's run for over 20 years, and the author of The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage, the first English-language book on Shibari, along with contributions to several academic volumes. She also trains therapists and wellness professionals as Curriculum Director for the Kink Informed Certification through the Sexual Health Alliance, and presents regularly at the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT). Through workshops and private coaching, she helps adults bring more creativity, confidence, and erotic fulfillment into their lives.
In this episode, you will hear:
- Women Exploring Dominance Later In Life
- Moving Beyond Traditional Sexual Roles
- Understanding Ravishment Fantasies
- Why Submission Can Feel Liberating
- Exploring Erotic Humiliation Safely
- Finding Your Dominant Archetype
- Introducing The You Will Game
- Communicating And Co-Creating Kink
- Challenging Common BDSM Misconceptions
- Finding Safe And Trustworthy Kink Resources
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Welcome to Episode 502 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Jane Garnett, LMFT who speaks to me about how our attraction patterns develop and whether we change who we are drawn to.In this …
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Welcome to Episode 502 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Jane Garnett, LMFT who speaks to me about how our attraction patterns develop and whether we change who we are drawn to.
In this episode, Jane and I discuss why we can have so much attraction to people who are emotionally unavailable or unable to give us the secure relationship we want. We also look at how attachment styles, cultural conditioning, unmet emotional needs, and past relationship experience can influence what is exciting or desirable.
Jane Garnett is an Oxford-educated speaker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), EMDR practitioner, and author of This Time with Feeling (May 12, 2026). With nearly 20 years in private practice, her work often centers on high-functioning individuals whose lives look successful on the outside but are shaped by patterns of emotional disconnection, anxiety, or underlying dissatisfaction. As a psychotherapist, Jane helps people rewrite the beliefs that subconsciously shape their lives, recognize the scripts they inherited, listen to the body’s signals, and make choices that create actual safety and connection— helping them shift not just their circumstances, but their relationship to themselves and their lives.
In this episode, you will hear:
- Changing Our Attraction Patterns
- Understanding Unhealthy Relationship Templates
- When Chaos Feels Like Chemistry
- Attraction To Emotionally Unavailable Partners
- Cultural Messages About Desire
- Exploring The Meaning Of Fantasy
- Affairs As A Form Of Splitting
- Learning To Choose Yourself
- Regulating The Nervous System
- Rewiring Relationships Through EMDR
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Welcome to Episode 501 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Heather Florio and Dr. Fenwa Milhouse who speak to me about sexual health, desire, and pleasure during perimenopause and …
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Welcome to Episode 501 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Heather Florio and Dr. Fenwa Milhouse who speak to me about sexual health, desire, and pleasure during perimenopause and menopause.
In this episode, we discuss how changes in levels of oestrogen and testosterone can affect the brain, genitals, arousal and sex drive. We examine why hormones alone are rarely the cause of low libido, and how relationship dynamics, painful sex, body image, stress, shame, and the natural shift from spontaneous to responsive desire can all impact someone’s sexual experience.
Heather Florio is the second-generation CEO of Desert Harvest, a women's-health company her family founded in 1993. She writes the monthly Dear Sexpert column for BELLA Magazine, sits on BELLA's Medical Advisory Board, and is a Forbes Leading Woman in Business (2022). Late-diagnosed autistic.
Dr. Fenwa Milhouse—widely known as “Your Favorite Urologist”- is a board-certified urologist and fellowship-trained sub-specialist in Urogynecology and Reconstructive Pelvic Surgery.
She is the current President of the Chicago Urological Society—making history as the first Black woman to hold this position.
In this episode, you will hear:
- Hormonal Changes During Perimenopause
- Understanding Multifactorial Low Desire
- Barriers To Menopause Treatment
- Spontaneous Versus Responsive Desire
- Painful Sex And Vaginal Health
- Systemic And Vaginal Hormone Therapy
- Choosing Safer Personal Lubricants
- Medications For Low Libido
- GLP-1s And Sexual Desire
- Rediscovering Pleasure After Menopause
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Welcome to Episode 500 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I am excited to be joined by some of my most memorable guests, who speak to me about the biggest lessons on pleasure, desire, intimacy, and connection from …
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Welcome to Episode 500 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I am excited to be joined by some of my most memorable guests, who speak to me about the biggest lessons on pleasure, desire, intimacy, and connection from the past nine years.
