The Sabrina Zohar Show

The Sabrina Zohar Show

Novo232: Why Men Won’t Open Up to Their Partners W/ Tom Stroud23 de outubro de 2026 · 58 min
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The Sabrina Zohar Show is your no-BS guide to dating, relationships, and coming home to yourself. Hosted by @sabrina.zohar, this podcast dives deep into the realities of modern love, anxious attachment, and the personal growth it takes to build meaningful connections- not just with others, but with yourself. Formerly known as “Do The Work” the show is all about cutting through the noise. Whether you’re navigating dating burnout, relationship struggles, or learning how to stop overthinking every text, Sabrina brings raw, unfiltered conversations that challenge your patterns, shift your mindset, and help you reclaim your power. Because the real work isn’t just about finding the right person, it’s also about becoming the version of you that feels whole, secure, and unapologetically authentic. Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and watch on YouTube. A podcast on dating, anxiety, and doing the work to heal with @Sabrina.zohar. Instagram: @thesabrinazoharshow TikTok: @sabrina.zohar Instagram- @thesabrinazoharshow TikTok- @sabrina.zohar

Episódios 233

  1. 232: Why Men Won’t Open Up to Their Partners W/ Tom Stroud

    58 minEpisódio 232

    Love Is Blind UK star ⁠Tom Stroud⁠ sets the record straight on his reality TV villain edit, including why Netflix made him reshoot the altar scene. He shares how therapy after the show led him to build …

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    Love Is Blind UK star ⁠Tom Stroud⁠ sets the record straight on his reality TV villain edit, including why Netflix made him reshoot the altar scene. He shares how therapy after the show led him to build ⁠Shoulder to Shoulder⁠, a men’s community tackling the male loneliness epidemic, and he and Sabrina get honest about men’s mental health, why so many men avoid therapy, and why shaming men for their feelings only pushes them further away.
    Tom also opens up about his father wound, losing his dad before they could reconcile, and what his relationship has taught him about conflict, anger, and emotional safety. Plus: why men need male friendships, red flags that look like green flags, scheduling sex in a busy relationship, and what women and men need to understand about each other.
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    If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠⁠

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    Chapters:

    00:00 Love Is Blind UK Altar Truth

    05:28 Reality TV Hate and Mental Health

    11:08 Equal Partnership in Relationships

    16:00 Fear of Rejection and People Pleasing

    21:09 Why Men Won’t Go to Therapy

    27:26 Male Loneliness Epidemic Explained

    34:22 Father Wound and Unspoken Regret

    39:15 Why Men Hide Their Emotions

    43:19 How to Make Men Feel Emotionally Safe

    48:59 Red Flags That Look Like Green Flags

    Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

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  2. 231: Why You Keep Making Unhealthy Decisions...

    33 minEpisódio 231

    Why do you keep checking if they watched your story, waiting for your ex to text, or feeling bored the moment someone is actually good to you? In this science-heavy episode, Sabrina breaks down the neuroscience …

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    Why do you keep checking if they watched your story, waiting for your ex to text, or feeling bored the moment someone is actually good to you? In this science-heavy episode, Sabrina breaks down the neuroscience of attachment and repeating relationship patterns: why your brain gets hooked on hot and cold people like a slot machine, why healthy relationships can feel boring, why you can’t get over your ex, and why you self-sabotage the moment you get what you wanted.

    Sabrina shares her own story of learning to receive secure love, plus what actually helps you break the cycle after a breakup, during no contact, or in a relationship where you keep having the same fight. You’ll also get a simple 90-second nervous system check-in to start catching your anxious attachment patterns before you act on them, so you can stop chasing the people who give you the least.

    Come see me on tour! https://sabrinazohar.com/tour

    Order Sabrina's book,⁠⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠⁠

    Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at ⁠http://sabrinazohar.com/book⁠

    Take the new and improved dating quiz! ⁠sabrinazohar.com/quiz⁠

    If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠

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    Chapters:

    00:00 Why You Keep Repeating the Same Patterns

    03:02 Why Healthy Relationships Feel Boring

    05:45 Why the Wrong Person Feels Like the One

    08:55 Why You Keep Waiting for Your Ex to Text

    11:07 Why You Self-Sabotage Good Relationships

    14:50 Why You Stay When Your Needs Aren’t Met

    17:53 Why You Can’t Stop Stalking Your Ex

    20:46 How to Break Anxious Attachment Patterns

    23:41 Why You Keep Getting Ghosted

    26:37 90-Second Nervous System Check-In

    Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

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  3. 230: Healing My Anxious Attachment Style With My Mama

    33 minEpisódio 2

    It’s pub day for Why Am I Like This?, and Sabrina’s mom Helly joins the show to talk honestly about Sabrina’s old dating patterns: texting nonstop, chasing emotionally unavailable men, people pleasing, and …

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    It’s pub day for Why Am I Like This?, and Sabrina’s mom Helly joins the show to talk honestly about Sabrina’s old dating patterns: texting nonstop, chasing emotionally unavailable men, people pleasing, and losing herself trying to make someone love her. Helly shares the advice she gave Sabrina for years, like “be careful what you wish for” and “you have to love yourself more than you need to be loved,” and explains why choosing yourself is where real change starts.

    Sabrina then opens up about imposter syndrome, needing outside validation, the pressure of content creation, and her mom’s health, and how hearing “I’m proud of you” changed things for her. If you struggle with anxious attachment, self-abandonment, low self-worth, or letting go of people who don’t choose you, this episode is a reminder that healing is messy, there’s no fully healed version of you, and you can still become who you want to be.

    Come see me on tour! https://sabrinazohar.com/tour

    Order Sabrina's book,⁠⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠⁠

    Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at ⁠http://sabrinazohar.com/book⁠

    Take the new and improved dating quiz! ⁠sabrinazohar.com/quiz⁠

    If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠

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    Chapters:

    00:00 Mom Reveals My Past Dating Patterns

    03:00 Obsessive Texting and Losing Yourself

    06:00 Choosing Yourself After Hitting Bottom

    09:00 Stop Waiting for Someone to Rescue You

    12:00 Letting Go of Ego in Relationships

    15:00 Chasing Validation and Self-Worth

    18:00 Imposter Syndrome and Fear of Failure

    21:00 There Is No Fully Healed Version of You

    24:00 You Get to Choose How You Show Up

    27:00 Stop Chasing the Spark, Choose Safety

    Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

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  4. 229: Stop Asking "Why Don't They Want Me?"

