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They Mess You Up with Dr. Ciara Kelly and Dr. Richard Hogan

They Mess You Up with Dr. Ciara Kelly and Dr. Richard Hogan

NuevoMoney Matters - Listener Survey11 de noviembre de 2026 · 30 min
Episodios
74
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cada semana
Último episodio
11 Nov 2026

Sobre el podcast

A weekly podcast series presented by family doctor and broadcaster, Dr. Ciara Kelly & family psychotherapist and author, Dr. Richard Hogan. They Mess You Up is a straight-talking show that unpacks messy, everyday relationship and mental-health issues with a mix of clinical perspective, personal anecdotes and wry, no-nonsense banter. They cover topics from affairs, jealousy and people-pleasing to anxiety, parenting and dating after separation, with practical takeaways framed by the hosts’ professional experience. The show is a pragmatic guide to why people hurt each other - and themselves.

Episodios 74

  1. Money Matters - Listener Survey

    30 minTemporada 1 · Episodio 51

    Ciara Kelly and Richard Hogan discuss the results of our listener survey on relationships and money, exploring how finances affect dating, what our spending habits say about us, and why having your own money …

    Notas del episodio

    Ciara Kelly and Richard Hogan discuss the results of our listener survey on relationships and money, exploring how finances affect dating, what our spending habits say about us, and why having your own money matters. They also look at financial control as a potential red flag in relationships. This episode is also available to watch on YouTube.

    They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. 

    Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  2. Messy Bits... It was only a kiss!

    10 minTemporada 1 · Episodio 21Extra

    Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  3. Staying Together for the Kids

    28 minTemporada 1 · Episodio 50

    Does staying in an unhappy relationship really protect your children, or can growing up around conflict, resentment and emotional distance do more damage than separation?Ciara Kelly and Richard Hogan explore …

    Notas del episodio

    Does staying in an unhappy relationship really protect your children, or can growing up around conflict, resentment and emotional distance do more damage than separation?

    Ciara Kelly and Richard Hogan explore when relationships reach breaking point, the impact of divorce on children, and how to put your kids first if you decide to walk away.

    They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. 

    Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  4. Messy Bits... Friends with your Ex?

    10 minTemporada 1 · Episodio 20Extra

    Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  5. Understanding Anxiety

    29 minTemporada 1 · Episodio 49

    Anxiety is a normal part of life, but what happens when worry starts running the show? Ciara and Richard explore why we get anxious, how our thoughts fuel it, and what we can do to stop it taking over.They Mess …

    Notas del episodio

    Anxiety is a normal part of life, but what happens when worry starts running the show? Ciara and Richard explore why we get anxious, how our thoughts fuel it, and what we can do to stop it taking over.

    They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. 

    Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

    New episode every Wednesday and a Bonus Episode “Messy Bits” on Mondays!

  6. Messy Bits… Daddy Is in Love with Mammy’s Friend

    11 minTemporada 1 · Episodio 19Extra

    Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  7. Body Hang-Ups

    28 minTemporada 1 · Episodio 48

    We learn to pick apart our bodies from a young age, but how does that affect the way we see ourselves? Ciara and Richard discuss body image, diet culture, social media and how we can help ourselves and our …

    Notas del episodio

    We learn to pick apart our bodies from a young age, but how does that affect the way we see ourselves? Ciara and Richard discuss body image, diet culture, social media and how we can help ourselves and our children build a healthier relationship with our bodies.

    They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. 

    Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

    New episode every Wednesday and a Bonus Episode “Messy Bits” on Mondays!

  8. Messy Bits…Sandwich generation struggle

    10 minTemporada 1 · Episodio 18Extra

    Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  9. Perfectionism

    28 minTemporada 1 · Episodio 47

    Ever feel pressure to be perfect? Ciara and Richard explore the anxiety behind perfectionism, where it comes from, and how to stop tying your self-worth to getting everything right. They Mess You Up, with Dr …

    Notas del episodio

    Ever feel pressure to be perfect? Ciara and Richard explore the anxiety behind perfectionism, where it comes from, and how to stop tying your self-worth to getting everything right. 

    They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. 

    Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

    New episode every Wednesday and a Bonus Episode “Messy Bits” on Mondays!

  10. Messy Bits…Are Dating Apps Dirt?!

    10 minTemporada 1 · Episodio 17Extra

    A listener has had enough of dating apps and wants some advice. Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  11. Messy Bits... Boundaries with in-laws

    9 minTemporada 1 · Episodio 16Extra

    Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  12. Intrusive Thoughts

    30 minTemporada 1 · Episodio 46

    Why do we have thoughts that horrify us? And what do they actually mean? Ciara and Richard explain why intrusive thoughts can be so distressing, why having one doesn't mean you want to act on it, and how to …

    Notas del episodio

    Why do we have thoughts that horrify us? And what do they actually mean? Ciara and Richard explain why intrusive thoughts can be so distressing, why having one doesn't mean you want to act on it, and how to stop getting caught in the cycle.

    They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. 

    Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

    New episode every Wednesday and a Bonus Episode “Messy Bits” on Mondays!

  13. Messy Bits... Why Do I Want Other Men?

    13 minTemporada 1 · Episodio 15Extra

    Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  14. School Avoidance

    27 minTemporada 1 · Episodio 45

    When anxiety makes going to school feel impossible, how do you break the cycle of avoidance? Ciara and Richard discuss school refusal, anxiety, and how parents and schools can help young people find their way …

    Notas del episodio

    When anxiety makes going to school feel impossible, how do you break the cycle of avoidance? Ciara and Richard discuss school refusal, anxiety, and how parents and schools can help young people find their way back.

