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The Dom Sub Living BDSM and Kink Podcast

NewHow to Push Your Sub’s Limits (Without Going Too Far)November 9, 2026 · 10 min
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About the podcast

Welcome to the Dom Sub Living Podcast, your go-to kinky resource, so you can get out of the vanilla rut, become the best Dominant or submissive you can be, and make BDSM a lifestyle.  Explore the many facets of the Dom/sub lifestyle and gain practical insights and tips to enhance your journey.

Your host, Alesandra Madison, is a renowned BDSM educator, empowering individuals and couples to embrace their sensual selves. As the creator of Domsubliving.com, Alesandra promotes sex education, healthy power dynamics, and open communication. With a commitment to inclusivity, she helps kinksters create authentic and fulfilling intimate experiences.

Whether you're seeking guidance, desiring to deepen your understanding of the lifestyle, or simply looking for entertainment and connection, the Dom Sub Living Podcast is your trusted companion. You’ll learn about BDSM, kink, power exchange, Daddy Dom/little girl relationships (DDlg), D/s, sexual wellness, bondage, and more.  Each episode features engaging discussions, expert interviews, and heartfelt stories, ensuring a diverse and enriching listening experience you're not going to want to miss. Hit subscribe, and get ready to transform your life and relationship.

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Episodes 163

  1. How to Push Your Sub’s Limits (Without Going Too Far)

    10 minEpisode 163

    #163 How far is too far when pushing your sub's limits? We're sharing how to explore BDSM limits without crossing hard boundaries. Learn how safewords, communication, trust, and aftercare can help you …

  2. How Kinky Are You? 10 Questions That Reveal Your Kink Level

    28 minEpisode 162

    #162 How kinky are you REALLY? You might be surprised! In this episode, we sharing 10 questions to help you discover your kink level and kink personality type. Are you a Vanilla Newbie, BDSM Connoisseur, BDSM …

  3. What Is Monster Kink? (And How to Try It Tonight)

    29 minEpisode 161

    #161 What's so hot about monsters? And why are so many people into monster kink? In this episode, we're exploring what monster kink is, why it appeals to Doms and subs, and how it connects to BDSM and …

  4. 4 Dominant Skills Most Doms Overlook (But Subs Notice)

    16 minEpisode 160

    #160 Subs notice things about their Dom's leadership that their Doms don't even realize! In this episode, we're sharing 4 overlooked Dominant skills that can make or break your D/s dynamic …

  5. Consensual Non-Consent (CNC): BDSM's Darkest Kink?

    29 minEpisode 159

    #159 How can “no” still be consensual? Consensual non-consent (CNC) is one of BDSM’s most misunderstood practices. We’re breaking down what CNC really means, why people want it, how consent and safewords work …

  6. 4 Kinky Challenges for Doms and Subs

    24 minEpisode 158

    #158 Has your D/s dynamic started feeling a little too vanilla? These 4 kinky challenges for Doms and subs can help you shake up your routine, build anticipation, deepen your power exchange, and bring fresh …

  7. Expectations of a Submissive: What You Need to Know (and What You Don’t)

    19 minEpisode 157

    #157 What should a Dom expect from their sub, and what should a sub expect from their Dom? In this guest episode, Luna from Submissive Guide breaks down healthy D/s expectations, BDSM rules and protocols …

  8. Weird Things I Do as a 24/7 Submissive for My Dom

    26 minEpisode 156

    #156 What “weird” things does a 24/7 submissive actually do for their Dom? I’m sharing 5 things from my real-life D/s dynamic that even other people in the BDSM lifestyle think go too far. We’ll explore …

  9. How We Handle Jealousy in Our D/s Relationship

    14 minEpisode 155

    #155 Can jealousy actually damage your D/s dynamic? Learn how we handle jealousy without letting it wreck trust, roles, or connection. We cover communication, boundaries, insecurity, compersion, and jealousy in …

  10. 8 Ways to Make Your Sub Feel More Submissive Every Day

    22 minEpisode 154

    #154 What if making a sub feel more submissive only took 10 seconds? In this episode, discover 8 surprisingly simple ways to deepen submission, strengthen your D/s dynamic, and bring more kinky power exchange …

  11. 10 Things Every Good Dom Does Differently

    23 minEpisode 153

    #153 Think being a good Dom means being stricter or more in control? Think again. Discover 10 things great Doms do differently – from how they handle rules and punishment to the surprising way they build trust …

  12. How Far Is Too Far? Exploring BDSM Humiliation Play

    16 minEpisode 152

    #152 How far is too far with BDSM humiliation play? Explore degradation and humiliation kink, from setting boundaries and using safewords to aftercare, communication, and ideas for beginners and advanced …