    36 minEpisódio 229

    Why do I keep choosing the wrong people? Why can't I let go of someone who won't choose me? If you're stuck asking "why," this episode is for you. Sabrina breaks down why self-awareness alone won't heal anxious …

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    Why do I keep choosing the wrong people? Why can't I let go of someone who won't choose me? If you're stuck asking "why," this episode is for you. Sabrina breaks down why self-awareness alone won't heal anxious attachment, how childhood patterns follow you into dating and relationships, and what Mary Ainsworth's Strange Situation study shows about anxious and avoidant attachment: avoidants feel the panic too, they just hide it.

    She also reads from Chapter 4 of her new book, Why Am I Like This?, about a dating story that taught her what self-abandonment really looks like. Learn the better questions to ask yourself, how nervous system regulation changes the story you tell yourself, and how to stop people pleasing and start choosing you.

    Come see me on tour! https://sabrinazohar.com/tour

    Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠⁠

    Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at ⁠http://sabrinazohar.com/book⁠

    Take the new and improved dating quiz! ⁠sabrinazohar.com/quiz⁠

    If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠

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    Chapters:

    00:00 Stop Asking Why: Ask Better Questions

    04:03 Why Self-Awareness Isn't Enough

    07:06 How to Trust Yourself and Choose You

    09:41 The Strange Situation Attachment Study

    13:10 Family Patterns and Outgrowing People

    16:04 Feeling Insecure? Stop Being Perfect

    18:37 Childhood Trauma and Anxious Attachment

    21:42 Abandoning Yourself to Get Chosen

    25:09 Self-Abandonment Is a Trauma Response

    28:41 Third-Person Self-Talk Stops Rumination

    Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

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  5. 228: You're Not Healing. You're Just Consuming Content…

    59 minEpisódio 228

    Why does healing feel so hard, and why doesn't "regulating your nervous system" fix it? Nervous system expert Masha Kay returns to break down what the internet gets wrong about nervous system regulation, why …

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    Why does healing feel so hard, and why doesn't "regulating your nervous system" fix it? Nervous system expert Masha Kay returns to break down what the internet gets wrong about nervous system regulation, why regulation has become the new perfectionism, and what capacity really means in dating and relationships. We talk about why someone can love you and still not meet your needs, how to handle being triggered by a text, why "if he wanted to, he would" is bad advice, and what's actually going on when an avoidant partner shuts down.

    Masha explains somatic experiencing and titration in plain terms, how to stop ruminating and overthinking, and why building stability in your whole life matters more than any quick trick for calming anxiety. If you're dealing with anxious attachment, a painful breakup, emotional triggers, or healing from childhood patterns, this episode gives you real tools for healing trauma, feeling safe in your body, and building healthier relationships.

    Come see me on tour! https://sabrinazohar.com/tour

    Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠⁠

    Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at ⁠http://sabrinazohar.com/book⁠

    Take the new and improved dating quiz! ⁠sabrinazohar.com/quiz⁠

    If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠

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    Join Masha's course Befriend, an 8-week self-paced foundations course on the nervous system. Listeners can use code SABRINA for $100 off

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    Chapters:

    00:00 Nervous System Regulation Myths

    05:16 What Dysregulation Really Looks Like

    10:44 Why Love Isn't Enough in Relationships

    16:43 Healing Your Whole Life, Not Just Dating

    22:27 Feeling Safe Around Difficult Family

    27:08 Somatic Experiencing Explained

    33:11 Titration: Why Slow Healing Works

    38:38 Are You Really Doing the Work?

    43:34 How to Handle Triggers in Dating

    50:20 Avoidant Attachment and Overthinking

    Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

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  6. 227: How To Actually Handle A Breakup…

    31 minEpisódio 227

    How do you get over a breakup without making it mean something is wrong with you? In the final episode of the Things To Do and Not To Do series, Sabrina breaks down what to do and what not to do during and …

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    How do you get over a breakup without making it mean something is wrong with you? In the final episode of the Things To Do and Not To Do series, Sabrina breaks down what to do and what not to do during and after a breakup, from why no contact matters (and why it shouldn't be used to make your ex miss you) to how to handle the urge to text your ex, stop ruminating, and accept that closure is a decision you make, even when you never get the conversation. She also covers processing anger and grief, moving on from someone who broke up with you months ago, staying civil with an ex you work with or co-parent with, and seeing your ex on dating apps.

    Whether you got dumped or did the dumping, this episode will help you stop tying rejection to your self-worth, let go of who you hoped they would become, and heal after heartbreak without rushing it. Plus, Sabrina shares her tool of the week, the unsent letter, a simple exercise for releasing what you never got to say so you can finally move on.

    Come see me on tour! https://sabrinazohar.com/tour

    Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠⁠

    Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at ⁠http://sabrinazohar.com/book⁠

    Take the new and improved dating quiz! ⁠sabrinazohar.com/quiz⁠

    If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠

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    Chapters:

    00:00 How to Handle Getting Dumped

    03:12 Don't Make a Breakup About Your Worth

    06:34 Why You Can't Stop Thinking About Your Ex

    09:08 Processing Anger and Grief After Breakup

    11:48 Breakup Withdrawal and No Contact

    14:30 How to Walk Away From an Ex

    17:23 How to Get Closure After a Breakup

    20:08 When You're the One Who Ended It

    22:15 Seeing Your Ex on Dating Apps

    24:42 Unsent Letter Exercise for Heartbreak

    Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

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  7. 226: Do's And Don'ts For Dating And Relationships

    41 minEpisódio 226

    The dos and don'ts of dating and relationships, from the first date to years in. Sabrina covers what to do and not do before, during, and after a first date: stop the endless texting, set boundaries and …

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    The dos and don'ts of dating and relationships, from the first date to years in. Sabrina covers what to do and not do before, during, and after a first date: stop the endless texting, set boundaries and non-negotiables, watch for reciprocity and consistency, and stop falling for potential and breadcrumbs.

    Then the relationship dos and don'ts: responding to bids for connection, communicating so your partner actually hears you, handling jealousy without surveillance, and keeping the dating habits that build a healthy, secure relationship.

    Come see me on tour! https://sabrinazohar.com/tour

    Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠⁠

    Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at ⁠http://sabrinazohar.com/book⁠

    Take the new and improved dating quiz! ⁠sabrinazohar.com/quiz⁠

    If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠

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    Don't forget to follow ⁠⁠Sabrina⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠⁠ on Instagram and ⁠⁠Sabrina ⁠⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠⁠YOUTUBE!⁠⁠

    Chapters:

    00:00 Breadcrumbs and Bare Minimum Dating

    04:22 Dating Dos and Don'ts Before a Date

    07:18 Falling for the Idea of Someone

    11:04 Big Conversations on a First Date

    15:20 What to Do on a First Date

    18:26 Why Texting Builds False Intimacy

    22:36 Reciprocity and Consistency in Dating

    25:25 Relationship Dos and Don'ts

    29:11 Jealousy and Opposite Sex Friendships

    33:46 How to Track Bids for Connection

    Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

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  8. 225: Am I Too Late To Find Love? With Tamsen Fadal

    52 minEpisódio 225

    This one is about feeling behind. The belief that you missed your window, that everyone else got the memo, that whatever you want is off the table now because of your age. We are answering the questions you …

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    This one is about feeling behind. The belief that you missed your window, that everyone else got the memo, that whatever you want is off the table now because of your age. We are answering the questions you keep sending in: how to date after divorce without carrying the last relationship into the next one, how to stop treating the apps like a second job, whether age gaps actually work and where they stop working, and how to make the kids decision when everyone has an opinion about it except you.

