254. how to help someone who doesn’t want help (without making it worse)

April 4, 2026 · 20 min

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how do you help someone who’s struggling with depression??

in this solo episode, i answer a mom's question on how she can best support her son with his depression. i explain how my mental health journey taught me what the best– and worst!– ways are to be there for someone who’s depressed– and three conversation ideas you can try out.

whether you’re a parent, sibling, or friend, this advice can apply to anyone who wants to be a support system for their loved one.

i talk about:

• what to do if someone you care about is feeling hopeless

• why encouragement can be invalidating when you’re depressed

• do’s + don’ts for supporting someone who’s depressed

• using dbt diary cards to validate

• the best ways to offer advice to someone with depression

• how depression + anger are linked

• three ways to make someone feel less alone

mentioned:

• ep.209 maddy ellberger

• ep.156 diary cards