That Husband Podcast
- Episodes
- 127
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- Nov 11, 2026
About the podcast
Husbands trying to know better so that we can do better Hosted By Blaque Nubon New episodes every Wednesday!
Episodes 127
Facing Failure, Unemployment & Losing My Father To Addiction - Why I Won't Give Up | Jabu Masombuka
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[S3] EPISODE 41: HOW MY BATTLES SHAPE THE HUSBAND I AM
In this episode, Blaque sits down with Jabulani Masombuka for a deeply personal conversation about perseverance, family, addiction and the experiences that shaped the man and husband he has become. He reflects on growing up in a home where his parents' marriage remained intact, where his father was present, provided for the family and constantly encouraged his children to pursue a better future.But behind that stability was a struggle with gambling addiction that would eventually lead to his father's suicide. He shares what it was like to grow up with a father who could be so loving, supportive and intentional, while also carrying struggles that had devastating consequences. At the time, he had little ambition or direction of his own, but watching his father's life unfold became a turning point that forced him to reconsider the kind of man he wanted to become.
Today, he lives a life very different from the one his parents knew. But he carries both sides of that upbringing: the beauty of a father who believed in him and the pain of a man who was fighting battles of his own.
This is a conversation about the complicated realities of family, the impact of addiction, the weight of loss and the decision to keep going. It's about finding the courage to build a different life, even when your starting point is filled with both love and pain.
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Are We Raising Young Women to Avoid Marriage? | Sizo Msibi & Lebo Setai
Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources. [S3] EPISODE 40: YOUNG WOMEN GET BRUTALLY HONEST ABOUT MODERN DATING In this episode, Blaque Nubon sits down with Sizo and …
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[S3] EPISODE 40: YOUNG WOMEN GET BRUTALLY HONEST ABOUT MODERN DATING
In this episode, Blaque Nubon sits down with Sizo and Lebo for an honest conversation about dating, marriage and what young women are really looking for in a husband.
Sizo and Lebo share their perspectives on the pressures women face to be independent, successful and “wife material” all at once. They unpack the importance of clear intentions, shared values and meaningful conversation, while challenging the idea that money or appearances alone can sustain a relationship.
The conversation also explores provision, partnership and the tension between building a life for yourself and building one with someone else. From emotional maturity and accountability to marriage timelines, family examples and traditional expectations, they discuss what it means to prepare for love without losing yourself in the process.
This isn't just a conversation about what women want. It's about rethinking marriage as a partnership where both people are seen, supported and refined. Because a healthy marriage should not stop your life. It should give two people the space to build something better together.
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Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources. [S3] EPISODE 39: YOU KEEP DISAPPOINTING THE WRONG PERSON In this episode, Blaque Nubon sits down with Karabo Mogane for an …
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[S3] EPISODE 39: YOU KEEP DISAPPOINTING THE WRONG PERSON
In this episode, Blaque Nubon sits down with Karabo Mogane for an honest conversation about marriage, people-pleasing and the pressure to keep everyone happy. Karabo shares how marriage has challenged him to recognise his people-pleasing tendencies, learn to say no and establish boundaries, particularly with family.
They explore the tension between being a good son and being a husband who protects his marriage, and why choosing your wife sometimes means making decisions that others may not like. The conversation also unpacks the expectations that come with marriage, the guilt of disappointing people and the importance of ensuring your actions reflect the values you believe in. This isn't just a conversation about learning to say no.
It's about understanding what marriage requires of you, confronting the patterns that hold you back and becoming intentional about the man and husband you want to be. Because you can't keep everyone happy. Sometimes, becoming a better husband means having the courage to disappoint people.
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Young Men Are Struggling With Relationships, Money & Societal Pressures | Percy & Tshenolo
Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources. [S3] EPISODE 38: HAVE WE RUINED MARRIAGE FOR THEM? In this episode, Blaque sits down with Percy and Tshenolo for an honest …
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[S3] EPISODE 38: HAVE WE RUINED MARRIAGE FOR THEM?
In this episode, Blaque sits down with Percy and Tshenolo for an honest conversation about what it means to be a young man today, navigating relationships, money and the pressure to have life figured out.
They unpack why it can feel so difficult to be a man in this generation, from the expectations society places on men to the lack of positive role models and honest conversations about manhood. They explore what happens when young men are taught to focus on success but aren't necessarily shown how to build healthy relationships, become good husbands or prepare for family life.
Percy and Tshenolo share their perspectives on dating, marriage and the financial pressure young men face when thinking about their futures. They discuss the expectation that a man should have money, stability and everything in place before pursuing a relationship, and ask whether we've made it harder for young people to build a life together from the ground up. They also get into the influence of social media, the pressure to keep up with expensive lifestyles, and how constant comparison can shape what we expect from relationships. When everyone seems to be travelling, spending and living a certain way, where does that leave a young man who is still studying, finding his feet and trying to figure out what he has to offer?
The conversation goes deeper into vulnerability, emotional honesty and the challenge of learning how to be a man without always having examples to follow. They reflect on the messages young people receive about dating, the importance of community, and how the advice to focus on building a career and making money can sometimes leave marriage and family as an afterthought.