    We also get into why so many of us stay in relationships that are hurting us and call it love, what it actually takes to rebuild after a divorce or a breakup that flattened you, and why perimenopause is a conversation you should be having in your 30s instead of finding out at 47. Tamsen Fadal, journalist and author of How to Menopause, joins me for it. Nobody is behind. You are just on your own timeline.

    Come see me on tour! https://sabrinazohar.com/tour

    Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠⁠

    Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at ⁠http://sabrinazohar.com/book⁠

    Take the new and improved dating quiz! ⁠sabrinazohar.com/quiz⁠

    If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠

    Get Ad free ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠ 

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    Chapters:

    00:00 From News Anchor To Menopause Advocate

    05:24 What You Look For Changes With Age

    09:15 Divorce, Debt, And Starting Over

    13:38 Knowing When To Leave A Relationship

    18:48 What A Healthy Relationship Feels Like

    24:19 The Pressure To Have Kids

    29:35 How To Decide If You Want Children

    35:58 Do Age Gaps Actually Work

    40:12 Dating App Burnout And Discouragement

    45:48 How To Stop Feeling Behind

    Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

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  9. 224: Stop Asking Everyone But Yourself

    40 min

    You already know the answer. You just keep asking everyone but yourself: him, your friends, your therapist, a stranger with a podcast, anyone who will confirm what you already feel. Sabrina gets into why …

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    You already know the answer. You just keep asking everyone but yourself: him, your friends, your therapist, a stranger with a podcast, anyone who will confirm what you already feel. Sabrina gets into why outsourcing your worth feels safer than trusting your own read, and what happens when you let someone else's behavior become the verdict on your value. He pulled away, so you must be too much. She chose someone else, so you must be nothing.

    Listener questions on telling a gut feeling apart from relationship anxiety and ROCD, love bombing and ghosting, staying in a situationship that keeps regressing, and chasing emotionally unavailable men while writing off the available ones as doormats. Anxious and avoidant attachment, reassurance seeking, the abandonment wound, boundaries, and how to stop handing over the pen so your own knowing finally counts.

    Come see me on tour! https://sabrinazohar.com/tour

    Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠⁠

    Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at ⁠http://sabrinazohar.com/book⁠

    Take the new and improved dating quiz! ⁠sabrinazohar.com/quiz⁠

    If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠

    Product of the week! https://amzn.to/3UAsfKI

    Get Ad free ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠ 

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    Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠ 

    Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠ 

    Don't forget to follow ⁠⁠Sabrina⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠⁠ on Instagram and ⁠⁠Sabrina ⁠⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠⁠YOUTUBE!⁠⁠

    Chapters:

    00:00 Are They Into Me Or Am I Reading In

    03:09 Would You Be Proud Of Your Life

    05:23 Gut Feeling Or Relationship Anxiety

    08:02 Why Green Flags Feel Uncomfortable

    11:23 Owning Your Part In What Repeats

    15:45 Stop Romanticizing The Bare Minimum

    19:16 How To Validate Yourself

    23:11 Chasing Someone Who Is Pulling Away

    27:18 The Red Flags You Ignore Early On

    31:34 Losing Weight Won't Make Them Stay

    Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

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  10. 223: Things To Do And Not Do When Single

    38 min

    How do you actually get okay being alone? In part one of a three part series, Sabrina answers your questions about being single: how to stop wanting a relationship so badly, how to grieve a breakup or a divorce …

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    How do you actually get okay being alone? In part one of a three part series, Sabrina answers your questions about being single: how to stop wanting a relationship so badly, how to grieve a breakup or a divorce without rushing the healing, and how to rebuild your identity when it was wrapped up in someone else. She gets into why making dating your hobby keeps you stuck, and the difference between feeling lonely and just being bored.

    She also covers the dating app validation loop and the delete then re-download cycle on Hinge and Bumble, why anxious and avoidant people are drawn to each other, the research on how fear of being single leads people to settle for less responsive partners, and the three non-negotiables and boundaries that changed her dating life. Plus a tool of the week and a product of the week.

    Come see me on tour! https://sabrinazohar.com/tour

    Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠⁠

    Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at ⁠http://sabrinazohar.com/book⁠

    Take the new and improved dating quiz! ⁠sabrinazohar.com/quiz⁠

    If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠

    Product of the week! https://a.co/d/08HxSyv2

    Get Ad free ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠ 

    Watch on Spotify. Spotify subscribers get fewer ads on my video.

    Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠ 

    Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠ 

    Don't forget to follow ⁠⁠Sabrina⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠⁠ on Instagram and ⁠⁠Sabrina ⁠⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠⁠YOUTUBE!⁠⁠

    Chapters:

    00:00 Why Being Single Feels Like Failure

    03:24 Build A Full Life While Single

    06:52 Don't Make Dating Your Hobby

    10:25 Choose People Who Choose You

    13:26 No One Is Coming To Save You

    17:26 Stop Wanting A Relationship So Bad

    20:53 When Are You Ready To Date Again

    24:14 Rebuild Your Identity After A Breakup

    26:57 Dating App Validation Loop

    30:23 Take Yourself Out This Week

    Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

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  11. 222: How Do You Actually Choose Yourself?

    38 min

    What does loving yourself actually look like when it isn't bubble baths, face masks, or affirmations you don't believe? Sabrina breaks down the real difference between self-love and self-esteem, what the …

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    What does loving yourself actually look like when it isn't bubble baths, face masks, or affirmations you don't believe? Sabrina breaks down the real difference between self-love and self-esteem, what the self-compassion research says about anxiety and resilience, and why your inner critic isn't your enemy but a survival strategy you learned somewhere. She also tells the story of the guy who said he wasn't attracted to her two months in, why she walked away that night, and how she met her partner five days later.

    This one covers how to stop self-abandoning in dating, three questions to ask yourself on every first date, why proximity and timing matter more than love, how to find closure after being ghosted, how to rebuild self-worth after getting dumped, and how to set boundaries when someone disrespects your time. If you keep accepting low effort, treating rejection like proof you're not enough, or waiting to feel worthy before you act like it, this is your episode on how to actually choose yourself.

