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58. how to be yourself by thinking about yourself LESS

August 18, 2026 · 23 min

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“Every time you're given a choice between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself, your duty is to disappoint that someone else. Your job throughout your entire life, is to disappoint as many people as it takes to avoid disappointing yourself.” - Glennon Doyle


Resources Mentioned: - So True with Caleb Hearon- Decentering yourself is the growth unlock you’ve been looking for- Filming Desire: A Journey Through Women's Cinema (Agnes Varda quote)- Why Tech Bros Are Now Obsessed with TasteTIMESTAMPS: 00:00 if you prioritize other people's perception of you over your own needs, this is for you 05:45 "yourself" is a construct built by the decisions you make 07:57 decentering disappointment 10:32 why it's healthy to disappoint your parents 13:00 the etymology of the word "disappointment"14:30 the more selfish you are, the more generous you are 16:00 decentering ourselves 18:49 we don't create ourselves in a vaccuum20:30 big techs obsession with "taste" 21:27 what having "taste" means to me 23:28 growing up is becoming who you were at 12, except this time you like her
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