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They Mess You Up with Dr. Ciara Kelly and Dr. Richard Hogan

They Mess You Up with Dr. Ciara Kelly and Dr. Richard Hogan

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A weekly podcast series presented by family doctor and broadcaster, Dr. Ciara Kelly & family psychotherapist and author, Dr. Richard Hogan. They Mess You Up is a straight-talking show that unpacks messy, everyday relationship and mental-health issues with a mix of clinical perspective, personal anecdotes and wry, no-nonsense banter. They cover topics from affairs, jealousy and people-pleasing to anxiety, parenting and dating after separation, with practical takeaways framed by the hosts’ professional experience. The show is a pragmatic guide to why people hurt each other - and themselves.

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  1. Money Matters - Listener Survey

    30 Min.Staffel 1 · Folge 51

    Ciara Kelly and Richard Hogan discuss the results of our listener survey on relationships and money, exploring how finances affect dating, what our spending habits say about us, and why having your own money …

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    Ciara Kelly and Richard Hogan discuss the results of our listener survey on relationships and money, exploring how finances affect dating, what our spending habits say about us, and why having your own money matters. They also look at financial control as a potential red flag in relationships. This episode is also available to watch on YouTube.

    They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. 

    Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  2. Messy Bits... It was only a kiss!

    10 Min.Staffel 1 · Folge 21Bonus

    Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  3. Staying Together for the Kids

    28 Min.Staffel 1 · Folge 50

    Does staying in an unhappy relationship really protect your children, or can growing up around conflict, resentment and emotional distance do more damage than separation?Ciara Kelly and Richard Hogan explore …

    Shownotes

    Does staying in an unhappy relationship really protect your children, or can growing up around conflict, resentment and emotional distance do more damage than separation?

    Ciara Kelly and Richard Hogan explore when relationships reach breaking point, the impact of divorce on children, and how to put your kids first if you decide to walk away.

    They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. 

    Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  4. Messy Bits... Friends with your Ex?

    10 Min.Staffel 1 · Folge 20Bonus

    Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  5. Understanding Anxiety

    29 Min.Staffel 1 · Folge 49

    Anxiety is a normal part of life, but what happens when worry starts running the show? Ciara and Richard explore why we get anxious, how our thoughts fuel it, and what we can do to stop it taking over.They Mess …

    Shownotes

    Anxiety is a normal part of life, but what happens when worry starts running the show? Ciara and Richard explore why we get anxious, how our thoughts fuel it, and what we can do to stop it taking over.

    They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. 

    Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

    New episode every Wednesday and a Bonus Episode “Messy Bits” on Mondays!

  6. Messy Bits… Daddy Is in Love with Mammy’s Friend

    11 Min.Staffel 1 · Folge 19Bonus

    Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  7. Body Hang-Ups

    28 Min.Staffel 1 · Folge 48

    We learn to pick apart our bodies from a young age, but how does that affect the way we see ourselves? Ciara and Richard discuss body image, diet culture, social media and how we can help ourselves and our …

    Shownotes

    We learn to pick apart our bodies from a young age, but how does that affect the way we see ourselves? Ciara and Richard discuss body image, diet culture, social media and how we can help ourselves and our children build a healthier relationship with our bodies.

    They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. 

    Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

    New episode every Wednesday and a Bonus Episode “Messy Bits” on Mondays!

  8. Messy Bits…Sandwich generation struggle

    10 Min.Staffel 1 · Folge 18Bonus

    Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  9. Perfectionism

    28 Min.Staffel 1 · Folge 47

    Ever feel pressure to be perfect? Ciara and Richard explore the anxiety behind perfectionism, where it comes from, and how to stop tying your self-worth to getting everything right. They Mess You Up, with Dr …

    Shownotes

    Ever feel pressure to be perfect? Ciara and Richard explore the anxiety behind perfectionism, where it comes from, and how to stop tying your self-worth to getting everything right. 

    They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. 

    Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

    New episode every Wednesday and a Bonus Episode “Messy Bits” on Mondays!

  10. Messy Bits…Are Dating Apps Dirt?!

    10 Min.Staffel 1 · Folge 17Bonus

    A listener has had enough of dating apps and wants some advice. Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  11. Messy Bits... Boundaries with in-laws

    9 Min.Staffel 1 · Folge 16Bonus

    Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  12. Intrusive Thoughts

    30 Min.Staffel 1 · Folge 46

    Why do we have thoughts that horrify us? And what do they actually mean? Ciara and Richard explain why intrusive thoughts can be so distressing, why having one doesn't mean you want to act on it, and how to …

    Shownotes

    Why do we have thoughts that horrify us? And what do they actually mean? Ciara and Richard explain why intrusive thoughts can be so distressing, why having one doesn't mean you want to act on it, and how to stop getting caught in the cycle.

    They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. 

    Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

    New episode every Wednesday and a Bonus Episode “Messy Bits” on Mondays!

  13. Messy Bits... Why Do I Want Other Men?

    13 Min.Staffel 1 · Folge 15Bonus

    Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  14. School Avoidance

    27 Min.Staffel 1 · Folge 45

    When anxiety makes going to school feel impossible, how do you break the cycle of avoidance? Ciara and Richard discuss school refusal, anxiety, and how parents and schools can help young people find their way …

    Shownotes

    When anxiety makes going to school feel impossible, how do you break the cycle of avoidance? Ciara and Richard discuss school refusal, anxiety, and how parents and schools can help young people find their way back.