    Come see me on tour! https://sabrinazohar.com/tour

    Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠⁠

    Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at ⁠http://sabrinazohar.com/book⁠

    Take the new and improved dating quiz! ⁠sabrinazohar.com/quiz⁠

    If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠

    Product of the week! https://amzn.to/4gzWSat

    Get Ad free ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠ 

    Watch on Spotify. Spotify subscribers get fewer ads on my video.

    Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠ 

    Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠ 

    Don't forget to follow ⁠⁠Sabrina⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠⁠ on Instagram and ⁠⁠Sabrina ⁠⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠⁠YOUTUBE!⁠⁠

    Chapters:

    00:00 What Self-Love Actually Means

    03:47 3 Questions To Ask On A Date

    05:55 Story Time: Before I Met Ryan

    08:59 The Red Flags I Ignored

    11:28 When He Said He Wasn't Attracted

    13:56 Why Timing Matters More Than Love

    16:06 How To Stop Judging Yourself

    19:52 Self-Worth After Getting Dumped

    23:02 The Client Who Wasted My Time

    26:34 Loving Yourself After Being Ghosted

    Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

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  12. 221: Can You Get Them To Change?

    32 minEpisódio 221

    Discernment in dating is not about spotting every red flag, it's about not creating green ones that were never there. Sabrina opens with the story of the emotionally unavailable man she spent years making …

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    Discernment in dating is not about spotting every red flag, it's about not creating green ones that were never there. Sabrina opens with the story of the emotionally unavailable man she spent years making excuses for, then breaks down the difference between anxiety and intuition, why your gut is quiet and your anxiety comes with a story, and how the halo effect keeps you ignoring obvious incompatibility. She covers boundaries versus walls, whether "high standards" are self-trust or self-protection, how to trust yourself again after being lied to, and why limerence and fantasy keep you stuck in situationships that were never going anywhere.

    If you're tired of overthinking texts, playing detective with attachment styles, and hoping someone becomes who you need them to be, this one is for you. See it for what it is, not for what you want it to be.

    Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠⁠

    Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at ⁠http://sabrinazohar.com/book⁠

    Take the new and improved dating quiz! ⁠sabrinazohar.com/quiz⁠

    If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠

    Get Ad free ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠ 

    Watch on Spotify. Spotify subscribers get fewer ads on my video.

    Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠ 

    Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠ 

    Don't forget to follow ⁠⁠Sabrina⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠⁠ on Instagram and ⁠⁠Sabrina ⁠⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠⁠YOUTUBE!⁠⁠

    Chapters:

    00:00 Why The Spark Can Be Dangerous

    02:42 Falling For The Fantasy Not Him

    05:52 Anxious Texting And Chasing Crumbs

    09:30 What Discernment Actually Means

    11:47 Is It Your Gut Or Your Anxiety?

    14:11 Boundaries Vs Walls In Dating

    17:17 High Standards Or Fear Of Intimacy

    19:26 Trusting Yourself After Being Lied To

    21:40 The Evidence Vs Story Exercise

    25:04 Stop Hoping They'll Change

    Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

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  13. 220: What Does It Mean To "Do The Work?"

    33 minEpisódio 220

    What does it actually mean to do the work? In this solo episode, Sabrina breaks down how therapy talk gets weaponized to dodge accountability, and what real healing looks like when you stop intellectualizing …

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    What does it actually mean to do the work? In this solo episode, Sabrina breaks down how therapy talk gets weaponized to dodge accountability, and what real healing looks like when you stop intellectualizing and start implementing. She digs into sitting in discomfort, regulating your nervous system, the difference between ruminating and processing, why journaling rewires your brain, and how inner child work changes the way you show up in dating and relationships.

    She also answers a listener question about telling a healthy, secure partner you're not ready, unpacks anxious and avoidant attachment, and shares why detaching from the outcome is the number one lesson of doing the work. If you're tired of surface level advice and ready for the real, unsexy practice of becoming secure in yourself and your relationships, this one is for you, babes.

    Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

    Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book

    Take the new and improved dating quiz! sabrinazohar.com/quiz

    If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠

    Get Ad free ⁠HERE!⁠ 

    Watch on Spotify. Spotify subscribers get fewer ads on my video.

    Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠HERE!⁠ 

    Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠HERE!⁠ 

    Don't forget to follow ⁠Sabrina⁠ and ⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠ on Instagram and ⁠Sabrina ⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠YOUTUBE!⁠

    Chapters:

    0:00 Therapy Talk Is Killing Accountability

    3:10 What Doing The Work Actually Means

    5:59 Stop Using AI To Replace Therapy

    8:16 Ruminating vs Processing

    11:20 Inner Child Work In Practice

    13:43 Healing Doesnt Erase The Pain

    16:34 Detaching From The Outcome

    19:21 There Is No Being Fully Healed

    22:30 Single vs Relationship Healing

    25:48 Tool Of The Week + Product Of The Week

    Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

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  14. 219: Dating Someone Who Won't Choose You

    33 min

    Why do you keep chasing someone who only shows up halfway? Sabrina breaks down the difference between choosing yourself and waiting to be chosen, and why hope works exactly like a slot machine when you are …

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    Why do you keep chasing someone who only shows up halfway? Sabrina breaks down the difference between choosing yourself and waiting to be chosen, and why hope works exactly like a slot machine when you are stuck in a situationship. She reads a listener letter about falling for a married man from the gym, unpacks why ghosting and mixed signals feel so addictive, and explains how intermittent reinforcement turns a fantasy into an obsession you cannot shake.

    Plus the first ever listener voice note on modern dating and dating app burnout, why early intensity says nothing about someone's intention, and a rapid fire round covering how to get over not being chosen, surviving a long distance breakup, handling core wounds and triggers that pop up out of nowhere, and what to demand when someone comes crawling back. If you are done with breadcrumbs, low effort dating, and being the one who always texts first, this one is for you.

    Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

    Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book

    Take the new and improved dating quiz! sabrinazohar.com/quiz

    If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠

    If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠

    Get Ad free ⁠HERE!⁠ 

    Watch on Spotify. Spotify subscribers get fewer ads on my video.

    Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠HERE!⁠ 

    Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠HERE!⁠ 

    Don't forget to follow ⁠Sabrina⁠ and ⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠ on Instagram and ⁠Sabrina ⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠YOUTUBE!⁠

    Chapters:

    00:00 Two Dates Then They Went Cold

    03:00 Why Going Slow Beats Intensity

    06:00 Gym Crush Turned Out To Be Married

    09:00 Why You Can't Stop Thinking About Them

    12:00 Asking Why Keeps You Stuck

    15:00 You Weren't Replaced, Reframe It

    18:00 Core Wounds That Randomly Pop Up

    21:00 Has Modern Dating Actually Changed

    24:00 Attention Versus Intention In Dating

    26:39 Tool Of The Week: Choosing Yourself

    Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

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  15. 218: You're Not Ready For Love If You Do This W/ David Ghiyam

    41 min

    What actually makes someone attractive, and why it has almost nothing to do with how they look. Sabrina sits down with Kabbalah teacher David Ghiyam for a conversation that goes completely off script, into her …

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    What actually makes someone attractive, and why it has almost nothing to do with how they look. Sabrina sits down with Kabbalah teacher David Ghiyam for a conversation that goes completely off script, into her father wound, the dating patterns she repeated through all of her 20s, and why the relationship she almost walked away from for being "boring" turned into the healthiest one she's ever had.

    They get into energy and attraction, healing childhood wounds, why safe love feels boring to a dysregulated nervous system, how to know if you're settling or actually in the right relationship, why a secure partner will still trigger you, and how fast you move from rupture to repair. If you keep dating the same person in a different body, this one is for you.

    Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

    Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book

    Take the new and improved dating quiz! sabrinazohar.com/quiz

    If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠

    If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠

    Get Ad free ⁠HERE!⁠ 

    Watch on Spotify. Spotify subscribers get fewer ads on my video.

    Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠HERE!⁠ 

    Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠HERE!⁠ 

    Don't forget to follow ⁠Sabrina⁠ and ⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠ on Instagram and ⁠Sabrina ⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠YOUTUBE!⁠

    Chapters:

    00:00 What Makes Someone Attractive

    03:36 What Makes A Man Attractive

    07:20 Healing The Father Wound

    11:08 Why You Think You're The Problem

    14:40 Choosing The Man You Didn't Want

    18:32 Why My Dad Disowned Me

    21:45 Going Against Your Nature Works

    25:43 Are You Settling Or Growing

    29:30 Dating Again After Divorce

    34:09 Does Staying Single Protect Your Peace

    Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

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  16. 217: How to Sit In The Discomfort

    30 minEpisódio 217

    Certainty in dating is a fantasy. There is no milestone, not exclusivity, not "I love you," not moving in, not marriage, that finally makes relationship anxiety go away. In this episode Sabrina breaks down why …

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    Certainty in dating is a fantasy. There is no milestone, not exclusivity, not "I love you," not moving in, not marriage, that finally makes relationship anxiety go away. In this episode Sabrina breaks down why your brain would rather have a bad answer than no answer, how anxious attachment turns an unanswered text into a story about rejection, and why chasing, overthinking, testing, people pleasing, and checking your phone every five seconds are ways of managing anxiety rather than dating strategies.

    She also separates the two kinds of discomfort: walking on eggshells, accepting breadcrumbs, and tolerating mixed signals and inconsistency, versus asking for what you need, setting boundaries, saying no, and letting someone leave. Plus the tool of the week, evidence versus story, a simple practice for catching the narrative your brain invents when you do not have all the information. Secure people are not secure because they have certainty, they have capacity.

    Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

    Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book

    Take the new and improved dating quiz! sabrinazohar.com/quiz

    If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠

    If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠

    Get Ad free ⁠HERE!⁠ 

    Watch on Spotify. Spotify subscribers get fewer ads on my video.

    Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠HERE!⁠ 

    Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠HERE!⁠ 

    Don't forget to follow ⁠Sabrina⁠ and ⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠ on Instagram and ⁠Sabrina ⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠YOUTUBE!⁠

    Chapters:

    00:00 Why certainty in dating is a fantasy

    02:58 Why your brain needs an answer now

    05:39 Overthinking texts and short replies

    08:01 Why not knowing feels so stressful

    10:24 Wrong discomfort vs right discomfort

    13:12 Do they come back after a break?

    15:54 Why control does not make you safer

    18:38 Why you attract the same people

    21:53 Tool: evidence vs the story

    23:48 Why secure people have more capacity

    Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

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  17. 216: Why You Freeze Instead of Walking Away

    31 minEpisódio 216

    Do you go silent mid-argument and only find the words hours later in the shower? Stay in a situationship you can't end? Become whoever they need that week until you can't find your own taste anymore? In this …

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    Do you go silent mid-argument and only find the words hours later in the shower? Stay in a situationship you can't end? Become whoever they need that week until you can't find your own taste anymore? In this vulnerable solo episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina unpacks the freeze, fawn, and flop behaviors that get mislabeled as being chill, low maintenance, or the "cool girl." She explains why people-pleasing is really self-abandonment, why going blank isn't you being broken, and why the avoidant "they don't care" story is a lie we tell ourselves to feel better.

    Through raw personal stories about chasing older men, buying concert tickets to be chosen, and finally coming home to herself, Sabrina reframes these patterns as survival skills you can actually change. If you deal with anxiety, decision paralysis, overthinking, situationships, attachment wounds, or feeling "too much" or "too cold," this one is for you. There is nothing wrong with you, and it's time to stop earning everyone's love except your own.

    Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

    Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book

    Take the new and improved dating quiz! sabrinazohar.com/quiz

    If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠

    If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠

    Get Ad free ⁠HERE!⁠ 

    Watch on Spotify. Spotify subscribers get fewer ads on my video.

    Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠HERE!⁠ 

    Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠HERE!⁠ 

    Don't forget to follow ⁠Sabrina⁠ and ⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠ on Instagram and ⁠Sabrina ⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠YOUTUBE!⁠

    Chapters:

    00:00 Why You Shut Down Instead of React

    02:20 Why Avoidants Really Pull Away

    05:30 Why You Freeze in Hard Conversations

    08:25 My Situationship and Self Abandonment

    11:08 Decision Paralysis in Dating

    13:32 Freezing and Coming Home to Yourself

    16:38 People Pleasing and Losing Yourself

    19:12 Why Your Body Freezes and Goes Numb

    22:27 How to Stop Overthinking Right Now

    25:31 There Is Nothing Wrong With You

    Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

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  18. 215: They're Not Busy, They're Avoiding You

    35 minEpisódio 215

    The disappearing. The suddenly busy. The phone that comes out the second eye contact gets real. In this episode of the nervous system series, Sabrina breaks down the flight response in dating and relationships …

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    The disappearing. The suddenly busy. The phone that comes out the second eye contact gets real. In this episode of the nervous system series, Sabrina breaks down the flight response in dating and relationships: what's actually happening in the body when someone pulls back, why intimacy reads as danger, and why "I just need space" almost never has anything to do with space. Anxious and avoidant attachment both run this alarm, and we've spent years villainizing one and excusing the other instead of understanding either.

    Inside: why going cold after a great date isn't self-sabotage, how hyper independence and fear of vulnerability get wired in childhood, why situationships are often two flight responses agreeing not to scare each other, and the difference between an explanation and an excuse.

    Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

    Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book

    Take the new and improved dating quiz! sabrinazohar.com/quiz

    If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠

    If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠

    Get Ad free ⁠HERE!⁠ 

    Watch on Spotify. Spotify subscribers get fewer ads on my video.

    Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠HERE!⁠ 

    Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠HERE!⁠ 

    Don't forget to follow ⁠Sabrina⁠ and ⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠ on Instagram and ⁠Sabrina ⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠YOUTUBE!⁠

    Chapters:

    0:00 Why People Pull Away When It Gets Real

    2:59 What The Flight Response Actually Is

    6:06 Why We Villainize Avoidant Partners

    9:38 The Anxious Avoidant Dance Explained

    12:35 When Someone Says I Need Space

    15:30 Why They Won't Let You In

    18:17 Going Cold After A Good Date

    21:10 How Flight Shows Up In Dating

    24:50 What You Can't Control In Love

    27:51 Tool Of The Week: Stay 10 Minutes

    Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

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  19. 214: Why You Fall for Potential

    38 minEpisódio 214

    Have you ever fallen for someone's potential instead of who they actually are? In this episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina breaks down why we chase the idea of a person, get stuck in situationships, and …

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    Have you ever fallen for someone's potential instead of who they actually are? In this episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina breaks down why we chase the idea of a person, get stuck in situationships, and keep betting on emotionally unavailable partners who flood us with attention but never follow through with intention. She answers real audience questions about getting discarded, obsessing over an ex, dating someone who won't commit, and knowing when a person is wasting your time.

    If you struggle with falling hard fast, ruminating after a breakup, or self-abandoning just to get chosen, this one is for you. Sabrina shares how to build discernment, tell the fantasy from the reality, and finally choose yourself so you can stop pouring your energy into people who were never going to change.

    Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

    Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book

    Take the new and improved dating quiz! sabrinazohar.com/quiz

    If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠

    If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠

    Get Ad free ⁠HERE!⁠ 

    Watch on Spotify. Spotify subscribers get fewer ads on my video.

    Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠HERE!⁠ 

    Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠HERE!⁠ 

    Don't forget to follow ⁠Sabrina⁠ and ⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠ on Instagram and ⁠Sabrina ⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠YOUTUBE!⁠

    Chapters:

    00:00 Falling For Someone's Potential

    03:21 What Chasing Potential Really Means

    06:31 Attention Vs Intention In Dating

    09:53 How To Stop Thinking About Your Ex

    13:14 If He Wanted To He Would

    16:46 Situationship With No Future

    20:01 Stop Wasting Time On The Wrong People

    23:26 Texting Chemistry And Red Flags

    26:34 Moving On From The Idea Of Him

    29:29 Facts Vs Feelings: Choose Yourself


    Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

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  20. 213: Is There Something Wrong With Me? Neurodivergent Dating W/ Dr. Jacob Ambrose

    52 minEpisódio 213

    If you have ever asked yourself what is wrong with me, or wondered why you take everything so personally, this episode is for you. Sabrina sits down with licensed psychologist Dr. Jacob Ambrose to unpack …

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    If you have ever asked yourself what is wrong with me, or wondered why you take everything so personally, this episode is for you. Sabrina sits down with licensed psychologist Dr. Jacob Ambrose to unpack rejection sensitivity, why one comment can send you into a spiral, and where that deep fear of not being enough actually comes from. They get into the childhood core beliefs that convince you the problem is you, and how anxious attachment keeps you chasing outside validation just to feel okay on the inside.

    From limerence and obsessive thinking to the anxious avoidant dynamic, holding onto hope after a breakup, and the myth of being discarded, this conversation reframes the traits you were taught to hate about yourself as the exact things that make you powerful. If you are ready to stop the self-attack, understand your patterns, and choose yourself instead of shrinking to keep everyone comfortable, press play, babe. You are not too much, and you are not broken.

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    Chapters:

    0:00 Why Do I Take Things So Personally

    4:25 ADHD In Women vs Men

    9:21 Stop Watering Yourself Down

    14:23 Anxious Or Avoidant Attachment

    18:09 Is It Always The Avoidant's Fault

    23:12 Dopamine And Chasing Love

    27:53 Rejection Sensitivity And RSD

    32:41 Why Criticism Feels So Personal

    36:33 The Myth Of Being Discarded

    41:29 When Is Hope Healthy

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  21. 212: Why You Can't Let Go (Even When You Know You Should)

    36 minEpisódio 212

    Why can't you let it go? You typed the text, deleted it three times, and sent it anyway just to get the last word. In part one of a three-part series, Sabrina Zohar breaks down the fight response: keeping …

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    Why can't you let it go? You typed the text, deleted it three times, and sent it anyway just to get the last word. In part one of a three-part series, Sabrina Zohar breaks down the fight response: keeping score, replaying old arguments, the silent treatment, test texts, and why anger rumination keeps you stuck instead of setting you free. Whether you're single, dating, or years into a relationship, this one is for anyone who can't stop fighting to be right.

    Sabrina gets honest about how needing the last word costs you sleep, connection, and the chance to actually be known, how triggers resurface after an abusive relationship, and why your reactions reveal more about your history than the person in front of you. You'll leave with one research-backed tool, the 20-minute rule, to calm down before you say or send something you'll regret. Expect real, warm, no-bullshit guidance on attachment, dating, and putting the armor down.

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    Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book

    Take the new and improved dating quiz! sabrinazohar.com/quiz

    If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step ⁠HERE!⁠

    If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠

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    Chapters:

    00:00 Why you can't let it go

    02:35 What being triggered really means

    04:50 Needing the last word

    08:41 Keeping score in relationships

    10:58 Test texts and silent treatment

    13:53 Fight as a survival response

    16:43 Why we match the energy

    20:25 Testing for reassurance

    24:41 Anger rumination explained

    27:41 The 20 minute rule


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  22. 211: Get Out Of Your Head And Into Your Body W/ Dr. Russell Kennedy

    1 h 10 minEpisódio 211

    What is anxiety, really, and why won't it go away no matter how much you overthink it? Sabrina sits down with neuroscientist and anxiety expert Dr. Russ Kennedy (Anxiety MD) to break down anxiety in dating …

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    What is anxiety, really, and why won't it go away no matter how much you overthink it? Sabrina sits down with neuroscientist and anxiety expert Dr. Russ Kennedy (Anxiety MD) to break down anxiety in dating, relationships, and everyday life. They cover why anxiety lives in the body and not just the head, why CBT, EMDR, and medication so often treat the symptoms instead of the root, and how to tell a real alarm from a false one. This one is for anyone who has ever felt anxious, avoidant, or convinced they were fundamentally broken.

