Becoming You with Suzy Welch
- Episodes
- 146
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- several times a week
- Latest episode
- Nov 10, 2026
About the podcast
Have you ever wondered, “What should I do with my life?” Or, “Should I stay or should I go?” Or, “Is there anyone out there who actually tells the freaking truth about life and work today, but also does not leave me in despair?” Wonder no more! The “Becoming You” podcast has arrived, hosted by Suzy Welch, the business journalist-turned-professor at the helm of NYU’s wildly popular self-discovery class by the same name. A three New York Times best-seller and frequent contributor to the Today Show and the Wall Street Journal, Professor Welch is considered a leading expert on decision-making, and the discovery and pursuit of authentic purpose. But virtually no topic is off-bounds in her irreverent new podcast, from parenting fails (including her own) to perfect poems (none of her own, thank God.) Also included: Pointed opinions on dogs, Gen Z, marriage, credit default swaps, golf skirts, career killing mistakes, and under-appreciated TV shows you really have to see immediately. OK, there is actually nothing in the podcast about credit default swaps. Tune in every week to laugh, learn, get riled up, get calmed down, and basically get closer to becoming you, joyfully, in this crazy, upside-down, scary, messy, and altogether beautiful world we share.
Episodes 146
How Much Bitter Can You Eat? Your Rich BFF on Achievement
How long can you do something uncomfortable to get the result you want? In Chinese, there’s a saying for that: eating bitter. This week on Becoming You, Suzy takes on one of the most admired and most …
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How long can you do something uncomfortable to get the result you want? In Chinese, there’s a saying for that: eating bitter.
This week on Becoming You, Suzy takes on one of the most admired and most contentious values: Achievement, the drive for success, ambition, and winning, often at the price of postponing joy. Suzy is joined by Vivian Tu, known to millions as Your Rich BFF. Vivian is a former Wall Street trader turned finance creator, host of the podcast Networth and Chill, author of two New York Times best-sellers, and founder of the personal finance app Ask Dolly.
Vivian shares her story, and then, for the first time, her Values Bridge results, live. Together they look at what drives her, where her values work in harmony, why one of her results runs against the grain of how most successful people are described, and where her life doesn’t match what she says she wants.
This is part of our 16-part series on the values that govern our lives. It’s a conversation about ambition, scoreboards, and the trade-offs every value carries.
Find Vivian Tu on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok.
Check out Ask Dolly: askdolly.com/suzy
Listen to the Networth and Chill podcast here.
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You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package.
Want more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.
You can follow and tag Suzy on:
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6 Jobs You Should Not Take Right Now (Part 2)
Stop everything you’re doing and do not take these three jobs. This is part two of our series featuring Becoming You Labs Chief Economist Sania Khan, all about the jobs that look good on paper, but may not be …
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Stop everything you’re doing and do not take these three jobs. This is part two of our series featuring Becoming You Labs Chief Economist Sania Khan, all about the jobs that look good on paper, but may not be worth saying yes to.
This week, Suzy and Sania take on the final three. First, the job that only makes sense if you get promoted, including the two-year rotational programs that used to be the golden ticket. Then the job where you may be training your own AI replacement. And finally, the job that exists because of a single line item in someone else’s budget. For each one, they share what to ask before you say yes, and how to protect yourself if you’re already in it.
Along the way, Suzy tells the story of her own two-year program at Bain, a glass factory in Toledo, and the steel dumpster assignment that taught her more than any classroom. Plus, Sania introduces her “three Ms” framework for looking beyond today’s job boards: markets, movements, and megatrends. If you know someone future-proofing their career, or you’re in that position right now, this episode is for you.
Subscribe to Sania’s newsletter, The Offer Letter, here.
As a Becoming You podcast listener, use code PODCAST for 50% off The Values Bridge.
You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package.
Want more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.
You can follow and tag Suzy on:
• Instagram: @suzywelch
• Linkedin: @suzywelch
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• YouTube: @suzywelch_
• X: @SuzyWelch
Introducing The We Do Not Care Club Podcast with Melani Sanders
Description: Welcome to The We Do Not Care Club Podcast hosted by Melani Sanders, content creator, founding member of the WDNC, and New York Times bestselling author of The Official We Do Not Care Club …
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Description: Welcome to The We Do Not Care Club Podcast hosted by Melani Sanders, content creator, founding member of the WDNC, and New York Times bestselling author of The Official We Do Not Care Club Handbook. What started as Melani’s hilarious and all-too-true social media declaration that she simply did not care much anymore has become a global movement centered on sisterhood, laughter, honesty, and understanding that we are not alone, and we are enough. From menopause to marriage, motherhood, sex, relationships, changing bodies, mental health, work, money, food, and the everyday chaos of midlife, no topic is off-limits.
Available now: link.pscrb.fm/f0281/wdnccfdby-bec23
Please Advise: I Told a Young Woman to Be Less Bubbly at Work. Was I Wrong?