In this special milestone episode, I revisit conversations that challenged common assumptions about what fulfilling sex is supposed to look like. We explore why foreplay often begins long before anyone enters the bedroom, how every human body experiences pleasure differently, and why there is no single correct way to orgasm. We also look at what research can teach us about sexual positions, pelvic floor contractions, stimulation, and the importance of adapting sexual experiences to our individual bodies.
I also reflect on the deeper lessons these 500 conversations have taught me about becoming a more attentive and connected partner. We discuss moving beyond sexual autopilot, questioning techniques learned through pornography, understanding our fantasies without shame, and keeping desire alive in long-term relationships. Thank you for making these 500 episodes possible and here’s to the next 500!
In this episode, you will hear (In Order Of Appearance)
- Sebastian Harris
- Emily Nagoski
- Lauri Mintz
- Amir Marashi
- Anna Lee
- Miranda Houston
- Jason Julius
- Justin Lehmiller
- Ian Kerner
- Peggy Kleinplatz
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Welcome to Episode 499 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Dr. Michelle Sands, who speaks to me about the connection between hormones, stress, the nervous system, and women’s sexual …
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Welcome to Episode 499 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Dr. Michelle Sands, who speaks to me about the connection between hormones, stress, the nervous system, and women’s sexual desire.
In this episode, Dr. Sands explains why a loss of desire is not always a libido problem. We discuss how changes in estrogen, progesterone, testosterone, circulation, sleep, and vaginal health can affect arousal and sexual comfort, particularly during perimenopause and menopause. We also talk about why pain during sex can naturally reduce desire and why women should not assume that they are broken or failing their partners.
Dr. Michelle Sands, ND, is a #1 bestselling author, licensed naturopathic physician, speaker, female hormone expert, and epigenetics coach. She is passionate about helping women harness the power of nature to elevate their genetic expression and live vibrant, fulfilling lives by supporting their physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health.
In this episode, you will hear:
- Libido As A Vital Sign
- Hormonal Changes During Menopause
- Understanding Painful Sex
- Stress And Cortisol Dysregulation
- Advocating For Hormone Care
- Rethinking Hormone Replacement Therapy
- Scheduling Intimacy Without Pressure
- Supporting Arousal And Blood Flow
- Restoring Nervous System Balance
- Sexual Health And Longevity
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Welcome to Episode 498 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Amanda Dames who speaks to me about soft dom dynamics, masculinity, and communication in kink.In this episode Amanda and I …
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Welcome to Episode 498 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Amanda Dames who speaks to me about soft dom dynamics, masculinity, and communication in kink.
In this episode Amanda and I discuss what it really means to be a soft dom and how this style of dominance is different than the harsh, controlling stereotypes often associated with dom-sub dynamics. We talk about the basis for soft domination, on care, attunement, emotional safety and the desire to bring out the best in a partner, as opposed to control, punishment or ego.
As a Certified Somatica® Sex and Relationship Coach and Certified Sexologist, Amanda helps clients uncover a holistic and balanced relationship with intimacy. She understands that there is no one-size-fits-all approach, which is why she developed her own consulting method to support each person in discovering their unique path to fulfillment. Amanda’s work as The Kink Consultant is rooted in the path she took to embrace her own sexuality. Understanding the source of her kinks and core desires was the first step in her journey toward self-acceptance. She now uses this same approach to help individuals and couples embrace their kinky side with curiosity, confidence, and compassion.