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The Ego Husband, The Needy Husband & The Fearful Husband: Which One Are You? | VTJ Masakona
Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources. [S3] EPISODE 37: WHY DO YOU HANDLE CONFLICT THE WAY YOU DO? In this episode, Blaque sits down with VTJ Masakona for an …
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[S3] EPISODE 37: WHY DO YOU HANDLE CONFLICT THE WAY YOU DO?
In this episode, Blaque sits down with VTJ Masakona for an honest conversation about conflict, pressure and the different ways husbands respond when marriage gets difficult. They unpack the different kinds of husbands that can emerge under pressure: the husband driven by ego, the husband who needs to be needed, and the husband driven by fear. What looks like love, leadership or sacrifice on the surface can sometimes be rooted in something much deeper.
VTJ and Blaque talk about what happens when a husband tries to be everything for his wife, why some men struggle to admit they no longer have the capacity to show up the way they once did, and how the need to be needed can become part of a man's identity.
They also get into the harder side of conflict: silence, emotional capacity, difficult conversations and the importance of choosing the right language when emotions are high. Sometimes the issue isn't the person you're fighting with. It's the thing that has happened — and learning to face that thing together can change the entire conversation.
VTJ also shares deeply personal experiences of loss, vulnerability and learning to process pain alongside his wife, including the realisation that two people can experience the same loss without experiencing it in the same way.
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Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources. [S3] EPISODE 36: WOULD I LET MY SON MARRY THIS EARLY? In this episode, Blaque sits down with Allan P to talk about getting …
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[S3] EPISODE 36: WOULD I LET MY SON MARRY THIS EARLY?
In this episode, Blaque sits down with Allan P to talk about getting married young and what 13 years of marriage has taught him about the decision he made at just 21. While he doesn’t regret marrying his wife, but looking back, there are things he wishes he had understood before saying “I do.” They talk about what it really means to be ready for marriage, the role of financial stability, the importance of having a healthy community around you, and why faith without preparation can sometimes become an excuse for poor planning.
They also wrestle with a bigger question: If his son came to him at 21 and said he wanted to get married, would he encourage him to do it? From growing up alongside his wife to building a family together, Allan P reflects on the challenges of learning marriage while already living it, the mistakes he made in his younger years, and the bond that can come from building a life together from the ground up.
This isn't a simple argument for or against getting married young. It's an honest conversation about maturity, responsibility, preparation, community, faith and whether you're actually ready for what marriage requires.
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When You're Talking But Your Spouse "Isn't Hearing You" | Lilly Million
Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources. [S3] EPISODE 35: 12 YEARS IN AND STILL LEARNING In this week's episode Blaque sits down with Anele for an honest and …
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[S3] EPISODE 35: 12 YEARS IN AND STILL LEARNING
In this week's episode Blaque sits down with Anele for an honest and necessary conversation about divorce, identity, healing, and the journey of finding your way again. Drawing from his book, Thrive, Anele Matshisi opens up about the phases men go through after divorce moments many are never prepared for and few feel safe enough to talk about. Together, they unpack the weight of separation, the questions it raises around purpose and identity, and the quiet struggles men often carry behind closed doors.
This conversation goes beyond simply surviving heartbreak. Anele reflects on what it takes to confront pain honestly, rebuild your life with intention, and heal in a way that does not leave you repeating the same patterns. From loss and loneliness to self-worth, responsibility, and rediscovering purpose, this episode makes space for the real work of becoming whole again.
They also explore why men need healthier conversations around divorce, support through life’s hardest transitions, and the courage to seek healing instead of hiding behind strength. If you’ve experienced divorce, felt disconnected from who you are, or are trying to rebuild after a season that changed everything, this conversation is for you.
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Life After Divorce: The Truth Of What Men Really Lose | Anele Matshisi
Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources. [S3] EPISODE 34: THE GRIEF MEN AREN'T PREPARED FOR In this week's episode Blaque sits down with Anele for an honest and …
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[S3] EPISODE 34: THE GRIEF MEN AREN'T PREPARED FOR
In this week's episode Blaque sits down with Anele for an honest and necessary conversation about divorce, identity, healing, and the journey of finding your way again. Drawing from his book, Thrive, Anele Matshisi opens up about the phases men go through after divorce moments many are never prepared for and few feel safe enough to talk about.
Together, they unpack the weight of separation, the questions it raises around purpose and identity, and the quiet struggles men often carry behind closed doors. This conversation goes beyond simply surviving heartbreak. Anele reflects on what it takes to confront pain honestly, rebuild your life with intention, and heal in a way that does not leave you repeating the same patterns. From loss and loneliness to self-worth, responsibility, and rediscovering purpose, this episode makes space for the real work of becoming whole again.
They also explore why men need healthier conversations around divorce, support through life’s hardest transitions, and the courage to seek healing instead of hiding behind strength. If you’ve experienced divorce, felt disconnected from who you are, or are trying to rebuild after a season that changed everything, this conversation is for you.
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The 8 Personalities That Can Make Or Break Your Marriage | Muzi Mthabela
Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources. [S3] EPISODE 33: SHOWING UP IS NOT ENOUGH In this live episode of Beans and Bonds, Blaque sits down with Muzi Mthabela for …
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[S3] EPISODE 33: SHOWING UP IS NOT ENOUGH
In this live episode of Beans and Bonds, Blaque sits down with Muzi Mthabela for an honest conversation about marriage, leadership, family, and the intentional work of building a home that lasts.