How much of yourself should you actually bring to work? You hear it all the time: “Bring your whole self.” Then again, “Don’t bring your whole self.”This is the season finale of the first season of Please …
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How much of yourself should you actually bring to work? You hear it all the time: “Bring your whole self.” Then again, “Don’t bring your whole self.”
This is the season finale of the first season of Please Advise, and your host Suzy Welch is flipping the script on advice-giving. After Suzy told a young woman to stop giggling, stop touching her hair, and overall stop being bubbly at work, her newsletter readers did not hold back. Two of them join her to disagree live: Elena, who fired off an email titled “Too bubbly???” and Jodie, a trauma surgeon and former cheerleader whose own email to Suzy was epic.
What follows is a debate about whether authenticity at work is a right or something you earn, how gender changes the answer, and how to tell a company that wants your real self from one that only wants the polished version.
Thank you for an incredible first season of Please Advise! Suzy will be back with a new one soon, so if you have questions, submit it through the link below.
Have a question for Please Advise? Submit it here.
As a Becoming You podcast listener, use code PODCAST for 50% off The Values Bridge.
You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package.
Want more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.
You can follow and tag Suzy on:
• Instagram: @suzywelch
• Linkedin: @suzywelch
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• YouTube: @suzywelch_
• X: @SuzyWelch
6 Jobs You Should Not Take Right Now (Part 1)
“Do not, under any circumstances, take that job.”Everyone’s always telling you what job to take. This week, Suzy and Becoming You Labs chief economist Sania Khan tell you about the six you should think twice …
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“Do not, under any circumstances, take that job.”
Everyone’s always telling you what job to take. This week, Suzy and Becoming You Labs chief economist Sania Khan tell you about the six you should think twice about, in a two-part series on the jobs that look good today but may leave you without a life raft tomorrow.
With hiring slowing and people clinging to the jobs they have, the temptation to say yes to any offer is real. But some of the most appealing roles come with risks that don’t show up on a resume: jobs where you’re indispensable but can’t prove it, jobs at companies that keep AI out of your hands, and jobs where you’ll take the blame for what AI gets wrong.
This week, Suzy and Sania take on the first three jobs, with real examples, current data, and practical ways to protect yourself if you’re already in one of them. You may even have one of these jobs right now. And if you do, there’s still realistic hope.
If you know someone who might be in one of these roles, forward them this episode.
Subscribe to Sania’s newsletter, The Offer Letter, here.
As a Becoming You podcast listener, use code PODCAST for 50% off The Values Bridge.
You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package.
Want more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.
You can follow and tag Suzy on:
• Instagram: @suzywelch
• Linkedin: @suzywelch
• TikTok: @suzywelch
• YouTube: @suzywelch_
• X: @SuzyWelch
Please Advise: What If My Greatest Strength Is Just…My Personality?
What if the thing everyone compliments you on is your greatest professional gift, and you’ve spent your whole career trying to outgrow it?This week on season 1 of Please Advise on the Becoming You podcast …
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What if the thing everyone compliments you on is your greatest professional gift, and you’ve spent your whole career trying to outgrow it?
This week on season 1 of Please Advise on the Becoming You podcast, Suzy’s guest is a friend who casually asked a question over dinner: what if my greatest aptitude is my personality? Allison Avery is a longtime HR professional and trained Jungian psychoanalyst figuring out what comes next. Now they’re taking it live, with a conversation about why we trust the skills we’ve had to earn, more than the ones that come naturally, and what changes when you stop treating your biggest gift as a consolation prize.
Have a question for Please Advise? Submit it here.
As a Becoming You podcast listener, use code PODCAST for 50% off The Values Bridge.
You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package.
Want more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.
You can follow and tag Suzy on:
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• YouTube: @suzywelch_
• X: @SuzyWelch
Why Dating Feels So Hopeless Right Now (and What to Do About It) with Sabrina Zohar
Love hurts. Love heals. Love is blind. Love conquers all. So which is it? And should you give your whole life over to finding that one special person, or treat romance as just one part of a full life?This week …
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Love hurts. Love heals. Love is blind. Love conquers all. So which is it? And should you give your whole life over to finding that one special person, or treat romance as just one part of a full life?
This week on Becoming You, Suzy takes on the value of romantic love, or Belovedness: how much you want to organize your life around one special person. This is part of our 16-episode series on the values that drive how we live, and the data on it might change how you think about love.
Suzy shares how Americans actually rank romance right now, and why the answer looks very different depending on whether you’re married, divorced, or single. Then she goes back in time, with a surprising history of marriage and the idea that the version of romance we’re all raised on is a very recent invention.
Then dating and relationship coach Sabrina Zohar, host of The Sabrina Zohar Show, and NYT bestselling author of "Why Am I Like This?" joins Suzy to talk about the state of dating in 2026, why so many people have lost hope, and what happened when she stopped waiting to be chosen and started choosing.
And Suzy closes with a personal story about love, loss, and the value she almost left out entirely.
Take the Values Bridge to find out where Belovedness falls for you. Link and discount code below.