    They also dig into the myth that a new partner will fix your anxiety, why overthinking is really under-feeling, and how inner child work and somatic healing actually move you forward. You will walk away with tangible tools to stop abandoning yourself, get out of your head, and work through anxious attachment, breakups, and the uncertainty of dating. The biggest takeaway is learning to separate the feeling in your body from the thoughts in your mind, because that is where real healing starts.

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    Get Dr. Russ' book, "Anxiety Rx: A Revolutionary New Prescription for Anxiety Relief―from the Doctor Who Created It"

    Take Dr. Russ' self-paced online anxiety healing program MBRX

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    Chapters:

    00:00 What Is Anxiety, Really

    06:00 Anxiety Lives in the Body

    13:30 Why Coping Tools Fall Short

    20:20 Overthinking Is Under-Feeling

    26:40 Most Damaging Anxiety Advice

    33:30 Worry and Inner Child Wounds

    41:00 Inner Child Healing Exercise

    46:30 Telling a Partner You're Anxious

    53:00 Why Feeling Beats Thinking

    59:27 Rapid Fire and Biggest Lies


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  23. 210: How To Know If You Are Compatible With Someone

    34 min

    What does compatibility actually mean, and why do so many people walk away from good relationships while staying stuck in bad ones? In this episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina breaks down the broken …

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    What does compatibility actually mean, and why do so many people walk away from good relationships while staying stuck in bad ones? In this episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina breaks down the broken definition of compatibility most of us absorbed from movies and Disney, and why shared hobbies, an easy connection, instant chemistry, and looking good on paper are not the things that make love last. She brings the research, including what a 20-year study revealed about perceived partner responsiveness and the quiet experience of feeling truly known by your partner.

    Whether you're single and trying to date with more discernment or you're in a long-term relationship wondering why the spark faded, this conversation gives you a real filter. Sabrina explains fading affect bias and why your brain keeps you hooked on an ex, why the "right" person can feel boring at first, and the one question that works on a third date or a tenth year of marriage: do I feel known here? A grounded, practical look at attachment, dating, and building a relationship that deepens instead of rots.

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    Chapters:

    00:00 What compatibility really means

    03:38 What compatibility is not

    06:05 Why easy isn't the same as right

    10:33 Why the spark isn't love

    17:00 How your brain fakes connection

    23:22 Why you can't get over an ex

    26:28 Compatibility is a verb

    28:08 Why feeling known matters most

    30:32 The cost of choosing real love

    32:46 The one question to ask


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  24. 209: How Secure People Breakup

    31 minEpisódio 209

    What does a secure breakup actually look like? Most of us have never seen one, so we don't know it's even possible. In the finale of this four-part breakup series, Sabrina breaks down secure attachment in real …

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    What does a secure breakup actually look like? Most of us have never seen one, so we don't know it's even possible. In the finale of this four-part breakup series, Sabrina breaks down secure attachment in real terms: the in-person conversation, the honest reason, the clean ending that lets grief actually move instead of looping for years. She lays all four attachment styles side by side (anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure) so you can finally see why the same breakup hits four completely different ways, and why your reaction was never about how much the relationship mattered.

    This one goes deep on breakup recovery, how to get over someone, and the truth about earned secure attachment: that security can be built later in life through co-regulation and consistent safety, not love alone. If you've ever wondered why being loved still left you feeling anxious or avoidant, this episode is the answer. Plus, the tool of the week that works for every attachment style and helps you spot secure behavior in the people already in your life.

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    If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step ⁠HERE!⁠

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    Chapters:

    00:00 What A Secure Breakup Looks Like

    03:32 Why Speaking Your Truth Costs You

    05:36 The Breakup Conversation Done Right

    08:42 Do Secure People Still Feel Pain?

    10:10 Secure Isn't Being Unbothered

    12:20 3 Things A Secure System Does

    15:37 Can You Become Securely Attached?

    18:50 The Weeks And Months After

    22:41 All 4 Breakups Side By Side

    26:17 Tool: Spotting Secure Behavior


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  25. 208: Breaking Down Every Type of Open Relationship W/ Brandon Kyle Goodman

    56 minEpisódio 208

    What is polyamory, and how is it different from ethical non-monogamy? Can an open relationship actually last, and is dating really any different across the gay, straight, and bisexual communities? In this Pride …

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    What is polyamory, and how is it different from ethical non-monogamy? Can an open relationship actually last, and is dating really any different across the gay, straight, and bisexual communities? In this Pride Month episode, Sabrina sits down with writer, actor, and Tell Me Something Messy host Brandon Kyle Goodman to unpack poly, ethical non-monogamy (ENM), open relationships, jealousy, trust, and what every monogamous person can learn from how non-monogamous people communicate.

    They dig into how to know if ENM is actually for you, the real difference between non-monogamy and cheating, how to handle jealousy and insecurity, and why no dating book or set of rules will ever beat honest communication. They also run a live dating profile audit packed with tips on attraction, compatibility, and getting comfortable with rejection. Whoever you love and however you connect, you deserve love like the rest of us.

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    Chapters:

    00:00 Polyamory and Open Relationships Intro

    06:08 Why Men Love Bitches and Dating Rules

    10:14 Masculine and Feminine Energy in Love

    14:22 What Polyamory Actually Is

    18:29 How to Know if Polyamory Is for You

    22:34 Open Relationship vs Cheating

    29:10 Why People Choose Polyamory

    35:03 Using Sex to Numb Loneliness

    42:29 Dating Profile Audit and Tips

    51:36 Meeting People and Handling Rejection


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  26. 207: Hot and Cold in Love And Breakups: The Real Reason Why

    34 minEpisódio 207

    Ever swing between anxious and avoidant with the same person, reaching for them one minute and running the next? That's not you being broken or "too much." In week three of the Breakups by Attachment Style …

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    Ever swing between anxious and avoidant with the same person, reaching for them one minute and running the next? That's not you being broken or "too much." In week three of the Breakups by Attachment Style series, Sabrina breaks down disorganized attachment (also called fearful avoidant attachment): the push-pull, hot-and-cold, on-again-off-again pattern that makes you feel like you're losing your mind. Learn what's actually happening in your nervous system, why your relationships keep taking this shape, and why no attachment style ever excuses how someone treats you.

    Inside: the research on fearful avoidant attachment in adulthood, a real story of dating someone disorganized, and what the path to earned security actually looks like (slower than 90 days, and worth every bit of it). Plus the Tool of the Week, a simple somatic state check-in to start tracking your nervous system today. If you've never fit neatly into anxious or avoidant, this one on attachment theory, nervous system regulation, and breaking the cycle is for you, baby.