Filmed in March 2025, they unpack what it means for a marriage to be grounded by vision, grown through hard work, and kept alive through the joy of truly enjoying one another. Muzi reflects on the example of the men who shaped him, the importance of leading with love, and why marriage is something we build brick by brick not simply walk into.
They get real about the trauma we bring into relationships, the unspoken expectations that quietly create pressure, and the need to communicate before resentment takes over. From forgiveness and healing to fatherhood and faith, this conversation challenges husbands and future husbands to take responsibility for the kind of family they are building.
They also explore the role of men in restoring the Black family, the power of having a clear vision for your home, and what it looks like to lead your family with intention, humility, and godliness. If you’ve ever felt the weight of marriage, struggled to communicate what you need, or wondered how to build a family that is rooted in more than appearances, this conversation is for you.
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What Happens When Your Marriage No Longer Feels Enough? | Luxolo Kentane
Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S3] EPISODE 32: A RELATIONSHIP VS. A TRANSACTION In this episode, Blaque sits down with Luxolo Kentane to talk about his new …
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[S3] EPISODE 32: A RELATIONSHIP VS. A TRANSACTION
In this episode, Blaque sits down with Luxolo Kentane to talk about his new book "There Must Be More" and the realities of marriage, fatherhood, and learning what it really means to love the people you’ve committed your life to.
They get real about the hunger for more, the pressure to provide, the ways men can turn love into performance, and the difficulty of receiving love without feeling like you have to earn it. They unpack the expectations we place on ourselves and our partners, and how easily love can become transactional when we start keeping score.
They also explore ambition, success, desire, and the question of what happens when the life you’re building still doesn’t feel like enough. From marriage and family to purpose and personal fulfilment, the conversation challenges the idea that more will always make us happier and asks what we’re really chasing when we keep wanting more. And perhaps the biggest question: What happens when the things we expect to fulfil us were never designed to?
If you’ve ever struggled to feel satisfied with what you have, found yourself measuring love by what you receive, or wondered why achieving more doesn’t always make you feel like you’ve arrived, then this conversation is for you.
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Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S3] EPISODE 31: WHEN LIFE THROWS ITS WORST BLOWS In this episode, Blaque sits down with Ntobeko Mjijwa to talk about the …
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[S3] EPISODE 31: WHEN LIFE THROWS ITS WORST BLOWS
In this episode, Blaque sits down with Ntobeko Mjijwa to talk about the realities of marriage, becoming a husband and learning what it really means to love your wife well. They get real about his wife’s depression, losing a child, the pressure of being a husband, learning to apologise, overcoming defensiveness, navigating conflict, and understanding biblical leadership as sacrifice rather than control.
They also unpack the men who helped shape his understanding of marriage, the ways marriage exposes you, and why becoming a better husband is an ongoing process rather than something you figure out on your wedding day. And perhaps the biggest question: What does it really mean to love your wife when life gets hard?
If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re truly prepared for marriage, struggled to understand what your wife needs from you, or realised that being a husband is harder than you expected, then this conversation is for you.
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I Had to Protect My family From The Man Success Was Creating | Koketso Molaolwe
Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S3] EPISODE 30: WHO ARE YOU OUTSIDE OF THE LIMELIGHT? After a 3 week break That Husband Podcast is BACK! 🎙️ In this episode …
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[S3] EPISODE 30: WHO ARE YOU OUTSIDE OF THE LIMELIGHT?
After a 3 week break That Husband Podcast is BACK! 🎙️
In this episode, Blaque sits down with Pastor Koketso Molaolwe to talk about his new book, The Unlikely Candidate, and the lessons behind his journey from an unlikely beginning to church planting, leadership and influence.
They get real about stewarding success, staying grounded when your profile grows, protecting your marriage and family, overcoming limiting beliefs, authenticity in the age of AI, and remembering who you are beyond your reputation.
And perhaps the biggest question: What did God see in you before anyone else did? If you’ve ever felt like the unlikely candidate or wondered what to do when life starts going bigger than you expected then this conversation is for you.
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Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S3] EPISODE 29: WORK OVER YOUR FAMILY? This episode started as a quick update to let you know why That Husband Podcast is …
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[S3] EPISODE 29: WORK OVER YOUR FAMILY?This episode started as a quick update to let you know why That Husband Podcast is taking a short break, but it became a much deeper conversation about the kind of husband I hope to be. As my wife and I navigate life with newborn twins, prepare to launch a church, and carry the weight of family, ministry, and business, I was reminded that no public platform is worth sacrificing the people waiting for you at home. Sometimes the strongest decision a man can make is to slow down long enough to protect what matters most.
A moment from the Winnie Mandela documentary challenged me in a way I wasn’t expecting. It made me think about legacy, authenticity, and the uncomfortable question every husband should wrestle with: if my wife were asked to describe who I really am, would her words reflect the man you see on this podcast?
My hope is that every husband leaves this episode challenged to pursue a marriage anchored by conviction instead of convenience, and reminded that the most important life you’ll ever build is the one your family experiences when no one else is watching.