    They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. 

    Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

    New episode every Wednesday and a Bonus Episode “Messy Bits” on Mondays!

  15. Messy Bits... Functioning Alcoholic

    12 Min.Staffel 1 · Folge 14Bonus

    Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  16. AI Relationships

    30 Min.Staffel 1 · Folge 44

    AI is becoming more than a tool, for some people, it's a friend, confidant or even a romantic partner. Ciara and Richard explore why we're turning to AI for connection and validation, and what that could mean …

    Shownotes

    AI is becoming more than a tool, for some people, it's a friend, confidant or even a romantic partner. Ciara and Richard explore why we're turning to AI for connection and validation, and what that could mean for our mental health, relationships and children.

    They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. 

    Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

    New episode every Wednesday and a Bonus Episode “Messy Bits” on Mondays!

  17. Messy Bits... Red Flags or Fussy?

    11 Min.Staffel 1 · Folge 13Bonus

    Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  18. Are You Dealing With a Narcissist?

    34 Min.Staffel 1 · Folge 43

    Narcissism is a term we throw around a lot, but what actually makes someone a narcissist? Ciara and Richard look at narcissistic personality disorder, how it plays out in families and relationships, and the red …

    Shownotes

    Narcissism is a term we throw around a lot, but what actually makes someone a narcissist? Ciara and Richard look at narcissistic personality disorder, how it plays out in families and relationships, and the red flags to watch for.

    They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. 

    Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

    New episode every Wednesday and a Bonus Episode “Messy Bits” on Mondays!

  19. Messy Bits... Is this it?

    11 Min.Staffel 1 · Folge 12Bonus

    Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  20. No Regrets?

    30 Min.Staffel 1 · Folge 42

    Is regret useful, or does it just keep us stuck in the past? Ciara and Richard explore the choices, missed opportunities and “what ifs” that can haunt us, and whether sometimes the biggest regret is the thing …

    Shownotes

    Is regret useful, or does it just keep us stuck in the past? Ciara and Richard explore the choices, missed opportunities and “what ifs” that can haunt us, and whether sometimes the biggest regret is the thing we didn't do.

    They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. 

    Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

    New episode every Wednesday and a Bonus Episode “Messy Bits” on Mondays!

  21. Messy Bits... Toxic Boss

    9 Min.Staffel 1 · Folge 11Bonus

    Messy Bits... The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  22. CAO: You’re Not Your Points

    32 Min.Staffel 1 · Folge 41

    CAO results day can feel like the future has been decided by a single set of points for students and parents alike. But what happens when you don’t get the course you wanted? Ciara and Richard talk about …

    Shownotes

    CAO results day can feel like the future has been decided by a single set of points for students and parents alike. But what happens when you don’t get the course you wanted? Ciara and Richard talk about disappointment, alternative routes and the very non-linear paths that can lead to a career and a life you never originally planned.

    They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. 

    Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

    New episode every Wednesday and a Bonus Episode “Messy Bits” on Mondays!

  23. Messy Bits... Introverts

    9 Min.Staffel 1 · Folge 10Bonus

    Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  24. The One That Got Away

    26 Min.Staffel 1 · Folge 40

    Why do we romanticise the person we didn't end up with? Ciara and Richard explore the “one that got away”, why our memories can make the past look better than it was, and whether we’re missing the person or the …

    Shownotes

    Why do we romanticise the person we didn't end up with? Ciara and Richard explore the “one that got away”, why our memories can make the past look better than it was, and whether we’re missing the person or the life we imagined with them.

    They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. 

    Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

    New episode every Wednesday and a Bonus Episode “Messy Bits” on Mondays!

  25. Messy Bits...ADHD & Marriage

    9 Min.Staffel 1 · Folge 9Bonus

    Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  26. Adult Kids at Home

    28 Min.Staffel 1 · Folge 39

    More adult children are living at home for longer, but how do you live with your kids when they're no longer kids? Ciara and Richard discuss rent, rules, partners staying over, boundaries and how to make it …

    Shownotes

    More adult children are living at home for longer, but how do you live with your kids when they're no longer kids? Ciara and Richard discuss rent, rules, partners staying over, boundaries and how to make it work without driving each other mad.

    They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. 

    Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

  27. Messy Bits... Cold Feet? Or something more?

    10 Min.Staffel 1 · Folge 8Bonus

    Messy Bits: The weekly bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram message @TheyMessYouUpPod

  28. Are We Too Soft?

    33 Min.Staffel 1 · Folge 38

    Are we becoming less resilient or just more open about our struggles? Ciara and Richard discuss discomfort, resilience, parenting, and whether protecting ourselves from life's challenges is doing more harm than …

    Shownotes

    Are we becoming less resilient or just more open about our struggles? Ciara and Richard discuss discomfort, resilience, parenting, and whether protecting ourselves from life's challenges is doing more harm than good.

    Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

    They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday and a Bonus Episode “Messy Bits” on Mondays!

  29. Messy Bits... Body Shaming

    10 Min.Staffel 1 · Folge 7Bonus

    Messy Bits: The weekly bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram message @TheyMessYouUpPod

  30. Is Monogamy Outdated?

    28 Min.Staffel 1 · Folge 37

    Is monogamy still realistic or are we expecting too much from one person? Ciara and Richard discuss open relationships, affairs, lifelong commitment, and whether monogamy still has a place in modern life.

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