Find Sabrina Zohar’s new book, NYT bestseller “Why Am I Like This? Break Your Relationship Patterns and Create The Life You Want” here, find her on Instagram, and listen to her podcast The Sabrina Zohar Show.
As a Becoming You podcast listener, use code PODCAST for 50% off The Values Bridge.
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Please Advise: I’m Pivoting Careers. How Do I Sell Myself Without the “Right” Experience?
Dominique is heading to business school this fall to pivot from PR and communications into venture capital, and she wants to know: How do I turn my non-traditional background into a differentiator instead of …
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Dominique is heading to business school this fall to pivot from PR and communications into venture capital, and she wants to know: How do I turn my non-traditional background into a differentiator instead of something I have to explain away?
This week on Please Advise, the call-in show of Becoming You, Suzy knows exactly how Dominique feels. When she arrived at Harvard Business School in 1986 as a Miami crime reporter, nobody wanted her in their study group. Suzy’s non-traditional background made her an outsider, until it didn’t. Suzy shares how she turned that outsider status around, then looks at Dominique’s Values Bridge results and finds something that changes the way she answers the question.
Then Suzy gets to the question Dominique actually asked, with advice for anyone making a career pivot: Stop leading with your resume, and tell your own story, values, aptitudes, and interests included.
Have a question for Please Advise? Submit it here.
As a Becoming You podcast listener, use code PODCAST for 50% off The Values Bridge.
You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package.
Want more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.
You can follow and tag Suzy on:
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• X: @SuzyWelch
The King of New York’s Hottest Club Has Seen It All. And He’ll Never Leave. With Fabrizio Brienza
Is this the best town in the world, or do you need to get out of here? For some people, there’s only one answer, and it’s never negotiable.This week on Becoming You, Suzy skips the scholar and brings in someone …
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Is this the best town in the world, or do you need to get out of here? For some people, there’s only one answer, and it’s never negotiable.
This week on Becoming You, Suzy skips the scholar and brings in someone who lives the value of Place, which is the value of location, out loud: Fabrizio Brienza, the “Door God” who decides who gets into Paul’s Casablanca, one of the hottest clubs in New York. Born in Campobasso, Italy, and shaped by Miami and Los Angeles, Fabrizio is clear that after New York, everywhere else feels like going from a Rolls-Royce to a Toyota Corolla. Yes, with the rats and all.
In this latest installment of a 16-part series on the values that drive how we live, Suzy tells the story of how Place became a gatekeeping value in her scientifically-validated assessment, The Values Bridge: Where you live is one of the first things to figure out before you plan anything else.
Where does Place fall for you as a value? Found out with a special discount code below.
Find Fabrizio Brienza on Instagram and TikTok.
As a Becoming You podcast listener, use code PODCAST for 50% off The Values Bridge.
You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package.
Want more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.
You can follow and tag Suzy on:
• Instagram: @suzywelch
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• YouTube: @suzywelch_
• X: @SuzyWelch
Please Advise: How Do I Close the Gap Between the Life I Want and the Life I'm Living?
How long can you hold your breath? That's what it feels like when you're not living one of your top values: like being underwater, searching for a surface you can't see.This week on Please Advise, Suzy talks to …
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How long can you hold your breath? That's what it feels like when you're not living one of your top values: like being underwater, searching for a surface you can't see.
This week on Please Advise, Suzy talks to Michelle, an architect and firm partner in her early 40s with three kids in first, second, and third grade. Michelle took the Values Bridge last year and found the results transformational, but one thing surprised her. Her top values are a tie between Eudemonia (wellbeing, self-care, balance) and Beholderism (a love of beautiful things), yet work has always felt central to her life. Her question: can work or family be how you live your values, even if they aren't values themselves?
Then Michelle shares a number that stops the conversation: a 72% Authenticity Gap on Eudemonia, which is the distance between how much she wants to live that value and how much she actually does. Suzy's rule of thumb is that anything over 50% means the house is on fire.
Why is the gap so big, and what closes it? Suzy's diagnosis comes from a value Michelle barely mentioned, and the prescription is surprisingly doable.
Have a question for Please Advise? Submit it here.
As a Becoming You podcast listener, use code PODCAST for 50% off The Values Bridge.
You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package.
Want more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.
You can follow and tag Suzy on:
• Instagram: @suzywelch
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• YouTube: @suzywelch_
• X: @SuzyWelch
Does Family Really Have to Come First? With Vienna Pharaon
Suzy is obsessed with her grandchildren. Completely, unapologetically obsessed. But for most of her life, she didn't organize her decisions around family, and for a long time that came with a question a lot of …
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Suzy is obsessed with her grandchildren. Completely, unapologetically obsessed. But for most of her life, she didn't organize her decisions around family, and for a long time that came with a question a lot of people are afraid to ask: Does putting myself before my family make me a bad person?
Becoming You is about figuring out what actually matters to you so you can make better choices about your work, your relationships, and your life. One way to get there is the Values Bridge, Suzy’s scientifically validated assessment that identifies the values that really drive you, not the ones you think you're supposed to have. In this 16-part series, Suzy is exploring those values one at a time. This week: Familycentrism, one of the most emotionally loaded values of all.