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The One Thing I Hate About Being Married To You | Blaque Nubon & Lilly Million
Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S3] EPISODE 28: THE HARD WORK OF MARRIAGE What begins as a light-hearted discussion about what we jokingly call "female …
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[S3] EPISODE 28: THE HARD WORK OF MARRIAGEWhat begins as a light-hearted discussion about what we jokingly call "female crazy" quickly becomes something far deeper. Together, we unpack the moments in marriage when emotions seem to outrun logic, when miscommunication leaves both husband and wife feeling misunderstood, and when the person you love most somehow becomes the person who absorbs your deepest frustrations. This is not a conversation about men versus women. It is about learning to understand one another before we judge one another.
My wife courageously reflects on what it feels like to spiral emotionally, while I share what it feels like to be on the receiving end of that spiral. Together we explore insecurity, purpose, exhaustion, parenthood, anxiety, communication, and the hidden stories we bring into marriage. We realised that so many of our arguments were never really about the argument itself. They were invitations to ask a deeper question: What is actually happening in your heart right now? Sometimes the greatest breakthrough in marriage comes when we stop trying to win the moment and start trying to understand the person.Healthy marriages are not built by two people who never lose their way, they are built by two people who keep choosing to find each other again. There are moments where we will misunderstand each other, wound each other, and fail each other. But there is also grace to slow down, to listen, to apologise, and to reconnect. My hope is that every husband watching feels less alone, every wife feels more understood, and every couple walks away believing that the goal of marriage is not to prove who is right, but to become the kind of people who love each other well, even on our worst days.
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Marriage Cannot Heal What You Refuse To Confront | Blaque Nubon
Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S3] EPISODE 27: HAS LOVE STOPPED FEELING EASY? This episode was born out of the questions we could not finish answering at …
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[S3] EPISODE 27: HAS LOVE STOPPED FEELING EASY?
This episode was born out of the questions we could not finish answering at one of our live Beans and Bonds gatherings, but what unfolded became something much bigger than marriage advice. We wrestle with the hidden parts of ourselves that quietly follow us into our relationships, the survival strategies we developed as boys, the insecurities we keep buried, the secret expectations we never communicate and the longing for peace that we struggle to define. If marriage has ever felt harder than you imagined, perhaps it is because marriage is not simply asking you to love another person, it is asking you to finally meet yourself.
One of the convictions that has shaped me more than almost anything else is this. Marriage does not create our brokenness, it reveals it. Every difficult conversation, every misunderstanding, every moment of conflict exposes something deeper that was already there. We talk honestly about why communication is so difficult, why vulnerability feels terrifying, why many husbands long for peace without knowing what peace really is, and why the goal of marriage is not simply happiness but transformation. I share why I believe marriage is God's invitation to become more fully human, not by hiding our weaknesses but by allowing them to be seen, carried, and healed within the safety of covenant love.
More than anything, this episode reminded me that the healthiest marriages are not built by two people trying to protect themselves, instead, they are built by two people learning to give themselves away. We explore why love cannot exist in isolation, why selfishness slowly suffocates intimacy, and why becoming a better husband is less about finding yourself and more about learning to die to yourself every single day. If you have ever wondered why marriage feels like it is exposing every part of you, maybe that is exactly what it is supposed to do. Because the greatest gift marriage gives us is not comfort, it is the opportunity to become the kind of man who knows how to love well.
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Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S3] EPISODE 26: WHAT HE WISHES HIS WIFE UNDERSTOOD What does it actually look like for a husband to feel celebrated? So much …
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[S3] EPISODE 26: WHAT HE WISHES HIS WIFE UNDERSTOOD
What does it actually look like for a husband to feel celebrated? So much of marriage rightly teaches men to love sacrificially, to provide, to protect, and to give. But somewhere along the way, many husbands quietly begin to believe that being seen, appreciated, and emotionally known is something they should never ask for. In this deeply honest conversation, we unpack the silent loneliness many men carry, why affirmation matters more than most husbands are willing to admit, and how learning to celebrate one another can transform not only our marriages but our friendships, our faith, and the way we see ourselves.
What makes this conversation so powerful is that it refuses to stay on the surface. We talk about intimacy, rejection, masculinity, vulnerability, friendship, affection between men, and the ways our childhoods continue to shape our marriages. We wrestle with why so many men struggle to say, "I love you," why compliments can feel uncomfortable, why we compete instead of celebrate, and why so many of the behaviours we try to fix are often symptoms of a much deeper longing to be loved. This is not a conversation about demanding more from our wives. It is a conversation about becoming healthier men who know how to receive love, give love, and create cultures where other men can flourish.
More than anything, this episode reminded me that every man is searching for something deeper than success, achievement, or applause. He is searching to be known. To be valued. To be loved without having to earn it. Whether you are newly married, have been married for decades, or are simply trying to become a better man, this conversation is an invitation to stop pretending that strength means silence. Because the strongest husbands are not the ones who never need encouragement. They are the ones who have learned that love is expressed not only through sacrifice, but also through honest words, genuine celebration, and the courage to remind another man, "I see you, and you matter."
