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Abused By a Pedophile

August 30, 2026 · 1 h 40 min

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This week, a survivor opens up about the deeply disturbing story of being sexually abused by an adult woman he trusted when he was just 11 years old. He shares how the grooming began, how he was manipulated into believing the abuse was love, the shame and confusion he carried for years, and how the trauma continues to affect his relationships, substance use, and healing today.

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On This Episode We Cover: 

→ 00:00:00 - Introduction 

→ 00:04:09 - What Was His Childhood Like?

→ 00:06:22 - What Was Happening at Home?

→ 00:08:32 - How Did He Meet His Abuser?

→ 00:13:22 - Why Did He Trust Her?

→ 00:19:00 - When Did Grooming Turn Into Abuse?

→ 00:24:02 - Why Did She Make Him Keep It a Secret?

→ 00:27:22 - Why Was She Giving Kids Drugs and Alcohol?

→ 00:33:46 - Did the Abuse Affect His Sexuality?

→ 00:36:08 - Why Did She Say He Would “Latch Onto” Her?

→ 00:36:48 - When Did the Sexual Abuse Escalate?

→ 00:41:44 - How Did the Abuse Affect His Family?

→ 00:44:34 - Why Couldn’t He Connect With His Mom?

→ 00:46:04 - Did His Friends Suspect What Was Happening?

→ 00:48:18 - How Did the Abuse Affect School and Friendships?

→ 00:51:34 - How did the abuse continue as he got older?

→ 00:55:06 - Why didn’t anyone intervene?

→ 01:00:00 - What happened when her niece came to visit?

→ 01:07:04 - When did he first try to end the relationship?

→ 01:10:44 - Why did the abuse start again?

→ 01:13:50 - When was the last time he saw his abuser?

→ 01:14:14 - How did he tell his fiancée what happened?

→ 01:16:22 - When did he finally start therapy?

→ 01:19:42 - What happened when he saw his abuser again?

→ 01:26:04 - Why does he want to speak out about his story?

→ 01:31:50 - What does he want other survivors to know?

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→ I Dated My Predator
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