Family therapist Vienna Pharaon joins Suzy to unpack why family comes with so many expectations and why the "black sheep" is often just the person with lower Familycentrism. Then Becoming You certified coach Lola Persons gets personal about loving her family fiercely without building her life around them, and why she calls it "not the Brady Bunch, but it's okay."
Because maybe the question was never how much you love your family. Maybe it's how much of your life you want to organize around them, and whether we can stop judging the people who answer differently. Where does Familycentrism fall for you? Take the Values Bridge to find out, with a discount code in the show notes.
As a Becoming You podcast listener, use code PODCAST for 50% off The Values Bridge.
Find Vienna Pharaon on Instagram, Substack, and find her book "The Origins of You" here, along with her quiz here.
Find Lola Persons on LinkedIn here.
You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package.
Want more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.
You can follow and tag Suzy on:
• Instagram: @suzywelch
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• YouTube: @suzywelch_
• X: @SuzyWelch
Please Advise: Do You Actually Have the Talent, or Just the Interest?
Jes is 27, works in the nonprofit sector, and has a not-so-secret dream: she wants to be a writer. The problem, as she sees it, is a values conflict — she wants her work to be seen, but she doesn't want to be …
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Jes is 27, works in the nonprofit sector, and has a not-so-secret dream: she wants to be a writer. The problem, as she sees it, is a values conflict — she wants her work to be seen, but she doesn't want to be famous, and she wants to make money, but writing doesn't pay unless you're willing to put your whole life on display.
This week on Please Advise, Suzy starts down that path with Jes, but the conversation doesn't stay there. Underneath the values question is a harder one nobody had asked yet: does Jes actually have the aptitude to be a writer, or does she just love the idea of it? Suzy calls in some radical candor to find out.
What emerges isn't "don't chase the dream." There’s a sharper, more useful answer, and Suzy helps Jes map out a path that actually aligns. It's a conversation about ambition, honesty, and the difference between an interest and an aptitude. As Suzy puts it, an interest without the aptitude to back it up has another name: a hobby.
Have a question for Please Advise? Submit it here.
As a Becoming You podcast listener, use code PODCAST for 50% off The Values Bridge.
You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package.
Want more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.
You can follow and tag Suzy on:
• Instagram: @suzywelch
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• YouTube: @suzywelch_
• X: @SuzyWelch
3 Numbers That Explain the Most Divided Value in America with Ryan Burge
There may be no value more contentious than this one — so contentious that Suzy Welch almost didn't include it in her own methodology at all.This episode is the next installment of an epic 16-part deep dive …
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There may be no value more contentious than this one — so contentious that Suzy Welch almost didn't include it in her own methodology at all.
This episode is the next installment of an epic 16-part deep dive, one episode for each of the 16 values in the language Suzy created with the Values Bridge, her scientifically validated assessment tool. This week's value is Cosmos — faith, in any tradition, not one in particular — and it's the most polarized value on the entire Values Bridge at that.
Suzy sits down with Ryan Burge, professor at Washington University in St. Louis, author of “The Vanishing Church,” and the researcher behind the Substack “Graphs About Religion,” to unpack the state of faith in America today. Suzy also gets personal, telling the story of her own faith journey since age 14, and confessing something she's never said on the podcast before. Tune in for more.
If you liked this episode, please leave a review! Take the Values Bridge yourself and find out where Cosmos falls for you, with the link and discount code below.
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Find Ryan Burge's Substack "Graphs About Religion" here, his book "The Vanishing Church" here, and X, LinkedIn, Instagram.
You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package.
Want more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.
You can follow and tag Suzy on:
• Instagram: @suzywelch
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• YouTube: @suzywelch_
• X: @SuzyWelch
Please Advise: How Do I Chase a Big Dream Without Losing Everything?
Lily is 68, newly retired, and bored out of her mind. What she really wants now is to do something so scary it keeps her up at night.This week as season 1 of Please Advise continues, Suzy talks to Lily, who's …
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Lily is 68, newly retired, and bored out of her mind. What she really wants now is to do something so scary it keeps her up at night.
This week as season 1 of Please Advise continues, Suzy talks to Lily, who's had more lives than most: news anchor, reporter, road manager for a band touring Quebec, medical claims specialist, full-time felting artist (yes, a piece of hers once went to Stevie Nicks), and, most recently, a coordinator at the VA. She's got the courage, the resume, and even a vision board, but one thing keeps holding her back: a very low tolerance for financial risk.
Suzy digs into Lily's values, aptitudes, and interests, and lands on the breakthrough — which isn't even the idea itself. It's Suzy's reframe of how to get there. Stop imagining the five-day version and start with the five-hour one. Small experiments, low risk, real data, one step before the next.
It's a conversation about courage at any age, the difference between dreaming big and starting small, and why it's never too late to place the chips on yourself.
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You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package.
Want more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.
