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Why You Keep Repeating the Same Relationship Patterns (Even When You Know Better) with Sabrina Zohar

October 15, 2026 · 57 min

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- Why do we keep repeating relationship patterns we know aren’t good for us? In this episode, I sit down with Sabrina Zohar to talk about what’s actually happening underneath the people we chase, the relationships we struggle to let go of, and the dynamics we swear we’ll never repeat again. We get into how childhood experiences create what Sabrina calls our “bullshit blueprint” — the subconscious programming that shapes what feels familiar, safe, and even attractive to us as adults. We also discuss why understanding your patterns intellectually isn’t enough to change them, what it actually means to embody self-worth, and how to move from chasing and needing to be chosen to becoming the person who chooses. In this episode, we cover: - How childhood wounds shape the relationships you choose as an adult - Sabrina’s “bullshit blueprint” and the subconscious programming running your love life - Why your brain will always choose familiar over healthy until you rewire it - The difference between knowing your worth and actually embodying it - How to tell when you’re responding to the person in front of you versus something from your past - Navigating anger, forgiveness, and holding compassion for yourself without excusing past behavior - Why real healing requires repetition, not just intellectual understanding - How to shift from chasing and being chosen to actively choosing your partner - What healthy, regulated love actually feels like - Why “I want you, but I don’t need you” is the ultimate power shift If you’ve done a ton of work on yourself, understand your patterns, and still find yourself getting pulled back into the same dynamics, this conversation is for you. LISTEN / SUBSCRIBE: Enjoying the show? Be sure to hit subscribe, drop a 5-star rating, and share this episode with someone who needs to hear it today! Get Sabrina's book: Why Am I Like This? https://link.amazon/B0ima0dPW Follow Sabrina- @thesabrinazoharshow https://www.instagram.com/thesabrinazoharshow/?hl=en MY STUFF: Detached- https://link.amazon/B04UXAsNn The Feminine Code - https://link.amazon/B0iGvrmbB Join my 8-Week Course - https://sabrinabendory.com/you-will-be-ok-8-week-course Follow me- Instagram: @sabrinabendory - https://www.instagram.com/sabrinabendory/ #DatingAdvice #RelationshipAdvice
00:00:00: Introduction to Sabrina Zohar and her journey
00:01:10: How Sabrina’s past shaped her approach to relationships
00:03:04: The evolution of relationship advice and authenticity
00:04:54: What it actually means to embody self-worth and integrity
00:08:02: Compassion, healing, and inner-child wounds
00:13:58: Anger, forgiveness, and making peace with past hurts
00:18:53: Letting go of control and learning to trust
00:22:21: The “bullshit blueprint”: childhood programming and subconscious patterns
00:26:34: How old wounds get triggered in present-day relationships
00:36:54: The shift from chasing to choosing
00:44:33: Why repetition is necessary to actually rewire your patterns
00:50:52: What healthy love and self-acceptance really look like

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