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How The Boy You Ignore Becomes The Man You Struggle With | DJ Mgabe Magabaza
Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S3] EPISODE 25: WHEN HIS SILENCE BECOMES A LOUD WOUND In recognition of Men's Mental Health Month, we sit down and wrestle …
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[S3] EPISODE 25: WHEN HIS SILENCE BECOMES A LOUD WOUND
In recognition of Men's Mental Health Month, we sit down and wrestle with a simple but haunting question: What were the things we could not say as boys? Long before we became husbands, fathers, leaders, and providers, we were boys trying to make sense of rejection, loneliness, fear, disappointment, insecurity, and pain. Many of us learned early that vulnerability was weakness, that tears were unacceptable, and that silence was safer than honesty. The problem is that the things we never learned to say as boys often become the struggles we carry as men.
n this deeply personal and honest conversation, we explore the hidden emotional lives of men. We talk about father wounds, identity, shame, grief, friendship, masculinity, mental health, and the pressure many men feel to always appear strong. Together, we reflect on the messages we inherited about what it means to be a man and how those messages continue to shape our marriages, our families, our relationships, and our sense of self. This is not a conversation about blaming our past. It is about understanding it. Because what remains unspoken does not disappear. It simply finds another way to be heard.
More than anything, this episode is an invitation. An invitation for men to stop carrying burdens they were never meant to carry alone. An invitation to revisit the boy inside the man with compassion rather than shame. An invitation to believe that strength is not found in hiding, but in honesty. Whether you are a husband, a father, a son, or simply a man trying to navigate life as best you can, this conversation is a reminder that healing begins when we find the courage to say the things we could not say before. Because sometimes the path to becoming a healthier man starts by listening to the boy you once were.
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The Mistakes Fathers Make That Their Children Pay For | Penson Mlotshwa, John Manyike
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[S3] EPISODE 23: FATHERS WE NEED TO BE HONEST
This Father's Day, we talk about responsibility, legacy, preparation, and what happens to the people we love when life doesn't go according to plan. We unpack the financial, emotional, and practical realities of fatherhood, marriage, and leadership. From raising children and building family culture to preparing for the unexpected, this conversation challenges husbands to think beyond today and consider the future they are creating for the people who depend on them.What struck me most about this conversation was how often men assume there will always be more time, more time to save, more time to plan and more time to have difficult conversations. More time to become the husband, father, and provider they know they should be. But life does not always give us the luxury of more time. Through stories of friendship loss, parenting, financial mistakes, personal growth, and hard earned wisdom, this episode confronts a question many men would rather avoid. If something happened to you tomorrow, would your family be protected, prepared, and cared for?
At its heart, this is not a conversation about money, it is a conversation about love. Because love plans, prepares, and thinks beyond itself. Whether you are a father, a husband, a son, or a man hoping to build a family one day, this episode is an invitation to stop drifting and start leading with intentionality. The greatest legacy we leave our children is not what we say. It is what we build, what we model, and how we choose to care for them long after we are gone.FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON...
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Has Your Relationship Become A Performance Without You Noticing? | Jabu Zwane
Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S3] EPISODE 22: THE WOUNDS WE CARRY INTO MARRIAGE Joined by Jabu Zwana, we explore marriage, healing, hypervigilance …
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[S3] EPISODE 22: THE WOUNDS WE CARRY INTO MARRIAGE
Joined by Jabu Zwana, we explore marriage, healing, hypervigilance, childhood wounds, emotional maturity, and the often invisible ways our past shapes our present relationships. Jabu unpacks how our earliest experiences of love, safety, discipline, and belonging quietly become the blueprint through which we interpret marriage. What follows is not merely a conversation about relationships. It is a conversation about fear, identity, trauma, trust, and the difficult process of learning how to receive healthy love when unhealthy love is all you’ve ever known.
As husbands, we often assume that healing is simply the absence of pain. But together, we wrestle with a deeper question: what if healing and transformation are not the same thing? What happens when the wounds have closed but our minds and nervous systems are still preparing for danger? Why do some of us struggle to trust kindness, receive affection, or believe that peace can be genuine? Through powerful insights on childhood conditioning, parental influence, marriage dynamics, and emotional regulation, Jabu reveals how unresolved pain often leaves us living in a state of hypervigilance—constantly scanning for threats, questioning love, and protecting ourselves from wounds that may no longer be present.
We discuss the dangers of entering marriage with a “back door” left open, the impact of being overprotected or emotionally neglected as children, and how our understanding of love is often shaped long before we ever say “I do.” We explore why some people find comfort in chaos, why healthy relationships can feel unfamiliar or even threatening, and how past experiences can distort our ability to interpret the actions of those who genuinely love us. Throughout the conversation, Jabu masterfully connects psychology, faith, neuroscience, and lived experience to explain why so many couples find themselves fighting battles that began long before they met each other.More than anything, this episode is an invitation to examine the stories we tell ourselves about love. It is for the husband who struggles to trust peace, the wife who feels exhausted from constantly proving her intentions, and the couple who find themselves reacting to old wounds inside a new relationship.
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The Real Damage Of A Husband’s Double Life | Ian Henderson
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[S3] EPISODE 21: YOU CANNOT HEAL WHAT YOU CANNOT ADMIT
Joined by Ian Henderson, we explore pornography, shame, father wounds, masculinity, accountability, and the lifelong journey of becoming whole. Ian shares the heartbreaking story of his father's secret addiction, the devastating consequences it had on his family, and how God used one of the darkest chapters of his life to birth a ministry that is now helping thousands of people find freedom. What follows is not merely a conversation about pornography. It is a conversation about pain, secrecy, identity, and the things men run to when they feel overwhelmed, unseen, afraid, or alone.