You can follow and tag Suzy on:
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• YouTube: @suzywelch_
• X: @SuzyWelch
What If Office Politics Are Secretly Telling You Something You Need to Hear?
Christina hates office politics. Who doesn't? But after 20-plus years in corporate marketing, she's started asking herself a much harder question: What if the problem isn't the politics — what if it's her?This …
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Christina hates office politics. Who doesn't? But after 20-plus years in corporate marketing, she's started asking herself a much harder question: What if the problem isn't the politics — what if it's her?
This week on Becoming You, Suzy talks to Christina, a brand management veteran who recently quit her job, unsure whether she's actually cut out for corporate life at all, or just tired of playing a game she never wanted to play. Suzy shares her own bruising run-in with office politics from her early career days, before turning diagnostic on Christina's story.
And it points toward one particular next move: Stop trying to survive inside a culture that will always clash with who you are, and go build the one that won't. It's a conversation about self-awareness, entrepreneurship, and the difference between throwing in the towel and finally stepping into your authentic self.
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• YouTube: @suzywelch_
• X: @SuzyWelch
Please Advise: I’ve Had 30 Jobs and Still Haven’t Found the One
Two Suzy’s walk into a podcast. One of them has had 30 jobs. The other is here to help sort through what job is next. This week on Please Advise, your host Suzy Welch talks to a fellow Suzy — Atlanta's own …
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Two Suzy’s walk into a podcast. One of them has had 30 jobs. The other is here to help sort through what job is next.
This week on Please Advise, your host Suzy Welch talks to a fellow Suzy — Atlanta's own "Suzie Sunshine" — who has found herself stuck with where to turn next. Now in her mid-50s, with her children grown, and with over 30 jobs in her lifetime, Suzie Sunshine is nowhere near ready to slow down, but isn’t sure which is the best path to take.
Your host Suzy goes straight into diagnostic mode, tracing the story back to a seventh-grade dream of acting, a magazine article that scared her off it, and a quiet, decades-long override by one of the Four Horsemen of Values Destruction. Suzy walks through Suzie Sunshine's top values and lands on an answer that actually has nothing to do with another job title at all.
It's a conversation about entrepreneurship, courage, and betting on yourself when you think the clock is running out — and a reminder that it is never too late to become you.
Have a question for Please Advise? Submit it here.
As a Becoming You podcast listener, use code PODCAST for 50% off The Values Bridge.
You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package.
Want more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.
You can follow and tag Suzy on:
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• YouTube: @suzywelch_
• X: @SuzyWelch
If Your Life Were an Asteroid, How Big a Crater Would It Leave?
How do you make a fun, upbeat podcast about a value that makes literally everyone uncomfortable — the people who have it and the people who don't? That's the challenge Suzy Welch sets for herself this week on …
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How do you make a fun, upbeat podcast about a value that makes literally everyone uncomfortable — the people who have it and the people who don't? That's the challenge Suzy Welch sets for herself this week on Becoming You.
This episode is the next installment of an epic 16-part deep dive, one episode for each of the 16 values in the language Suzy created with The Values Bridge, her scientifically validated assessment tool. We all hold these values, ranked 1 to 16 in a different order for each of us, and understanding the language can change everything. That's because values aren't virtues like happiness or honesty — they're choices about how you live your life, and there's no good or bad, right or wrong, about which ones you hold.
This week's value is Radius: the drive to change the world in big, systemic ways. Suzy explains why so few of us have it (just 10%, ranking 14 out of 16 values) and reveals the single most shocking data point in the Values Bridge dataset about it. Suzy also draws a hard line between Radius and its frequently confused cousin, Non-Sibi — the value of helping people one-on-one — and explains why wanting to change the world doesn't necessarily mean wanting to help people individually.
Then Suzy goes to 20,000 feet with Dr. Jay Van Bavel, professor of psychology and neuroscience at NYU and author of The Power of Us, to debate whether Radius is a value or an identity — and to unpack why movements built around Radius so often turn on themselves. Finally, Suzy sits down with Kitty Block, CEO of Humane World for Animals, whose own Radius story involves twenty veterinarians, a runaway dog, and a face full of bruises.
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Please Advise: What Happens When Your Family Doesn't Like the New You?
"I want the old you back." Sometimes that's how the people closest to you respond when you start actually living your values — and it's exactly what this week’s caller Brie is running into with her own family …
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"I want the old you back." Sometimes that's how the people closest to you respond when you start actually living your values — and it's exactly what this week’s caller Brie is running into with her own family, on this episode of Please Advise.
Suzy takes two listener calls this week. First, Ana, 44, back on the job hunt after a sabbatical, doing everything by the book: networking, applying, staying intentional. Yet still hitting silence. Suzy walks through Ana's values and aptitudes and lands on the real problem: it's not her, it's her tactics. Suzy shares her advice after years of being on both sides of the desk.