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    Chapters:

    00:00 Anxious and Avoidant at the Same Time

    03:48 What Disorganized Attachment Is

    06:36 Why You Can't Predict the Pattern

    09:43 On Again Off Again Relationships

    13:35 Hot and Cold Relationship Story

    18:00 Why You Keep Going Back

    21:00 How the Push Pull Cycle Works

    25:03 What Causes Disorganized Attachment

    28:55 How to Heal Fearful Avoidant

    31:26 Somatic Practice to Self Regulate


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  27. 206: Avoidants: Did You Mean Anything To Them? What's Really Going On After A Breakup

    39 minEpisódio 206

    Why does an avoidant ex look completely fine after the breakup while you're falling apart? In Part 2 of this 4-part breakup series, Sabrina breaks down avoidant attachment after a breakup using actual …

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    Why does an avoidant ex look completely fine after the breakup while you're falling apart? In Part 2 of this 4-part breakup series, Sabrina breaks down avoidant attachment after a breakup using actual attachment research, not the recycled TikTok takes. She explains what deactivation really means in the nervous system, why avoidants register as less distressed in the acute post-breakup period, and what's actually happening when they seem to move on overnight or jump straight into a new relationship.

    You'll also learn the three types of avoidant reach-outs (suppression breakdown, the phantom ex phenomenon, and the rare real reach out), how to tell which one you're getting, whether avoidants can actually change, and why you keep responding even when you know better. Stay until the end for the Tool of the Week, the single most useful practice for anyone trying to heal from an avoidant discard, an anxious-avoidant dynamic, or a breakup where you can't stop wondering if you ever mattered to them.

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    Chapters:

    00:00 Inside the Avoidant Breakup

    06:10 What Avoidant Attachment Really Is

    10:45 Why Avoidants Don't Grieve at First

    13:21 Avoidant Discard vs Breakup

    17:08 The Suppression Study Explained

    21:20 3 Types of Avoidant Reach Outs

    25:37 Why You Keep Responding

    28:21 Can Avoidants Actually Change

    31:12 Healing Without Becoming Avoidant

    33:40 Tool: Stop Predicting Their Feelings


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  28. 205: How to Heal After a Breakup When You're Anxious

    35 minEpisódio 206

    It's 2am, you've checked their Instagram three times, and your body still aches for the person you know wasn't right. In this episode, Sabrina unpacks the anxious attachment breakup: why anxiously attached …

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    It's 2am, you've checked their Instagram three times, and your body still aches for the person you know wasn't right. In this episode, Sabrina unpacks the anxious attachment breakup: why anxiously attached people chase, ruminate, and spiral after a relationship ends, what new research reveals about the nervous system pull toward an ex, and the one move keeping most anxious people stuck in the loop.

    This is part one of a four-part breakup series covering anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure attachment styles. Expect honest talk on post-breakup rumination, no contact, withdrawal symptoms, self-abandonment, and how to stop chasing emotionally unavailable partners, plus a 30-second reframe to interrupt the spiral the next time your brain starts to loop.

    Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

    Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book

    If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step ⁠HERE!⁠

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    Chapters:

    00:00 - The 2am anxious breakup spiral

    04:54 - Why you feel withdrawal from your ex

    07:08 - Rumination and the pull toward your ex

    11:43 - Both sides of an anxious breakup

    15:48 - Why your 2am thoughts feel true

    17:21 - Self punishment after a breakup

    20:23 - How to actually get over a breakup

    24:45 - Why anxious people grow most

    27:47 - Tool of the week: the reframe swap

    31:12 - Grief vs self punishment


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  29. 204: Stop Trying to Be Picked. Start Picking Yourself. (Live Coaching)

    54 minEpisódio 204

    In the first ever live coaching session of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina sits down with brand ambassador and content creator Judit Moreno for an unfiltered conversation about anxious attachment, the father …

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    In the first ever live coaching session of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina sits down with brand ambassador and content creator Judit Moreno for an unfiltered conversation about anxious attachment, the father wound, and why so many of us keep dating emotionally unavailable men. They unpack how childhood shapes adult relationship patterns, what love bombing does to your nervous system, and why self-abandonment can feel like home when chaos was your blueprint for love.

    If you have ever wondered why you keep attracting the same partner in different bodies, spiraled in anxious attachment dating cycles, or felt like you are "too much" in relationships, this episode is for you. Sabrina walks Judit through real-time inner child work, reparenting, and the powerful mindset shift from wanting to be picked to actually choosing yourself. A must listen for anyone working on attachment theory, healing childhood trauma, and breaking toxic dating patterns for good.

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    Chapters:

    00:00 First Live Coaching Session

    05:15 Anxious Attachment & Father Wound

    10:36 When Anxiety Takes Over Your Body

    14:47 Be Picked vs. Picking Yourself

    19:30 Toxic Love, Gaslighting & Cheating

    24:38 Normalizing Chaos in Childhood

    29:39 Why Chaos Feels Like Love

    35:27 Who Are You Without Struggle?

    41:08 Loving the Parts You Hate

    46:13 Shame, Guilt & Reparenting


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  30. 203: Why You Keep Choosing The Same Person Over And Over W/ Thais Gibson

    1 h 2 minEpisódio 203

    We hurt in relationships, but we also heal in them. Sabrina sits down with Thais Gibson, founder of The Personal Development School, to map out the actual stages of healing attachment wounds: core wounds from …

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    We hurt in relationships, but we also heal in them. Sabrina sits down with Thais Gibson, founder of The Personal Development School, to map out the actual stages of healing attachment wounds: core wounds from childhood, unmet needs, subconscious rewiring, anxious attachment patterns, somatic work, and nervous system regulation. No secure partner is going to fix you, and this episode breaks down exactly why.

    If you are stuck in the same dating cycles, doing all the personal growth content and wondering why nothing is sticking, this one is for you. Thais explains why self-awareness is not the same as healing, how to re-parent the unmet needs from your childhood, and the 21-day practice that patterns new beliefs into your subconscious mind. This conversation covers inner child work, attachment theory, and the deep reprogramming that actually changes how you show up in love.

    Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

    If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step ⁠HERE!⁠

    If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠

    Get Ad free ⁠HERE!⁠

    Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠HERE!⁠

    Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠HERE!⁠

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    Chapters:

    0:00 Hurt In Relationships, Heal In Them

    6:21 Why Your Subconscious Runs Your Life

    11:32 You Can't Outsource Your Healing

    18:55 Rewire Core Wounds In 21 Days

    24:55 Unmet Childhood Needs Explained

    29:49 Nervous System Regulation Truth

    34:08 Somatic Processing For Triggers

    41:21 How To Communicate Needs Clearly

    47:33 Setting Boundaries Without Guilt

    53:04 Rewire Anger And Reactive Behavior


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