As husbands, we often spend our lives trying to manage symptoms while ignoring the deeper wounds beneath them. Together, we wrestle with the questions many men are afraid to ask. Why do so many men feel overlooked? Why do we struggle to be vulnerable? Why is it so difficult to ask for help? Why do we spend so much energy trying to fix everyone else while avoiding our own brokenness? Through stories of fatherhood, friendship, marriage, confession, and healing, this episode reveals how unresolved pain often follows us into our homes, our relationships, and our leadership. We discuss the importance of honest brotherhood, the role of accountability, and why healing rarely happens in isolation.
More than anything, this episode is a reminder that freedom begins where secrecy ends. It is for the husband who feels trapped in patterns he cannot break. It is for the man carrying wounds from his father, the leader who feels exhausted by expectations, and the husband who quietly wonders if anyone truly sees him. This conversation reminded me that transformation is not found in trying harder. It is found in bringing our whole selves into the light and allowing God to meet us there. Because the greatest threat to a man's future is often not his weakness, but the pain he refuses to confront. And the greatest gift he can give his wife, his children, and his community is his willingness to heal.
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[S3] EPISODE 20: BLEEDING ON THOSE YOU LOVE
Mlungisi opens up about growing up in a fractured home, wrestling with unforgiveness toward his father, navigating anger inside his marriage, and discovering that healing is not automatic just because you love God. Together, we unpack the quiet ways pain travels through generations and how unhealed parts of a man can slowly become collateral damage for the people he loves most.
This conversation is not built on perfection or polished answers. It is two husbands speaking honestly about what it looks like to fight for healing while trying to lead families well. We speak about masculinity, vulnerability, accountability, therapy, community, fatherlessness, marriage, leadership, and the weight many black men carry in silence. We wrestle with the tension between grace and accountability, the pressure men feel to perform and provide, and the growing disillusionment young people have toward marriage and family. More than anything, this episode is an invitation for men to stop pretending they are okay and to finally confront the pain they have hidden for years.
There is something deeply sacred about hearing another man say, “I was angry. I was broken. I needed help. And God met me there.” This episode reminded me that healing is not about becoming flawless. It is about becoming honest enough to surrender. It is about surrendering to God, trusted community, and even your wife to speak into the parts of you that you would rather keep hidden. For the husband who feels overwhelmed, emotionally distant, tired, or quietly falling apart, this conversation is a reminder that there is still hope for you. You are not beyond healing, you are not beyond restoration, and you do not have to walk this journey alone.
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Quitting My Job, No Money, One Promise & The Woman Who Waited With Me | Kingdmusic
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This episode is about staying, choosing joy when life is heavy, when grief sits in the room with you, when money is tight, when dreams feel delayed, and when love demands more than feelings. King D Music opens up about dating his wife for six years before marriage, losing his father during one of the most defining seasons of his life, struggling through uncertainty, and learning that joy is not the same thing as happiness. It is a posture, a commitment and a decision to remain present even when life hurts. We wrestle with the realities many husbands are too afraid to say out loud.
What does it mean to lead when you feel broken yourself? How do you pursue your calling without neglecting your family? Why do so many men speak about marriage like it is a prison instead of a gift? This conversation moves through grief, masculinity, purpose, temptation, faith, fatherhood, accountability, and the quiet ways God shapes men through love and community. There are no polished answers here. Just two husbands speaking honestly about what it costs to build a life, protect a marriage, and become the kind of men their families can trust.
More than anything, this episode is for the man who feels tired. The man wondering if he should give up on the dream, on the marriage, on himself. It is for the husband trying to carry responsibility while still healing from his own wounds. It is for the black boy who grew up without examples and the black man trying to become one. This conversation reminded us that real strength is not found in pretending everything is okay. It is found in surrender, in honesty, in staying soft enough to love deeply, and in trusting God enough to keep going.
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[S3] EPISODE 18: A WEDDING & A FUNERAL
Marriage often begins with dreams, excitement, and hope, but what happens when joy and grief collide at the exact same moment? From navigating the loneliness of singleness and unrealistic expectations of love, to stepping into marriage while mourning the devastating loss of a father, this episode explores the hidden tensions many husbands silently carry but rarely speak about.
Together, we unpack the weight of trying to “show up” as a husband while internally falling apart, the pressure men place on themselves to become ideal husbands, and the painful beauty of learning to surrender. Through stories of grief, therapy, fatherhood, legacy, emotional vulnerability, and being loved through brokenness, this conversation reveals that marriage is not simply about having someone beside you, but about allowing yourself to truly be seen. It’s a powerful reflection on masculinity, emotional honesty, and how God’s grace often meets us in our weakest, most undone moments.
This episode is for every husband trying to figure it out as he goes, every man grieving silently while still trying to lead, and every couple learning how to hold each other through both celebration and sorrow. It’s raw, reflective, funny, deeply human, and filled with moments that will challenge the way you think about marriage, partnership, grief, and healing. If you’ve ever struggled with feeling unseen, emotionally overwhelmed, or afraid of letting your spouse into your pain, this conversation will remind you that sometimes strength looks less like holding it together, and more like allowing yourself to be carried.
