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304. Essential Texting Do's & Don'ts For Early Dating (throwback)

October 6, 2026 · 27 min

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Texting can create SO much unnecessary anxiety in early dating. You’re wondering if you’re texting too much, if you should text first, why they suddenly seem less responsive, or whether someone who’s great in person but terrible over text is actually worth pursuing.

In this episode, I’m breaking down what texting should actually look like before, after and between dates so you can stop analyzing every message and focus more on the connection happening in real life.

This episode originally aired in December 2023.

You’ll learn:

  • Why texting too much before a first date can create false intimacy
  • Why you don’t need to wait for someone else to text first after a good date
  • The texting mistake that can turn a promising connection into a pen-pal situation
  • What realistic communication between dates can look like
  • What to do when you notice someone’s texting suddenly slow down or change
  • How to handle dating someone who texts much less than you’d prefer
  • Why double texting isn’t the dating crime people make it out to be
  • What to do when texting turns sexual earlier than you’re comfortable with

Plus, I answer a new Dating Dilemma from a listener who's worried she accidentally gave her date the impression that she only wants something physical.

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