  13. How to Get Your Partner Interested in BDSM (Without Nagging)

    19 minEpisode 151

    #151 What if your partner isn’t rejecting BDSM, they’re rejecting the pressure? Learn why nagging and hinting backfire, how to talk about kink without topping from the bottom, and how to get your partner more …

  14. How (not) to Train Your Sub

    26 minEpisode 150

    #150 What if the reason your sub seems "bratty" has nothing to do with them? Learn five common training mistakes that can create resistance instead of trust. Discover how better communication, consistency, and …

  15. The Hard Truth About Inconsistent Doms

    6 minEpisode 149

    #149 How many times should you believe, 'I'll do better'? Whether you're the Dom struggling to stay consistent or the submissive wondering how much longer to wait, this episode is for you …

  16. 10 BDSM Rules You Should Probably Break

    26 minEpisode 148

    #148 You've been told these BDSM rules are non-negotiable. But are they? We're challenging 10 of the most common BDSM "rules", revealing which protect you, which are outdated, and which may be holding …

  17. Free Use & Blanket Consent (Is Your Relationship Ready?)

    22 minEpisode 147

    #147 Free use sounds simple... until you actually try to build it. In this episode, We explain what free use and blanket consent really mean, how they work together, and the signs your relationship is ready for …

  18. How to Avoid the Vanilla Rut in Your D/s Relationship

    17 minEpisode 146

    #146 Has your D/s dynamic started feeling a little... vanilla? In this episode, we sharing simple BDSM habits that help you stay consistent, build trust, strengthen your Dom/sub relationship, and avoid the …

  19. 5 BDSM Experts Share What Everyone Gets Wrong (But No One Says)

    27 minEpisode 145

    #145 What if the biggest mistake in BDSM isn't what you think? Five top BDSM educators reveal the most common mistakes in Dominance, submission, consent, communication, trust, and personal growth. Their …

  20. How to Keep Your D/s Dynamic Alive When Life Gets Busy

    8 minEpisode 144

    #144 If your D/s dynamic only exists when life is easy, that might be why it keeps falling apart.What do you do when stress, illness, family obligations, or major life changes push your Dom/sub role to the back …

  21. How to Be More Dominant Without Being a Jerk

    26 minEpisode 143

    #143 Most new Dominants make the same mistake: they water themselves down because they're afraid of becoming the stereotypical Dom everyone rolls their eyes at. In this episode, we're sharing how to …

  22. The Secret Queer History of Kink Nobody Talks About

    19 minEpisode 142

    #142 Did you know modern kink culture has roots most people never learn about? In this episode, we're exploring the hidden connection between kink, queer history, leather culture, Pride, consent, and …

  23. 5 Easy Dom/sub Protocols You Can Start Using Today

    28 minEpisode 141

    #141 Want a stronger D/s dynamic without adding complicated rules? Start here. I'm walking you through 5 beginner-friendly protocols straight from my own relationship — what worked, what flopped, and one …

  24. What Should a Submissive Actually Be Doing in 24/7 D/s?

    9 minEpisode 140

    #140 “Am I supposed to just wait for direction… or take initiative?" If you’re new to a 24/7 D/s dynamic, this episode is for you.We're sharing advice for submissives and Dominants on communication …

  25. 5 Stages of Subspace (And How to Get There Faster)

    31 minEpisode 139

    #139 Most subs think they've experienced subspace. They haven't – not really.In this episode, we're breaking down all 5 stages of subspace and how to get there faster – including the one stage …

  26. How to Make Your Kink Life Kinkier

    30 minEpisode 138

    #138 When good becomes boring – that's the real threat to your kink life.Your dynamic works. Your scenes are comfortable. But comfort has a sneaky way of killing intensity. In this episode, you'll …

  27. 5 BDSM Mistakes That Keep You Stuck as a Dom or Sub

    20 minEpisode 137

    #137 I ripped up our D/s contract… more than once.If your dynamic feels off, it might not be your partner. It’s often subtle patterns that keep you stuck. In this episode, I break down the hidden mistakes that …

  28. What Is a Pleasure Dom? (And Why Subs Crave Them)

    27 minEpisode 136

    #136 What is a Pleasure Dom – and why do subs say it ruins them for everyone else?We're covering what makes this dynamic so powerful, who it's built for, and six ways it plays out in real D/s …

  29. 8 Ways to Get Better at BDSM

    33 minEpisode 135

    #135 Still stuck at the same level in BDSM?Getting better isn’t about more toys or tricks. It’s about mindset, consistency, and showing up with intention – whether you’re single or in a D/s dynamic. This is …

  30. 2 Things Every BDSM Scene Needs (Most People Miss One)

    42 minEpisode 134

    #134 Why do some BDSM scenes feel flat – even when everything looks right?Discover the 2 things that actually make or break a BDSM scene. Learn how Doms and subs can prepare, avoid common mistakes, and create …

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