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[S3] EPISODE 17: THE LIE OF THINKING THINGS ARE NOT THAT BAD
What happens when the pressure to provide, to lead, and to “have it all together” quietly exposes the cracks beneath the surface? In this episode, you step into a deeply honest conversation about the hidden battles men carry, the fear of failure, the weight of expectation, and the quiet ways past wounds shape how we show up in marriage. From unresolved disappointment to the instinct to fix instead of feel, this story invites you to confront the subtle habits and mindsets that can slowly distance you from your wife, your purpose, and even yourself.
But transformation doesn’t come through pretending or performing, it comes through surrender. As the conversation unfolds, you’ll hear what it looks like for a man to unlearn control, embrace vulnerability, and allow both God and community to reshape his identity. From redefining leadership in marriage to understanding the power of emotional awareness, this episode challenges the idea that strength is found in having answers, and instead reframes it as the courage to be honest, to grow, and to be led.
Somewhere in that journey, habits begin to shift, environments change, and even relationships are refined. You start to see that becoming a better husband isn’t about perfection, it’s about intentional transformation, one decision at a time. This episode invites you to reflect on the man you’re becoming, the influences you’re allowing, and the patterns you’re holding onto, because the life you build in private will eventually shape the marriage you live in public.
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An Anti-Christ Girlfriend, Lying To My Church & A Twin Pregnancy Exposed It All | Nkosinathi Kotyi
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[S3] EPISODE 16: FROM A MESSY START TO A STRONG MARRIAGE
Becoming who you're meant to be before life demands it of you, before the responsibility, before the title, before the moment arrives? Or do you only discover who you are when everything is already on the line? In this episode, you step into a story that doesn’t begin at marriage, but in the unseen spaces where habits are formed, convictions are tested, and decisions quietly shape the man you are becoming. You’ll recognise the tension, the gap between who you say you are and how you’re actually living, and the subtle ways you convince yourself there’s still time to figure it out later.
But life has a way of interrupting that illusion. Responsibility arrives, ready or not, and suddenly everything becomes real. You’re forced to confront what’s been forming beneath the surface all along, your character, your faith, your integrity, your willingness to lead when it costs you something. This is where the story shifts, not into perfection, but into honesty, where you begin to understand that manhood isn’t something you arrive at, it’s something shaped through pressure, through failure, through choosing to take responsibility when walking away would be easier.
And somewhere in that process, you begin to see that even in the chaos, even in the consequences, there is grace meeting you there. Not after you’ve fixed everything, but right in the middle of it. The valley becomes the place where you are refined, where your priorities are reordered, and where you learn what it actually means to be a man who stays. This episode invites you to reflect on your own life, the habits you’re forming, the truths you’re avoiding, and the responsibilities you’re postponing, because when the moment finally comes, it won’t ask you to become someone new, it will reveal who you’ve been becoming all along.
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Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S3] EPISODE 15: THE KIND OF FOCUS THAT MAKES YOU A MAN Can a man become who he’s meant to be before life demands it of him? …
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[S3] EPISODE 15: THE KIND OF FOCUS THAT MAKES YOU A MAN
Can a man become who he’s meant to be before life demands it of him? Before the responsibility, before the title, before the moment arrives? In this episode, we sit with a story that begins long before marriage, long before love, and long before the world sees the outcome.From saving for a wife he hadn’t met yet, to being shaped by a present and intentional father, this conversation with Caesar unfolds as a reflection on what it means to prepare for a life you cannot yet see. It’s about discipline before desire, formation before opportunity, and the quiet decisions that eventually shape a man’s legacy. 
What emerges is not just a love story, but a story of foundation. The kind that is built in ordinary moments. In conversations with parents. In choosing responsibility early. In learning that manhood is not something you arrive at, but something you grow into over time. And when love finally enters the picture, it doesn’t start from nothing, it meets a life that has already been preparing for it.
This episode moves through the beauty of meeting his wife, the intentionality behind their connection, and the honesty that defined their beginning. There is no performance here. Just two people choosing to show up fully, choosing truth over impression, and building something rooted in faith, culture, and clarity about who they are.
But beneath it all is a deeper conversation about pressure, legacy, and identity. What it means to carry the example of a father. What it means to become that example. And how marriage introduces a new kind of responsibility that reshapes everything, from how you think, to how you lead, to how you love.
This is a reminder that the life you desire is often built long before it arrives. That preparation is not wasted, even when it feels unseen. And that when the moment finally comes, love does not ask you to become someone new, it reveals who you have been becoming all along.
This episode is an invitation to reflect on your own foundations. The habits you’re building. The voice you’re listening to. The life you’re quietly preparing for. And whether you are becoming the person that future requires.
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[S3] EPISODE 14: WHAT HAPPENED TO DATE NIGHTS?
Can a marriage hold when everything changes at once? When life accelerates, pressure builds, and the rhythms that once sustained you begin to slip? In this episode, we step into a deeply personal season as Blaque Nubon and his wife Lilly Million open up about the reality of their marriage right now where they quietly realise how easy it is to drift when life gets full.
What unfolds is not crisis, but clarity. The kind that comes when you realise that love, connection, and intentionality don’t sustain themselves. That date nights don’t just disappear but they are replaced by urgency and responsibility. This is a reminder that even those who speak about marriage publicly are not exempt from the quiet tensions that build behind the scenes.