In this episode, you will hear:
- Understanding Soft Domination
- Healthy Power Exchange
- Care Versus Control
- Masculinity And Safety
- Toxic Manosphere Culture
- Emotional Attunement
- Foreplay Outside The Bedroom
- Building Erotic Polarity
- Communication And Safe Words
- Aftercare And Feedback
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Welcome to Episode 497 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Shoshanna Blanca who speaks to me about bridging sexuality and spirituality, healing sexual shame, and reclaiming the body as …
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Welcome to Episode 497 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Shoshanna Blanca who speaks to me about bridging sexuality and spirituality, healing sexual shame, and reclaiming the body as sacred.
In this episode, I speak with Shoshanna about her provocative and deeply personal project, Jesus Christ Pornstar, and the spiritual journey that inspired it. She shares how psychedelic experiences helped her reimagine the relationship between the body, pleasure, faith, and divinity. Together, we also discuss how sexuality and spirituality do not have to exist in opposition, especially for people who have grown up with shame-based messages about desire, pleasure, and the body.
Shoshanna Blanca is a feminist writer, sex educator, performance artist and model who deconstructs shame-based narratives around sexuality through body liberation, spirituality and visual storytelling. Through her work, she inspires audiences to reject limiting ideas of beauty, modesty and self-expression and reclaim confidence, authenticity and ownership of their bodies.
In this episode, you will hear:
- Bridging Sexuality And Spirituality
- Healing Sexual Shame
- Reclaiming The Body As Sacred
- Jesus Christ Pornstar
- Psychedelics And Spiritual Awakening
- Religion And Erotic Freedom
- Women’s Desire And Empowerment
- Sexual Repression And Pain
- Reinterpreting Biblical Messages
- Finding Sex-Positive Faith
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Welcome to Episode 496 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by David Chambers, who speaks to me about male sexual performance anxiety and creating more connected sexual experiences.In this …
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Welcome to Episode 496 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by David Chambers, who speaks to me about male sexual performance anxiety and creating more connected sexual experiences.
In this episode, David and I talk about the pressure many men feel to perform during sex. We discuss how focusing on erections, penis size, orgasm and technique can disconnect men from their bodies and partners, turning intimacy into something they must successfully deliver.
David Chambers, known as The Authentic Man, is a UK-based dating, relationship and intimacy coach for men. With more than a decade of experience, he helps men build deeper relationships, develop healthier masculinity and create more fulfilling sexual lives. His approach centres on self-awareness, emotional intelligence, authenticity and self-leadership.
In this episode, you will hear:
- The Pressure To Perform During Sex
- Why Sex Is Not A Competition
- Anxiety Around Penis Size
- How Shame Affects Male Confidence
- Overcoming The Fear Of Losing An Erection
- Communicating Sexual Anxiety With A Partner
- Moving Beyond Penetration
- Building Greater Sexual Presence
- Maintaining Intimacy As Men Age
- Co-Creating More Connected Sexual Experiences
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Welcome to Episode 495 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Dr. Debra Durst who speaks to me about biohacking sexual health, hormone optimization, and libido after 40.In this episode, Dr …
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Welcome to Episode 495 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Dr. Debra Durst who speaks to me about biohacking sexual health, hormone optimization, and libido after 40.
In this episode, Dr. Durst and I talk about how sexual health can shift during perimenopause, menopause, and midlife, but why that does not mean people have to simply accept a decline in desire, arousal, lubrication, orgasmic strength, or overall sexual satisfaction. We also discuss how hormone changes, low testosterone, stress, burnout, medication, childbirth, and aging tissue can all play a role in sexual concerns, and why many women are often left without enough clear answers from traditional healthcare settings.
Dr. Debra Durst, MD is a nationally recognized physician, entrepreneur, and thought leader in sexual wellness, hormone optimization, regenerative medicine, and longevity care. She is frequently featured across television, podcasts, YouTube, print, and digital media for her bold, science-based approach to modern healthcare. Dr. Durst spent her early career working as a clinical pharmacist. She then utilized her pharmacy foundation to further pursue her Medical degree at Thee Ohio State University.