Then Brie calls in. She's gotten clear on her values and is living more aligned with them than ever, except her family isn't sure what to make of the new her. Suzy names what's actually happening: Brie's family is confusing values with virtues, and reading her growth as a rejection of them. Suzy walks through her own version of this story, including a hard-won truce with her own kids over Workcentrism and Achievement, and makes the case that naming your values out loud, to the people who love you, is what keeps you close instead of growing apart.
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It's Okay to Care How Things Look. And No, You're Not Shallow.
Suzy continues her deep dive into the 16 values from the Welch-Bristol Values Inventory with Beholderism — our desire for beautiful things: our homes, our clothes, our stuff, ourselves. It's the #4 most …
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Suzy continues her deep dive into the 16 values from the Welch-Bristol Values Inventory with Beholderism — our desire for beautiful things: our homes, our clothes, our stuff, ourselves. It's the #4 most prevalent value in the general population, #2 for women overall, and yet it's one of the values people are most likely to feel ashamed of.
Suzy walks through the data on who has it and who doesn't, shares the story of the time her Beholderism led her to knock on a Finnish mayor's door, and sits down with legendary interior designer Elizabeth Lawrence of Williams Lawrence. Then Dr. Evelyn Welch — historian, MBE, and Vice-Chancellor of the University of Bristol, and Suzy's friend of 52 years — joins to explain why beauty and consumerism have been linked since long before the Renaissance.
If you've ever felt silly for caring how things look, this episode is your permission slip.
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Please Advise: Stop Networking. Do This Instead.
This week on Becoming You’s Please Advise series, your host Suzy Welch takes two more listener calls. Erin is a 55-year-old single mom of three, working a job in HR that's quietly hollowing her out, and she …
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This week on Becoming You’s Please Advise series, your host Suzy Welch takes two more listener calls. Erin is a 55-year-old single mom of three, working a job in HR that's quietly hollowing her out, and she wants to know: does she stick it out until she knows exactly what to do next, or does she leave now? Suzy walks through Erin's top values and lands on a piece of advice that has nothing to do with a resume: Stop building the website, and start building the business.
Then Suzy talks to Parnian, an executive and entrepreneur navigating the "messy middle" of career, marriage, and family planning all at once, who asks how women can better lean on each other to get ahead. Suzy's answer takes an unexpected turn into a new definition of resilience, and a hard line she draws for her students: Don't network, make friends. It's Suzy at her most personal, weaving in stories from her own divorce, her PhD, and a friendship that changed the entire trajectory of her career.
Real questions, real answers, no scripts — Please Advise Season 1 continues.
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Is AI Coming for Your Job? An Economist Gives It to Me Straight
This week on Becoming You, your host Suzy Welch hits pause on the values deep-dive series for something urgent: the state of work today. After Suzy casually dropped the phrase "job hugging" on a recent …
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This week on Becoming You, your host Suzy Welch hits pause on the values deep-dive series for something urgent: the state of work today. After Suzy casually dropped the phrase "job hugging" on a recent appearance at the Today Show — which is the trend of people gripping their jobs because they're terrified of what's coming — the reaction was, in Suzy's words, an internet meltdown. So she brought in Chief Labor Economist Sania Khan, formerly of the Bureau of Labor Statistics and then an AI company, to separate the panic from the data.
They get into it: whether AI is coming for every job or about to create a wave of new ones, why "low hire, low fire" is quietly locking younger workers out of the labor market, and why a second-year analyst should be more nervous right now than almost anyone else in the building. Sania lays out the proactive work exercise she'd give any 22-year-old, or any 40-year-old, staring down a job that suddenly needs a rewrite.
If you've got a job, want a job, or are quietly panicking about either, this one's for you.
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Please Advise: Should I Just Do What I'm Good At...Even If I Hate It?
This week on Becoming You, your host Suzy Welch introduces Season 1 of an exciting new series: Please Advise. Real listeners. Real questions. Real solutions. Each episode, Suzy takes calls live, with no topic …
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This week on Becoming You, your host Suzy Welch introduces Season 1 of an exciting new series: Please Advise. Real listeners. Real questions. Real solutions. Each episode, Suzy takes calls live, with no topic off limits: career pivots, family friction, the values conflicts that keep you up at night. Fast, direct, and grounded in the frameworks of Becoming You, Suzy helps you get closer to living by design in under 45 minutes. If you've ever wanted to ask Suzy something and get an honest answer on the spot, your new favorite podcast has arrived.
In this premiere episode, Suzy talks to four listeners with four very different problems. "What do you do when you hate what you're good at?" asks Lynn, while Beth wonders, "As your kids become teenagers, who should be in charge of making the decisions — you, or them?" Rebecca calls in for advice about The Values Bridge value of Belovedness, the value of romantic love: "When you lose the person you love, what does it mean to let that value go?" And last but definitely not least, Suzy gets the most serious question of all from her best friend and returning podcast guest, Sue: "What should you do when your best friend makes you snort from laughter?"
Direct, funny, and genuinely helpful — don't miss the premiere of Please Advise, Season 1.