This conversation is about the sobering reality that marriage is not maintained by intention alone, but by continual return. The return to each other. The return to conversation. The return to choosing “us” in the midst of everything else demanding attention. It’s about recognising when you’ve lost rhythm, and having the humility to say it out loud before distance sets in.
This episode is also an invitation. To be honest about the season you’re in. To acknowledge the pressure without pretending it isn’t there. And to remember that even in the chaos there is still an opportunity to fight for each other, to recalibrate, and to rediscover what it means to stay close when life is pulling you in every direction.
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The Danger Of Assuming You Are Marriage Material | Kgosi Rankhumise
Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S3] EPISODE 13: YOU'RE NOT LIVING IN A MOVIE Can you step into the tension between who you are, who you have been, and who …
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[S3] EPISODE 13: YOU'RE NOT LIVING IN A MOVIECan you step into the tension between who you are, who you have been, and who you are becoming, and all this, in the presence of one woman who sees it all?
Today, we explore the disorienting, yet sacred, moment when marriage asks us to consolidate every version of ourselves and offer it honestly. What begins to emerge is not performance, but process: the slow, sometimes clumsy journey of learning how to love, how to speak, and how to be seen without hiding.
At its core, this conversation wrestles with a truth many of us carry but rarely articulate: it’s not always that we don’t want to love well, it’s that we don’t know how. Together, we unpack the gap between what we feel and what we express, and the work it takes to build that bridge. We challenge the cultural assumptions placed on us, while also calling each other to humility, to growth, and to the kind of intentionality that turns small acts into lifelong devotion.
More than anything, this is a deeply personal look at what it means for us to be shaped by love. Not the idealised version, but the kind that confronts us, refines us, and calls us out of ourselves. It’s about choosing our wives, again and again, and allowing that choice to transform us. For us as husbands, this is both a mirror and an invitation: to fail forward, to learn openly, and to become the kind of men our love requires, even if we’ve never seen what that looks like before.
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In this episode, the conversation moves into the sacred, often unspoken spaces that shape a man. What begins as a chance connection unfolds into a deeply human story of love, loss, and becoming. Through the weight of grief, losing a mother in the uncertainty of a pandemic, and the quiet strength of a woman who chose to step into that pain without hesitation, we are reminded that marriage is not built in perfect moments, but forged in the fires we don’t get to prepare for. This is a story about recognising love not just in words, but in costly presence.
At its core, this episode wrestles with the transition from boyhood to manhood in a world that has largely abandoned the structures that once guided it. There is a raw honesty in the reflections on leadership, how it shifts when a man becomes accountable not just for himself, but for a wife, a family, and a legacy. This conversation echoes a deeper longing, for mentorship, for brotherhood, for examples that show us what it means to carry responsibility well. It’s a sobering reminder that many men are figuring it out as they go, but also a hopeful vision of what can happen when we refuse to walk alone.
More than anything, this episode is a call to intentional living. It invites husbands to pause, to reflect, and to ask the hard questions about who they are becoming, at home, at work, and in the quiet spaces in between. It challenges the listener to see marriage not as an endpoint, but as an anchor that stabilizes, shapes, and sharpens a man over time. This is not a story of arrival, but of ongoing formation, of men who are not yet who they want to be, but who are committed to growing, failing forward, and doing better with every step.
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Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S3] EPISODE 11: BROKEN BUT NOT FINISHED In this episode, we sit down with DJ Xtreme, a husband, father, and radio …
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In this episode, we sit down with DJ Xtreme, a husband, father, and radio personality, for a conversation about failure, redemption, and the difficult road back to the life you once imagined. What begins as a story about relationships quickly becomes something deeper: an honest reflection on what it means to carry disappointment, confront your own choices, and still choose to build again
DJ Xtreme opens up about a season that reshaped his entire understanding of family. Raised in a two-parent household with a clear vision of doing things “the right way,” he shares how becoming a father outside of that structure left him wrestling with a deep sense of failure. When the relationship with his child’s mother ended, he found himself living a life he had never planned for — separated from his son and navigating the weight of unmet expectations. He speaks candidly about the years that followed, marked by depression, confusion, and the internal struggle of trying to reconcile who he thought he would be with where he actually was.
The conversation also explores the complexity of fatherhood in that season. DJ Xtreme reflects on the decision to shield his son from the truth about their living situation, and the moment he realised honesty was necessary — not just for his child, but for himself. As he began a new relationship, he shares what it looked like to have difficult conversations, to take responsibility, and to start showing up more fully as a father despite the circumstances.
A significant part of this episode centers on his approach to love and marriage the second time around. In a culture where single mothers are often overlooked, DJ Xtreme speaks about intentionally choosing a partner who already had children — someone who would understand the reality of his responsibilities and embrace the fullness of his life. He unpacks the journey of building a blended family, the decision to live together before marriage, and the lessons that came with merging two lives, two histories, and three children into one home.
At its core, this episode is about commitment — not as a feeling, but as a decision you return to daily. DJ Xtreme reflects on the tension within marriage, the moments where walking away feels easier, and why he believes in staying, working through conflict, and honoring the promises you make. It’s a grounded, honest look at modern relationships, and a reminder that even when life doesn’t follow the plan, there is still a way to build something meaningful, intentional, and lasting.
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