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Dating With A Secret

June 9, 2026 · 23 min

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Dating whilst working in adult entertainment comes with a specific and largely unacknowledged set of complications — the privacy logistics, the when-do-I-tell-them calculation, income disparity and all that comes with it, and the emotional labor of dismantling someone else's assumptions about who you are. In this episode, I talk honestly about what dating in this industry actually looks like, the dynamics that make it harder than it needs to be, and what I've learned about finding partnership without shrinking my life to make it easier for someone else to accept.

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