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The Value We All Judge the Most
This week on Becoming You, your host Suzy Welch continues the series' deep dive into the 16 human values with one of the most misunderstood: Workcentrism, the value of organizing your life around work. It ranks …
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This week on Becoming You, your host Suzy Welch continues the series' deep dive into the 16 human values with one of the most misunderstood: Workcentrism, the value of organizing your life around work. It ranks 15 out of 16 for the general population, and it's the only value in the entire Values Bridge inventory with a negative authenticity gap — meaning most people want even less of it, not more.
Suzy unpacks why Workcentrism is unique among all the values: it's the one you may not hold, but are still forced to express. She's joined by Tina Doran, SVP of Retail and Commerce at Mastercard, who has Workcentrism as her number-one value, for a conversation about what it actually feels like to build a life around work without apology.
Then Suzy sits down with Jennifer Tosti-Kharas of Babson College and Christopher Wong Michaelson of NYU and the University of St. Thomas, co-authors of “Is Your Work Worth It?”, to explore why society equates high Workcentrism with workaholism, why hiring managers reward it even when performance data doesn't back it up, and why the pandemic, quiet quitting, and the shifting economy have all reshaped how we relate to work. As always, Suzy reminds us: values aren't virtues, they're choices — and no one should be judged for the ones they hold.
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The Three Things Working Against Your Friendships
Suzy Welch was standing in her kitchen when the phone rang. Her best friend's voice was different before she even said a word. "I can't be friends with you anymore," she said — and hung up. It was the last time …
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Suzy Welch was standing in her kitchen when the phone rang. Her best friend's voice was different before she even said a word. "I can't be friends with you anymore," she said — and hung up. It was the last time they spoke for fifteen years.
There's no word for that kind of loss. No apparatus, no ceremony, no bereavement leave, no language for losing a friend the way there is for a marriage or a family. This week on Becoming You, Suzy digs into why.
She starts with the data on The Values Bridge value of Belonging — a value that lands dead center for most people, #8 out of 16, and is the value of friendship, community, and being part of the group. Only 1% of people have it as their #1 value. Suzy talks with one such person, Rachel Gillman Rischall of The Connection Code, about what it's like to live Belonging as a top value, runs down the three biggest eurekas she had preparing for this episode, and sits down with NYU Stern's friendship expert Julianna Pillemer to discuss the surprising science of friendship at work.
Finally, Suzy reunites with Sue Jacobson, the friend from that phone call, to talk about what really happened, why it took fifteen years to find out, and what brought them back.
Come along, my friends.
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The Four Things No One Tells You About Fame
This week on Becoming You, your host Suzy Welch takes on fame, or what the Becoming You methodology calls Luminance, one of the 16 values measured by The Values Bridge, Suzy's psychometric tool for figuring out …
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This week on Becoming You, your host Suzy Welch takes on fame, or what the Becoming You methodology calls Luminance, one of the 16 values measured by The Values Bridge, Suzy's psychometric tool for figuring out what actually matters to you. And of all 16, this is the one people are least willing to own. Only 3% rank it in their top 5. Most people bury it near the very bottom. Suzy thinks that's not because so few of us feel it, it's because it's the one value you're not supposed to say out loud.
Suzy opens with a story she's never quite gotten over: a college friend whose hunger for fame she once dismissed, judged, and didn't understand, and the friendship it cost her, for good, decades later. She goes back 3,000 years to Achilles, who's given a choice between a long forgotten life and a short one with undying glory, and picks glory, and nobody in the Iliad thinks he's a narcissist for it. Then she gets into the actual research on why people want to be known: for status, for a platform to do good, as the byproduct of doing great work, or simply so they're not forgotten.
Plus: actress Paloma Garcia-Lee talks with real candor about what it's like to hold this value and live it out loud, and casting director Sophia Welch (and frequent guest, and Suzy’s daughter), who's spent 14 years in rooms full of people chasing the spotlight, rejoins to talk about what fame really rewards, and what it really costs.
If you've ever wanted to be known, or caught yourself judging someone else for wanting it, this episode is for you.
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The Three Things No One Tells You About Being the Boss of Your Own Life
Agency is the number two value in the Becoming You data set—the drive to be the author of your own life, no exceptions, no apologies. But according to Suzy, it's the Jekyll and Hyde of values: sometimes it's …
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Agency is the number two value in the Becoming You data set—the drive to be the author of your own life, no exceptions, no apologies. But according to Suzy, it's the Jekyll and Hyde of values: sometimes it's your best friend, helping you build the life you actually want. Other times it's the thing quietly running through the history of wars, divorces, and career fails, because your Agency is always bumping up against someone else's.
In this deep dive episode, Suzy takes you 3,000 years back to the earliest recorded signs of Agency. She sits down with NYU Stern self-determination scholar Steve Blader to unpack why some people need to run their own show and others don't. And she talks to Pastor Jimmy Scroggins about the 18% of people for whom Agency is a low value—including what it actually means to hand your Agency over to a higher power, and why that's not the same thing as having none.
