While We Have You

Big Brother is back, and there’s already plenty to talk about. Alex, Kirby and Tully get into the season’s biggest talking point: Ebony. Is she just giving us great TV, or has her behaviour crossed into bullying? And has reality TV become more about creating viral moments than making genuine connections? Having been in the house herself, Tully has a few thoughts.

Then, things get personal as the team gets into the way we communicate. Passive-aggressive texts, voice notes, avoiding confrontation and navigating conflict in friendships and relationships. Plus, what actually makes someone emotionally intelligent?

There’s also a look at the UK’s new laws on pornography, and what they could mean for parents raising teenagers in a 24/7 online world. Plus, what the Russell Brand verdict means for women's safety, accountability and believing survivors.

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We've seen very different sides of Manaaki Hoepo - on Aussie Shore and The Traitors. He joins Kirby and Alex (Tully is having a well-earned week off) to talk about why he’s happy to stir the pot when something needs to be called out, the new season of Aussie Shore, and why he's always underestimated.

Then we get serious. Kirby's Aunty Andrea was murdered in 2009 and left behind 13 children. Kirbs, as an ambassador for the organisation Djirra (which supports Aboriginal women who have or are experiencing DV), opens up about the vital work she does there and explains why the upcoming 16 Days of ACTIVEism Festival is one to get involved with. It’s on the 3rd of December in Melton, and it's about sharing stories, walking as one and raising awareness to protect our women and children for a better future in Australia. The event brings women and their children together with support services including lawyers and psychologists. You can get tickets or donate here: 

https://djirra.org.au/get-involved/donate/

Next up Alex shares how she approached alcohol, consent, communication with parents and keeping 30 teenagers safe at her 16-year-old son’s first big house party. The big question: how do you give your kids independence while still being their guardian?

Plus, are facelifts in your 30s becoming normal? Alex and Kirby talk Botox, cosmetic procedures, social media beauty standards and whether we’re becoming increasingly afraid of simply getting older.

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LOVE IS DEAD!!! Well, according to Tully, Alex and Kirby it is, because G Flip and Chrishell Stause have called it quits and the girls are officially in mourning.

This week on While We Have You, we unpack the breakup of the century, why women can feel like they've "failed" when a relationship ends, and what happens when your love life plays out in public. Then, inspired by Sophie Monk and the Bardot reunion, things get VERY personal as Tully opens up about the friendship break-ups she still thinks about years later, while Alex reveals the brutal intervention her best mates staged when she was in her chaotic era.

Plus, Airbnb has banned checkout chore lists. Are you stripping the bed and taking out the bins, or is that what the cleaning fee is for? Kirby also opens up about the stereotypes she still encounters as an Indigenous woman in Australia, and why they shape the way she acts in hotels, Airbnbs and public spaces.

In this ep bby:

01:00 - G FLIP & CHRISHELL: THE BREAK-UP OF THE CENTURY
03:00 - WHAT DID THEIR BREAK-UP STATEMENTS REALLY SAY?
06:00 - WHY DO WOMEN FEEL LIKE A BREAK-UP IS A FAILURE?
09:30 - ALEX GETS REAL ABOUT LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS
13:00 - TULLY ON BELIEVING SHE WAS "HARD TO LOVE"
18:50 - SOPHIE MONK, BARDOT & FRIENDSHIP BREAK-UPS
22:00 - ALEX'S FRIENDS STAGED AN INTERVENTION
25:30 - TULLY ON ENDING HER CLOSEST FRIENDSHIPS
28:00 - WHY FRIENDSHIP BREAK-UPS CAN HURT MORE
30:45 - ALEX'S BALI TWERKING ERA
32:45 - AIRBNB HAS BANNED CHECKOUT CHORES
37:00 - WHEN AIRBNB HOSTS ASK FOR TOO MUCH
40:30 - WHY KIRBY ALWAYS LEAVES A HOTEL SPOTLESS
43:00 - KIRBY ON RACISM & STEREOTYPES IN AUSTRALIA

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While We Have You is produced on the land of Wurundjeri Woi-wurrung and Bunurong/Boon Wurrung peoples of the Eastern Kulin Nation.

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WE'RE STILL HERE!! We've wrangled Kirby out of her DMs and back for episode two.

It's Tully Smyth, Kirby Bentley and Alex Nation back for another week of While We Have You, unpacking everything from reality TV villain edits and online cancellation campaigns to awkward flirting on public transport, motherhood, heartbreak and the internet's favourite pastime: judging complete strangers.

We also get into the impossible standards placed on women, whether public pile-ons ever go too far, and why sometimes the most chaotic stories happen when you least expect them.

In this ep bby: 01:00 - MAFS COUPLE BABY DRAMA & ONLINE BACKLASH

07:00 - CAN YOU EVER ESCAPE A REALITY TV VILLAIN EDIT? 1

4:00 - TULLY ON BEING PUBLIC ENEMY #1

20:00 - KIRBY'S WILD V/LINE COWBOY ENCOUNTER

26:00 - THE REALITY OF POSTPARTUM SEX

33:00 - WHY MUMS ON THE INTERNET ARE TERRIFYING

38:00 - HAVE THE VERONICAS BEEN "CANCELLED"?

42:00 - IS CANCEL CULTURE JUST ONLINE BULLYING?

47:00 - THE STAY NATION GIVEAWAY WINNER Follow the pod on insta @whilewehaveyoupod.

If you found this episode affected you in anyway, dial Life Line on 13 11 14.

While We Have You is produced on the land of Wurundjeri Woi-wurrung and Bunurong/Boon Wurrung peoples of the Eastern Kulin Nation.

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WHAAAT EPISODE 1??? Can't believe we're here but yet we made it!!

It's Tully Smyth, Kirby Bentley and Alex Nation post Traitors, pre (hopefully) depreciating celebrity status comin at you with the first episode of our new pod While We Have You.

If you can tell, this isn't an AI episode description, it's actually us typing this out right now.

In this ep bby:

01:00 - ALEX PODCAST TATTOO WTF

3:00 - CAN YOU ACTUALLY BE FRIENDS WITH A SINGLE DUDE

8:00 - TRICKY DOMESTIC VIOLENCE CONVERSATIONS 1

1:00 - THE REALITY OF LIVING WITH A WOMAN IN 2026

12:30 - KIRBY'S HEARTBREAKING STORY

14:00 - STRAIGHT KIRBY OUT AT THE CLUB

17:00 - TULLY'S INSANE JOB OFFER

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While We Have You is produced on the land of Wurundjeri Woi-wurrung and Bunurong / Boon Wurrung peoples of the Eastern Kulin Nation.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.