In this episode, you will hear:
- Biohacking Sexual Health After 40
- Why Libido Can Change With Age
- Hormones And Sexual Desire
- Perimenopause, Menopause, And Intimacy
- Advocating For Better Care
- Female Sexual Health Beyond Reproduction
- Regenerative Sexual Wellness Treatments
- The O-Shot And Laser Therapy
- Peptides And PT-141
- Finding The Right Provider
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Welcome to Episode 494 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Amanda McCracken, who speaks to me about breaking the cycle of infatuation, limerence, perfectionism, and longing for …
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Welcome to Episode 494 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Amanda McCracken, who speaks to me about breaking the cycle of infatuation, limerence, perfectionism, and longing for emotionally unavailable love.
In this episode, Amanda shares the deeply personal story behind her book When Longing Becomes Your Lover and how writing the book helped her understand the dating patterns that kept pulling her toward unavailable partners. We speak to the difference between real love and the emotional intensity that often pretends to be love, particularly when anxiety and fear and the chase become familiar aspects of attraction.
Amanda McCracken is an award-winning journalist passionate about experiences that highlight the intersection of wellness, travel, and relationships. Her work has appeared in the New York Times, Washington Post, Guardian, Vogue, National Geographic, NPR, Elle, Outside, Self, Runner's World, ESPN, and many others. She published her first essay about longing in 2013 which led to additional articles featuring anecdotes and deep research and interviews with the BBC and Katie Couric.
In this episode, you will hear:
- Understanding Limerence And Infatuation
- Chasing Emotionally Unavailable Partners
- Mistaking Anxiety For Love
- Purity Culture And Sexual Boundaries
- Hookup Culture And Uncertainty
- The Role Of Social Media
- Listening To The Body
- Building Trust Before Love
- Choosing Consistency Over Intensity
- Breaking The Cycle Of Longing
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Welcome to episode 493 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Rosa Campbell, who speaks to me about Shere Hite, The Hite Report, and the ongoing struggle to centre women’s sexual …
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Welcome to episode 493 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Rosa Campbell, who speaks to me about Shere Hite, The Hite Report, and the ongoing struggle to centre women’s sexual pleasure.
In this episode, Rosa introduces us to Shere Hite’s groundbreaking 1976 book, The Hite Report, which gathered women’s honest experiences of sex, orgasm, desire, and dissatisfaction at a time when their voices were rarely included in sexology research. We discuss how Hite challenged the assumption that penetration should define sex, revealing how many women felt trapped inside sexual scripts that prioritised male pleasure over their own.
Rosa Campbell is a writer and historian based in London. She works on the global history of feminism and is a Leverhulme Early Career Fellow at King's College London and holds a PhD from the University of Cambridge. Beyond academia, she writes often for a public audience. She is the author of the The Book that Taught the World to Orgasm and then Disappeared: Shere Hite and The Hite Report out now with Melville House in the US/UK and New South in Australia/NZ.
In this episode, you will hear:
- Understanding The Hite Report
- Shere Hite’s Groundbreaking Research
- Listening To Women’s Sexual Experiences
- Challenging Penetration-Centred Sex
- The Politics Behind Sexual Pleasure
- How Feminist Work Was Silenced
- Why The Orgasm Gap Persists
- Faking Orgasm And Emotional Safety
- Learning Beyond Sexual Scripts
- Creating More Fulfilling Sex Lives
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Welcome to episode 492 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Susanna Brisk, who shares with me her insights on reconnecting to desire, the energetic body and sexual intuition.In this …
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Welcome to episode 492 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Susanna Brisk, who shares with me her insights on reconnecting to desire, the energetic body and sexual intuition.
In this episode, Susanna and I talk about how sexuality is much more than just technique. We discuss the energetic body, the unconscious agreements we bring to our relationships, and how shame, religious guilt, trauma, gender roles and cultural expectations can subtly impact desire.
Susanna Brisk is a Sexual Intuitive® who teaches people how to trust what they feel, even when it contradicts what they believe. Her work centers on restoring self-trust by translating the body’s intuitive signals into clear, actionable insight. Born in Estonia and raised in Australia after emigrating through the U.N. Refugee Program, Susanna has lived a wide-ranging life—from being scouted as a model and booking national TV commercials to working as a writer, stand-up comic, actor, and solo performer.