    They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. 

    Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

    New episode every Wednesday and a Bonus Episode “Messy Bits” on Mondays!

  15. Messy Bits... Functioning Alcoholic

    12 minTemporada 1 · Episodio 14Extra

    Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  16. AI Relationships

    30 minTemporada 1 · Episodio 44

    AI is becoming more than a tool, for some people, it's a friend, confidant or even a romantic partner. Ciara and Richard explore why we're turning to AI for connection and validation, and what that could mean …

    Notas del episodio

    AI is becoming more than a tool, for some people, it's a friend, confidant or even a romantic partner. Ciara and Richard explore why we're turning to AI for connection and validation, and what that could mean for our mental health, relationships and children.

    They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. 

    Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

    New episode every Wednesday and a Bonus Episode “Messy Bits” on Mondays!

  17. Messy Bits... Red Flags or Fussy?

    11 minTemporada 1 · Episodio 13Extra

    Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  18. Are You Dealing With a Narcissist?

    34 minTemporada 1 · Episodio 43

    Narcissism is a term we throw around a lot, but what actually makes someone a narcissist? Ciara and Richard look at narcissistic personality disorder, how it plays out in families and relationships, and the red …

    Notas del episodio

    Narcissism is a term we throw around a lot, but what actually makes someone a narcissist? Ciara and Richard look at narcissistic personality disorder, how it plays out in families and relationships, and the red flags to watch for.

    They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. 

    Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

    New episode every Wednesday and a Bonus Episode “Messy Bits” on Mondays!

  19. Messy Bits... Is this it?

    11 minTemporada 1 · Episodio 12Extra

    Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  20. No Regrets?

    30 minTemporada 1 · Episodio 42

    Is regret useful, or does it just keep us stuck in the past? Ciara and Richard explore the choices, missed opportunities and “what ifs” that can haunt us, and whether sometimes the biggest regret is the thing …

    Notas del episodio

    Is regret useful, or does it just keep us stuck in the past? Ciara and Richard explore the choices, missed opportunities and “what ifs” that can haunt us, and whether sometimes the biggest regret is the thing we didn't do.

    They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. 

    Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

    New episode every Wednesday and a Bonus Episode “Messy Bits” on Mondays!

  21. Messy Bits... Toxic Boss

    9 minTemporada 1 · Episodio 11Extra

    Messy Bits... The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  22. CAO: You’re Not Your Points

    32 minTemporada 1 · Episodio 41

    CAO results day can feel like the future has been decided by a single set of points for students and parents alike. But what happens when you don’t get the course you wanted? Ciara and Richard talk about …

    Notas del episodio

    CAO results day can feel like the future has been decided by a single set of points for students and parents alike. But what happens when you don’t get the course you wanted? Ciara and Richard talk about disappointment, alternative routes and the very non-linear paths that can lead to a career and a life you never originally planned.

    They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. 

    Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

    New episode every Wednesday and a Bonus Episode “Messy Bits” on Mondays!

  23. Messy Bits... Introverts

    9 minTemporada 1 · Episodio 10Extra

    Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  24. The One That Got Away

    26 minTemporada 1 · Episodio 40

    Why do we romanticise the person we didn't end up with? Ciara and Richard explore the “one that got away”, why our memories can make the past look better than it was, and whether we’re missing the person or the …

    Notas del episodio

    Why do we romanticise the person we didn't end up with? Ciara and Richard explore the “one that got away”, why our memories can make the past look better than it was, and whether we’re missing the person or the life we imagined with them.

    They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. 

    Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

    New episode every Wednesday and a Bonus Episode “Messy Bits” on Mondays!

  25. Messy Bits...ADHD & Marriage

    9 minTemporada 1 · Episodio 9Extra

    Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  26. Adult Kids at Home

    28 minTemporada 1 · Episodio 39

    More adult children are living at home for longer, but how do you live with your kids when they're no longer kids? Ciara and Richard discuss rent, rules, partners staying over, boundaries and how to make it …

    Notas del episodio

    More adult children are living at home for longer, but how do you live with your kids when they're no longer kids? Ciara and Richard discuss rent, rules, partners staying over, boundaries and how to make it work without driving each other mad.

    They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. 

    Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  27. Messy Bits... Cold Feet? Or something more?

    10 minTemporada 1 · Episodio 8Extra

    Messy Bits: The weekly bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram message @TheyMessYouUpPod

  28. Are We Too Soft?

    33 minTemporada 1 · Episodio 38

    Are we becoming less resilient or just more open about our struggles? Ciara and Richard discuss discomfort, resilience, parenting, and whether protecting ourselves from life's challenges is doing more harm than …

    Notas del episodio

    Are we becoming less resilient or just more open about our struggles? Ciara and Richard discuss discomfort, resilience, parenting, and whether protecting ourselves from life's challenges is doing more harm than good.

    Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

    They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday and a Bonus Episode “Messy Bits” on Mondays!

  29. Messy Bits... Body Shaming

    10 minTemporada 1 · Episodio 7Extra

    Messy Bits: The weekly bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram message @TheyMessYouUpPod

  30. Is Monogamy Outdated?

    28 minTemporada 1 · Episodio 37

    Is monogamy still realistic or are we expecting too much from one person? Ciara and Richard discuss open relationships, affairs, lifelong commitment, and whether monogamy still has a place in modern life.

Aquí están los 40 episodios más recientes de 74. Los anteriores están en el feed del podcast.

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