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Why One Drink Never Stays One Drink

August 18, 2026 · 1 h 15 min

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Why can’t I just have one drink? For Pamela, that question comes from her struggle to moderate her drinking, and for Claude, it sits in her fear of never being able to drink again. Same question but from two very different perspectives. Coaches Cole and Hayley work with Pamela and Claude to discover what sits behind these questions and to find out why one drink never stays one drink for most of us.

Pamela discusses:

  • Fifty-three easy days, then a Friday night phone call from friends that flipped the switch

  • Why the third night lined up with the anniversary of her ex-husband's death

  • Why she uses alcohol to "let go of what's heavy," and what it's really protecting her from

  • Coach Cole's question about her daughter that undid six years of believing she had to handle things alone

  • Her real commitment for the next time the Ferris wheel comes back around

Claude discusses:

  • Why the idea of "never again" feels like free fall and grief, not relief

  • Tracing the "glitter" back to cocktails, galas, and a stressful career, and finding it elsewhere

  • An experiment with an untouched glass of wine, left behind on an Adirondack chair

  • Why a firm 30-day non-negotiable feels lighter than deciding fresh every single day

  • The question Coach Hayley keeps circling back to: what if there's no such thing as failure?

  • And more…

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Cole Harvey is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. As a habit change and mindset coach, Cole helps men understand themselves, build better habits, and find meaning. Learn more about Coach Cole: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/cole-harvey/

Hayley Scherders is a certified TNM Coach with training from the Canadian Addiction and Mental Health Association. Hayley understands how tough change can be and provides a safe, compassionate, and judgment-free space where her clients can feel supported. Learn more about Coach Hayley: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/hayley-scherders/

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More on this episode: https://thisnakedmind.com/podcast/why-cant-i-just-have-one-drink-alcohol-freedom-coaching-ep-933/

Related episodes:

How to Control Alcohol Consumption | Alcohol Freedom Coaching | EP 772 – https://thisnakedmind.com/alcohol-freedom-coaching-e772/

How to Stop Daily Drinking | Pierre's Naked Life | EP 790 – https://thisnakedmind.com/how-to-stop-daily-drinking-e790-pierre/

Is Drinking in Moderation Possible? | Reader Question | EP 08 – https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-08-reader-question-moderation-possible/

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