In this episode, you will hear:
- Understanding The Energetic Body
- Desire And Body Connection
- Shame, Guilt, And Sexuality
- Toxic Masculinity And Femininity
- Power Dynamics In Relationships
- Submission, Choice, And Consent
- Abandoning Yourself Sexually
- Wants, Needs, And Turn-Ons
- Rethinking Intimacy And Pleasure
- Self-Intimacy Touch Practice
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Welcome to Episode 491 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Alexander Giebel, who speaks to me about the history of lubricants, how to choose the right lube, and why quality is important …
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Welcome to Episode 491 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Alexander Giebel, who speaks to me about the history of lubricants, how to choose the right lube, and why quality is important for sexual health.
In this episode, Alexander shares how his interest in sexual health started during the HIV crisis of the 1990s, when condoms became a cornerstone of safer sex education. Working on those, he became fascinated with the silicone lubricant used on condoms, and eventually helped bring silicone-based personal lubricant to the broader market.
Alexander Giebel is the founder and CEO of pjur group, one of the world’s leading manufacturers of premium personal lubricants. As the inventor of the first silicone-based lubricant, he established a completely new category in sexual wellness when he founded pjur in 1995. Today, pjur products are available in over 70 countries across five continents, with the company remaining proudly founder-owned.
In this episode, you will hear:
- The History Of Lubricants
- Silicone-Based Lubricants
- Lubricants And The HIV Crisis
- Medical-Grade Product Standards
- Reading Lubricant Labels
- Water-Based Vs Silicone Lubes
- Avoiding Irritation And Discomfort
- Choosing Lube For Anal Play
- Lubricant And Toy Compatibility
- Genital Skincare And Marketing Claims
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Welcome to Episode 490 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I am excited to be joined by Dr. Jordan Barber, who speaks to me about pain during sex.In this episode, Dr. Barber and I discuss why so many people are …
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Welcome to Episode 490 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I am excited to be joined by Dr. Jordan Barber, who speaks to me about pain during sex.
In this episode, Dr. Barber and I discuss why so many people are told that “everything looks normal” when they are experiencing very real pain during sex. He explains how standard medical testing often misses muscle and nerve function, and why painful sex is rarely caused by one single factor.
Dr. Jordan Barber is a Doctor of Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine (DAOM) specializing in integrative pain care with a focus on pelvic floor dysfunction, chronic pelvic pain, and complex musculoskeletal conditions. His clinical work centers on advanced dry needling and neuromodulation-based acupuncture, targeting both tissue and nervous system drivers of pain. With over two decades of experience, he works at the intersection of traditional Chinese medicine and modern pain science to help patients restore function and break persistent pain patterns.
In this episode, you will hear:
- Understanding Painful Sex
- Muscle Pain Versus Nerve Pain
- Why Tests Can Look Normal
- Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy
- Trauma And Pelvic Pain
- Dry Needling Explained
- Vagus Nerve Stimulation
- Hormones And Lubrication
- Building The Right Care Team
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Welcome to Episode 489 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Elana Auerbach, who speaks to me about navigating sexless marriages and reviving physical intimacy.It is incredibly common for …
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Welcome to Episode 489 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Elana Auerbach, who speaks to me about navigating sexless marriages and reviving physical intimacy.
It is incredibly common for long-term relationships to experience a decline in physical intimacy over time. Often, couples fall into a routine where life gets busy, and cultivating a sexual spark drops to the bottom of the priority list. During our conversation, we explore why this happens and how unspoken frustrations and rejections can build up over time like invisible panes of glass between partners.
Elana Auerbach is a lover, mother, mentor, activator, and priestess. She spent her childhood and young adulthood on what she calls 'the conveyor belt of life,' being the good girl and doing what others expected of her. This looked like graduating Phi Beta Kappa from UCLA, working on Wall Street for a Japanese investment bank, and marrying someone with whom she felt no chemistry.