Plus: entrepreneur and content creator Drew Henry joins to talk about how Agency shaped his career pivot from corporate marketing to working for himself—and the time it got him called into an HR meeting over an out-of-office request. (You'll want to hear the email he sent.)
If you've ever felt like you had to be the one calling the shots, or wondered why you can't seem to let go of control, this episode is for you.
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The Three Things No One Tells You About Happiness
This week on Becoming You, your host Suzy Welch tackles the value everyone assumes they already understand: happiness. Using data from the Values Bridge — the assessment that has now been taken by hundreds of …
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This week on Becoming You, your host Suzy Welch tackles the value everyone assumes they already understand: happiness. Using data from the Values Bridge — the assessment that has now been taken by hundreds of thousands of people — Suzy reveals that Eudemonia, the value of personal happiness, self care, flourishing, and fun, is far from universal. It skews by gender, it drops off sharply with age, and it even shifts with income.
Suzy traces the philosophical fault lines around happiness, from Aristotle's insistence that it's a whole life and not a good afternoon, to the Stoics' case for tranquility over feeling, to the Buddhist idea that the chase itself might be the trap. Along the way, she shares a deeply personal story about discovering Dostoevsky in tenth grade and dropping it on her family at Christmas dinner — with her sister Elin along to set the record straight. Whether Eudemonia sits at the top of your values list or, like Suzy's, near the bottom, this episode makes the case that knowing exactly where you stand on fun and self care is one of the most useful things you can know about yourself.
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Welcome to For the Love with Jen Hatmaker
Joy isn't the reward you earn after all the work is done. Joy is the work. That's what a new series on For the Love with Jen Hatmaker is all about, the Sacred Yes. It's choosing delight, rest, and pleasure on …
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Joy isn't the reward you earn after all the work is done. Joy is the work. That's what a new series on For the Love with Jen Hatmaker is all about, the Sacred Yes. It's choosing delight, rest, and pleasure on purpose because saying yes to yourself, that's the thing that finally lets you fill your table with everybody else. Come find your Sacred Yes with Jen. Follow and listen to For the Love with Jen Hatmaker wherever you get your podcasts.
Your Values Aren’t What You Think They Are
This week on Becoming You, your host Suzy Welch takes a step back to answer a question that is central to the podcast and the Becoming You methodology: what even are values? Values are one of the three core …
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This week on Becoming You, your host Suzy Welch takes a step back to answer a question that is central to the podcast and the Becoming You methodology: what even are values? Values are one of the three core data sets at the heart of the Becoming You methodology, alongside interests and aptitudes, but Suzy's research shows that only 17% of people actually understand what values are — and just 7% know their own. So before going any further with the series, this episode is a full reset: a deep dive into what values actually mean.
Suzy lays out the real definition — values are the deeply held beliefs that drive our choices, not to be confused with virtues, the things we all agree are simply good to have — and then puts that definition to the test by reacting in real time to a lineup of well-known voices weighing in on values, including Mark Manson, Ellen DeGeneres, Matthew McConaughey, Jay Shetty, and Gary Vee. Along the way, Suzy separates genuine values from virtues, life advice, and personality traits, and introduces her own framework, the Values Bridge, along with the "four horsemen of values destruction" that keep people from living the values they actually hold.
She also answers one of the questions she gets asked most often: can your values change? Suzy explains why the answer is more nuanced than most people think — and what it takes to actually uncover your own value hierarchy.
With this foundation in place, Suzy sets up what's coming next: a full series working through each of the 16 values in the Welch Bristol Values Inventory, one by one.
Ready to know yourself better? Start here, with The Values Bridge.
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The Insult That Changed My Life Could Change Yours — and Probably Should. (Part 3)
This week on Becoming You, your host Suzy Welch delivers the finale of one of the most personal series she has ever shared on this podcast. Part 3 has it all: the last three aptitude tools, the twist she wasn't …
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This week on Becoming You, your host Suzy Welch delivers the finale of one of the most personal series she has ever shared on this podcast. Part 3 has it all: the last three aptitude tools, the twist she wasn't sure she'd tell, and the moment the whole story finally makes sense.
For anyone just arriving: go back. Don't worry, we'll wait! Parts 1 and 2 are there for you, and this ending lands so much more when you know where it started.
For everyone who's been here from the beginning, here's where we are. Suzy walks through the final three tools she uses in her Becoming You class at NYU Stern to help students identify their aptitudes: the Career Traits Compass, a framework she developed herself; the Enneagram, explored in depth with one of the world's leading experts, Rasanath Das; and the Viewfinder, a 360-degree tool that reveals something most people overlook entirely — how the world actually experiences you.
And then there's Dan. The classmate who humiliated Suzy in front of 90 people at Harvard Business School back in 1988. The story this whole series has been building toward. The epilogue Suzy wasn't sure she'd share, and the one she now believes may be the real reason she wanted to tell this story at all.
The conviction at the heart of all of it: know your aptitudes, claim them, and live them, because you cannot let someone else write your story for you.
Ready to know yourself better? Start here, with The Values Bridge.
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