It all fell apart in 2001 when Elana realized she’d been living a lie and found the courage to leave her marriage. She entered a world of sensuality and sex in a San Francisco pleasure-centered community. This is where she met Bill, who would become her loverman for life.
In this episode, you will hear:
- Defining Sexless Relationships
- The Myth of Spontaneous Desire
- Understanding Responsive Desire
- Navigating Discrepancies in Libido
- The Impact of Unspoken Rejection
- Introducing the Sure Thing Practice
- Exploring Sensuality Without Pressure
- Honoring Boundaries and Communicating Nos
- Overcoming the Burden of Sexual Shame
- Taking Accountability for Intimacy Goals
Elana's guided journey to deepen with your wild, sensual self and connect with your passion and desire!
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Welcome to Episode 488 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Dr. Arthur Burnett who speaks to me about delayed ejaculation and loss of penile sensitivity.In this episode Dr. Burnett and I …
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Welcome to Episode 488 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Dr. Arthur Burnett who speaks to me about delayed ejaculation and loss of penile sensitivity.
In this episode Dr. Burnett and I discuss a topic that has been highly requested by many of our listeners and clients. We look at the complicated factors behind delayed ejaculation and the annoying loss of sensitivity some men experience. Dr. Burnett shares his urologic expertise on the role of physical health conditions such as diabetes or sensory neuropathies as well as the much-debated role of testosterone levels.
Arthur L. “Bud” Burnett II, M.D., MBA, FACS, is a trail-blazing and globally recognized urologist, educator, and researcher at Johns Hopkins University, where he has worked for more than 40 years. He serves as the Patrick C. Walsh Professor of Urology, Director of the Male Consultation Clinic.
As a barrier-breaking leader, he is recognized as the first Black person to have achieved milestones in the urology profession as professor of urology at Johns Hopkins University, President of the Sexual Medicine Society of North America (SMSNA), and Board Member of the American Urological Association.
In this episode, you will hear:
- Multilayered Causes of Delayed Ejaculation
- Impact of Diabetes and Neuropathy on Sexual Health
- The Role of Testosterone in Ejaculatory Function
- Potential Side Effects of Weight Management Drugs
- Retraining Sensitivity Altered by Masturbation Habits
- How Alpha Blockers and Antidepressants Affect Climax
- The Connection Between OCD and Ejaculatory Control
- Debunking Myths About Attraction and Performance
- Constructive Ways Partners Can Offer Meaningful Support
- Safe Practices for Using Constrictive Devices and Toys
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Welcome to episode 487 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I am excited to be joined by Courtney Fae Long, who speaks to me about understanding and resolving lost desire in long-term relationships.In this episode …
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Welcome to episode 487 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I am excited to be joined by Courtney Fae Long, who speaks to me about understanding and resolving lost desire in long-term relationships.
In this episode, we talk about a common problem that many couples in long-term relationships have: the natural change and sometimes loss of sexual desire. When a partner's interest seems to fade, it's easy for our minds to jump to the worst possible conclusions. But in reality, it's often because of mismatched expectations, not a lack of attraction. Courtney and I talk about the myth of rushing through physical intimacy and why treating sex like a race often makes people feel disconnected.
Courtney Fae Long, MSW, LC, CHt, is the creator of Sex Life Makeover and TEDx speaker whose work has been featured in NBC, Forbes, MSN, and Psychology Today. She specializes in highly sexual women who feel frustrated and unfulfilled. She holds a Master’s Degree in Social Work (MSW) and certificates in Sexuality Education and Sex Therapy from the University of Michigan and has been teaching for 25+ years. Courtney brings a lighthearted, joyful approach to sex.
In this episode, you will hear:
● The Myth of Sex in Football Style
● Physiological Requirements for Extended Warm-ups
● Going from Hustle Culture to Presence
● The Idea of Foreplay All Day
● Changing the Way We Do Date Night
● How Mothering Changes Kill Sexual Desire
● The Risks of Pretending to Enjoy and Have Orgasms
● Talking About Changing Sexual Preferences
● Growing the Parasympathetic Nervous System
● The Twenty-Minute Cuddle and Connect Exercise
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